Visa Waiver DENIED

[canadanyc 20]

51 minutes ago, JFH said:

Your father's status as a green card holder means nothing

other than he can petition you and you can wait many years for an immigrant visa to become available. It doesn't mean you can just move here - you were 20, not 7. Water under the bridge now - your reluctance then to educate yourself on immigration has cost you a 10-year ban and you will have a struggle to get a non-immigrant visa even after the ban is lifted as you have shown such disregard, more than once, for the law.

 

So where do you meet your girlfriend now if you're banned from the USA and she has limited finances and anxiety? Have you been successful in entering Canada to visit her? Or have you not actually met in person yet? One of the requirements for filing a K-1 is having met in person at least once in the 2 years prior to filing. She might want to consider emigrating to the U.K. In your case, it's going to be easier that way round. After all, you just want to be together. It doesn't matter where, right?

I think you need to cut the OP some slack. People make mistakes, who are we to judge other people's situations? They now know the results of the mistake, and were just asking if there were any other similar situations. Its really upsetting to read when people have concerns, the VJ brigade comes out to shame and humiliate instead of showing some empathy. Yes there are laws, yes they did not adhere, but what more should they do to rectify? Repent to the immigration gods? 

[Suss&Camm 2,213]

11 minutes ago, canadanyc said:

I think you need to cut the OP some slack. People make mistakes, who are we to judge other people's situations? They now know the results of the mistake, and were just asking if there were any other similar situations. Its really upsetting to read when people have concerns, the VJ brigade comes out to shame and humiliate instead of showing some empathy. Yes there are laws, yes they did not adhere, but what more should they do to rectify? Repent to the immigration gods? 

I didn't see any judging - judging would be "you did this, therefore you are stupid" - there are concerns for OP's potential immigration journey or plans to meet and spend time together in all of this, and questions arising will be raised by immigration officers along the way. OP needs to have considered all of these things sooner rather than later (at an interview or such)

JFH was just stating facts in my opinion, albeit not always easy to hear - agreed-

[yuna628 9,680]

31 minutes ago, canadanyc said:

I think you need to cut the OP some slack. People make mistakes, who are we to judge other people's situations? They now know the results of the mistake, and were just asking if there were any other similar situations. Its really upsetting to read when people have concerns, the VJ brigade comes out to shame and humiliate instead of showing some empathy. Yes there are laws, yes they did not adhere, but what more should they do to rectify? Repent to the immigration gods? 

The OP asked for advice on their situation and greater knowledge, while acknowledging in the past they suffered from a lack of knowledge on the subject. The problem is that not only did they previously overstay for a significant period of time resulting in a ban - they managed to fill out an ESTA and likely misrepresented their previous overstaying on that form, continued onwards onto a flight, and then wonders why they were denied entry at the border via the VWP. Claims of an officer just being flippant at the border tells us, there's more misunderstanding here, as the officer had numerous reasons to deny and ban. Knowledgeable posters here can only inform the OP of why that happened and what their options are. Any lack of information provided does not help posters do that. Actions have consequences when it comes to immigration - some long term and permanent. While their girlfriend could visit them and perhaps depending on their situation have their girlfriend go through a foreign immigration procedure to live with them - their past actions may or may not complicate things if they decide to ever return to the US again.

Edited May 28, 2017 by yuna628

[Ketsuban 1,034]

OP, your quickest recourse would be to get a job earning at least £18,600 or however much it is now and see what you can do to bring her over to you.

[Boiler 45,670]

Lots of gaps in the story, I am koathe to make any further comments. Now of course there is no need to list everything out here but assuming you intended to obtain legal advise strongly suggest you have it all available.