Broke single mom wanting to move... where?

[Sarah Waters 0]

So, to make my story short... I came on a K1 visa with my child, had another one with my US abusive husband.
He made my kids and my life hell until I reported the abuse, he was court removed and I got a protection order. I filed for VAWA and received our green cards recently.
I am by my self, without friends or family, caring for my kids, my toddler has a disability which makes it hard for me to work... Also transportation is hell since I don't know how to drive and even if I did, we don't have a vehicle and where I live is not walk-able.

I have managed to get by with some savings that are running out and my child's SSI. The child support is minimum since the father avoids having a full time job.

I've been considering moving elsewhere because things are too hard for us here and my child is affected by the humidity and hot weather.
I would like advice if someone has been or knows anyone that has been in my situation... where would be a nice place to start over? 
Is there somewhere affordable (rent, utilities, food), safe, more walkable, that offers some type of assistance for single mothers?

[Transborderwife 4,666]

Assistance for single mothers will be tough anywhere.  Could you possibly renegotiate child support with an imputed income?  Some judges will do that if they feel that someone is purposely underemployed.  

 

How cold old do you want to go in winter is a good question to start with.

[Boiler 46,113]

Is this somewhere outside the US?

 

Could you go home?

[neilsqueen 433]

A friend was telling me that Alaska pays people to move there.  Research that to see if that is viable for you.  It's beautiful there and definitely cold at times.  I don't know the particulars but it sounds interesting and could be an adventure.  Best wishes to you and your children.  I'm glad you were able to get out of the abusive situation.  Take care!

[Unlockable 7,315]

Sounds like you definitely need to be near a support system (friends and family). Would you be better off returning to your home country that may provide support? 

[Sarah Waters 0]

2 hours ago, Transborderwife said:

Assistance for single mothers will be tough anywhere.  Could you possibly renegotiate child support with an imputed income?  Some judges will do that if they feel that someone is purposely underemployed.  

 

How cold old do you want to go in winter is a good question to start with.

 

1 hour ago, Boiler said:

Is this somewhere outside the US?

 

Could you go home?

 

1 hour ago, neilsqueen said:

A friend was telling me that Alaska pays people to move there.  Research that to see if that is viable for you.  It's beautiful there and definitely cold at times.  I don't know the particulars but it sounds interesting and could be an adventure.  Best wishes to you and your children.  I'm glad you were able to get out of the abusive situation.  Take care!

 

1 hour ago, NuestraUnion said:

Sounds like you definitely need to be near a support system (friends and family). Would you be better off returning to your home country that may provide support? 

Thanks everyone.
Transborderwife: I had to search what imputed income was. He has always worked like this, is not a new thing after the separation, so I don't think that will be possible.

Boiler, NuestraUnion: In my home country it will be hardest, my youngest wouldn't have any benefits or support, it will be worse for his health since the weather is also very hot and humid and we have power outages everyday, also there are no job opportunities, so it is best for us to stay.

Neilsqueen, I think Alaska is a bit extreme for us!

[QueenComley 295]

10 hours ago, neilsqueen said:

A friend was telling me that Alaska pays people to move there.  Research that to see if that is viable for you.  It's beautiful there and definitely cold at times.  I don't know the particulars but it sounds interesting and could be an adventure.  Best wishes to you and your children.  I'm glad you were able to get out of the abusive situation.  Take care!

All of my husbands family live in Alaska and the cost of living is quadruple or more to what we pay in the south. My brothers and sisters in law struggle month by month. Take into account Alaska has the biggest suicide rate, alcohol abuse and highest domestic violence rate out of all 50 states I think OP should hang out with me in good ol' Mississippi

Edited March 28, 2017 by QueenComley

[neilsqueen 433]

1 minute ago, QueenComley said:

All of my husbands family live in Alaska and the cost of living is quadruple or more to what we pay in the south. My brothers and sisters in law struggle month by month. Take into account Alaska has the biggest suicide rate, alcohol abuse and highest domestic violence rate out of all 50 states I think OP should hang out with me in good ol' Mississippi

Oh boy, that's probably why they are paying people to go there!  Yikes!

[QueenComley 295]

Just now, neilsqueen said:

Oh boy, that's probably why they are paying people to go there!  Yikes!

Yeah... they have begged me and my husband to move there and its a big NO NO as far as my husband is concerned. Me however, I love the cold weather, the dark days and nights! I would love it!!! Im half Scottish, half Irish putting up with crazy heat here in Mississippi... Give me Alaska any day LOL!!!

[Boiler 46,113]

I doubt if there is anywhere that meets the OP's requirement in the US.

[florida racer 73 200]

I am not that far from tampa florida, have you tried to apply to social services for help> money and food assistance? it would be easy for you to qualify, as far as places to move well that could be difficult to offer suggestions based on your child's condition.

 

My recommendation is go down to social services in Hillsborough county and apply for wic or ebt, that would help you out in the meantime until you can figure out what you need to do for yourself and your child. 

 

If you need more assistance reach out and I will to to help you with more information

 

[s + j 71]

Colorado varies big time in weather, but they have hot summers I've heard. Rent where I live is ridiculously expensive, up to $2000 a month in some places, yikes. But Colorado Springs is such a nice place and you can definitely find cheaper rent there :-) Good luck!

[sparkles_ 456]

11 hours ago, neilsqueen said:

A friend was telling me that Alaska pays people to move there.  Research that to see if that is viable for you.  It's beautiful there and definitely cold at times.  I don't know the particulars but it sounds interesting and could be an adventure.  Best wishes to you and your children.  I'm glad you were able to get out of the abusive situation.  Take care!

That was in the form of the Alaska permanent fund dividend which was cut down to only 1000$ a year for the next 3-5yr thanks to budget issues. It used to go as high as 2500 per person in the family, but you also must live there for 13mo to qualify for it.

[Vengatore 53]

Hey Sarah,

I am very sorry to hear what you are going through at this moment. I wish I could help better but what I would do in your case is to try to contact women's organizations around your area to ask for advice and support. I really wish you all the best.

[Angel&Eric 185]

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