How do I divorce my foreign Ukrainian green card seeking annoying fake "wife" without her fake filing this fraud called VAWA?

[lacolinab13 86]

Even if she did file a VAWA case and it were approved (which it wouldn't be without substantial evidence), it would not affect you in any way. It wouldn't have anything to do with any divorce agreement you two many come to, nor affect you in any other way.

 

Given the short length of your marriage, you're unlikely to be ordered to pay alimony. Don't empty out your bank account and hide your money offshore. Hiding assets during a divorce will not look good to a judge.

 

Just tell her you wish to divorce, withdraw the i-864 and do your best to move on. What she does is her business.

 

The USC petitioner has to submit an I-864 for the adjustment of status, so if you didn't, her case can't be approved anyway. Did only her roommate file the form under his name as a joint sponsor? 

Edited May 29, 2017 by lacolinab13

[Tomtom2770 0]

2 minutes ago, lacolinab13 said:

Even if she did file a VAWA case and it were approved (which it wouldn't be without substantial evidence), it would not affect you in any way. It wouldn't have anything to do with any divorce agreement you two many come to, nor affect you in any other way.

 

Given the short length of your marriage, you're unlikely to be ordered to pay alimony. Don't empty out your bank account and hide your money offshore. Hiding assets during a divorce will not look good to a judge.

 

Just tell her you wish to divorce, withdraw the i-864 and do your best to move on. What she does is her business - and don't encourage her to commit immigration fraud by marrying any old USC to remain in the US.

I just read the definitoin of abuse for vawa and it looks like any one of them can be stretched and be shown as mine. 

 

Example, i need to travel overseas in June for like over a month. This can easily be isolation. Or I can stop buying her expensive clothing and this can be "Financial abuse". If she yells at me and calls me names and I call her a bit*h she can claim emotional/mental abuse.

 

Its ridiculous which is why annulment seems the best option. No one has told me yet whether or not a no fault divorce would mean she couldnt get an approved VAWA especially if they saw that she agreed to divorce just because we didnt want to be together anymore.

[Hypnos 6,576]

After being married for five months, an annulment would likely be a long shot.

 

I suspect divorce will be your only option. And really, it shouldn't even matter. If she's the person you say she is, how does it matter whether your marriage is ended by annulment or divorce? The important part would be getting her extricated from your life.

[lacolinab13 86]

Annulments are only granted on specific, narrow grounds and it's unlikely that you'll be able to get one, depending on your state. Consult a lawyer.

 

Why exactly are you so worried about a VAWA claim? It won't have anything to do with you. You won't be investigated. 

 

To protect yourself from a claim of domestic violence, just don't be with her. This should be easy to do since you live separately. Let her know that you are filing for divorce and wish her well. If she has keys to your apartment, change your locks. You don't have to keep engaging with her once you have let her know that you are filing for divorce.

 

And don't encourage her to commit immigration fraud by marrying any old USC in order to remain in the country. What she does after a divorce has NOTHING to do with you. You can move on. 

Edited May 29, 2017 by lacolinab13

[milimelo 4,487]

You're focusing too much on what ifs. Pull the I-864, divorce and go on your merry way. She doesn't live with you anyways so no abandonment claim will stick. And stop sleeping with her. 

[Tomtom2770 0]

2 minutes ago, lacolinab13 said:

Annulments are only granted on specific, narrow grounds and it's unlikely that you'll be able to get one, depending on your state. Consult a lawyer.

 

Why exactly are you so worried about a VAWA claim? It won't have anything to do with you. You won't be investigated. 

 

To protect yourself from a claim of domestic violence, just don't be with her. This should be easy to do since you live separately. Let her know that you are filing for divorce and wish her well. If she has keys to your apartment, change your locks. You don't have to keep engaging with her once you have let her know that you are filing for divorce.

 

And don't encourage her to commit immigration fraud by marrying any old USC in order to remain in the country. What she does after a divorce has NOTHING to do with you. You can 

Doesnt VAWA give her an automatic restaraining order, or cant she get one anyway?

 

I need my GUNS. I need to have weapons. 

 

Also, are you SERIOUS? Are you seriously this hypocritical or blind to what you said?

 

You're saying its NOT ok to have her marry another sucker or maybe someone she truly loves.

 

But you're saying its OK for her to get away with a false VAWA claim?

 

That's just way out of line. You weren't born here and I dont think you have the right to simply believe a false VAWA claim is ok. If you aren't from this country then count your blessings someone married you and got you in. Dont get bitter and file a fraudulent VAWA nor support one.

 

 

 

Now I actually have CLEAR evidence she came here only to remain and for illegal work through texts, and second, a few of the other annulment reasons such as drug abuse and some others which I dont remember off the top of my head are reasons I have WITH evidence.

[lacolinab13 86]

You sound scary. 

 

No one is saying she has a case through VAWA. But she has the right to file a case and there's nothing you can do about it. 

 

Everyone is telling you to DISENGAGE. File for divorce and move on. 

 

You can submit evidence of fraud to USCiS. Do so, then move on. What she does is up to her. 

 

By the way, I am a US citizen and have been from birth. 

Edited May 29, 2017 by lacolinab13

[Dashinka 24,528]

I think you have received a lot of very good advice, but are so focused on the VAWA and what if's.  You have no idea if she will even file a VAWA or even be successful as it is a high bar.  As already stated, the VAWA is her process and has nothing to do with you.  If you are divorced, and you have withdrawn the I864, you are done.  Calm down, and initiate the divorce.

Edited May 29, 2017 by Bill & Katya

[Auds 223]

57 minutes ago, Tomtom2770 said:

 

Lets not miss the point of the whole entire thread and just focus on helping my situation because I really need to exit the heck out of this scam marriage not discuss statistics on VAWA with you.

 

I actually have businesses in the UAE I need to attend to and I miss my exotic cars there. I cant understand why you would care to move to the US coming from the UAE.. 

 

But anyway, I just want to divorce if its possible to do a no fault divorce without later having her claim VAWA and cause a headache. Can she also make me pay her alimony or drain my bank accounts? We have never even lived together, Ive never supported her, and I never signed her affidavit of support and had her have her roommate sign it.

 

Or should I get an annulment and send her back and be heartless and not care what happens to her. This seems the best and smartest option for me to avoid an insane loser claim I'm "abusive" to get citizenship in a country she doesnt belong and has already scammed.

 

And Im just disgusted at all these people coming into this country and all acting and claiming like they were "abused". I can only imagine the mental and emotional abuse they have caused to have forced their spouses to do something.

 

My bich wife always scratches me, bites me, and makes me bleed all the time. She wants me to not hang out with my friends or do anything I want, yet if I spend time with her she annoys me or doesnt treat me with respect.

 

Sometimes she is amazing and wonderful and respectful, but lately Ive made it clear I need you to be for real and not constantly harrass me and bug the heck out of me and she doesnt. She says I should let her be and do my own thing (which sounds great) except that I dont want to live my life only to later deal with her when she either needs something from me or needs me to attend the interview where it will be clearly obvious we have nothing together.

 

We still have regular sex but I just feel chocked by this whole marriage especially because she doesn't really add anything into my life and only causes problems and trouble, nothing like she was before. She hits me, scratches me, punches me, and I just take it and never hit her back because I know she will use that to fuk me probably. Although I have yelled at her loud at the top of my lungs and put her in her place, almost taken her to court but drove back last second, and so far she hasnt but you never know.

 

 

Ive made it VERY CLEAR that VAWA wont work on me and I can get an annulment easy. Im convinced she WONT do it if I just remain decent and live normally with her and give her sex, but I feel like at this point Ive seen through her deceptions, and just want to be free, now with someone who constantly thinks she can upset me or bring me down over the dumbest things.

 

If no fault divorce works and means she cant file for VAWA great. I just want her to leave me alone and f*king accept that I dont want to be with her and dont care about her retarded desire to stay here and make money and just find another sucky to use, but not me.

 

Dont care for women, relationships, sex, or any of that nonsense or garbage except my time and money. Dont care about women and their insanity and emotional nonsense and desire to remain in this country whatsoever and will fight actively in the future to dismantle the stupidity known as VAWA. 

Some of us are grown up!  I am moving for the love of my life.  Happily gave away so much material stuff and business.

 

you sound unstable and seemingly pushing 'amazing, wonderful and respectful' (in your own words) in to screaming and pushing!

 

listening to you most of us feel sorry for her!  

 

Disrespectful posts - admin perhaps he needs to be blocked?

 

 

[abhi_meli 150]

I have started and even during the marriage, was on a crazy opiate/painkiller + cocaine binge just to avoid the ridiculous nonsense of her emotional insanity. I hope you are not writing and reading these posts under the influence of Opiate/Painkiller + Cocaine. People have give you good advice and you are still stuck with this "VAWA".

[abhi_meli 150]

6 minutes ago, Auds said:

Some of us are grown up!  I am moving for the love of my life.  Happily gave away so much material stuff and business.

 

you sound unstable and seemingly pushing 'amazing, wonderful and respectful' (in your own words) in to screaming and pushing!

 

listening to you most of us feel sorry for her!  

 

Disrespectful posts - admin perhaps he needs to be blocked?

 

 

It is true that he sounds like a really paranoid person with "VAWA" but if he is telling the truth,how can you feel sorry for a woman who married him for just "the green card"? There is countless cases where applicants married USC for the sole purpose of getting a green card which sucks. Anyone would be devastated if he or she comes to know that his/her spouse married them for just papers.

[Auds 223]

1 minute ago, gajbaldauri said:

I have started and even during the marriage, was on a crazy opiate/painkiller + cocaine binge just to avoid the ridiculous nonsense of her emotional insanity. I hope you are not writing and reading these posts under the influence of Opiate/Painkiller + Cocaine. People have give you good advice and you are still stuck with this "VAWA".

Screams at her top of his lungs to his own admission

 

mind games driving her t court for divorce and driving back

 

calling her names

 

made her perhaps have an abortion

 

takes drugs

 

calls her all sorts of stuff still using her sexually though he decides to leave!!

 

and then comes on a forum and says disrespectful stuff about all women

 

about people who have been abused...

 

 

 

and oh doesnt understand why i would leave the UAE?!?  As if all decisions are material and convinience based!

 

[Auds 223]

4 minutes ago, gajbaldauri said:

It is true that he sounds like a really paranoid person with "VAWA" but if he is telling the truth,how can you feel sorry for a woman who married him for just "the green card"? There is countless cases where applicants married USC for the sole purpose of getting a green card which sucks. Anyone would be devastated if he or she comes to know that his/her spouse married them for just papers.

Because he also said he was NEVER rude to her and soon admitted scaring her by screaming at the top of his lungs, swearing at her and more

 

he also said things about ALL women etc

 

dont know how much to believe of his version.

[Penguin_ie 5,994]

***** Op seems unwilling to accept reasonable advice and prefer ranting about his situation, so this thread is now closed and not to be re-started. *****