Divorce

[cbrammer1219 1]

Hi need some advice, I've been through hell and back since my Cambodian wife has gotten here, she been here 2 years. She arrived in April 2015, and upon 2 weeks after here and her son getting here she physically attacked me, I immediately felt this was a mistake, and it only got worse, We had agreed to wait to have a child until she got her GED and her education, but after the first month of her being here and didn't get pregnant, she would make nasty statements "Oh you're to old, your sperm is no good. She insistant on getting pregnant. Well needless to say she got pregnant and immediately after finding out we were going to have a baby she began saying the baby was going to drag her life down, complaining constantly, her behaviors became worse over the next several months. We moved closer to my family after baby was born thinking it would help being around family and give her that social network do be able to do things, bit she always refused saying she had to many things to do or was busy. December of 2016 she called the 911 because she wanted advice because I wouldn't let her touch my phone, I had recordings of her violent outbursts, and of her confessing that if I didn't give her 20 thousand dollars she was selling our baby in Cambodia, and many other statements and conversations just like that. After she did that I told her it was over, She has broken many thing with her violent outbursts, and didn't want my daughter growing up in this environment, her son had seen it many years and was beaten several time by her, he stated this after they came here. I had her removed from the house with a protection order, she would climb on top of me while I was asleep completely naked saying she was raping me because I made her mad. I started sleeping on the couch and she would do this several more times, under normal conditions it would have been ok, bit we weren't getting along at all. So she was removed from the house December 17th. It has just been a huge mess, she has tried creating a story that I was abusive and drink all the time, I found Google searches, how do I divorce and Still keep my greencard, I just want to know if immigration will contact me for an interview. Any ideas how or who to contact to make sure she doesn't just slide through the system without being checked and interviewed?

[mindthegap 2,590]

27 minutes ago, cbrammer1219 said:

Any ideas how or who to contact to make sure she doesn't just slide through the system without being checked and interviewed?

 

A divorce lawyer.

She can then file the I-751 solo with a divorce waiver, and you are no longer involved in the process.

 

Followed by a therapist, and moving on with your life. 

[Ontarkie 14,236]

~~Moved to Effects of Major Life Changes, from ROC - As similar threads are discussed here.~~

[Coco8 1,042]

1 hour ago, cbrammer1219 said:

how do I divorce and Still keep my greencard, I just want to know if immigration will contact me for an interview. Any ideas how or who to contact to make sure she doesn't just slide through the system without being checked and interviewed?

 

I am a bit confused here. Do you have a green card and sponsored her to come to the US after you got the green card? At first, I had assumed you were a USC and she had a green card. 

 

If you are a USC, you should get a lawyer. Your focus should be to get full custody of your daughter. I don't know about the situation of your stepsons but you might be able get full custody of them too with the evidence you have against her. 

 

I would not worry about her green card. First, she will have the restraining order in the system. If she breaks it, call the cops. They will do a background check for ROC and who knows what will happen, even with a divorce waiver. Second, I know some people have sent letters to UCSIS trashing their exes, but it seems it doesn't really work because many people get angry with each other when they divorce so USCIS doesn't pay much attention. However, if they ask her at the interview something about the divorce and she lies about what happened, then that will be a problem for her. One thing you could try, if possible, is to present some of your evidence in court to get full custody of your daughter and that evidence will be public record. Also, all that doesn't help for her moral character. Third, focus on your daughter. Do not spend energy on what you wife/ex is doing. The way she sounds, she will get into trouble on her own pretty soon.  

 

 

 

 

 

 

Edited June 28, 2017 by Coco8

[cbrammer1219 1]

2 minutes ago, Coco8 said:

 

I am a bit confused here. Do you have a green card and sponsored her to come to the US after you got the green card? At first, I had assumed you were a USC and she had a green card. 

 

If you are a USC, you should get a lawyer. Your focus should be to get full custody of your daughter. I don't know about the situation of your stepsons but you might be able get full custody of them too with the evidence you have against her. 

 

I would not worry about her green card. First, she will have the restraining order in the system. If she breaks it, call the cops. They will do a background check for ROC and who knows what will happen, even with a divorce waiver. Second, I know some people have sent letters to UCSIS trashing their exes, but it seems it doesn't really work because many people get angry with each other when they divorce so USCIS doesn't pay much attention. However, if they ask her at the interview something about the divorce and she lies about what happened, then that will be a problem for her. One thing you could try, if possible, is to present some of your evidence in court to get full custody of your daughter and that evidence will be public record. Also, all that doesn't help for her moral character. Third, focus on your daughter. Do not spend energy on what you wife/ex is doing. The way she sounds, she will get into trouble on her own pretty soon.  

 

 

 

 

 

 

Yes that I what I am doing, I currently have primary care and she has supervised visitations on the weekend by her stepson, which she violates every time, by her own admission, stating he doesn't have to be with them constantly, She has been on every daring site and its sort of funny because back when we first got married we set her email up to send me a copy of everything because she needed me to explain what certain things the lawyers we're saying to her, and yes I am a USC, so I get all her correspondence with the men from match.com, and she joined these dating sites almost immediately after leaving the house, didn't hear one word from her for the first 3 and a half months, not one inquiry about my daughter, even now she never sends msgs during the week to find out how she is doing, which is fine, I know the only reason she wants my daughter, she thinks and has stated they won't deny me GC with a baby that is a USC. I found out after her and her son got here that her daughter married a man in Australia for money so he wouldnt lose his visa, makes me completely sick to my stomach. That people exist like this.

[cbrammer1219 1]

Just now, cbrammer1219 said:

Yes that I what I am doing, I currently have primary care and she has supervised visitations on the weekend by her stepson, which she violates every time, by her own admission, stating he doesn't have to be with them constantly, She has been on every daring site and its sort of funny because back when we first got married we set her email up to send me a copy of everything because she needed me to explain what certain things the lawyers we're saying to her, and yes I am a USC, so I get all her correspondence with the men from match.com, and she joined these dating sites almost immediately after leaving the house, didn't hear one word from her for the first 3 and a half months, not one inquiry about my daughter, even now she never sends msgs during the week to find out how she is doing, which is fine, I know the only reason she wants my daughter, she thinks and has stated they won't deny me GC with a baby that is a USC. I found out after her and her son got here that her daughter married a man in Australia for money so he wouldnt lose his visa, makes me completely sick to my stomach. That people exist like this.

Yes I don't worry about what she does, I could care less. My daughter is my priority. 

[Coco8 1,042]

3 minutes ago, cbrammer1219 said:

Yes that I what I am doing, I currently have primary care and she has supervised visitations on the weekend by her stepson, which she violates every time, by her own admission, stating he doesn't have to be with them constantly, She has been on every daring site and its sort of funny because back when we first got married we set her email up to send me a copy of everything because she needed me to explain what certain things the lawyers we're saying to her, and yes I am a USC, so I get all her correspondence with the men from match.com, and she joined these dating sites almost immediately after leaving the house, didn't hear one word from her for the first 3 and a half months, not one inquiry about my daughter, even now she never sends msgs during the week to find out how she is doing, which is fine, I know the only reason she wants my daughter, she thinks and has stated they won't deny me GC with a baby that is a USC. I found out after her and her son got here that her daughter married a man in Australia for money so he wouldnt lose his visa, makes me completely sick to my stomach. That people exist like this.

 

1 minute ago, cbrammer1219 said:

Yes I don't worry about what she does, I could care less. My daughter is my priority. 

 

Ok. That sounds good. I am so sorry you have to go through this.

 

The best seems to get all the evidence in the court papers for divorce/custody and then you can send that to USCIS. At least they will have a record and can decide what to do. If she is dating she might try to get married to another USC to maintain her status or get another GC if she cannot do ROC.

 

 

 

 

[Eric-Pris 1,606]

Sorry this is happening to you, nobody deserves this after sacrificing so much t bring a person here.  And they turn out to have mental/personality disorders.  One thing that is puzzling is that you knew within 2 weeks that something was wrong with her, yet you continued to try to have a baby with her, and you did.  I assume you thought it would makes things better, but looks like the opposite happened.   

 

You can't affect what happens to her.  You can take the proof you have to USCIS, but chances are good that they won't do anything.  Even if they do, you wouldn't know so it defeats the whole purpose of enjoying seeing her suffer.  Don't waste time on trying to get her deported.  Focus on your daughter and yourself. 

 

Divorce and move on. 

Edited June 28, 2017 by Eric-Pris

[Boiler 45,578]

Most unlikely that Immigration would contact you, I was going to say they would not but remembered a post about a month ago saying somebody had been contacted. 

[Eric-Pris 1,606]

44 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Most unlikely that Immigration would contact you, I was going to say they would not but remembered a post about a month ago saying somebody had been contacted. 

And that would be your chance to give them all the proof you have.

[Boiler 45,578]

17 minutes ago, Eric-Pris said:

And that would be your chance to give them all the proof you have.

Well once I have seen this is 10 plus years, so I am slightly dubious.

[Love_A_Brit 33]

15 hours ago, Boiler said:

Well once I have seen this is 10 plus years, so I am slightly dubious.

That was probably me - we were contacted, and on a weekend no less. It was for our AOS. I was dubious too and wondered if it was a prank but the status changed immediately and then the green card was in hand. So it does happen. 

 

Unless you mean being contacted specifically for cases like this...thankfully I don't know about that.

Edited June 29, 2017 by Love_A_Brit