Does the USC spouse need to attend interview

[Redheadguy03 505]

1 minute ago, MCSmooth said:

Ok but he said initially he wanted to come immediately then as soon as he got the visa he changed it to a month later. And why did he quit his job?  Also the very week he got here he asked me to buy him two separate plane tickets to two different states for about 2 weeks at a time to visit his family and added he wanted to go alone on these trips. He reminded me he did neva favor by coming sooner than he wanted so I should do this for him. You are right though, I can imagine it's very hard to migrate to another country which is why I foolishly kept forgiving him for the things he did to me thinking he was just missing his family and had a hard time adjusting. He didn't have a hard time calling and texting  who knows who everyday using apps that hide the the numbers so they can never be traced. Go figure. 

He quit his job so he could come to the USA soon like you wanted. Wanting a little time to say goodbye is perfectly normal and ok. You definitely didn't handle that well, I'm not excusing his actions I'm just saying you could have given him a month to spend with family. 

[Elsalove2016 34]

1 hour ago, MCSmooth said:

I feel strongly he is living with his cousin but he did not leave a forwarding address and he does not talk to me. He completely ignores me. Two weeks ago When he left for 2 days with no word he was leaving and not coming back I started searching all over the house for his AOS receipt number and not only did I see no sign of it I couldn't find any paperwork pertaining to his k-1 visa or any immigration paperwork which was mailed to me not him. He took everything. But I did find a 21 page documentation he wrote about me in November 2016 when we were separated for 2 months. 21 pages of how much he despises me and hates me. It seems he will attempt to file a VAWA for all the mental, emotional and physical abuse he says I caused him detailed in the letter.  I guess he thinks when he kicked me because I picked up his phone that was my fault. Or after he hit me several times while I was driving because I touched his headphones and I hit him back to defend myself I wasn't supposed to because I caused him the stress that made him hit me. So in return he smashed my windshield which cost me $950 to replace and he told his family I did it and blamed him cause I'm an alcoholic according to him. The most I drink is socially once a week and I can only handle 2 martinis. Sorry for the rant but I don't think he will come with me. 

Could you contact ice on him so they send him back to Jamaica ? I hate it when people use other people , it's funny how when you used Togo visit him he didn't notice all those things that he claims about you but now that you guys live together he is saying all this stuff about you . Do everything you can do he doesn't get away  with this talk to whoever you need to talk to because what he did is obviously fraud . 

[geowrian 22,337]

38 minutes ago, Elsalove2016 said:

Could you contact ice on him so they send him back to Jamaica ? I hate it when people use other people , it's funny how when you used Togo visit him he didn't notice all those things that he claims about you but now that you guys live together he is saying all this stuff about you . Do everything you can do he doesn't get away  with this talk to whoever you need to talk to because what he did is obviously fraud . 

ICE is enforcement. They don't make decisions about who should have authorized stay or not, adjudicate cases, or conduct investigations into reports of fraud. They can't take actions against somebody who is currently in the US legally and has not committed a crime.

 

There is no way to send somebody back home. All the OP can do is 1) withdraw the I-864 so he cannot AOS, 2) divorce, and 3) provide evidence of fraud to USCIS (so hopefully they won't have a basis for a VAWA claim). Once his AOS is denied and he loses authorized stay, he can choose to go back home, file for VAWA, or to stay in the US illegally and face the consequences. But at that point, the OP is out of the picture (except maybe the divorce finalizing).

Edited May 31, 2017 by geowrian

[Elsalove2016 34]

8 minutes ago, geowrian said:

ICE is enforcement. They don't make decisions about who should have authorized stay or not, adjudicate cases, or conduct investigations into reports of fraud. They can't take actions against somebody who is currently in the US legally and has not committed a crime.

 

There is no way to send somebody back home. All the OP can do is 1) withdraw the I-864 so he cannot AOS, 2) divorce, and 3) provide evidence of fraud to USCIS (so hopefully they won't have a basis for a VAWA claim). Once his AOS is denied and he loses authorized stay, he can choose to go back home, file for VAWA, or to stay in the US illegally and face the consequences. But at that point, the OP is out of the picture (except maybe the divorce finalizing).

Good to know , I guess try to move on and life itself will punish him . 

[mrtravel 40]

Sorry to hear your bad news. 
You mentioned " I objected to this because we only had 90 days to get married. "   The 90 days starts when he entered the US, not when he got the visa.  
So, whether he waited 1 day or 1 month to enter, you still had 90 days.

[mrtravel 40]

54 minutes ago, Elsalove2016 said:

Good to know , I guess try to move on and life itself will punish him . 

Not always the case in life, but perhaps in death he will be punished
But, for the OP, I wish you well

 

Edited May 31, 2017 by mrtravel

[Ash.1101 1,756]

55 minutes ago, mrtravel said:

Sorry to hear your bad news. 
You mentioned " I objected to this because we only had 90 days to get married. "   The 90 days starts when he entered the US, not when he got the visa.  
So, whether he waited 1 day or 1 month to enter, you still had 90 days.

Agree'd. You have 90 days to get married once he enters the country, but you have 6 months from the time his medicals done, if he came into the country the day before his visa expired, you would have had 9 months to get married. If you have anything less, that's on ya'll aside from a request for more info at the interview that can cause the 6 month window to be shorter.

The visa also isn't meant to make sure you work out together, it's meant for marriage and adjustment, they assume that you know you'll work out because they assume you know the visa isn't for dating or to spend some time together.

Overall, yes, withdrawal the I-864, do no show up to the interview if/when it's scheduled, provide any proof of fraud you could have, and move on.

[Tanish 197]

4 hours ago, MCSmooth said:

Ok but he said initially he wanted to come immediately then as soon as he got the visa he changed it to a month later. And why did he quit his job?  Also the very week he got here he asked me to buy him two separate plane tickets to two different states for about 2 weeks at a time to visit his family and added he wanted to go alone on these trips. He reminded me he did neva favor by coming sooner than he wanted so I should do this for him. You are right though, I can imagine it's very hard to migrate to another country which is why I foolishly kept forgiving him for the things he did to me thinking he was just missing his family and had a hard time adjusting. He didn't have a hard time calling and texting  who knows who everyday using apps that hide the the numbers so they can never be traced. Go figure. 

I would like to clarify once again that I wasn't trying to imply that he was right. I was just stating what I am going to face personally in a near future. As much as I want to, I can not leave on a short notice. It's been more than 8 months since I saw my wife in person.

 

I'm sure you had your reasons for doing what you did. We are third party, in it we wouldn't know what you two discussed before taking that decision.

 

Also, judging by the way you have been treated since his arrival, it is clear what his intentions were. All I can say to you is, just try to forget about what happened. Divorce him, pull your AOS and don't contact him again. I know very well how hard it can be moving on after your spouse cheats on you (having personally faced it). Life's too short. Don't waste it on irrelevant people.

 

[Auds 223]

4 hours ago, MCSmooth said:

Ok but he said initially he wanted to come immediately then as soon as he got the visa he changed it to a month later. And why did he quit his job?  Also the very week he got here he asked me to buy him two separate plane tickets to two different states for about 2 weeks at a time to visit his family and added he wanted to go alone on these trips. He reminded me he did neva favor by coming sooner than he wanted so I should do this for him. You are right though, I can imagine it's very hard to migrate to another country which is why I foolishly kept forgiving him for the things he did to me thinking he was just missing his family and had a hard time adjusting. He didn't have a hard time calling and texting  who knows who everyday using apps that hide the the numbers so they can never be traced. Go figure. 

 

I would have thought you would be shocked to learn that you were wrong on timelines for visa!  Its just been brushed away.  Leaving one's job and taking a month without work to say bye is completely normal - unfortunately that's not how you see it as per your own post.  Your first post on this section sadly reeks of control, superiority and being unable to see that with this 'first' issue that changed things you were wrong.

 

the 'go figure' comment too is a vague assumptive accusation, as someone pointed perhaps dont weaken your position of where you are right by posting on the web.

 

it does seem with the timeline that this was pre-planned and you dont want to dilute that.

 

[MCSmooth 4]

9 hours ago, THEMSRILEY said:

Is the AOS, you are speaking of, is it your Adjustment of Status or Affidavit of Support?

Adjustment of status I-485

[MCSmooth 4]

9 hours ago, Redheadguy03 said:

You posted he wanted to wait a month and you said you were upset because you had 90 days to get married. It's 90 days from his arrival in the United States, not 90 days since it's issued. He could have stayed there a month and not had an issue. 

 

Sounds dramatic for sure, but he can't adjust his status without you. 

I didn't know that actually. I guess it wasn't just him wanting to stay a month it was a change in his behavior as soon as he got the visa. He quit his job, he was MIA often, and he was so angry and offensive when I objected. Thanks for your viewpoint 

[MCSmooth 4]

6 hours ago, Auds said:

OP, I think most of us read that and perhaps most ignored it for what followed.  None of us are perfect and yes that demand of yours was surely controlling and unfair.  I would also be resentful if my partner didnt treat me like an adult to have autonomy over my wrap up date.

 

i get the feel that sometimes USC tend to feel they can make decisions for their partner because of the 'favour' of immigration.

 

 

having said that all that followed was not on and not justified.  Things will get better for you, if you allow them to.

 

 

He was the one that initially said he wanted to come right away. Not me. He said it often. I just asked him why the sudden change and he got so angry for me questioning him. Then he said this event changed how he looked at me. I know everyone's perspective is different. Thanks 

[MCSmooth 4]

6 hours ago, Redheadguy03 said:

You are just fighting back and forth. Break up and move on. He can't adjust status without you. 

 

I would advise to be careful what you post on here. It can be used later if they know it's you. Just be careful. 

Thanks but I'm an honest person and I will tell the government the truth. If they feel he did nothing wrong and it wasn't fraud I will have to accept this. 

[MCSmooth 4]

4 hours ago, Elsalove2016 said:

Could you contact ice on him so they send him back to Jamaica ? I hate it when people use other people , it's funny how when you used Togo visit him he didn't notice all those things that he claims about you but now that you guys live together he is saying all this stuff about you . Do everything you can do he doesn't get away  with this talk to whoever you need to talk to because what he did is obviously fraud . 

I did contact ICE but the agent said drug crimes and human trafficking takes precedence over marriage fraud and my case may not be addressed. 

[MCSmooth 4]

6 hours ago, Redheadguy03 said:

He quit his job so he could come to the USA soon like you wanted. Wanting a little time to say goodbye is perfectly normal and ok. You definitely didn't handle that well, I'm not excusing his actions I'm just saying you could have given him a month to spend with family. 

He came 2 weeks later. So what if I agree I should have not opposed and agree to him staying An extra 2 weeks. Should my behavior made him change his mind about me and get so angry? And if my opposition did change his mind about me and he no longer loved me and wanted to marry me should he have come to the States? Did he then commit marriage fraud?