Does the USC spouse need to attend interview

[Scandi 4,168]

11 minutes ago, MCSmooth said:

The k-1 visa interview was smooth and easy. They believed we loved each other. I was actually there and they did not even question me. In Jamaica my husband was so intelligent, respectful, charming, understanding and loving. I think the interviewer saw those qualities in him too. She joked with him several times. I don't believe age alone is as important as people think to USCIS. 

Sometimes people put on a face and act very differently from who they really are to get what they want. And sometimes people start acting very differently because they're very unhappy, frustrated and depressed. Sometimes a big move like that, to another country with a different culture and moving in with someone you've never lived with before gets too much and you realize you made a huge mistake. If the things you accuse him of are true any culture chock or depression doesn't justify his behaviour, of course, but it might explain some things.

[MCSmooth 4]

57 minutes ago, Scandi said:

I don't know if you have an interview date yet.. If not, you should be aware that the AOS can be approved without interview when you adjust status from a K-1. This means that his greencard can be approved today and you will be on the hook for the i-864. So this might be a very urgent issue to take care of. 

Sorry if I already responded to this.  I was worried that he already got his gc and thats why he stopped talking to me for 5 weeks and moved out on his own.  Tomorrow at my infopass hopefully I will find out.  They will not give me any information or a status about his AOS so I'm not sure if they will even tell me if he has his gc.  I will update my status on this post tomorrow after my appointment. 

[MCSmooth 4]

10 minutes ago, ank said:

Going through your posts, I feel you still love him so much. I definitely can feel the emotions you are going through. You see all your efforts,plans,time and memories meaningless.  VJ is full of incidents like that. 

I guess he saw you as an opportunity to come to USA. Best thing that you can do is forgive him and move on. Let the God deal with him. In life, there are times when you go through these things for nothing wrong from your side. Then, We always learn from our past. 

I do. That's crazy right? He's a fake and a fraud.  I love a person who never existed.  Everyone says just move on but I'm not a vampire on Vampires Diaries and just can turn my emotion switch off.  I would do anything for that super power right now.   I want to forgive and understand why he was so desperate to come here he felt he had to lie and deceive me, which is the opposite of the Godly man he claims to be.  He should of had faith and waited until he met someone he really loved.  But I am a spoiled and privileged USC so I will never understand I guess.  Well that's what he said I was anyway.  I have 2 very close friends who married men from other countries who they helped adjust and they have been with their spouses, who I consider my friends too, 12+years.  Why not me?  I have learned a lesson I will never forget.  

[Scandi 4,168]

I assume you have the receipt number for the AOS application so you can check the AOS status online to see if it was approved or not. The status doesn't always update correctly but it's worth a try.

[MCSmooth 4]

18 minutes ago, Scandi said:

Sometimes people put on a face and act very differently from who they really are to get what they want. And sometimes people start acting very differently because they're very unhappy, frustrated and depressed. Sometimes a big move like that, to another country with a different culture and moving in with someone you've never lived with before gets too much and you realize you made a huge mistake. If the things you accuse him of are true any culture chock or depression doesn't justify his behaviour, of course, but it might explain some things.

It would be such a comfort to believe this and that it just didn't work out, instead of believing he despises me and it all was a lie.  When I look at the pics and videos he posts on Facebook with his cousin and his family having a good time and being so happy here without me its hard to accept this possibility. 

[MCSmooth 4]

2 minutes ago, Scandi said:

I assume you have the receipt number for the AOS application so you can check the AOS status online to see if it was approved or not. The status doesn't always update correctly but it's worth a try.

No I don't.  The letter was addressed to him and at the time I didn't know I needed to write it down.  I can't call without him, and I didn't think I would ever have to.  Another mistake of the long list of mistakes I made.  After I saw that letter for the first time, I never saw it again.  I wonder if he even kept it in our home...

[Elsalove2016 34]

4 hours ago, MCSmooth said:

He came 2 weeks later. So what if I agree I should have not opposed and agree to him staying An extra 2 weeks. Should my behavior made him change his mind about me and get so angry? And if my opposition did change his mind about me and he no longer loved me and wanted to marry me should he have come to the States? Did he then commit marriage fraud? 

I think from the beginning he approach you as a girlfriend he did fraud he knew what he was doing . These people are actos and they allure people to use them some how .  they are looking for a victim , but he will get his karma . Do everything in your power so that he doesn't get his green card . 

Edited May 31, 2017 by Elsalove2016

[Elsalove2016 34]

7 hours ago, mrtravel said:

Not always the case in life, but perhaps in death he will be punished
But, for the OP, I wish you well

 

Unfortunately you are right but this life is not forever and in death they will pay all with interest 

[MCSmooth 4]

18 hours ago, Scandi said:

 

Today I had my infopass appointment. When I checked in I told the agent I was no longer with my spouse and I wanted to withdraw the affidavit of support. He immediately told me once the case is in process I could not do this. I firmly objected telling him I read on "the government" website that I could. He spoke briefly to 3 of his coworkers standing nearby and they all looked confused and shook their heads sideways.  He then said I'll let you talk to an agent. The agent was not pleasant. He said right away that I could not withdraw the affidavit of support. I told him I was pursuing a divorce, my husband does not live with me, I don't have a forwarding address or even a number, and I did not know where he is at.  He shook his head sideways and shrug his shoulders like he didn't care.  He asked me when my husband arrived and when we got married. I told him and he basically stated everything was done as required so the Case will continue to be processed.  I then told him obviously my spouse will not tell me about the interview and I was concerned that he was going to file a VAWA. He said if my husband comes without me he could file the VAWA and I may never be informed because that is his personal business and he may still get his gc. I was very persistent so he spoke to his supervisor. He basically returned with a form for the US Department of Homeland Security Immigration and Customs Enforcement to Report Ilegal Activity. He said that was all I can do. Thank you and have a nice day. Next! I've already done this so leaving work early and paying for an Uber there and back was a complete waste of time and money. He didn't even write anything I said down, I initially made the appointment to notify them that I was getting a divorce but they clearly don't care. It seems all I can do now is contact an immigration lawyer. Thank you all for your help. I appreciate everything. 

[Harmonia 211]

What will an immigration lawyer do? They don't make any decisions. They advocate for you in your stead. You already tried advocating. 

 

If I were you, I'd save my $ from hiring an immigration lawyer. Instead, hire a family law attorney, get a divorce, and get some counseling. Your posts make me sad for you. 

 

You noted that many posts on here seem unfair to the USC "victim". Please don't think of yourself like that. You will survive this experience. There's basically no way to kick your spouse out. Think of it this way. You proved to USCIS that your relationship was real. You brought someone here from a foreign country, where he left his family, job, housing, everything to be with you. It didn't work out, which sucks, but half of marriages end in divorce. USCIS sees this all the time, a case of regret where one spouse wants to ship the other back. It doesn't work that way. I'm not blaming or criticizing you. Open your eyes and take care of yourself. Divorce, get some counseling, move on. You mentioned he's wrecked your self esteem and you can't think of future marriage.Seriously? You shouldn't be thinking of that, at all, right now. Take care of ending the marriage you're already in.