Help please!

[Jojo92122 1,924]

3 minutes ago, jmana said:

So I am curious, if she comes here what is the worst that could happen?

 

She accuses you of domestic violence.  The police will have to take her words.  You could be arrested.  It will complicate your life.

 

With her conditional green card and a divorce, she would immediately need to file to remove the conditions on her green card.  If she can not prove a bona fide marriage, she is likely to file under the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) to keep her green card.

[Umka36 781]

Sorry about your loss.

 

As other have said not much you can do about her immigration now. Sometimes it just doesn't work out, but based on what you wrote she looks to be a user.

 

Is her daughter in the US as well or was the money being sent back to her home country?

 

 

[jmana 2]

Her daughter is here as well

[DILAW 94]

I still say visit your police station and explain to him that your spouse was caught cheating and now telling people and falsely accusing you of physical abuse and see what the police will tell you.

 

Then, call up an immigration lawyer and ask him/her what you can do to first protect yourself and family from her and if anything can be done to revoke her green card.  Call and go see 4 to 5 immigration lawyers is the best thing you can do. 

 

 

[sparkles_ 456]

2 hours ago, jmana said:

I am in a really bad situation and need some advice on how to handle it.  Long story short, I married a woman that I fell in love with while in St. Petersburg.  She came here last year and we got married in August.  She just got her greencard less than a month ago.   2 days after our marriage my 14 year old son was diagnosed with a rare and terminal form of cancer.  He passed away in January.  During this time things were obviously rough for both of us, but I was giving her approximately $1,000 a month because she was taking care of her daughter by herself while I spent almost every day in the hospital.  Some of the money came from help from friends and relatives who knew we were going through a lot.  Anyway after he passed I had to cut down what I was giving her to $600 a month because I couldn't keep up with paying all the medical bills.  I always paid for all the household expenses, plus most of the groceries, and provided her with a car.  About a month ago she decided to go back to work, as a bartender as that's the only job she had done in Russia.  She then asked me for money and I told her she's working, why do I have to keep giving you money?  I realized I was wrong in saying this because she wasn't working many hours and did end up giving her $600 this month.  But here's the bad part, she up and decided she was going leave a week ago claiming she can't live like this, having to beg for money every month.  I told her she doesn't have to beg, just give me an amount that is needed and I will give it to her.  She then replies that she won't give me a number because she already knows I couldn't afford it!

 

Well then comes the not coming home till 5am part.  I got suspicious and decided to find out where she was going, and she was going to a guy's house, who lives in a one bedroom apartment.  One night she spent the whole night there.  I asked her where she was, and she says that she was going to a party, or to a female coworkers house.  I told her I knew the truth and how, which pissed her off, and so she moved out yesterday, into a different guy's house.  Well now I find out that she has been at the bar this whole time telling people how I abuse her.  How I hit her and keep money from her.  The hitting this is absolutely ridiculous, she had a small red mark at the corner of her eye for over a month from an allergy to my cat, I have messages proving this, and close friends that can verify that it was an allergy and that I've never hit her.  But she claims she showed this picture to the police already.  And now she's at an immigration attorney, so I'm thinking that she is trying to hold onto her green card by claiming abuse.  What would you guys do in this situation??

First off, my goodness, I am so very sorry to hear about the loss of your child....my heart goes out to you

 

Second, I advise you don't get too worried over what she claimed to do with the police and photo. You would have gotten some notice if the police had taken it even remotely seriously.....they can tell that a red spot from watery, allergy eyes isn't the same as being given a punch in the eye. 

 

Change your locks, notify your landlord she is gone, file for divorce immediately and NEVER EVER be alone with her, if she needs to come get stuff have the cops escort her in to get it as protection for yourself. Keep that proof you have about the eye thing and anything else you may have. REMOVE HER from your bank accounts and credit cards! If she gets froggy, you can always get a protective order but lets hope it doesn't come to this.

 

And as always, notify USCIS by infopass asap.

Edited May 25, 2017 by sparkles_

[Jojo92122 1,924]

He will only be able to get a TRO if she has done something to justify issuing the order.   He has to show that she has done something that justifies the judge to restrain her freedom of movement.

 

It's not always possible to get a TRO.  Certain requirements must be met. 

 

A judge will quickly issue a TRO if there is any violence.

 

A judge will not issue a TRO because she scammed him for money and a green card.

Edited May 25, 2017 by Jojo92122

[sparkles_ 456]

2 minutes ago, Jojo92122 said:

He will only be able to get a TRO if she has done something to justify issuing the order.   He has to show that she has done something that justifies the judge to restrain her freedom of movement.

 

A judge will quickly issue a TRO if there is any violence.

 

A judge will not issue a TRO because she scammed him for money and a green card.

I think I should clarify. Froggy means exactly that, trying violence/coercion .....sorry guys, I realized I dropped Southern slang into a place it does not belong 

Edited May 25, 2017 by sparkles_

[Ontarkie 14,237]

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[Georgia16 2,858]

I'm very sorry for the loss of your son!

 

 

I don't get the whole thing about you giving her money every month? Aren't you guys married and live together?

 

Also it seems like your marriage is over her living with other guys and such. If that's the case then seek a divorce and don't be alone with her so you can protect yourself against her claims. Also remember her child is not to blame for mothers mistakes so if she still has stuff at your place make sure she gets it. 

[Tahoma 2,292]

1.  Change the locks.

2.  Remove her from all accounts.

3.  File for divorce.

4.  Don't be alone with her.  Don't answer the door when she knocks.

5.  Send the USCIS a letter telling them that you were scammed.  Don't expect anything from them.

6.  Don't bother with the police.

 

Hang in there, brother.  Things will get better.

[Villanelle 4,122]

I didnt see the deleted posts, so I hope this isnt what they were about--- but why did you call it "INS". It hasnt been called that for many years. Anyones who filed in the not so distant and somewhat distant past would have called it the USCIS. 

[NikLR 13,227]

People, the OP may not be able to change the locks or keep their wife from the home until the divorce is final.  It's all great to say "change the locks and kick her out" but legally you aren't allowed to do that to a spouse. 

 

What the OP can do is file for divorce and contact the soon to be ex-wife ONLY via lawyers.   Then they should get counselling and move on with their life.  Just like as if you've married a USC.

 

Also the wife does not need to file for ROC immediately after the divorce is final. She can file for ROC anytime after the divorce is up to when the green card expires. Heck she can file late if she wants but good luck with that. 

[jmana 2]

My wife had come here on a tourist visa and we (supposedly) fell in love and filed for AOS about a year ago.   She left me soon after she got her green card, and has been raking me through the coals.  She tried to say she was abused, but I had multiple witnesses that know the rash on her eye was just that, a rash due to an allergy and not being hit by me.  So anyway, I get a call from the immigration officer that interviewed us.  For whatever reason they can't find the divorce paperwork from my previous marriage (even though I know I sent it with the original paperwork) and she said they would rescind the green card if I don't fax the paperwork by Monday.  What are the implications if I just don't send it?

[milimelo 4,487]

None for you. 

 

~ Moving to AOS from work, student, or tourist visa. ~

Edited June 16, 2017 by milimelo
Add move info.

[Ben&Zian 4,398]

I wouldn't send in any paperwork myself. If it's done and over with and they will revoke/cancel the GC without it, don't provide it.

 

Move on.