My mother is threatening legal action

[mondix 12]

Hello,  

 

My husband arrived July 2015, we married the same month and we have the most amazing 1 year old baby boy. Our life has assembled more smoothly than I could have ever imagined. Until my moth got involved. 

 

My mother has always been mentally unstable, although she remains undiagnosed because she refuses to admit that she needs to seek help. My childhood and early years were characterized by her abused, mentally physically and emotionally. I have distanced myself throughout the years, I went to boarding school in high school, left for college in NY and never returned him, and sought haven among friends and their parents throughout the year who often cared for me when I needed to escape from her. I have a 38 year old brother that I was very close to, but she's driven a wedge between us also and we no longer speak. He has 2 boys, one of whom is the same age as my son. 

 

And despite everything she's done to me, I've continued to respond to her attempts to rebuild our relationship, because I long for the love of a mom, but it always end poorly, and the. another couple of months to years before we speak again. 

 

Mistakenly, I informed my mother of my engagement and pregnancy and she was less than thrilled. But she came around at first, was excited to meet my husband and was also excited for a grandchild. But she can't stay sane for too long, and after I had the baby I decided that I couldn't be a happy mother to my son while my own mother was causing me so much stress and heartache. 

 

For my husband's K1 interview evidence she wrote a letter that stated how much she loved me and wanted me to happy and that she supported our marriage. Now that I have distanced her from us and won't let her be a part of our lives because of how she treats me, she is claiming that she signed "legal immigration documents" as though he and I are committing crime of some sort by avoiding her and not introducing her to his family who resides in the states, too.

 

This woman is crazy enough to allege that we are doing something unlawful, and it worries me how far she can take this and I need to know if her ultimate goal of breaking up my family and having my husband removed from the US could actually happen based on the false information she may provide to USCIS.  

 

She claims to have spoken to an attorney who says she has a case against us, but that could be lies and crazy talk. I don't know if this letter if support gives her any standing, or if I am legally required to maintain contact with her and share my life with her because she wrote it. I should note that the letter she wrote was never asked for by the consular officer at the time of my husbands K1 interview. I was present at the interview and witnessed it with my own eyes. The officer asked him 3 questions and approved him without question. Her stupid ###### letter, like her, are not needed and wanted, and I need to make sure I have some legal protection from her. 

 

Anything damaging she could say about us would be a total lie. We have done every single thing by the book because we are REAL! We married with my best friend as the witness, and she was also present for the birth of my child. He has a social security card driver's license and works a great job, our names are on an apartment lease together,  WE HAVE A BABY, shared bank accounts, he's on my health insurance and we are the beneficiaries of each other's life insurance and pension plans. I know, and the people in my life know, that we are a bonafide marraige, but my mother will do anything she can to allege otherwise and hurt me and my family. 

 

What can I do protect us?

 

 

Please help!

 

[kris&me 572]

Actually answered your own question

she wrote supportive letter to immigration

she will look the fool she is

and i am sure any immigration attorney, if she really saw one, will tell her there is nothing she can do

keep your faith and stay strong 

keep a heathly distance from anyone who is touble / none of us need trouble

You really she would pay a lawyer ??? 

sounds totally insane

good luck to you

[Georgia16 2,858]

There is nothing she can do about his immigration. 

[Unlockable 7,314]

Now that you have a beautiful child you will have to distance yourself from your mother. Your family is top priority now. Not your mother. You have to provide for your beautiful child. I don't think your mother can do significant harm to your case. To be honest, you didn't need her to write the letter in the first place. Many people's (including me and my now wife's) case get approved without letters from relatives and friends. It will be on her to prove that she was pressured into writing the letter which, I'm sure would be tough to prove.

 

For the sake of your child and your husband, cut ties with your mother (at least for the time being). This is one of the most important times of an infants life and you do not need the stress because it can definitely effect your child. Stop trying to seek the love from you mother and instead focus your loving energy to your baby.

 

It will not be an immigration issue what your mother is threatening but it can become a personal/ stressful issue if you let it. Continue to live your life with your family and you will have more than enough evidence to prove that your marriage is genuine.

 

Good luck to you.

Edited April 9, 2017 by NuestraUnion

[Pinkrlion 2,724]

You need to get some counseling do deal with your mother as you now have a child.  Your mother cannot to anything to his immigration, even if she is a co-sponsor. a lawyer is just taking her money.  

[mondix 12]

My mother is not a co-sponsor. And I've been in counseling since the age of 18, most intensively prior to and during my pregnancy about my own childhood and my thoughts and desires for my child as a mother, all of which empowered me to make the choice to cut her out of my life.   

 

Thanks guys for the feedback. I really appreciate it. 

Edited April 9, 2017 by mondix

[EmilyW 1,443]

Take care of that sweet little baby and your husband, OP.

 

it sounds like you have your life together.  She does not and, from what you've said, she really doesn't deserve to have you guys in her life.

[QueenComley 295]

This should be the most happiest moment of your life. A baby and a wonderful husband. Your mother is stealing that happiness from you by casting a constant dark cloud over your life. Its time to make a clean break and move forward in your life with your new family. There is nothing she can do in regards to your husbands immigration status.

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

  If your mother is so disruptive to your life you need to put up a barrier , legal if necessary.  You should see if your state allows for a no contact order.  They are usually effective for a limited length of time .  

[Jojo92122 1,924]

Hi,

 

Sorry about your situation.

 

There is nothing your mother can do.  She is lying about the lawyer, doesn't understand the lawyer, or is being scammed.  Regardless, she can not do anything.

 

You have no obligations to your mother.  Her letter does not mean anything.  It has zero legal significance.

 

You can choose to ignore your mother or get at restraining order from the court.

 

Best of luck.

[Sandra G. 5,049]

Get a restraining order against your mom and cut off contact with her. Your mom has some issues and I would not trust your child around her at all. Legally speaking she can't do anything regarding your immigration case.

[Sunnyland 639]

I know how hard it is having a relative with mental issues. My husband's brother is the one that always gave us problems, divided the family and never wished us good. For my husband is very hard to keep distance from his own brother but sometimes you have to do that for your own mental health. In particular for those people that can not admit they have a problem. Try to think in your own family and the mental health of your own baby right now. And what is more important... YOUR mental sanity.