Difficult situation- K3 visa?

[Transborderwife 4,666]

Just now, Fridamu said:

How do I get a re entry permit, how long does it take before it's issued and what are the requirements for it?

I believe that it must be done in the United States 

[geowrian 22,337]

1 minute ago, Transborderwife said:

I believe that it must be done in the United States 

Yes, it must be filed for in the US, and have biometrics done in the US. It can be picked up at an embassy abroad, though.

[Fridamu 0]

Well, it looks like I am screwed either way, looks like I have to choose between spending my entire pregnancy, and 9 months after the baby is born, alone, or go home and abandon my AOS.

[Transborderwife 4,666]

2 minutes ago, Fridamu said:

Well, it looks like I am screwed either way, looks like I have to choose between spending my entire pregnancy, and 9 months after the baby is born, alone, or go home and abandon my AOS.

Do you qualify for any in home care with your husband's military benefits?

[Fridamu 0]

Just now, Transborderwife said:

Do you qualify for any in home care with your husband's military benefits?

No. I have no friends or family here either. And an 8 yr old to take care of plus an infant in November. No one to help me, no support. My husband's going to be gone for 9 months, maybe longer.

[Amshep 0]

1 hour ago, Fridamu said:

No. I have no friends or family here either. And an 8 yr old to take care of plus an infant in November. No one to help me, no support. My husband's going to be gone for 9 months, maybe longer.

what about you bringing any closer relative that could stay with you legally in the US. after your husband is gone?

 

No one can  tell you what to do except some advices, but think about which option will be less chaotic, don't think only about the pregnancy time, but after is done.

[Fridamu 0]

2 minutes ago, Amshep said:

what about you bringing any closer relative that could stay with you legally in the US. after your husband is gone?

 

No one can  tell you what to do except some advices, but think about which option will be less chaotic, don't think only about the pregnancy time, but after is done.

The truth is, I am not happy in America. I am trying so hard to be for my husband, but staying here alone depressed, with a baby, is not an option, I can't risk my mental health. My family members all have work, no one can come stay for longer than two weeks top.

[Transborderwife 4,666]

2 minutes ago, Fridamu said:

The truth is, I am not happy in America. I am trying so hard to be for my husband, but staying here alone depressed, with a baby, is not an option, I can't risk my mental health. My family members all have work, no one can come stay for longer than two weeks top.

Are those things going to magically go away once he's home for good?  Perhaps the two of you need to take a look and step back with your situation.  Perhaps he needs to consider immigration to your country 

[Fridamu 0]

1 minute ago, Transborderwife said:

Are those things going to magically go away once he's home for good?  Perhaps the two of you need to take a look and step back with your situation.  Perhaps he needs to consider immigration to your country 

Probably not. I am really struggling with being so far away from my family. He can't and won't come to Norway. He's in the military with 6 years left, but he is making a career out of it.

[Transborderwife 4,666]

5 minutes ago, Fridamu said:

Probably not. I am really struggling with being so far away from my family. He can't and won't come to Norway. He's in the military with 6 years left, but he is making a career out of it.

You need to make decisions as to if you're really going to be happy here.  Unfortunately there's a child here in this situation (unfortunate for the child, not that the child exists mind you).  An unhappy and resentful parent does not bode well.  

[Ryan H 3,819]

Moved from IR-1/CR-1 Process & Procedures to General Immigration-Related Discussion; topic deals with multiple issues.

[JFH 12,191]

22 hours ago, Fridamu said:

No. I have no friends or family here either. And an 8 yr old to take care of plus an infant in November. No one to help me, no support. My husband's going to be gone for 9 months, maybe longer.

What about your husband's family? Can you not go and stay with them for a while? Surely they know about your medical condition and they wouldn't want you to become unwell and be struggling alone. 

[Fridamu 0]

2 minutes ago, JFH said:

What about your husband's family? Can you not go and stay with them for a while? Surely they know about your medical condition and they wouldn't want you to become unwell and be struggling alone. 

No, they are building a house and live in a one bedroom right now. Plus, they aren't my biggest fans so I don't anticipate any support coming from them..

[JFH 12,191]

3 minutes ago, Fridamu said:

No, they are building a house and live in a one bedroom right now. Plus, they aren't my biggest fans so I don't anticipate any support coming from them..

All of them? Cousins, siblings, aunts and uncles are all in a tiny apartment? This is going to be part of your problem and won't help your mental health if you keep dismissing suggestions to help you and don't think a little outside the box. I have suffered severe depression before and been hospitalized because of it and in the early stages I was also finding reasons why everything suggested to me wouldn't work or help matters. You need to get professional help for this. 

 

I am am not a military wife so I don't know much about that but I have a friend who arrived here on a K-1 and married a man in the army. When he was deployed and she was left home alone with no family nearby there was a wealth of help and support provided to her. I have noticed here that the military is very highly respected - much more so than it is in my home country. I am confident there are support services available to you if you ask. You need to be a little pro-active in making steps to find the help that is there. 

[Fridamu 0]

7 minutes ago, JFH said:

All of them? Cousins, siblings, aunts and uncles are all in a tiny apartment? This is going to be part of your problem and won't help your mental health if you keep dismissing suggestions to help you and don't think a little outside the box. I have suffered severe depression before and been hospitalized because of it and in the early stages I was also finding reasons why everything suggested to me wouldn't work or help matters. You need to get professional help for this. 

 

I am am not a military wife so I don't know much about that but I have a friend who arrived here on a K-1 and married a man in the army. When he was deployed and she was left home alone with no family nearby there was a wealth of help and support provided to her. I have noticed here that the military is very highly respected - much more so than it is in my home country. I am confident there are support services available to you if you ask. You need to be a little pro-active in making steps to find the help that is there. 

His mom and dad is in a one bedroom, his brother, wife and nephew lives with his brothers in-laws in Florida, other than that, he doesn't have a wholelot of family, so yeah, that is not possible. I am finding reasons for this not to work, but it feels like I am sacrificing EVERYTHING, and I am not Ok.