Vawa

[Calison 0]

Hello i am a male considering filing for vawa. I am married to a us naturalized citizen. We have been married since February and have been together for 4 years going on 5. Abuse has always occured throughout our relationship but i do love her. Its juat hard for me to stand up to her since i was abused physically and mentally by my father my whole life. But now i am just tired of people abusing me.

My whole life i have been abused and i want to just start life. I feel like i have never lived life always trying to please other and not living my life.

I came here on a visa when i was small and now i am illegaly here. I filed for daca but was denied due to lack of evidence. 

I want to apply through vawa now and i would like to know if its an option.

I only have physical evidence of her abuse in the way of scars. I have never told my family any of this. As a man it is very humiliating to tell anyone you are being abused.

[Coco8 1,042]

Because you had been here illegally, I think your case will be looked with a lot more scrutiny than any other case because you had a very good reason to marry for a green card. I am not saying you married for the green card, but if you wanted to stay in the US you had no other choice.

 

You've been only married 4 months. It does not matter how long you've been together. Have you even filed for AOS and got your EAD o green card? I think you are not allowed to AOS in he US but need to get an IR-1/CR-1 visa and go you your country for the interview.

 

Scars is not enough evidence for WAVA. You should ask your wife if you could both go to therapy or just talk to her. Plus, if you don't have your paperwork in place you cannot WAVA.

Edited July 7, 2017 by Coco8

[f f 725]

does abuse that occurred before the marriage and then continued during the marriage count for vawa? I am asking because it seems odd that if a person was living in an abusive relationship and then got married and the abuse continued why would there be a benefit of vawa granted? the level of abuse did not increase after marriage but was at what the person was used to. 

 

you would also need proof of abuse. police reports hospital records and such. filing reports now will not mean much they would of needed to be filed during the relationship.

[Calison 0]

Ok well i will see a lawyer. The relationship is too much to handle anymore and im done being abused.

[Boiler 46,337]

Obviously a Police matter. Are you currently in a Shelter? They should be able to give you good advice.

[f f 725]

also be prepared for uscis to ask "you have been with this person for almost 5 years why is it now too much after you have been married for only 4 months?"

 

but first and foremost get safe do not stay in an abusive relationship just because it will help your chances with immigration. that is how people are permanently hurt.

[Calison 0]

Yes i just need to find a shelter but its hard since i dont have a social. I dont have any family in california and my brother lives in an apartment in arizona where i dont want to go because of my legal status

[Boiler 46,337]

A Shelter will NOT be interested in your legal status,especially in CA.

[f f 725]

call up a local church or public health services and ask for help. they intentionally do not ask nor want to know your status all they care about is getting you safe. if they asked people would be less willing to ask for help therefore it goes against thier very reason for being to ask your status.

 

you can always call 911 and they will give you options of places to go.

 

when you leave try to bring documents proving you have been in the us for at least 2 years so if you are caught by immigration they can not use expedited deportation on you.

[Coco8 1,042]

19 minutes ago, Boiler said:

A Shelter will NOT be interested in your legal status,especially in CA.

 

Can someone still apply for VAWA if the haven't filled a petition? If he has been illegally in the US he would need to have an interview at the consulate and file the waivers, but how could those be approved? 

 

2 hours ago, Calison said:

Ok well i will see a lawyer. 

Yes, your case is way too complicated. There are places where you can get free consultations. Try looking for those. In California there are a lot.

[Boiler 46,337]

12 minutes ago, f f said:

when you leave try to bring documents proving you have been in the us for at least 2 years so if you are caught by immigration they can not use expedited deportation on you.

For some reason I thought they had stopped doing that.

[f f 725]

47 minutes ago, Boiler said:

For some reason I thought they had stopped doing that.

I have not seen anything reversing it but it could be put on hold by the courts I really don't know. it goes in the why risk it if you can easily get the info type of thing.

 

it is possible to self petition under vawa but the rules and requirments are strict.

 

[Boiler 46,337]

VAWA seems an easy route assuming you tick the boxes, just going from what I see on here.

[Calison 0]

Just talked to a lawyer he said i can apply and qualify and my interview would be here since i entered legally. So we will see. As for the shelter yes they do ask for a social. I tried to stay at one but i couldnt because i had no social

[Boiler 46,337]

Odd, did you mention that you were undocumented? Did not have one.