Do I tell the truth or not?

[Danno 1,228]

A few months ago I filled out a free profile at a international dating site. A number of people contacted me but I saw something very special in just one. We decided to meet not long ago and it went even better than I hoped.

Should things continue in this mode I wonder how the new law concerning IMBA could effect me. Other than getting her free email forwarded to me in the beginning we had all contact and meetings on our own.

Now I worry if I claim We met through this typical dating site (which deals with a large volume of international folks) without filling out some form we might have problems.

Maybe it is better to just say I was on vacation and we met on the street or via skpe or something?

Danno

* there is always a fly in the ointment.

[mRx 16]

trust me, its best to be honest. Many people met on similar dating sites, and had no problems.

[Otto 83]

My Grandmother always taught me...."Always tell the truth..because in a pinch, it's the easiest to remember."

(And "It's better the fight for a truth than defend a lie.")

[Caladan 19]

Read up on IMBRA; from what you've posted it isn't clear whether your dating site would be classified as a marriage broker or not. ("Free" is suggesting to me "not a marriage broker", since one of the criteria seems to be "asymmetrical payment", but you'll have to read it yourself.)

But even if you did use a marriage broker, IMBRA doesn't mean you're automatically denied. (Check out the IMBRA forum; there's more than one person in a similar situation.) It's just an extra step, and they're more interested in scrutinizing the broker than anything else. Lots of people use dating sites.

Lying, however, could get you both in a lot of trouble. So, um, don't do that.

[Killer_Clown_2009 0]

Why even consider lying. What's the big deal with going through the process.

[Mononoke28 135]

A lot of people have met through the internet and started long distance relationships, that doesn't qualify for IMBRA. IMBRA comes into place when you actually pay money to a marriage broker to find you a spouse and you then get engaged or married to the person they found you, not if you happen to find someone you like in a forum or online dating site.

[Mononoke28 135]

I was probably wrong on my previous post. I did some more checking on this and this is what I found, you'll find your answer in there. http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...t=0&start=0

[David-and-Mae 15]

A few months ago I filled out a free profile at a international dating site. A number of people contacted me but I saw something very special in just one. We decided to meet not long ago and it went even better than I hoped.

Should things continue in this mode I wonder how the new law concerning IMBA could effect me. Other than getting her free email forwarded to me in the beginning we had all contact and meetings on our own.

Now I worry if I claim We met through this typical dating site (which deals with a large volume of international folks) without filling out some form we might have problems.

Maybe it is better to just say I was on vacation and we met on the street or via skpe or something?

Danno

* there is always a fly in the ointment.

My fiancee and I met thru a dating site where he paid a monthly subscription to correspond with female prospects. After a week of exchanging email with him, we decided to use our personal accounts and then, he unsubscribed from that site. Having said this, we fell under IMBRA law. We honestly admitted that we met thru an IMB and as you can see, we're almost on the last phase of the K1 journey, which means we didn't have any problem, whatsoever for being honest about it... Read on IMBRA thread, you'll learn more from there.

Good luck!

Mae

[Turboguy 6]

Many of us met on through an IMB. No one is being denied yet.

If you are the US Citizen and you did not pay a fee it does not qualify as an IMB. You can answer no to that question and be honest.

It never pays to lie. That is the biggest mistake you can make.

The details of the law are posted here in many places. If you did not pay a fee it is not an IMB. If it i a religious based orgainization it does not fall under IMBRA. The later does not apply to you but the former gives you clear sailing.

Just answer no and don't sweat it.

[Bobbie 1]

Many of us met on through an IMB. No one is being denied yet.

If you are the US Citizen and you did not pay a fee it does not qualify as an IMB. You can answer no to that question and be honest.

It never pays to lie. That is the biggest mistake you can make.

The details of the law are posted here in many places. If you did not pay a fee it is not an IMB. If it i a religious based orgainization it does not fall under IMBRA. The later does not apply to you but the former gives you clear sailing.

Just answer no and don't sweat it.

Hmmm so if I used a site that has free and paid memberships, I need to look back to see if i was a paid member at the time? I have already sent in my application....If i can even find out if I was a member at the time, paid that is, how should I handle this? This was back in 2004 we met online, and a week later we were online through yahoo or something, I even forget how we did that.

Bobbie

[balmytigeress 0]

I'm curious about this too. Because we did use a website to meet, and I checked yes about the IMBRA thing because it seemed right. I've started to question if I should have done that. One of us had to have an paid account, so it did cost money. But it was also religion based. And it was not country based, although you were asked if you would consider moving to another country (because it wasn't just people in the US on the site).

"If you are the US Citizen and you did not pay a fee it does not qualify as an IMB." (Turboguy)

Is that true? He didn't actually have to pay either (there is a story behind that) but normally the males would pay but it was free for females.

So I'm concerned that I didn't need to check that box and it is slowing down our petition? Petitions of people in similar cases took less time for NOA2 than ours is (I know vsc is quicker than others, that's not the point). I mentioned in the supplement to the question on 129f about meeting, that the site we met on was religion based and maybe it wasn't exactly an IMB.... so maybe it was a Very Bad Idea to mention that?

BT

[doc_cute 0]

A few months ago I filled out a free profile at a international dating site. A number of people contacted me but I saw something very special in just one. We decided to meet not long ago and it went even better than I hoped.

Should things continue in this mode I wonder how the new law concerning IMBA could effect me. Other than getting her free email forwarded to me in the beginning we had all contact and meetings on our own.

Now I worry if I claim We met through this typical dating site (which deals with a large volume of international folks) without filling out some form we might have problems.

Maybe it is better to just say I was on vacation and we met on the street or via skpe or something?

Danno

* there is always a fly in the ointment.

stick to the truth

even i met my husband on a matrimonial site

honesty is the best policy buddy

just have lots of evidence of an ongoing relation and tht will help a lot

good luck for future

[Bobbie 1]

A few months ago I filled out a free profile at a international dating site. A number of people contacted me but I saw something very special in just one. We decided to meet not long ago and it went even better than I hoped.

Should things continue in this mode I wonder how the new law concerning IMBA could effect me. Other than getting her free email forwarded to me in the beginning we had all contact and meetings on our own.

Now I worry if I claim We met through this typical dating site (which deals with a large volume of international folks) without filling out some form we might have problems.

Maybe it is better to just say I was on vacation and we met on the street or via skpe or something?

Danno

* there is always a fly in the ointment.

stick to the truth

even i met my husband on a matrimonial site

honesty is the best policy buddy

just have lots of evidence of an ongoing relation and tht will help a lot

good luck for future

I think I just didnt understand it when i filled it out, and i dont know if we paid, but it was a domestic site and not directed at foreigners......

why must they make it so complex

[doc_cute 0]

I think I just didnt understand it when i filled it out, and i dont know if we paid, but it was a domestic site and not directed at foreigners......

why must they make it so complex

bobbie

i didnt understand your question completely

do u mean by your post tht u met your person thru a domestic site and u were the foreigner to tht site ??

[Bobbie 1]

I think I just didnt understand it when i filled it out, and i dont know if we paid, but it was a domestic site and not directed at foreigners......

why must they make it so complex

bobbie

i didnt understand your question completely

do u mean by your post tht u met your person thru a domestic site and u were the foreigner to tht site ??

No, he is in Germany, I am in FLorida. The site is just a normal dating site, and it is not directed at foreign people. I have no idea if I was a paid member at the time we met or not. But I know I paid some sites during tht time period, so I could have been, but if it is a site directed at the usa, then....well i am wondering if I have messed up my application now. I recommend people read on this VJ for a month before the application, this site has so many knowledgeable people. I think USCIS should invite ppl here to be part of a think tank to make their department better.