Frustrated in the U.S.

[CAPRICEJAH 19]

2 hours ago, piff said:

citizenship may be taken away easily if the person came to this country with visa fraud, the basis for citizenship will annual the citizenship itself.

I really just want him off my bills, and wondering why would he not want to take it off. As far as his citizenship. That's is not up to me. I am sure there will be many days he will wish he stayed in Ghana. These street are not praved in gold, and we have to work hard.  Only the strong survive. 

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8 minutes ago, CAPRICEJAH said:

I really just want him off my bills, and wondering why would he not want to take it off. As far as his citizenship. That's is not up to me. I am sure there will be many days he will wish he stayed in Ghana. These street are not praved in gold, and we have to work hard.  Only the strong survive. 

Note my answer above.  The easiest way to do this is pay them off then open your own accounts.  The old ones will just fall to the wayside.  As it sounds like he just wants to move on with his life. 

[yatsek 32]

It sound very much like he has moved on and you just can't let go.

[dawning 212]

8 minutes ago, yatsek said:

It sound very much like he has moved on and you just can't let go.

I don't understand why you would say that... If he is sending the electric company to her house to shut off the power then her not "letting go" is quite legitimate.  And if he has moved on then he shouldn't have a problem taking his names off the bills.

[yatsek 32]

1 minute ago, dawning said:

I don't understand why you would say that... If he is sending the electric company to her house to shut off the power then her not "letting go" is quite legitimate.  And if he has moved on then he shouldn't have a problem taking his names off the bills.

Is he?? or has he moved on and ceased all contact with her. Leaving his name on the bills opens him to liability, so he should be worried not her.

[dawning 212]

8 hours ago, CAPRICEJAH said:

 These are bills that I had for years. I have no intention of moving. I had to add him because of the K1visa.  It doesn't matter to the electric comany. One of the reason is because I received a call from my children that a worker from the electric company was at my hone to turn my electricity off due to a call from my ex.  After explaining that this man is no longer in my home( almost a year) and living in another state.  He said to try to take his name off asap because this could happen again. Thank God my children was home.  Who does things like that...smh.   My marriage wasn't meant to last.   It took me going to hell and back, but my lesson was a blessing.  Wasn't the first, nor last to deal with a Scam marriage. 

 

2 minutes ago, yatsek said:

Is he?? or has he moved on and ceased all contact with her. Leaving his name on the bills opens him to liability, so he should be worried not her.

According to her he is.  It may leave him open to liability, but depending on the company's policy, it might also give him a voice in the services she receives.  I don't think it's unreasonable of her to be concerned, especially since she is describing someone who was not very forthcoming with her throughout their relationship.

 

OP, I think the advice you've been given to seek pro bono legal counsel and other advice from non-profits might be a very good start.  Or as someone else said, save up for a deposit for a new account.  I assume you would get something back from a deposit on the old account?

[anjans 21]

I'm officially an April 2017 filer as well!! Although I felt like I got no help with my questions here 😕

[CAPRICEJAH 19]

2 hours ago, mrtravel said:

The basis for citizenship in this case appears to be military service

So, that is a bit different than if he got citizenship based on marriage.

The best thing to do would to get him removed from the bills.

I recommend legal advice for this if he refuses.  Legal aid services might be available to help.  I do not understand why the power company will not remove him if they are divorced and he no longer is at that address.  I would at least try to contact someone higher up in management.

I have accepted he Is a citizen. I don't understand  the point of not taking his name off and I will try everything, not to contact his commander.  A friend of mines said they will talk to our mayor for me. I will know tomorrow what to do. No matter what anyone say, it's so unfair to have to deal withh this mess of trying to protect your social security, bank accounts, life from someone you trusted with all your personal information. I know it could happen in any marriage, but it's so hard when the man you married can make up documents from another country. 

[CAPRICEJAH 19]

44 minutes ago, Cruise77 said:

Note my answer above.  The easiest way to do this is pay them off then open your own accounts.  The old ones will just fall to the wayside.  As it sounds like he just wants to move on with his life. 

I would love to move on, but I am out so much. Thousand of dollars in credit card debt.  When is enough, enough?   I had to get extra protection because someone was trying to get credit card in my name. Never thought I would be thankful for bad credit...I will see tomorrow what my friend talk to the mayor about.  To try to get my electricity turn off,  Is that a man who is trying to move on?

[CAPRICEJAH 19]

1 hour ago, Coco8 said:

You should try to find free legal advice. There non profit organizations that help women in your situation for free. Maybe you need to talk to someone beyond what you are sharing here (e.g. if he hid money, was it to avoid paying you during the divorce? Is he supposed to pay child support?).

 

I would be mostly worried if there are bills he is supposed to pay that have your name on them, because they could affect your credit score.

 

If his name is on utility bills you pay, they whenever you don't pay them on time, is going to be affecting his credit score. So more bad karma to him. If you rent, maybe the owner of the property can do something about the name on the bills, but I wouldn't worry. 

 

You don't want his name on any of your bank accounts. 

 

I totally agree. I closed the joint account.  The money was sent to Ghana and other places/people.  I am slowly getting myself out of debt

 His name is off my vehicles.  Have extra protection on my credit/social security number, change passwords. Block all the calls that come from Ghana at random times in the morning.  Today I finally have someone who will talk to our mayor......this too shall pass.  My frustration became motivation.  

[CAPRICEJAH 19]

59 minutes ago, yatsek said:

Is he?? or has he moved on and ceased all contact with her. Leaving his name on the bills opens him to liability, so he should be worried not her.

Is this another fan? You say him calling the electric company moving on? Stange numbers from Ghana all times of the night/morning moving on?  He is not moving on when he refused to take his name off my bills?  This man is not worried about his nane because I always pay my bills.  Moving on means stop playing games.  I will find a way to get it off.  I also believe in my country.  Nothing I could/would do compares to what he is dealing with. In God we trust.

[CAPRICEJAH 19]

1 hour ago, dawning said:

 

According to her he is.  It may leave him open to liability, but depending on the company's policy, it might also give him a voice in the services she receives.  I don't think it's unreasonable of her to be concerned, especially since she is describing someone who was not very forthcoming with her throughout their relationship.

 

OP, I think the advice you've been given to seek pro bono legal counsel and other advice from non-profits might be a very good start.  Or as someone else said, save up for a deposit for a new account.  I assume you would get something back from a deposit on the old account?

Thank you❤  I am working on it now.  Sometimes you have to vent.  These 3 years have been hell. I haven't even talk about half of the things I had to deal with. I Thank everyone for their comments. The good, bad, and the ugly.  One thing I can say that my ex has made me a stronger person.  

[yatsek 32]

16 minutes ago, CAPRICEJAH said:

Is this another fan? You say him calling the electric company moving on? Stange numbers from Ghana all times of the night/morning moving on?  He is not moving on when he refused to take his name off my bills?  This man is not worried about his nane because I always pay my bills.  Moving on means stop playing games.  I will find a way to get it off.  I also believe in my country.  Nothing I could/would do compares to what he is dealing with. In God we trust.

No, I call it "persecution complex". So now you claim he or his buddies are calling you from Ghana? And how do you know it was him who called the electric company?

[CAPRICEJAH 19]

12 minutes ago, yatsek said:

No, I call it "persecution complex". So now you claim he or his buddies are calling you from Ghana? And how do you know it was him who called the electric company?

Ok.....lol. I don't have any friends nor family in Ghana.  This was my home number. His family would always call my home number. All my family and friends call me on my cell number. I know it was him, because here in the U.S. we don't have power cuts every five minutes and your name have to be on the bill to place an I order to cut it off. I thought you would know this....unless this is not where you were born or never had anything I'm your name.

[meemee1 34]

Sorry this happened to you, not only the betrayal but the drama this man is engaged in is so unnecessary. Hopefully you contact his commanding officer so they can encourage him to behave honorably. Best wishes to you!!