July 2017 I-129F Filers

[Angeles123 43]

Ammm... one question ... my boyfriend has bought tickets for new york on my birthday without having a visa yet. Can we put that as proof that the relationship continues?

 

I'm always reading everything. Without this forum this trip would have been much more difficult. Thank you all !

[Jaquelly 1,647]

1 minute ago, Angeles123 said:

Ammm... one question ... my boyfriend has bought tickets for new york on my birthday without having a visa yet. Can we put that as proof that the relationship continues?

 

I'm always reading everything. Without this forum this trip would have been much more difficult. Thank you all !

 

Does he have to have a tourist visa to visit from Peru? I am not accustomed to the laws that surround that as we don't have to worry about htem.

 

Make sure he can legally visit, and yes, take pictures, save receipts, get documentation like boarding passes, etc. 

[Deleteme123 60]

Having a frustrating mental day. Feels like we're so close but so far. Fearing that we're an anomaly.

[Angeles123 43]

5 minutes ago, Jaquelly said:

 

Does he have to have a tourist visa to visit from Peru? I am not accustomed to the laws that surround that as we don't have to worry about htem.

 

Make sure he can legally visit, and yes, take pictures, save receipts, get documentation like boarding passes, etc. 

Yeap. we need visa. Ohhh... ok. thanks!!! 

[Jaquelly 1,647]

4 minutes ago, Angeles123 said:

Yeap. we need visa. Ohhh... ok. thanks!!! 

Wait! I think I found something:
 

https://pe.usembassy.gov/visas/nonimmigrant-visas/

 

 

 

 

https://pe.usembassy.gov/visas/visa-waiver-program/

 

 

 

[Jaquelly 1,647]

16 minutes ago, Canaderp said:

Having a frustrating mental day. Feels like we're so close but so far. Fearing that we're an anomaly.

Your NOA1 was 18 days after mine. If I'm not freaking out yet, you're not freaking out yet. Start getting your paperwork together, have it ready. Distract yourself. It's going to happen.

Edited February 7, 2018 by Jaquelly
can't count

[Deleteme123 60]

13 minutes ago, Jaquelly said:

Your NOA1 was 18 days after mine. If I'm not freaking out yet, you're not freaking out yet. Start getting your paperwork together, have it ready. Distract yourself. It's going to happen.

Not sure that's how things work.  We all have different realities/stresses/things to deal with that can make this situation unique to each person. I wouldn't project my insecurities on you, please don't project your standards of coping upon me.

 

[Jaquelly 1,647]

4 minutes ago, Canaderp said:

Not sure that's how things work.  We all have different realities/stresses/things to deal with that can make this situation unique to each person. I wouldn't project my insecurities on you, please don't project your standards of coping upon me.

 

Hey. I was trying to ease the situation and offer a hand - which is what I've always done.

 

In the same respect, you don't know my situation or what I've been dealing with since I last saw my SO. There's a lot going on for everyone. Time will pass, the approval will come. Please don't snap at me because you're having a bad day.

[Deleteme123 60]

4 minutes ago, Jaquelly said:

Hey. I was trying to ease the situation and offer a hand - which is what I've always done.

 

In the same respect, you don't know my situation or what I've been dealing with since I last saw my SO. There's a lot going on for everyone. Time will pass, the approval will come. Please don't snap at me because you're having a bad day.

Totally, but that's just why I didn't mention/quote you in my initial post. Just came in to say I was having a hard day is all

[Jaquelly 1,647]

1 minute ago, Canaderp said:

Totally, but that's just why I didn't mention/quote you in my initial post. Just came in to say I was having a hard day is all

I feel you, and I'm sorry if I agitated you.

 

I had a real rough go of it last week. I cried at my desk at work a few times and felt like things were going to fall apart if we didn't hear anything back soon. Andy didn't adjust to being back in the UK very well, so almost the entire month of January was very much me feeling like I couldn't help him, and just generally being heartbroken while everyone else was getting their approvals.

... 

And they kept going right past us. Every day he'd ask me if we were approved, if I had any mail, if I had gotten the text. Nothing. People at the end of July were complaining/cheering about how they hadn't been approved yet, but here I was, a July 6 NOA1 that felt like they'd forgotten about me. I still do. I feel like I screwed us over by calling USCIS and asking for a supervisor. 

 

I still feel horrible about everything, but I'm lucky. He'll be here in 9 days. Maybe we'll get to open the envelope together, if a miracle doesn't happen before then.

 

I guess, at the end of it all, my point is that you're definitely not alone in your misery. My stupid optimism exists if only as a defense mechanism. If I am focusing on how happy I am, I can't POSSIBLY focus on how effed over I feel right now.

[Deleteme123 60]

12 minutes ago, Jaquelly said:

I feel you, and I'm sorry if I agitated you.

 

I had a real rough go of it last week. I cried at my desk at work a few times and felt like things were going to fall apart if we didn't hear anything back soon. Andy didn't adjust to being back in the UK very well, so almost the entire month of January was very much me feeling like I couldn't help him, and just generally being heartbroken while everyone else was getting their approvals.

... 

And they kept going right past us. Every day he'd ask me if we were approved, if I had any mail, if I had gotten the text. Nothing. People at the end of July were complaining/cheering about how they hadn't been approved yet, but here I was, a July 6 NOA1 that felt like they'd forgotten about me. I still do. I feel like I screwed us over by calling USCIS and asking for a supervisor. 

 

I still feel horrible about everything, but I'm lucky. He'll be here in 9 days. Maybe we'll get to open the envelope together, if a miracle doesn't happen before then.

 

I guess, at the end of it all, my point is that you're definitely not alone in your misery. My stupid optimism exists if only as a defense mechanism. If I am focusing on how happy I am, I can't POSSIBLY focus on how effed over I feel right now.

I hear ya. I've always been the strong one of us two but it's just getting harder and harder. And as happy as I am to see everyone else get moving, it can also make things slightly discouraging when you feel left behind. Obviously there are those far worse than me, but doesn't mean that I'm not allowed to feel like a plastic bag in the wind haha.

[Jaquelly 1,647]

It SUCKS. 

 

I want to be really angry but like, you know, I've been here with June/July filers for so long that I can't stop but genuinely being excited for them. I'd hope that they'd be excited for me. I think that it's just draining. This process, and then the NVC, then the rest. After that, we're going to move. He can't work for a while. I'm going to have to budget - no more gross fast food, no more dog daycare.

 

I'm an angry little elf most of the time. I've re-installed video games that I swore off. I threw out a half eaten thing of oreos on Monday because I've gained like 15 pounds.

 

Oh, and when the nightly scan wraps up and there's nothing? Yeah.

[Sailormooon 268]

Does anyone have cold feet? 

[John & Rose 7,239]

1 hour ago, Canaderp said:

Having a frustrating mental day. Feels like we're so close but so far. Fearing that we're an anomaly.

You aren't an anomaly yet!  Just relax.  There are still a lot of late July filers waiting.  They will get to you soon.

[John & Rose 7,239]

10 minutes ago, Tea_pgtips said:

Does anyone have cold feet? 

It is Chicago winter so yes!  As far as my relationship...absolutely not!