Frustrated in the U.S.

[CAPRICEJAH 19]

Hello VJ, I am writing because I really need Some good advise.  I will give you a little background. I met my ex husband on Facebook.  Chatted, Skype. And talk on the phone for two years. After meeting, for only 7 days. We started the k1 journey. He arrived, Married and 16 months later. He left/abandon the marriage.  He joined the military, took his oath and became a citizen.  All this time I thought we were working on our marriage. After the second year...he never came back home to me and my children, he file for a divorce.  I was devastated. When I found out All the lies, cheating, and just low down he was because this was his plans from day one....We are now divorce. This man now will not take his name off my bills. I tried giving them my divorce decree, but I was told he has to sign off on them. They have sent him 3 emails to sign. He irgore

them.  Meanwhile he is on every dating site you can name. What can I do?  Is it a visa issue why he want his name to remain on my bill? I know he will be sending for his child, /child mother, and his parents. Our divorce was final after the third year anniversary.  I knew that I had to educate myself, even if I found Out too late about the military and citizenship. His different religion, the cheating and hiding money.  He doesn't respond to My calls, emails, even trying to contact him on our old VJ profile. He has changed everything.  Jahk18 was Our old profile(He blocked me Out a long time ago. Should II be worried?   

[mrtravel 40]

9 minutes ago, CAPRICEJAH said:

Hello VJ, I am writing because I really need Some good advise.  I will give you a little background. I met my ex husband on Facebook.  Chatted, Skype. And talk on the phone for two years. After meeting, for only 7 days. We started the k1 journey. He arrived, Married and 16 months later. He left/abandon the marriage.  He joined the military, took his oath and became a citizen.  All this time I thought we were working on our marriage. After the second year...he never came back home to me and my children, he file for a divorce.  I was devastated. When I found out All the lies, cheating, and just low down he was because this was his plans from day one....We are now divorce. This man now will not take his name off my bills. I tried giving them my divorce decree, but I was told he has to sign off on them. They have sent him 3 emails to sign. He irgore

them.  Meanwhile he is on every dating site you can name. What can I do?  Is it a visa issue why he want his name to remain on my bill? I know he will be sending for his child, /child mother, and his parents. Our divorce was final after the third year anniversary.  I knew that I had to educate myself, even if I found Out too late about the military and citizenship. His different religion, the cheating and hiding money.  He doesn't respond to My calls, emails, even trying to contact him on our old VJ profile. He has changed everything.  Jahk18 was Our old profile(He blocked me Out a long time ago. Should II be worried?   

Instead of him taking his name of the bills, why don't you take your name off them?

 

Edited April 24, 2017 by mrtravel

[Redheadguy03 505]

11 minutes ago, CAPRICEJAH said:

Hello VJ, I am writing because I really need Some good advise.  I will give you a little background. I met my ex husband on Facebook.  Chatted, Skype. And talk on the phone for two years. After meeting, for only 7 days. We started the k1 journey. He arrived, Married and 16 months later. He left/abandon the marriage.  He joined the military, took his oath and became a citizen.  All this time I thought we were working on our marriage. After the second year...he never came back home to me and my children, he file for a divorce.  I was devastated. When I found out All the lies, cheating, and just low down he was because this was his plans from day one....We are now divorce. This man now will not take his name off my bills. I tried giving them my divorce decree, but I was told he has to sign off on them. They have sent him 3 emails to sign. He irgore

them.  Meanwhile he is on every dating site you can name. What can I do?  Is it a visa issue why he want his name to remain on my bill? I know he will be sending for his child, /child mother, and his parents. Our divorce was final after the third year anniversary.  I knew that I had to educate myself, even if I found Out too late about the military and citizenship. His different religion, the cheating and hiding money.  He doesn't respond to My calls, emails, even trying to contact him on our old VJ profile. He has changed everything.  Jahk18 was Our old profile(He blocked me Out a long time ago. Should II be worried?   

If he has his citizenship then you can't do much obviously. Unfortunately, it happens. 

[CAPRICEJAH 19]

3 hours ago, mrtravel said:

Instead of him taking his name of the bills, why don't you take your name off them?

 

I would love to if I could afford it.  I was told that I would have to open up a new account and another deposit.  I couldn't believe it. I am from a small. town that. have their own rules.   I mange to closed the joint account, but this is crazy to me why he won't  just sign and move on.  I have manage to get almost everything back in order, but this situation.

[CAPRICEJAH 19]

4 hours ago, Redheadguy03 said:

If he has his citizenship then you can't do much obviously. Unfortunately, it happens. 

I understand that completely. I know now that it was a blessing to me that he left. Reading others experience it could have been worst.  I was surprised at the. things he did to get that citizenship.  My thing is why not take your name off the remaining bills.  If I could pay another deposit I would, but I have two teenagers that I support.  I really thought he would just sign and go......

[Lemonslice 4,841]

1 hour ago, CAPRICEJAH said:

I understand that completely. I know now that it was a blessing to me that he left. Reading others experience it could have been worst.  I was surprised at the. things he did to get that citizenship.  My thing is why not take your name off the remaining bills.  If I could pay another deposit I would, but I have two teenagers that I support.  I really thought he would just sign and go......

If he removed his name from the advice, some companies will still request a security deposit from you... If you really can't pay these, I would not push too hard that way.  Sorry your marriage didn't work.

[CAPRICEJAH 19]

1 hour ago, Lemonslice said:

If he removed his name from the advice, some companies will still request a security deposit from you... If you really can't pay these, I would not push too hard that way.  Sorry your marriage didn't work.

 These are bills that I had for years. I have no intention of moving. I had to add him because of the K1visa.  It doesn't matter to the electric comany. One of the reason is because I received a call from my children that a worker from the electric company was at my hone to turn my electricity off due to a call from my ex.  After explaining that this man is no longer in my home( almost a year) and living in another state.  He said to try to take his name off asap because this could happen again. Thank God my children was home.  Who does things like that...smh.   My marriage wasn't meant to last.   It took me going to hell and back, but my lesson was a blessing.  Wasn't the first, nor last to deal with a Scam marriage. 

[Hope&Love 38]

you sounded like Danielle from 90 days fiancé. Just pay the damn bill and move on!

[piff 46]

13 hours ago, Redheadguy03 said:

If he has his citizenship then you can't do much obviously. Unfortunately, it happens. 

citizenship may be taken away easily if the person came to this country with visa fraud, the basis for citizenship will annual the citizenship itself.

[mrtravel 40]

2 minutes ago, piff said:

citizenship may be taken away easily if the person came to this country with visa fraud, the basis for citizenship will annual the citizenship itself.

The basis for citizenship in this case appears to be military service

So, that is a bit different than if he got citizenship based on marriage.

The best thing to do would to get him removed from the bills.

I recommend legal advice for this if he refuses.  Legal aid services might be available to help.  I do not understand why the power company will not remove him if they are divorced and he no longer is at that address.  I would at least try to contact someone higher up in management.

[USC1961 251]

Sorry this happened.  However since he is a citizen and also in the armed forces, it's not worth dwelling on the past.   However, you need to take control of your own situation.  Pay the bills with your name on it.  And save up for a deposit to open your own account.  It sounds like your credit was affected, so sitting back and being mad at him isn't hurting him.  It definitely isn't helping you fix the situation.  Yes it sucks, but it has to be done or the crazy cycle will continue!

[Transborderwife 4,666]

15 minutes ago, piff said:

citizenship may be taken away easily if the person came to this country with visa fraud, the basis for citizenship will annual the citizenship itself.

Unlikely 

[Maagiclady 29]

If he is still in the military you can try to contact his commanding officer for assistance. 

[CAPRICEJAH 19]

2 hours ago, Hope&Love said:

you sounded like Danielle from 90 days fiancé. Just pay the damn bill and move on!

Is it hope&Love?  or praying& hoping? You sound like I May be messing up your game.  Not sure if you are the sponsor or whatever. I wish you well on your journey.  You must be a fan of my ex...lol.  You can send me the money if you like.   I take donation. God Bless you😂😂😂😂❤✈🇺🇸

[Coco8 1,042]

You should try to find free legal advice. There non profit organizations that help women in your situation for free. Maybe you need to talk to someone beyond what you are sharing here (e.g. if he hid money, was it to avoid paying you during the divorce? Is he supposed to pay child support?).

 

I would be mostly worried if there are bills he is supposed to pay that have your name on them, because they could affect your credit score.

 

If his name is on utility bills you pay, they whenever you don't pay them on time, is going to be affecting his credit score. So more bad karma to him. If you rent, maybe the owner of the property can do something about the name on the bills, but I wouldn't worry. 

 

You don't want his name on any of your bank accounts. 

 

Edited April 24, 2017 by Coco8