Husband charged with domestic abuse breaks restraining order

[Hopeful diva 99]

19 hours ago, Xosorry said:

So he won't be deported at all? What about when the divorce is finalized? He did not respond to the petition, so that should be over fairly quickly. Will he be able to renew his residency once he has a misdemeanor DV and broke a restraining order? 

Are you sure you really want the father of your child deported? 

I understand that he has hurt you but you must also put into consideration your child who may never see his/her father again. 

Just try to relax and take your time to make decisions. Good luck dear 

[Auds 223]

4 hours ago, Xosorry said:

Thank you. I am receiving such conflicting messages on leaving him or not, but the truth is this was just the end of a very abusive cycle, a lot more damage was done. He is great with his words- he can fool everyone, he's fooled past court rooms. He fools me into thinking he will change, every time. I love him so much but he never changes. 

With the new information he reminds me of my ex-husband.

 

My ex i am sure has BPD.  He destroyed me.  Eventually reached a point where i lost my memory, and now he continues to abuse my daughters.

 

please stay far away.  My ex too genuinely has a core heartvof gold - he will give away what he has to help people - even today 8 years after divorce he could 'kill' someone who hurts me... and yet till today he continues to destroy us all.

 

If he has punched your face, says what he does ( its part of weakening their victims) can sweet talk anybody that's a terribly dangerous person.  F it that he may be good at heart.  Your child is better off without him.

 

my daughter is on anti depressants at the moment and i wont go into details of how he has broken the kids spirits - STAY AWAY.

[sparkles_ 456]

He may be put into a ICE detention facility til court, he may be released with check in and cash bond til then, he may just be released and told show up for immigration court when the mail notice comes. I mean, that is basically what happens to anyone who is placed into proceedings for any reason. 

Edited May 23, 2017 by sparkles_

[Transborderwife 4,666]

2 minutes ago, sparkles_ said:

He may be put into a ICE detention facility til court, he may be released with check in and cash bond til then, he may just be released and told show up for immigration court when the mail notice comes. I mean, that is basically what happens to anyone who is placed into proceedings for any reason. 

He may receive nothing at all 

[sparkles_ 456]

Just now, Transborderwife said:

He may receive nothing at all 

This too. Just because a person has committed a 'deportable' offense, doesn't mean they are always placed in proceedings. It is like luck of the draw with that.

[Xosorry 2]

21 minutes ago, sparkles_ said:

This too. Just because a person has committed a 'deportable' offense, doesn't mean they are always placed in proceedings. It is like luck of the draw with that.

Interesting. I don't know why he didn't research it before throwing himself back in. I just want him to get some mental help at this point. It's too painful to watch his self destructive, impulsive ways. I thank everyone for the advice. 

[iwannaplay54 985]

On May 22, 2017 at 8:00 PM, Xosorry said:

He beat my face in. He was charged with a felony, but plead guilty to a misdemeanor so he could be released from jail. When I tried to drop off the baby for custody time he held me hostage. He only ever bought the baby formula and diapers twice. He tells me things like "why can't you just ###### die you piece of ?" That all said, I do very much love him. But I think until he receives mental help, we need no contact and he needs to go home and get his head on straight. The comments about getting back together are painful to read. 

Wow.  

 

Though sometimes difficult to believe you should know that this type of behavior will likely only escalate into a tragedy.

 

For your sake and the sake of your child it might be best to go no-contact, divorce, and let the chips for him fall where they will.  Be careful.

 

 

 

[Transborderwife 4,666]

7 hours ago, iwannaplay54 said:

Wow.  

 

Though sometimes difficult to believe you should know that this type of behavior will likely only escalate into a tragedy.

 

For your sake and the sake of your child it might be best to go no-contact, divorce, and let the chips for him fall where they will.  Be careful.

 

 

 

No contact is at the discretion of a judge especially with children involved.  It's incredibly difficult to have a parent have absolutely no contact with their child.

[Xosorry 2]

Long story short, my husband is currently in court for violating an emergency protective order he was issued against me. He turned himself in when he violated it, as he hoped to be deported at that point and thought that was the way to do it. The DA reviewed the body cam on the cops and saw how my husband said he wanted to be deported. He had to fill out some sort of form for ICE. He's currently at the courthouse. Is it likely he will be placed in removal proceedings? If not, is he likely to be denied residency at the time for renewal? Please help, and do not judge. 

[Hypnos 6,576]

It's difficult to say without knowing exactly what form it is and its purpose. 

 

It's possible. 

[Boiler 45,584]

I agree, but probably was my first thought. Would not it have been easier to just leave on his own?

[Xosorry 2]

27 minutes ago, Boiler said:

I agree, but probably was my first thought. Would not it have been easier to just leave on his own?

He didn't have money or anyone here to help him. Think he thought it was best option, not sure why. 

[sparkles_ 456]

Is he a resident here, has a GC? That wasn't mentioned.....if he has that, no he probably won't be removed just for that. I don't know about the renewal, though.

 

If he didn't have status then yea, he could have marked the option for no trial/expedited removal. There are 3 options on that ICE form, to waive it all and agree to be sent home, to claim refugee/asylee, and having a GC/EAD/some pending status

[Ontarkie 14,237]

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[NikLR 13,227]

Regardless of children, why you're still in contact enough to know what's going on in this person's life is beyond the scope of my imagination.  If anyone beat my face in and told me they wished I was dead, they'd probably disappear and I wouldn't worry about them breaking restraining orders.  

 

YOU need counselling to get over the relationship you had with this person.