Love marriage V/s Arranged Marriage ??

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hi mala..

these days..ther r not so stringent arranged weddings ..in our country..but parental acceptance is important after the couple accept each other..thats my story...;)we were given enuf time by our parents to communicate , and decide ,one year..lol.. and they were cool wit everything...rather..supportive...

thats great pinky

thats my story too

mala

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:lol: Leave it to me to totally butcher this thread. Ours is not the classical "arranged" as our parents had no initial input; nor "love" as we didn't meet each other till 2005.

Basically, she was told about me in Dec 2000 (and I about her in Apr 2001) by our spiritual father, Bro. Joe (head of LEF).

thats awesome CherryXS

here is my story

i was told about my life partner thru a matrimonial site though my parents approved him 1st then our families then we didnt meet each other but though we interacted for months with each other and one fine day he came up all off a sudden with his parents to give me a lovely surprise from new york to marry me

i was so surprised that so soon

i really appreciate his love for me , n he appreciates mine we r really like we are made for each other

in all ways we are just alike

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One of my colleague is a very cool guy, very modern, he even had a girlfriend, party, fooling around with her, lot of sexying, that poor girl thinking they will settle down as husband and wife, but all along he has his agenda in mind to let his mom pick. the ironic thing is, when the time comes to get married, he declared himself a traditional guy, and now relies on HIS MOM to pick his ALLIANCE.

Yes that's horrible and I know of situations like that too, relatives or people known by Sujeet when he was in India. The secret agenda thing is so wrong IMO. I hate that kind of stuff so much. In front of mommy the son is an angel, and around everyone else he's a "modern cool guy". And think of the girl who has to get arranged with his sorry behind, who will probably never know about his past partying life or sexual partners. I don't think I am exaggerating, because I know of situations like this too.

I am not against arranged marriages, if the two people are willingly going into it and can meet ahead of time. If it's forced then I am against it. Some of my sister in laws were arranged, b/c they wanted to be. And they are happily married and do love their husbands and are loved by their husbands. Sujeet and I are in a love marriage and a mixed marriage, not easy for his parent's to deal with at first. They wanted to arrange him. But now things are better. It took awhile for them to accept us as a couple. But we were going to be together even if they would not accept it.

Edited April 11, 2007 by stina&suj

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i myself will go with Love marriage followed by acceptance by family because the person is known better and chemistry is better , followed by family approval was an excellent one ,

it dont matter because the USICS has the final say coz, its the american way..

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i myself will go with Love marriage followed by acceptance by family because the person is known better and chemistry is better , followed by family approval was an excellent one ,

it dont matter because the USICS has the final say coz, its the american way..

i know it

but still i wanted to choose my life partner for the life in my own way

i pray everything goes well

my hubby is also willing to stay in india with me permanently if i m rejected or get an A.p

i dont know how much true he is , but ofcourse his words make me really out of the world sometimes

i just hope uscis considers to give the proper rights to usc to choose their life partners and not just to choose people to get visas

and i pray everyone who are waiting to get along with their partners soon get along with them soon

amen