Haven't told our parents about marriage. Will we get denied?

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1 minute ago, venom123 said:

Well they schedule the home visit right? And that's for very suspicious cases? Ours is not suspicious.

 

If they schedule a home visit then we will tell our parents. However, we live with her dad who works from the early morning and comes home in the evening. He'll wouldn't be around if USCIS came in the morning.

 

We can't do anything about not sleeping in the same bed. When we go on vacations together we sleep in the same bed, or sometimes (once every couple weeks) we just feel like sleeping in the same bed and we'll do it.

They don't schedule. They just show up.

[caliliving 606]

Just now, venom123 said:

Well they schedule the home visit right? And that's for very suspicious cases? Ours is not suspicious.

 

If they schedule a home visit then we will tell our parents. However, we live with her dad who works from the early morning and comes home in the evening. He'll wouldn't be around if USCIS came in the morning.

 

We can't do anything about not sleeping in the same bed. When we go on vacations together we sleep in the same bed, or sometimes (once every couple weeks) we just feel like sleeping in the same bed and we'll do it.

Lmao u won't get a home visit and u would know...eithrr the interview is 10min or u get separated and it's 3hrs...very few Canadian or UK cases get separated. Just relax. If u get separated then maybe a home visit but I wouldn't worry about that yet. 

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1 minute ago, caliliving said:

Lmao u won't get a home visit and u would know...eithrr the interview is 10min or u get separated and it's 3hrs...very few Canadian or UK cases get separated. Just relax. If u get separated then maybe a home visit but I wouldn't worry about that yet. 

Yeah, I was going to say there's nothing about my application that warrants a home visit. My lawyers said my application looks great and we have a ton of Tax documents and photos. They wouldnt know that our parents don't know about the marriage until the interview anyway! 

 

I'll start job hunting for a minimum wage job once my EAD gets shipped out.

Edited July 9, 2017 by venom123

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2 hours ago, mcdull said:

he could apply for a re-entry permit which allows him to be absent from the US for two years and admissible upon return. Re-entry permit is also renewable for another period of two years.

 

He is in his second year and has like 4 years to go. 

 

3 hours ago, venom123 said:

my capabilities as a doctor

You are in your second year of studies. That is what you had said. You are not a doctor yet. You have like 4 years to go, plus residency. 

 

 

 

[Villanelle 4,122]

So in order to prove you have a legit marriage you are sending photos of you guys with people who dont know you are married.... Facepalm. 

 

I dont know why your attny said you have a "strong packet". You have no joint bills, no sole residence, no letters from family. What makes your packet strong exactly?

 

As for why people are stating you would not be a good doctor- well, if its not obvious Doctors are suppose to abide by a code of ethics. Disrespecting her parents by misleading them about what immigration papers you are having them sign, plus being married to their daughter with out their knowledge so you can continue to live with them means you have poor moral character. 

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1 hour ago, venom123 said:

 

I am going to be opening a joint bank account, but with separate checking accounts.

That means absolutely nothing!!!  They want to see co-mingled finances, not that you use the same bank!  

and another thing......by getting married, your wife is probably NO LONGER covered by her father's healthcare policy.....

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1 hour ago, venom123 said:

My packet was checked by a lawyer and he said everything was absolutely fine.

If your lawyer told you that having separate checking accounts is "absolutely fine", then you might want to seek another attorney.

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5 minutes ago, missileman said:

If your lawyer told you that having separate checking accounts is "absolutely fine", then you might want to seek another attorney.

He didn't say that. He said he'd advise we get a joint bank account.

 

I just don't want to co-mingle all of our finances. My wife spends a lot of money, if we have a lot of money in a shared checking she will spend it very quickly

 

My dad is a very successful man, he lives in CA and makes a lot of money. My mum and dad do not share ALL their finances but they have a joint account.

Edited July 9, 2017 by venom123

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Just now, venom123 said:

He didn't say that. 

 

I just don't want to co-mingle all our finances. My wife spends a lot of money, if we have a lot of money in our checking she will spend it all.

That's a whole different matter..lol.....

Seriously, I would think about her health care plan.  There is a real possibility that her marriage will disqualify her from getting care under her Father's policy.

[caliliving 606]

People need to chill...i never changed my name, don't have co mingle anything w my husband bc I make more then him and he is terrible w finances and we didn't tell anyone we got married until after. U will be approved...yes we had family vacations together duh! U can go on a vacation as a couple! I don't see any red flags...please relax and stay off vj...people on here can act crazy sometimes! My friend also got married and neither of their families knew and they are ok. Being from the UK u won't be scrutinized as much as of hers. Just go relax. Hang our w ur wife and enjoy the rest of the weekend! 

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19 minutes ago, Damara said:

So in order to prove you have a legit marriage you are sending photos of you guys with people who dont know you are married.... Facepalm. 

 

I dont know why your attny said you have a "strong packet". You have no joint bills, no sole residence, no letters from family. What makes your packet strong exactly?

 

As for why people are stating you would not be a good doctor- well, if its not obvious Doctors are suppose to abide by a code of ethics. Disrespecting her parents by misleading them about what immigration papers you are having them sign, plus being married to their daughter with out their knowledge so you can continue to live with them means you have poor moral character. 

This is different and is mainly the wish of my wife. She doesn't want these people to know. If she wanted her parents to know then I would tell them.

 

A doctors code of ethics is completely different, and judging me as a possible future doctor is completely irrelevant to this topic.

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1 minute ago, caliliving said:

People need to chill...i never changed my name, don't have co mingle anything w my husband bc I make more then him and he is terrible w finances and we didn't tell anyone we got married until after. U will be approved...yes we had family vacations together duh! U can go on a vacation as a couple! I don't see any red flags...please relax and stay off vj...people on here can act crazy sometimes! My friend also got married and neither of their families knew and they are ok. Being from the UK u won't be scrutinized as much as of hers. Just go relax. Hang our w ur wife and enjoy the rest of the weekend! 

Have you gone through ROC?

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Just now, caliliving said:

People need to chill...i never changed my name, don't have co mingle anything w my husband bc I make more then him and he is terrible w finances and we didn't tell anyone we got married until after. U will be approved...yes we had family vacations together duh! U can go on a vacation as a couple! I don't see any red flags...please relax and stay off vj...people on here can act crazy sometimes! My friend also got married and neither of their families knew and they are ok. Being from the UK u won't be scrutinized as much as of hers. Just go relax. Hang our w ur wife and enjoy the rest of the weekend! 

Thank you. I went on vacations with her family and they knew we're together, they know we're probably going to get married eventually. Why wouldn't we be allowed on vacations with her family if they don't know we're married?!

 

Jheeze some of the replies on here are nuts, they're treating me as if I'm some sort of mass murdering criminal! 

[caliliving 606]

18 minutes ago, missileman said:

If your lawyer told you that having separate checking accounts is "absolutely fine", then you might want to seek another attorney.

It is absolutely fine I have a separate checking account!!!! Nothing i own is in my husband's name!!!!! U can show w other things co mingling finances like q joint phone Bill! 

Not sure why ppl think a joint bank account is important? My parents were married 35 years and never had a joint bank account and i don't see the need to either!!!!!

[caliliving 606]

2 minutes ago, Unidentified said:

Have you gone through ROC?

Didn't have to...i waited 2 years to file because I was working here lol so we took our time and I got the 10yr grrencard...we are married 4yrs! Yup no problem at all:) just showed pics of trips we took together and w family. 

 

Interview was 10min...notbinf came up about my overstay or unauthorized work! Approved got the 10yr green card too. And lawyer didn't care we filed taxes together and had joint phone bill but she didn't ask for anythinf...we look like a couple and that is the main thing...ppl need to get their facts right!