Gay Couple & Conservative parents

[Hope&Love 38]

My USC partner whose parents are very conservative. They refused to accept our marriage as well as their son. However, my parents are very supportive of us. We have tons of bona fide proofs of our marriage: Car loan, car & health insurance, bank accounts, friends & my side family photos, travel documents. 

My Question is: How do we present our marriage in the AOS interview, now we have conservative parents?

 

Side note: This goes out to gay and straight relationships as well. I know straight couples whose parents don't expect foreign spouse. -  help

Edited June 5, 2017 by Hope&Love

[Shauneg 762]

12 minutes ago, Hope&Love said:

My USC partner whose parents are very conservative. They refused to accept our marriage as well as their son. However, my parents are very supportive of us. We have tons of bona fide proofs of our marriage: Car loan, car & health insurance, bank accounts, friends & my side family photos, travel documents. 

My Question is: How do we present our marriage in the AOS interview, now we have conservative parents?

 

Side note: This goes out to gay and straight relationships as well. I know straight couples whose parents don't expect foreign spouse. -  help

You're both adults, what do your parents have anything to do with anything? Gay, straight, consertative, liberal, accepting, unaccepting. It's your relationship not your parents....why would they be concerned about your parents during AOS?

[ch3john 308]

3 minutes ago, Shauneg said:

You're both adults, what do your parents have anything to do with anything? Gay, straight, consertative, liberal, accepting, unaccepting. It's your relationship not your parents....why would they be concerned about your parents during AOS?

Exactly, what do parents have to do with anything? 

[Boiler 46,252]

Also wondering what it has to do with Parents? 

[Hope&Love 38]

It doe have everything to do with parents. What I asked is How do I answer to immigration when they ask about his side of the family, and why they weren't there at our wedding? 

[Boiler 46,252]

If they ask tell the truth.

[ch3john 308]

You simply say "his family was not at the wedding". 

I think you're making this a bigger issue than what it is. Tons of people get married at the courthouse without any friends or family.

 

[Hope&Love 38]

15 minutes ago, ch3john said:

You simply say "his family was not at the wedding". 

I think you're making this a bigger issue than what it is. Tons of people get married at the courthouse without any friends or family.

 

You're right. I think Im making it bigger than what it is.

[Nelly17 10]

8 hours ago, Hope&Love said:

My USC partner whose parents are very conservative. They refused to accept our marriage as well as their son. However, my parents are very supportive of us. We have tons of bona fide proofs of our marriage: Car loan, car & health insurance, bank accounts, friends & my side family photos, travel documents. 

My Question is: How do we present our marriage in the AOS interview, now we have conservative parents?

 

Side note: This goes out to gay and straight relationships as well. I know straight couples whose parents don't expect foreign spouse. -  help

I am in a lesbian relationship. Our parents on either side do not approve. Our siblings are supportive though. During the interview, tell the truth about how they dont support you. It's very common so it wont be a big deal. We got married at the courthouse with noone except for my sister in law (my family is not in the US). 

[Randyandyuni 2,682]

agreed with all, the AOS has nothing to do with your parents, your relationship is all they are concerned with not how it is accepted outside of your marriage

[Cyberfx1024 7,980]

11 hours ago, Hope&Love said:

You're right. I think Im making it bigger than what it is.

If they ask then you simply tell the truth and it won't be no big deal at all. 

[Mollie09 1,543]

You're not the first couple to go through this and unfortunately won't be the last. Tell the truth and you'll be fine.

[amul 229]

16 hours ago, Hope&Love said:

My USC partner whose parents are very conservative. They refused to accept our marriage as well as their son. However, my parents are very supportive of us. We have tons of bona fide proofs of our marriage: Car loan, car & health insurance, bank accounts, friends & my side family photos, travel documents. 

My Question is: How do we present our marriage in the AOS interview, now we have conservative parents?

 

Side note: This goes out to gay and straight relationships as well. I know straight couples whose parents don't expect foreign spouse. -  help

It is natural to worry about this, but the reality is that if you were not applying for a CR1/K1, you would care so much about what other people would be thinking about family approval or lack thereof. I am trying to remind myself this very thing! Would I worry? The answer is, no! The same is not the case when it comes to our visa process though. A conundrum I can relate to!  

 

We are going to face the same tune, albeit a different beat perhaps. The only family support we have is from my cousin really and our inner circle of (his/my) friends.  For the time being...

 

Our motto is -- do not let fear make you say something that is not true. No matter what, you can overcome things when you are truthful. One lie and you can turn a possibly utterly nonviable. 

 

Wishing you both all the best 

[Beth & Achraf 328]

Like everyone said, tell the truth....... even with straight couples there has been cases where one set of parents did not attend wedding for one reason or another.

 

[Jordan8768 107]

17 hours ago, Hope&Love said:

My USC partner whose parents are very conservative. They refused to accept our marriage as well as their son. However, my parents are very supportive of us. We have tons of bona fide proofs of our marriage: Car loan, car & health insurance, bank accounts, friends & my side family photos, travel documents. 

My Question is: How do we present our marriage in the AOS interview, now we have conservative parents?

 

Side note: This goes out to gay and straight relationships as well. I know straight couples whose parents don't expect foreign spouse. -  help

We live in a modern society and sexuality is part of that. It has nothing to do with your parents as you are consenting adults and all of that other stuff. This in no way will effect your case so don't worry! 

 

My father couldn't attend my wedding and it didn't effect us at all. They'll understand. Just tell the truth! 

Edited June 5, 2017 by Jordan8768