Should I try for a expedite

[LoveMyTico 999]

36 minutes ago, Kosi Wahala said:

We get it already! You waited a long time for your husband...you wish you had not...you feel as though you wasted 6 years on your ex...and now you can't post a response to another human being without sounding nasty and disrespectful. You are not the OP, so don't assume that her life is anything like yours. She came here to ask for honest and respectful opinions - not to be treated like a child. 

You had to point out that there is nothing keeping her from moving to Mexico - a fact that you could not possibly know anything about. However, I do know, for a fact, there is nothing keeping you posting in this thread. 

Sheeeesh. 

I know plenty. 

And honestly...she visited him twice...that's expensive...so she's not doing that bad. 

I know plenty about raising kids alone.. And even now nothing is easy.. However I never collected welfare or foods stamps. I was offering a suggestion. It's sad to see people waiting for foreign spouses when the immigration process is so long. I watched so many scammers use citizens for green cards..even having kids with them. They get what they want and roll after they have the green card in hand.. My friend waited for her Mexican husband..she thought he was being faithful in Mexico while they waited for the waiver...pft. He was living a whole other life. He had a girlfriend and even a new baby..my friend had no idea . when he got here...he took off and she hasn't seen him since. Stuck being the sponsor on the affidavit of support. 

I felt so bad for her...I never thought it would happen to me.  Another friend got scammed by her Dominican husband. Another friend scammed by a Costa Rican. All recent. That's why I suggested the OP should take care of everything here. Do what needs to be done. Don't stop her life while waiting.. Time passes too fast..what if his waiver doesn't get approved or it takes another year ?  Not that I personally care..

There's alot of posts on this forum about admitting to using drugs ..she should search those threads.  

 

Y'all think I'm being mean... I'm really not...I think she just wants to hear unicorns and rainbows. I hope she makes her way back to her parents house so her kids don't have to live in her car. How sad is that? 

 

 I actually heard that things have slowed down a lot at the service centers. Per my friend who works at the state dept in D.C..  There is a hiring freeze at the state dept. She said secretary Tillerson doesn't plan on lifting it any Time soon. 

 

When people post on a public forum, they should expect different views.  

I learned that the process is long  and no matter how much you cry...it is what it is..

I also learned not to trust ANYONE. 

 

 

[Kosi Wahala 153]

8 minutes ago, LoveMyTico said:

I know plenty.  
So you've told us, ad nauseam. 
 

And honestly...she visited him twice...that's expensive...so she's not doing that bad. 
And, honestly, that is none of our business...nor do we know how "bad" she is doing. 
 

I know plenty about raising kids alone.. And even now nothing is easy.. However I never collected welfare or foods stamps. I was offering a suggestion. It's sad to see people waiting for foreign spouses when the immigration process is so long. I watched so many scammers use citizens for green cards..even having kids with them. They get what they want and roll after they have the green card in hand.. My friend waited for her Mexican husband..she thought he was being faithful in Mexico while they waited for the waiver...pft. He was living a whole other life. He had a girlfriend and even a new baby..my friend had no idea . when he got here...he took off and she hasn't seen him since. Stuck being the sponsor on the affidavit of support. 
Big deal. You aren't the only one who has raised *children* alone. I've raised an autistic child, without help from anyone, for 12 years. Neither did I collect welfare or food stamps. But, I am not the OP, nor are you. Do you want a trophy? Again, it's none of your business how long some of us wait for our foreign spouses, and not everyone is a "scammer." That's a boring straw-man you are building. Your friend is *not* the OP. If you have a problem with what your friend went though, go preach to her. 

I felt so bad for her...I never thought it would happen to me.  Another friend got scammed by her Dominican husband. Another friend scammed by a Costa Rican. All recent. That's why I suggested the OP should take care of everything here. Do what needs to be done. Don't stop her life while waiting.. Time passes too fast..what if his waiver doesn't get approved or it takes another year ?  Not that I personally care..
"Not that I personally care..." Then stop posting again, and again, and again, and again. We are all big boys and girls here - just because you and some acquaintances were duped, doesn't mean everyone will be. 

There's alot of posts on this forum about admitting to using drugs ..she should search those threads.
Perhaps she has. Perhaps the other posts don't fit her specific family situation.   

 

Y'all think I'm being mean... I'm really not...I think she just wants to hear unicorns and rainbows. I hope she makes her way back to her parents house so her kids don't have to live in her car. How sad is that? 
Oh, my God...listen to yourself! You say you are not being mean, then you turn right around and write, "I think she just wants to hear unicorns and rainbows." - That's not how you treat another human being with respect and care. What are you, 12 years old? 

 

 I actually heard that things have slowed down a lot at the service centers. Per my friend who works at the state dept in D.C..  There is a hiring freeze at the state dept. She said secretary Tillerson doesn't plan on lifting it any Time soon. 

Yeah, okay...we all have "a friend" who works for the State Department. I work for the United States Government - your "friend" isn't the only one who knows how these things work, nor are you. Again, what business is it of yours if the OP wants to wait ten years for her husband. Just because your relationship didn't work out, doesn't give you a right - or a crystal ball - to say that her's won't. 

 

When people post on a public forum, they should expect different views.  
They should also expect to be treated with dignity.

I learned that the process is long  and no matter how much you cry...it is what it is..
Sometimes people cry because they miss a loved one. It's hard, and it is harder on some more than others. We all aren't just like you - deal with it. 

I also learned not to trust ANYONE. 
That's your problem - don't project your hang-ups onto everyone else. 

 

 

 

[greyson.rizo 3]

20 hours ago, CookieCat said:

 

Not that it is anyone business cause thats not what this post was about. Me and my husband have been married for 10 years together for 12. We have two children and talk and text everyday including video. I have been able to visit thanks to my family at Christmas and birthday has given us tickets and money. We have family in Florida with non stop flights to mexico very cheap. Sorry I am traveling to Mexico not Costa Rica. Also not only are we struggling in all the same ways everyone else is and has, but I also mentioned I made need surgery. I had some text come back abnormal and waiting to find out currently if it is cancer or precancerous. Regardless of outcome, I may still need a hysterectomy. What if me and my hubby wanted to have more children? That has been taken away now. I will pray for you cause that is what god is asking me to do. I hope you find peace with your past and move towards a better future for you and your children. If your Visa Journey is over and yall are no longer together.....why do you even follow this page to begin with?