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Talking so harshly to someone with low self esteem really isn't going to help

She hasn't listened to any of the kind words of advice. I'm not from the sunshine and rainbows brigade - I call a spade a spade and it's sterling clear that the OP needs some help. Maybe she'll listen when it's bluntly said?

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people make it sound so easy to just leave the person you are in love with.... if you were in the same situation I don't think it would be easy for you to just end it....

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people make it sound so easy to just leave the person you are in love with.... if you were in the same situation I don't think it would be easy for you to just end it....

True, didnt say it would be easy but this guy is a total loser. She is so blinded by love that she cannot see that. Ived known many people that have been so blinded by love that they cannot see what is really happening to them including in some instances loosing everything and even jeopardizing their lives.

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people make it sound so easy to just leave the person you are in love with.... if you were in the same situation I don't think it would be easy for you to just end it....

I do agree with this. However, stepping back and reassessing the situation is needed here, I think. If he is treating her like this now, how will it be when he is with her day to day? Will the situation work itself out? Or will violence be the end result. I, too, think he is playing games. I would really just step back and think about it all before I moved forward.

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Talking so harshly to someone with low self esteem really isn't going to help

She hasn't listened to any of the kind words of advice. I'm not from the sunshine and rainbows brigade - I call a spade a spade and it's sterling clear that the OP needs some help. Maybe she'll listen when it's bluntly said?

I agree. You can only say it nicely so many times before you get annoyed with someone who seems like they're not getting the message. :thumbs:

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Talking so harshly to someone with low self esteem really isn't going to help

No, you're probably right. I honestly don't think ANY thing will help her at this point, kind or harsh words. Some people can't be helped. It makes me sad.

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Love doesn't blind people. Infatuation and obsession blinds people. Have a distinction.

Sorry. You are wrong - love can completely blind you. Im not talking about simple infatuation or an obsession. Im talking about something that can happen over time gradually. Usually, when someone is abusive it doesnt happen all of a sudden. If its bad now then wait about 2-6 years to see the living hell that you are in. I know first hand but now I have 2020 ;)

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people make it sound so easy to just leave the person you are in love with.... if you were in the same situation I don't think it would be easy for you to just end it....

it probably wouldn't but also I would be loving myself first thing...

just to think of the situation where someone that "loves me" calls me cold cow or whatever it was, would be enough to start hating this person

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Love doesn't blind people. Infatuation and obsession blinds people. Have a distinction.

Sorry. You are wrong - love can completely blind you. Im not talking about simple infatuation or an obsession. Im talking about something that can happen over time gradually. Usually, when someone is abusive it doesnt happen all of a sudden. If its bad now then wait about 2-6 years to see the living hell that you are in. I know first hand but now I have 2020 ;)

I think you can speak for yourself then. You probably experienced that too often. I never have. I leave whenever I know I've been played.

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people make it sound so easy to just leave the person you are in love with.... if you were in the same situation I don't think it would be easy for you to just end it....

I agree...I don't see how she could suddenly cut off all communication with someone she feels/felt in love with. Ending the relationship, sure, but pretending he doesn't exist? Not easy.

Talking so harshly to someone with low self esteem really isn't going to help

I agree. If she doesn't listen when it's said nicely, I doubt she'll listen just because it's said harshly.

All people can do is give advice and experiences and let her decide, not keep trying and trying to force her to listen to you. She is getting bullied by her fiance when she tries to talk about it, she should not be bullied into anything here too. Give advice and let her decide whether she follows it. Of course we all pretty much think she should end the relationship, and she knows that by now from reading this thread. Saying it to her more rudely and aggressively isn't going to help.

People act as if they know this girl and guy personally, we don't know either of them or both sides of the story. How do we know she hasn't listened to ANY of the kind words of advice? I'm sure she is thinking a lot because of this thread. People can't always immediately do something, they have to think about it. So people should just calm down and let her decide.

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Love doesn't blind people. Infatuation and obsession blinds people. Have a distinction.

Sorry. You are wrong - love can completely blind you. Im not talking about simple infatuation or an obsession. Im talking about something that can happen over time gradually. Usually, when someone is abusive it doesnt happen all of a sudden. If its bad now then wait about 2-6 years to see the living hell that you are in. I know first hand but now I have 2020 ;)

I think you can speak for yourself then. You probably experienced that too often. I never have. I leave whenever I know I've been played.

Yes I can speak for myself and you have no idea what I have experienced or not consolemaster so maybe you should leave.

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I don't know. There are times I wish people had downright yelled at me and told me to get it together, DTMFA.

eta: And I'm pretty well adjusted, but not exactly issue-free.

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