POLL: How Did You Meet Your Fiance(e)

[Uncle Wally 2]

Picked her up in a bar like a real man.

Got a chuckle, a nod of approval, and a "Nice..." out of the feller doing the interview at the embassy when he asked how we met, too.

[thongd4me 69]

The "msn interest group" where we met is no longer in existence and while we

both separately signed up as members, neither of us really had any interest in it.

Needless to say we never went back after we met.

I didn't meet her in a chat room, I just went down the list of members and

stopped dead in my tracks when I saw her nationality was Thai. I had never

met anyone from Thailand, male or female, so that was the hook.

I chatted her up one on one after issuing a request to be friends and

the rest is history. It was a combination of dumb luck and a shot in the

dark. Many K-1 filers meet numerous people from the "target" country

before settling on the one they want. For me Thailand wasn't a target

but I think I prefer having met online because we got deeply into

each other's thoughts before we got deeply into other areas.

If you first meet in real life, it can be the other way around because

both can fall into a trap where both ignore what the other has been saying

because the sex is so good.

You may find out you can't stand how each other thinks only after

having been married for X number of years. Then the sex part often

becomes problematic and less frequent. People sometimes change,

but I hope we have sorted things out well enough that we will be

able to sustain a long and happy life together.

There are so many horror stories in VJ and elsewhere that the

"better half" turned out to be a liar, cheat or a monster. That

wasn't the opinion at first, so what changed? I don't think anything

really changed as much as having reality set in. Once that happened,

they finally could see clearly what the other one was about.

[RBAL_TN 0]

As I went to London for the K1 interview with my (now) wife, the interviewer asked us how we met. We almost ashamedly replied "over the internet" to which he laughed saying "relax, its more common than you think. If you said you had met in a bar, that would be unusual these days".

[greeneyedgirlfl 0]

Met online in late March, met in person late June, officially engaged early October (when we realised that we couldn't live without each other )

[-Marie- 11]

I met him through a mutual friend in June 2006 when I was an Au Pair in Vail, Colorado. He popped the question last August in Bordeaux, France.

Edited December 30, 2009 by -Marie-

[Dr. Obvious 49]

Beer and fate.

[redglasses 1]

Met through on-campus job at a university.

Dated for 4 years and a half till engagement and about 5 years till marriage.

[antda 13]

Hi Everyone,

(note: I posted this in another vj message thread before, but I'll re-post it here for this general poll too here...)

Our story begins about 10 years ago (2000), where we met each other online in a "writing group" on yahoo groups . The funny thing is that this group doesn't exist anymore, so as to the exact name of the online group where we met, who knows...(or at least I can't remember at the moment)...

Besides our common interest in writing, during that time, we also found out that we had similar medical conditions, so privately, we talked more about that, through yahoo messenger, e-mails, and heck, even through my online diary (by the way, that doesn't exist anymore either). We understood each other, and remained good online friends. So you would think that we would meet in-person then, right? But....

I was under-aged at the time and my husband was over-aged by many years...And that would be a legal no-no...

So we parted our separate ways, as he focused on his life and I focused on mine...

Ok, jump ahead 4 years later (2004), and at this time, we were both legal adults, and had both hit a low point in our lives. I was cleaning out my yahoo messenger list and found his name still on the list. And likewise, he was cleaning out his list, and found my name on the list too. Weird, that we would have each other's name on our lists, but deleted everyone else from it...So we continued from where we left off, and chatted through yahoo messenger and by e-mail as friends, but after awhile decided that we were more than just friends and decided to be boyfriend/girlfriend instead...

It wasn't until several months later, that we decided to meet each other in-person. It turns out that we only lived 300 miles/600 km from each other close to the border, with me being in Ontario, Canada and he being in NYS, USA. So we decided to meet in Canada (as I felt safer meeting where I was), and he drove all the way up to meet me then. Lol...that first meeting was very awkward socially for the both of us (aren't all first meetings awkward anways?), but we still had a good time together. So we decided to meet again and felt more comfortable with each other as we met with each other more often in Canada. Eventually we ended up living with each other part-time for several weeks at a time this way. We continued meeting each other this way for several years, since I had other obligations and could not visit and/or move the USA right away to see him.

Ok, jump ahead another 2 years later (2006), and we joked around the idea about getting married. But....

There was one catch: I had to visit him in the USA...

So several months later, as also mentioned in my VJ timeline:

Intro and Chapter 1 "Visited":

2006-04-10: Ant travelled from Canada to see long-term (6 years, 2000-2006) friend/boyfriend D in the USA. Ant and D being harassed at the USA/Canada border (POE: Rainbow Bridge, Niagara Falls) for 2 hours was 'not a picnic in the park' for them. The Immigration Officer then made Ant get a B2 Visitor's Visa Passport Stamp and I-94 Arrival-Departure Card ($6 Card) to visit for two weeks, even though Canadians are exempt from such requirements. However, what originally was a short visit was instead a 'lifelong visit' for Ant and D in the USA.

Chapter 2 "Married":

2006-04-28: Ant and D had a small garden/park spontaneous elopement in the Niagara County Region NYS USA on 2006-04-28. A memorable and lovely occasion, on the eve of D's milestone birthday. D and Ant, as Husband and Wife, happily married and living in the USA. Together Forever!

Now jump ahead another 3 years (2009), as also mentioned in my VJ timeline:

Now jump ahead another 3 years (2009), as also mentioned in my VJ timeline:

Chapter 5 "Expected": It's a Boy!!!

And the rest is history.....

***~~~"And the Americans, Ant+D+BabyA, lived 'Happily Ever After'!..." ~~~***

Anyways, thanks for reading our story! Hope you all liked it and found it entertaining....

Ant

Edited January 11, 2010 by Ant+D+BabyA