Can my USC wife damage my 10-y green card?

[kwei 0]

I am already 10-y green card holder. But the relationship with my USC wife was going down. I am curious if we get divorce and I make her mad because she want more and more money from the joint account and I may partially say yes and partially no, does she have the ability to give me trouble or not? or go to USCIS to give me hard time? Surely our marriage is real and last more than 3 years...

thank you for the advice in advance.

[broma25 2]

No she cannot do anything to have your GC revoked. Unless of course she has proof that your marriage was fraudulent.

[kwei 0]

Broma,

thank you very much for the support.

In the relationship, most of time she treat me good but once in a while treat me like a ######. Well I treat her consistenly good even she contributed more to this relation. After quite long OK sex life, one day she was unsatisfied with it because of my long-time health problem regarding to sex. Then she want a divorce and I had nothing to do to save it because I was responsible for the partially failure of sex life. For appreciating of the love she gave to me, I decided to leave all joining account money to her( equal to a blue-class worker one year salary(before tax). First she was happen and weeks later, she was not unsatisfied again and ask for thousands more money even her family is much richer than me. She treat it like a fraud greencard business. I felt so upset. Her greeding for money, ruin many things in the past and also ruin my hope to end this relationship in a good way.

What should I do? thank you very much for the help.

[kwei 0]

Broma,

thank you very much for the support.

In the relationship, most of time she treat me good but once in a while treat me like a ######. Well I treat her consistenly good even she contributed more to this relation. After quite long OK sex life, one day she was unsatisfied with it because of my long-time health problem regarding to sex. Then she want a divorce and I had nothing to do to save it because I was responsible for the partially failure of sex life. For appreciating of the love she gave to me, I decided to leave all joining account money to her( equal to a blue-class worker one year salary(before tax). First she was happen and weeks later, she was not unsatisfied again and ask for thousands more money even her family is much richer than me. She treat it like a fraud greencard business. I felt so upset. Her greeding for money, ruin many things in the past and also ruin my hope to end this relationship in a good way.

What should I do? thank you very much for the help.

Wrong words, should : First she was happy and weeks later, she was not satisfied again

[Minya's wife 25]

I'm sorry to hear your marriage has not worked out...but at this point there is nothing she can do that will affect your immigration status...you have your 10 year green-card.

As far as divorce, you should consult a competent lawyer....regarding the laws & regulations in the state you live in, to see what will have to be divided among your "assets". Good luck to you!

-P

[Jasman0717 9]

I too am sorry to hear of your situation. You are a legal permanent resident and that can't be revolked unless your wife could prove that you entered into the marriage with intent to defraud or if you commit some serious crime that would cause the USCIS to deport you. I think you could even qualify for citizenship once you have been in the country the prescribed time. Good luck

[kwei 0]

She has already taken 93% join account money away for her own new house and ask me to sign a agreement to waive the right for that property.

I don't want ask her back the money and still like to leave all bad thing or good things from the relationship to her and move on life. But she asking for more money is something really made me upset...

thank everyone.

[Minya's wife 25]

She has already taken 93% join account money away for her own new house and ask me to sign a agreement to waive the right for that property.

I don't want ask her back the money and still like to leave all bad thing or good things from the relationship to her and move on life. But she asking for more money is something really made me upset...

thank everyone.

Please consult a divorce lawyer, you sound like you need some competent advice that none of us here can give you. Your immigration status is fine, you don't need to worry on that account....but it does sound like your wife does not want to be married to you anymore and is using your lack of knowledge of marriage and divorce laws in your state to take advantage of you. You should also not sign any document waiving your rights to anything! If you file for divorce there will be official papers that both of you will sign...until then, don't sign anything she wants you to sign. Go talk to a lawyer as soon as possible.

[kwei 0]

Paula&Minya,

thank you so much for the advice and I will do what you suggest.

I understand that some immigrant take advantage of USC sometimes, sometimes USC take advantage of immigrants. In the last three years, when she had some argument with me, she always use divorce to scare me to dearth. I know this is kind of emtional ab....while she did many good things.

That's the life. If people knew love is appreciation not demanding, there won' t many divorces. Good luck to everyone experienced something similar to me. And really appreciate the support from those who understand the issue..

[broma25 2]

Don't sign anything until you have consulted your own lawyer. Also remember that you have as many rights (well almost) in the USA as a permanent resident as she does being the US citizen.

[kwei 0]

Hi Broma, thank you again for this matter. God bless you and everyone here.

[diadromous mermaid 36]

First she was happen and weeks later, she was not unsatisfied again and ask for thousands more money even her family is much richer than me. She treat it like a fraud greencard business. I felt so upset. Her greeding for money, ruin many things in the past and also ruin my hope to end this relationship in a good way.

I concur with the recommendation to speak with a competent family law professional and to avoid agreeing or remitting any further funds to your estranged US spouse unless handled by the attorney and within context of the termination of the marital relationship. If she is/were to be inclined (and I am not saying she is, but in divorce situations feelings and emotional undertones can alter as the process nears), the transfer of funds from you to her, independent of legal process, and in amounts that might appear to be in excess of your legal right as a spouse, could be construed as an "enticement".

[MPGGPM 0]

She has already taken 93% join account money away for her own new house and ask me to sign a agreement to waive the right for that property.

I don't want ask her back the money and still like to leave all bad thing or good things from the relationship to her and move on life. But she asking for more money is something really made me upset...

thank everyone.

I am not sure why you are allowing her to get away with so much. I don't know if it's because you are worried that she can somehow do something to you in order to cause problems for your green card etc.....

But, as others have said, at this point there is not much (since you have a 10 year card)....................and so I think you need to sit back, look at your situation, and also get her to understand that "fair is fair".

Relationships end all the time in this country, unfortunately, and sometimes the way they end can get messy.....

But it appears to me, that you are REALLY allowing her to get away with way too much. And personally...........unless you agreed with her that she has the right to take 93% of all of your funds from your bank account, then she is not entitled to have such a big portion of the money.

And then on top of that, she has the nerve to ask you , after taking just about all of the money from your joint account, to sign a form to "waive" your rights to a property she will be buying with it!

That's really unbelievable.

I understand we only have your side of the story here, and not hers.................but based on what you've explained so far, regardless of the reasons for the breakup of the marriage, it REALLY seems like you are getting the raw end of the deal, and allowing her WAY too much leeway, in how you both are settling this.

You keep allowing her to do this...............and you will find yourslf with a green card.....................but not much else.

Edited April 15, 2007 by MPGGPM

[CountryBoy 0]

Don't sign anything else until you consult an attorney ..

CB

[simple_male 1]

I am already 10-y green card holder. But the relationship with my USC wife was going down. I am curious if we get divorce and I make her mad because she want more and more money from the joint account and I may partially say yes and partially no, does she have the ability to give me trouble or not? or go to USCIS to give me hard time? Surely our marriage is real and last more than 3 years...

thank you for the advice in advance.

Your 10-yr GC is fine. You should consult a good divorce attorney.