Prayer request

[almaty 19]

wow, nat that is so sad...i think it is best to leave him be...and not go and see him..unless, he takes time off from his job..he seems like he is stressed and not thinking rational at the moment..

[*julez* 124]

Nat - I am sorry that this is happening to you guys! This long distance stuff is hard on all of us, but worse for those of us waiting for divorces to go through so that we can begin the other wait. I know - I have been in the same boat as you! In fact, after more than 3 years apart from my ex, I just today FINALLY received my divorce decree.

There were times that G & I have struggled with the waiting. He was nearly ready to give up, but I didn't give up on him! You shouldn't give up on Jim. You MUST go and see him as scheduled. But as rebeccajo mentioned, leave your child behind, if possible. While a week might not seem long to Jim, it should be enough time for him to restore his faith in the fact that you two can get through this awful wait. You'll be so much stronger for it!

I wish you all the best and will be praying for you. Stay strong for the both of you now! Good luck!

[TracyTN 237]

I can't fly to WA unless he tells me so.Jim can't stand to be pushedand that would make things only worse.But I do have a lot of my sons and my stuff in the US with him so I still have "an excuse" to fly later on this year.

I'm sorry, but ####### is that? Are you his fiancee, or not? How exactly would you be pushing him - by saying he owes you a face to face explanation of why he is ending your relationship of several years? What - only he makes the rules in your relationship, and you just have to go along with whatever he says and like it, or else?

The more I think about it - and the dragging of the feet on the divorce (sorry, don't know how else to put it) - you're likely better off staying where you are. No way I'd move my buns across an ocean, sons in tow, for a man like that.

[Ban Hammer 13,644]

I can't fly to WA unless he tells me so.Jim can't stand to be pushed and that would make things only worse.But I do have a lot of my sons and my stuff in the US with him so I still have "an excuse" to fly later on this year.

natasha, since when is visiting your loved one "pushing" ???????

[VetsWife328 7]

It is pushing when that loved one tells you he needs some time for himself to figure things out.And as I said,when he tells me to leave him alone I don't have a choice but to do so.

When it comes to things like that,yeah then he is the one that sets the rules.

There's certain things we decided on together ,but there's no further discussion when it comes to Jim needing space.He made that very clear to me a week ago and I know better than to cross that line.

He's not only shutting the door on me right now,but on everybody else too.Jim always hides in his shell when things overwhelm him,and even though it sounds selfish he only tries NOT to say things (in anger and frustration) that he might regret later on.

So it is best for me to stay here for right now and cancel the flights for next week.

He has tried to explain to me that it would only hurt him even more if I was there with him for a week and then leave again for God knows how long.

That's where Jim and I are very different,I cling to him when I'm sad and depressed while he needs his space.

And as for the comment Tracy made-

Tracy he's not a bad man.He has had a very difficult and painful life so far and even though he acts very selfish at times he has always treated me and my son with respect.No matter how mad he got he never once called me a name,he never hit me or Ray and never forced me to do things I didn't want to do.

Trust me out of all my relationships,this one is the one worth fighting for.

Nat