need urgent help please in Charlotte nc

[sparkles_ 456]

I'm in the Charlotte general area. Call the police, have them do a welfare check. Honestly, no random person form VJ is going to show up at this person's address. And in this area of the country, abuse against a female is serious, the state steps in and presses charges plus NC is a must arrest state concerning abuse. So if you call, they are going to arrest someone if she says they are actually abusing her.

 

My two cent though, if she can call you all the way in Pakistan but she can't call the cops, there is a problem. They probably aren't really abusing her, just trash talking you and her and maybe you guys religion and such as well. 

 

If she has gotten herself into free a situation that isn't safe then the police will direct her to a women's shelter....there are PLENTY in the Charlotte metro area.

[CantThinkOfOne 22]

8 minutes ago, sparkles_ said:

I'm in the Charlotte general area. Call the police, have them do a welfare check. Honestly, no random person form VJ is going to show up at this person's address. And in this area of the country, abuse against a female is serious, the state steps in and presses charges plus NC is a must arrest state concerning abuse. So if you call, they are going to arrest someone if she says they are actually abusing her.

 

My two cent though, if she can call you all the way in Pakistan but she can't call the cops, there is a problem. They probably aren't really abusing her, just trash talking you and her and maybe you guys religion and such as well. 

 

If she has gotten herself into free a situation that isn't safe then the police will direct her to a women's shelter....there are PLENTY in the Charlotte metro area.

I tipped on cold feet backed up by friends/family ..... but it could actually be an issue too, just have the cops knock at that door, then you (OP ) know more

[sparkles_ 456]

Just now, CantThinkOfOne said:

I tipped on cold feet backed up by friends/family ..... but it could actually be an issue too, just have the cops knock at that door, then you (OP ) know more

Agree. The police will talk to her alone, away from anyone else. So she needs to be clear with OP what 'abuse' is.....before you guys start a huge problem.

[prolg312 0]

I just had again spoken to her on video call she was crying on video call and afraid to him 

She told me not to call police yet she will be in touch with me and she just need a way out without him killing her or her mother 

She said she love me alot she will definitely call police on him and move out at shelther or one of her friend Verna I'm so very worried about her life now 😥 thank you all of you for helping me i really much appreciated that .

Edited June 21, 2017 by prolg312

[CantThinkOfOne 22]

14 minutes ago, prolg312 said:

I just had again spoken to her on video call she was crying on video call and afraid to him 

She told me not to call police yet she will be in touch with me and she just need a way out without him killing her or her mother 

She said she love me alot she will definitely call police on him and move out at shelther or one of her friend Verna I'm very worried about her life now 😥

@prolg312 call the police in charlotte and sent them to that address. Secondly, my personal opinion, call the US embassy in your country and explain them the whole, and give second thoughts to your marriage. She's able to contact you but afraid to contact the police ? Nope, HUGE NOPE ....

Edited June 21, 2017 by CantThinkOfOne

[RJandHamid 1,133]

I agree with what is being said here. If she is afraid for her life, but is asking you not to call the police, that seems suspicious. Where was she video calling from that this man wasn't able to see or hear her?

With that being said, if she is in real danger, I hope she is able to get out of the situation and get help. Encourage her to call the police. 

[Boiler 45,434]

Please let us know how things pan out.

[desilove77 45]

Are u two the same religion? Muslims are very controlling with their female sister and/or daughters when it comes to falling in love with a man outside their religion or even the difference between Shia and Sunni are a problem in Muslim religion.  If she is also Muslim there will be a problem if the brother is against(also anyone in family). The police can go to the house and make sure she is ok but In this kind of family (if Muslim Sunni belief) it will only escalate the situation.  Also, if she is from a family that is old school in the Muslim faith way..they are the ones to find a husband for her.  No police or anyother high power authority will help this matter.  U must continue to have communication with her until she gets to her friends house safely.  Unfortunately,  these kind of beliefs(arranged marriages and feeling of ownership of the girl) can be very scary and end very badly. Please do the best u can to find out her friends information to have her get there without the family knowing. It is going to be very hard. Her claiming that the brother said he will kill her and the mother probably is showing the mother might be trying to protect her (that is very bad in the Muslim faith when it's a daughter being with a man not picked for her). I hope everything will be ok..InshAllah

[JFH 12,190]

This thread has been running for several hours now. So I assume the police have now been called and she is in a shelter or safe house of some sorts. 

 

She need not not be afraid of the police. They take such claims of abuse very seriously in this country and will not hesitate to arrest someone they believe has harmed this woman either physically or emotionally. Is she being fed? Is she able to leave the property? If she's using an iPhone then track it through an apple device or on the apple website. 

 

I understand she wanted to hear the comforting voice and loving words of her husband but they will not save her life if this man does start to physically harm her. The police and emergency responders will. If she's too scared to call the police, Google the number for a local domestic violence hotline for her to call. 

 

Many years ago in Europe I called the police when I heard my neighbor beating his wife. They were there in minutes and she was in a shelter before the next hour was up. He was acting all tough with her but when 4 police officers showed up he suddenly became a sobbing wreck and was begging for forgiveness. He was very easy to arrest in that state. This man that your wife is with is probably all talk with her but no action. But it's not a risk she wants to take. 

Edited June 21, 2017 by JFH

[JFH 12,190]

*~*~*moved from "Effects of Major Family Changes" to "off-topic". Whilst the situation is tragic, it is not related to immigration processes and procedures*~*~*

[prolg312 0]

On 6/21/2017 at 11:46 PM, CantThinkOfOne said:

@prolg312 call the police in charlotte and sent them to that address. Secondly, my personal opinion, call the US embassy in your country and explain them the whole, and give second thoughts to your marriage. She's able to contact you but afraid to contact the police ? Nope, HUGE NOPE ....

You was right my wife has been cheating on my back this man with her now he is her new boyfriend I have to find out this on the last weekend so she was just playing with me games so my marriage is over she even refuse to send me divorce papers she has told me her marriage with me doesn't recognize in us she is free to marry her new boyfriend what should I do in this case to get divorce done here ? 

Edited June 30, 2017 by prolg312

[RJandHamid 1,133]

Sorry to hear about your wife being unfaithful.

A legal marriage in Pakistan is usually also recognized in the US. 

What step of the spousal visa process are you on? Is the case at the NVC or embassy yet? 

[prolg312 0]

3 hours ago, RJandHamid said:

Sorry to hear about your wife being unfaithful.

A legal marriage in Pakistan is usually also recognized in the US. 

What step of the spousal visa process are you on? Is the case at the NVC or embassy yet? 

I'm at the embassy level in under administrator processing for last 6 years 

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[Darnell 8,478]

On 6/30/2017 at 2:43 PM, prolg312 said:

You was right my wife has been cheating on my back this man with her now he is her new boyfriend I have to find out this on the last weekend so she was just playing with me games so my marriage is over she even refuse to send me divorce papers she has told me her marriage with me doesn't recognize in us she is free to marry her new boyfriend what should I do in this case to get divorce done here ? 

Well it's good you learned about it and can move on with your life.   As to 'here' - talk with your Imam about how to do the divorce - they know everything .