Have your husbands friends married American?

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Personally, I would have concerns.

[morocco4ever 63]

Is it a red flag for the woman? Hard to say. My husband doesn't have any other friends here that have married an american woman, except for 1 or 2 that married one after arriving in the US. On the other hand, he does have a few friends that have started chatting with American women now. Is it for the visa? Is it to get out of the US? Is it to find love? Or could it be all of the above?

When I first met my husband I believed he was after a green card, and I played with him relentlessly. I regret that now because I was mistaken about his intentions. Do I believe he wanted out of Morocco? Actually yes I do. BUT, was he looking for a green card, or was he looking for a real thing? Now I know for a fact. He wanted love, and he found it with me. We are incredibly happy together, and he could just as easily take off now and leave me high and dry, but he doesn't.

What I find a shame is the women that go blindly into the relationship. Their desperation for a man shuts their eyes off to all of the little clues. There are all sorts of clues to show a fake, and you must be open to those clues, and ready to leave a man, no matter what your heart wants to see and hear. The thing is, it is in all marriages that you need to look for this, not just ones to a foreigner. There are users here in the US as well.

As for the consulate. I believe that they review the cases well in advance. I think their minds are made up in advance as well. What they do try to do is to find another reason, besides age difference, to send back the petitions. But whether or not they find those other reasons, they have their standard reasons (which apply to almost everyone). Short courtship, large gaps of time apart, etc. These apply to the majority. But to those with a significant age they will use these as enough evidence to return petitons. Too bad they don't take a better look at the evidence these couples have. In our case, as would have been with many others, this is the very same evidence that got our case reaffirmed. Can you imagine if the consulates took an additional 5 minutes to look at the proof? It could save not only the petitioner and applicant alot of time and grief, but the USCIS, NVC, and yes, the consulate itself, many many hours of additional reviews. The system is not working. What is the answer? I don't know, but it isn't working.