Love marriage V/s Arranged Marriage ??

[doc_cute 0]

i myself will go with Love marriage followed by acceptance by family because the person is known better and chemistry is better , followed by family approval was an excellent one ,

[w¡n9Nµ7 §£@¥€r 123]

doc cute,

I think you will find that VJ is the wrong forum to be asking this question in

That is, unless you're not just out for validation of your own point of view.

[jasonbrus 0]

speaking as a person who favors "love marriage", i must say, if the duration of the marriage is a measurement of success (as we may have different determinants as to how xuccessful a marriage is), then "love marriage" certainly is not the way to do it. fact is, over 60% of this so called "love marriage" will be terminated (aka divorce) within 5-7 yrs and the second timer's success ration is not high also. however, the love is certainly a lot of fun. so, like my playboy buddy Big Al once said, Love is fun but love intensively and get the hell out of there quick. LOL.

[MPGGPM 0]

speaking as a person who favors "love marriage", i must say, if the duration of the marriage is a measurement of success (as we may have different determinants as to how xuccessful a marriage is), then "love marriage" certainly is not the way to do it. fact is, over 60% of this so called "love marriage" will be terminated (aka divorce) within 5-7 yrs and the second timer's success ration is not high also. however, the love is certainly a lot of fun. so, like my playboy buddy Big Al once said, Love is fun but love intensively and get the hell out of there quick. LOL.

Your data and response is flawed, because you didn't give the numbers for the marriages that were founded on being "arranged".

If the so called 'love" marriages have a failure rate of 60%, then I can only imagine that the "arranged" marriages , where the couples most likely did not even love each other, would be MUCH worse.

Hard to agree with your argument, when you do not even give the alternative data.

Obviously, Indian or not..........and taking into account the feelings I have for my own wife..................................I strongly take exception to your argument. ......................and prefer the "former"....rather than the "latter"

[doc_cute 0]

speaking as a person who favors "love marriage", i must say, if the duration of the marriage is a measurement of success (as we may have different determinants as to how xuccessful a marriage is), then "love marriage" certainly is not the way to do it. fact is, over 60% of this so called "love marriage" will be terminated (aka divorce) within 5-7 yrs and the second timer's success ration is not high also. however, the love is certainly a lot of fun. so, like my playboy buddy Big Al once said, Love is fun but love intensively and get the hell out of there quick. LOL.

Your data and response is flawed, because you didn't give the numbers for the marriages that were founded on being "arranged".

If the so called 'love" marriages have a failure rate of 60%, then I can only imagine that the "arranged" marriages , where the couples most likely did not even love each other, would be MUCH worse.

Hard to agree with your argument, when you do not even give the alternative data.

Obviously, Indian or not..........and taking into account the feelings I have for my own wife..................................I strongly take exception to your argument. ......................and prefer the "former"....rather than the "latter"

speaking as a person who favors "love marriage", i must say, if the duration of the marriage is a measurement of success (as we may have different determinants as to how xuccessful a marriage is), then "love marriage" certainly is not the way to do it. fact is, over 60% of this so called "love marriage" will be terminated (aka divorce) within 5-7 yrs and the second timer's success ration is not high also. however, the love is certainly a lot of fun. so, like my playboy buddy Big Al once said, Love is fun but love intensively and get the hell out of there quick. LOL.

Your data and response is flawed, because you didn't give the numbers for the marriages that were founded on being "arranged".

If the so called 'love" marriages have a failure rate of 60%, then I can only imagine that the "arranged" marriages , where the couples most likely did not even love each other, would be MUCH worse.

Hard to agree with your argument, when you do not even give the alternative data.

Obviously, Indian or not..........and taking into account the feelings I have for my own wife..................................I strongly take exception to your argument. ......................and prefer the "former"....rather than the "latter"

speaking as a person who favors "love marriage", i must say, if the duration of the marriage is a measurement of success (as we may have different determinants as to how xuccessful a marriage is), then "love marriage" certainly is not the way to do it. fact is, over 60% of this so called "love marriage" will be terminated (aka divorce) within 5-7 yrs and the second timer's success ration is not high also. however, the love is certainly a lot of fun. so, like my playboy buddy Big Al once said, Love is fun but love intensively and get the hell out of there quick. LOL.

Your data and response is flawed, because you didn't give the numbers for the marriages that were founded on being "arranged".

If the so called 'love" marriages have a failure rate of 60%, then I can only imagine that the "arranged" marriages , where the couples most likely did not even love each other, would be MUCH worse.

Hard to agree with your argument, when you do not even give the alternative data.

Obviously, Indian or not..........and taking into account the feelings I have for my own wife..................................I strongly take exception to your argument. ......................and prefer the "former"....rather than the "latter"

speaking as a person who favors "love marriage", i must say, if the duration of the marriage is a measurement of success (as we may have different determinants as to how xuccessful a marriage is), then "love marriage" certainly is not the way to do it. fact is, over 60% of this so called "love marriage" will be terminated (aka divorce) within 5-7 yrs and the second timer's success ration is not high also. however, the love is certainly a lot of fun. so, like my playboy buddy Big Al once said, Love is fun but love intensively and get the hell out of there quick. LOL.

Your data and response is flawed, because you didn't give the numbers for the marriages that were founded on being "arranged".

If the so called 'love" marriages have a failure rate of 60%, then I can only imagine that the "arranged" marriages , where the couples most likely did not even love each other, would be MUCH worse.

Hard to agree with your argument, when you do not even give the alternative data.

Obviously, Indian or not..........and taking into account the feelings I have for my own wife..................................I strongly take exception to your argument. ......................and prefer the "former"....rather than the "latter"

nice one i m with u for this one

[Otto 83]

speaking as a person who favors "love marriage", i must say, if the duration of the marriage is a measurement of success (as we may have different determinants as to how xuccessful a marriage is), then "love marriage" certainly is not the way to do it. fact is, over 60% of this so called "love marriage" will be terminated (aka divorce) within 5-7 yrs and the second timer's success ration is not high also. however, the love is certainly a lot of fun. so, like my playboy buddy Big Al once said, Love is fun but love intensively and get the hell out of there quick. LOL.

[Niels Bohr 72]

Love can be acquired, accumulative, or even instantaneous. Unless, if someone could come up with the definition for LOVE.

[randolady 1]

speaking as a person who favors "love marriage", i must say, if the duration of the marriage is a measurement of success (as we may have different determinants as to how xuccessful a marriage is), then "love marriage" certainly is not the way to do it. fact is, over 60% of this so called "love marriage" will be terminated (aka divorce) within 5-7 yrs and the second timer's success ration is not high also. however, the love is certainly a lot of fun. so, like my playboy buddy Big Al once said, Love is fun but love intensively and get the hell out of there quick. LOL.

Your data and response is flawed, because you didn't give the numbers for the marriages that were founded on being "arranged".

If the so called 'love" marriages have a failure rate of 60%, then I can only imagine that the "arranged" marriages , where the couples most likely did not even love each other, would be MUCH worse.

Hard to agree with your argument, when you do not even give the alternative data.

Obviously, Indian or not..........and taking into account the feelings I have for my own wife..................................I strongly take exception to your argument. ......................and prefer the "former"....rather than the "latter"

I don't know actual statistics, but I've heard that (arranged marriages have a lower divorce rate), too. Likely because in the cultures where arranged marriages usually occur, divorce is an extreme measure.

Edited April 9, 2007 by esjessi

[doc_cute 0]

speaking as a person who favors "love marriage", i must say, if the duration of the marriage is a measurement of success (as we may have different determinants as to how xuccessful a marriage is), then "love marriage" certainly is not the way to do it. fact is, over 60% of this so called "love marriage" will be terminated (aka divorce) within 5-7 yrs and the second timer's success ration is not high also. however, the love is certainly a lot of fun. so, like my playboy buddy Big Al once said, Love is fun but love intensively and get the hell out of there quick. LOL.

Your data and response is flawed, because you didn't give the numbers for the marriages that were founded on being "arranged".

If the so called 'love" marriages have a failure rate of 60%, then I can only imagine that the "arranged" marriages , where the couples most likely did not even love each other, would be MUCH worse.

Hard to agree with your argument, when you do not even give the alternative data.

Obviously, Indian or not..........and taking into account the feelings I have for my own wife..................................I strongly take exception to your argument. ......................and prefer the "former"....rather than the "latter"

I don't know actual statistics, but I've heard that (arranged marriages have a lower divorce rate), too. Likely because in the cultures where arranged marriages usually occur, divorce is an extreme measure.

and what if the marriage is love then getting arranged with parents ?'

any idea about the success rate ?

Love can be acquired, accumulative, or even instantaneous. Unless, if someone could come up with the definition for LOVE.

can someone really come up with definition of love ,

i am though a very emotional and sentimental kinnda person

without the most important emotional part i feel love is incomplete

[Niels Bohr 72]

Hmm....You will know your own success.

Remember that the average population is just average. It includes imbeciles, morons, normal, genius intellectuals levels.

Edited April 9, 2007 by consolemaster

[Nikita2Charles 32]

It's a new generation in India, The youngster nowadays choose their own life partner, is it better than the arranged marriages, it all goes hand in hand. In an arranged marriage, specially the girl has no choice but to put up with a lot of nonsense from her husband, as it would be consider a shame for her to go back to her parents. Nowadays with women being more independent they can be more outspoken. The other sad part of it, lot of girls are still being hurt by guys requesting Dowry and making demands to the girl parent even after marriage.

One of my colleague is a very cool guy, very modern, he even had a girlfriend, party, fooling around with her, lot of sexying, that poor girl thinking they will settle down as husband and wife, but all along he has his agenda in mind to let his mom pick. the ironic thing is, when the time comes to get married, he declared himself a traditional guy, and now relies on HIS MOM to pick his ALLIANCE.

[doc_cute 0]

It's a new generation in India, The youngster nowadays choose their own life partner, is it better than the arranged marriages, it all goes hand in hand. In an arranged marriage, specially the girl has no choice but to put up with a lot of nonsense from her husband, as it would be consider a shame for her to go back to her parents. Nowadays with women being more independent they can be more outspoken. The other sad part of it, lot of girls are still being hurt by guys requesting Dowry and making demands to the girl parent even after marriage.

One of my colleague is a very cool guy, very modern, he even had a girlfriend, party, fooling around with her, lot of sexying, that poor girl thinking they will settle down as husband and wife, but all along he has his agenda in mind to let his mom pick. the ironic thing is, when the time comes to get married, he declared himself a traditional guy, and now relies on HIS MOM to pick his ALLIANCE.

nikita2charles

yes u r right buddy

girls have modernised in our country we choose our life partners also the chances of getting fooled also increases

[Henia 11]

doc cute,

I think you will find that VJ is the wrong forum to be asking this question in

That is, unless you're not just out for validation of your own point of view.

lol....

[pinky_doc 0]

hi mala..

these days..ther r not so stringent arranged weddings ..in our country..but parental acceptance is important after the couple accept each other..thats my story...;)we were given enuf time by our parents to communicate , and decide ,one year..lol.. and they were cool wit everything...rather..supportive...

[Saddle Bronc 124]

:lol: Leave it to me to totally butcher this thread. Ours is not the classical "arranged" as our parents had no initial input; nor "love" as we didn't meet each other till 2005.

Basically, she was told about me in Dec 2000 (and I about her in Apr 2001) by our spiritual father, Bro. Joe (head of LEF).