Husband left, I knew about previous relationships with foreign women

[sparkles_ 456]

Listen. You seem hell bent on getting him in trouble, despite the fact we all have said trouble will come his way when he has to remove conditions on his own.

 

Even lying under oath is typically just misrepresenting, but not material misrepresentation which involves documents and actual fraud. 

 

Asking and pressing for money don't equal fraud. It equals what Moroccans call weld maafoun, dirty boys. We have men in America who leech off women as well, it happens all over. Pressing for marriage isn't fraud either, not unless you have the exact words of "I want to marry just to come to America" 

 

IMO, you best just relax on it all and walk away before you start something that you could get sucked into as well in a bad way. You knew about all this with other women. Don't you think uscis would take that into account as well? Like maybe turn an eye to you and think you were a co scammer....I wouldn't want to risk going down with the ship on that one. 

 

 

 

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[Auds 223]

1 hour ago, JFH said:

Well you certainly didn't think there was anything suspicious or fraudulent. You married him after all, despite his past. So you were comfortable enough about it all. Why would you expect anyone else to find it suspicious? 

as everyone has said to you - its evidence that you lack.  Of course there is a lot obvious on what's happened- but lacks hardcore evidence.

 

do keep us posted with Infopass on what happens so you can help other women/men in similair situation.

 

Ignoring so many red flags will make you party to his wrongdoing - such as lies under oath

[USAMorocco 143]

Just move on and don't waste your time.  As someone who had pure proof of

fraud it's not high on ICE list to round up people who cheated and yes I had emails and letters from my ex and his friends speaking of flat out fraud and continuing to ask me to commit fraud with him by keeping him here for 2 years and letting him live else where.  Cheating does not equal fraud...lying and begging to get money does not equal fraud.  You can go for the info pass but I'm sure they will tell you what they told me "we don't have the man power to go look for this guy and we will put the info you gave us in his file." I knew where he was living and staying they didn't need man power to go get him.  Just let it go. As someone who went through this it is not worth the time or energy. 

[carebearh707 6]

2 hours ago, JFH said:

Well you certainly didn't think there was anything suspicious or fraudulent. You married him after all, despite his past. So you were comfortable enough about it all. Why would you expect anyone else to find it suspicious? 

Quite a bit I am sharing was found out way after the fact. So no, I didn't marry knowing all of that 

[JFH 12,189]

1 hour ago, carebearh707 said:

Quite a bit I am sharing was found out way after the fact. So no, I didn't marry knowing all of that 

You are not making sense. You started this whole thread to ask if you are going to have any consequences for knowing about these other relationships and whether you should even mention at the Infopass appointment that you knew about them. Now you are trying to tell us you didn't know about them. You will need to get your story straight if you are planning on reporting him for "fraud".

 

Essentially what has happened is you have fallen for the oldest trick in the book. You've been a fool. You've been sucked in by a man promising you undying love within a very short time of meeting and you have invested a lot of time, emotion, energy and money to bring him into the country. And now you feel stupid that he is laughing at you that you fell for it and he got what he wanted so you want everyone to think you are a victim of fraud, not just a naive person who fell for his game. 

 

USCIS won't do anything. They can spot the difference between real fraud and people wanting revenge to cover up their embarrassment at their naivety.

[Boiler 44,853]

It is endemic in this area, I know a lady who has spent a lot of time over there finishing a PHD, she was laughing about it, even a term for the men who do it which I forget. Computer Cafe's full of such people.

 

And I certainly thought you were aware of his previous liaisons?

[Randyandyuni 2,682]

clear your head, get over the hurt and move on, the best advice has been given by many in this thread

[sparkles_ 456]

15 minutes ago, Boiler said:

It is endemic in this area, I know a lady who has spent a lot of time over there finishing a PHD, she was laughing about it, even a term for the men who do it which I forget. Computer Cafe's full of such people.

 

And I certainly thought you were aware of his previous liaisons?

Weld maafoun. Dirty boys, that's the term. 

[PedroDaGr8 245]

2 hours ago, carebearh707 said:

Quite a bit I am sharing was found out way after the fact. So no, I didn't marry knowing all of that 

Either way, it changes NOTHING! There is NOTHING you can do to make things any harder on him than it already will be. By you getting involved, the ONLY thing you can do is make your life harder and actually make it harder to prosecute him. Simple as that. I know you crave revenge, hell if I was in your shoes I would dream of revenge. I would daydream of seeing him thrown in jail to rot for the pain he caused. The truth is, that will just have to remain a dream. That being said, don't cut off your nose to spite your face. Do what you need to do to get his ### kicked out of the country and take solace in that he is an idiot and he is stuck back in the country he so desperately wishes to flee. 

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[dwheels76 5,466]

5 hours ago, carebearh707 said:

Quite a bit I am sharing was found out way after the fact. So no, I didn't marry knowing all of that 

You have to realize unless you can show documented proof where he said he only married you or entered a relationship for a green card it won't mean anything. I surely would at least report to USCIS that he has left and you know not where. So his case file will be flagged when he does decide to Remove conditions to get 10 year green card it will be  flagged for abandonment or whatever they do from day one.
I know many women who just move on do nothing, not even divorce figuring they don't divorce he's trapped to never be able to file for another or ROC or do anything. Then guess what in 3 years he files and gets to be a US citizen. Not like USCIS cares or verifies.

 

Side note I never understood how someone you never meet can force you into paying money or marriage (talking about what you said about these other women). And how were you able to get all the intel on them yet you continued with this man?

 

Remember he can always flip it on you and say he left because of abuse (mental, physical) you would be surprised. It really is he said/she said.

[Hope&Love 38]

This reminded me of a show "90 days fiancé'"

[Sukie 1,444]

Carebear - I get it that you are angry and that you are hurting.  I'd probably be in jail if I were in your shoes, because I'd hunt down the "dirty boy" and show him what "dirty" means.

 

But you don't have that option.  File for divorce.  Now.  Get it over with before ROC comes up.  If you go to InfoPass, then state what YOUR experience has been.  If other women have filed for him, it's in his record.

 

You are neither the first or last wo/man this has happened to.  Get yourself in the clear, and then move on.  Do not contact him, do not accept emails from him.  Make sure you have all the important documents in YOUR hands.

 

What I am advocating is self-preservation on your part.  Getting the InfoPass appointment might be helpful to you - to tell your story.  It will go in his file.  But it won't get him deported.  Yet.

 

I'm sorry - it sucks.  But it happens.  To more than one person!

 

Best of luck to you in the future.

 

Sukie in NY

 

 

[carebearh707 6]

5 hours ago, JFH said:

You are not making sense. You started this whole thread to ask if you are going to have any consequences for knowing about these other relationships and whether you should even mention at the Infopass appointment that you knew about them. Now you are trying to tell us you didn't know about them. You will need to get your story straight if you are planning on reporting him for "fraud".

 

Essentially what has happened is you have fallen for the oldest trick in the book. You've been a fool. You've been sucked in by a man promising you undying love within a very short time of meeting and you have invested a lot of time, emotion, energy and money to bring him into the country. And now you feel stupid that he is laughing at you that you fell for it and he got what he wanted so you want everyone to think you are a victim of fraud, not just a naive person who fell for his game. 

 

USCIS won't do anything. They can spot the difference between real fraud and people wanting revenge to cover up their embarrassment at their naivety.

Clearly you didn't read the whole thread. I added information here and there. All I said I was aware of before marrying was previous relationships. Not in depth info on those relationships and his application to another country. My story is straight, thanks. I am not a fool, I am a forgiving person who believed people change and had good intentions. And you don't even know my timeline to make the comment that I met him within a short time of meeting. I tried my best to ensure he didn't use me and was very skeptical. And he's not laughing, he's having a horrible time here because America isn't what it's cracked up to be.

[CantThinkOfOne 22]

To OP, all you can do is NOT sign any papers regarding your husband anymore, he will need you later anyways, and move on with your life. Revenge is a bad advisor, and except you have proof of him exactly saying "I only did this/that for theGC" then you have no way to prove the fraud.

 

OT: Too many posts of OP to quote, and me still trying to figure out how to multiple quotre within the same reply 

 

[carebearh707 6]

4 hours ago, PedroDaGr8 said:

Either way, it changes NOTHING! There is NOTHING you can do to make things any harder on him than it already will be. By you getting involved, the ONLY thing you can do is make your life harder and actually make it harder to prosecute him. Simple as that. I know you crave revenge, hell if I was in your shoes I would dream of revenge. I would daydream of seeing him thrown in jail to rot for the pain he caused. The truth is, that will just have to remain a dream. That being said, don't cut off your nose to spite your face. Do what you need to do to get his ### kicked out of the country and take solace in that he is an idiot and he is stuck back in the country he so desperately wishes to flee. 

That's all I'm wanting is to get him stuck back in his own country.