Did any one else see this artice in the news?

[chiquita 0]

when i read what you wrote my heart hurt for you. i so understand how you feel. it is so difficult to be separted from your spouse. it is even more difficult to have a stranger judge your relationship all in about 5-10 minutes.

hang in there. there is hope. it may or may not take more time than others , but there is hope. never let go of it.

chi

[babybunny 2]

girl, you know you are not alone in this pakistani wait game. dont be jumping in front of cars, or jumping off bridges. if this stuff is making you crazy - like its done to me.. then find something to keep your mind off this visa doo doos. keepy your eyes on the prize.. your reunion!

[Ta Ta 1]

Thank you ladies for all the support. This is just so difficult because we have been in this waiting game since 2003 to be together. There has always been obstacles one way or the other to be together due to school, work, health, or financial issues. I wish it was so easy to just dump everthing and get up and move. It is now 2007 and I just feel so drained and depressed and it's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. My husband always tells me not to worry that things will be ok and that things will work out soon so that we can be together.

I guess I just really feel in the dumps and I will probably try and get some medical help before I lose a screw or two. Things sort of get to you after you recive blow after blow. It makes it harder to get up every time. We were so ignorant to think that because he was british that we were not going to have so much drama with our VJ. If we had known this we would have filed staright after we got married instread of trying to sort out our debts, and work issues out and then fileing. GOD WILLING WE WILL HAVE SOME GOOD NEWS SOON.

has any one heard of the song by the artist AKON titled "Don't matter"? I think this is our song. go here to hear the track. It's the first one on the list. When you click the link it should play automatically.

http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fusea...iendID=32050898

Just the other day I was telling my VJ friend about this song and that it reminds me of our

visa delay .........cool song !

[m&n 0]

I heard this song for the first time now.....it's nice........it's SO true..............."USCIS don't wanna see you together but it don't matter NO.....you (the_dip_sticks) gotta fight....."

Try to stay strong..........

Thank you ladies for all the support. This is just so difficult because we have been in this waiting game since 2003 to be together. There has always been obstacles one way or the other to be together due to school, work, health, or financial issues. I wish it was so easy to just dump everthing and get up and move. It is now 2007 and I just feel so drained and depressed and it's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. My husband always tells me not to worry that things will be ok and that things will work out soon so that we can be together.

I guess I just really feel in the dumps and I will probably try and get some medical help before I lose a screw or two. Things sort of get to you after you recive blow after blow. It makes it harder to get up every time. We were so ignorant to think that because he was british that we were not going to have so much drama with our VJ. If we had known this we would have filed staright after we got married instread of trying to sort out our debts, and work issues out and then fileing. GOD WILLING WE WILL HAVE SOME GOOD NEWS SOON.

has any one heard of the song by the artist AKON titled "Don't matter"? I think this is our song. go here to hear the track. It's the first one on the list. When you click the link it should play automatically.

http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fusea...iendID=32050898

[lion_lioness 0]

This thread brough tears to my eyes.... dip sticks... hang in there. I know easier said than done. I feel for you - I can never know exactly how you feel, but you never know and I would hope someone would be there for me too. We are lucky to have each other for support! Where do you live are you in the NY area if so, PM me perhaps we could meet from time to time if nothing else just to vent! Also, if you would just like someone to talk to on the phone I'll PM you my number. It actually helps me.

In the meantime, I always say a prayer for all the ladies here and I'll make a special one for you. You are a strong woman to say the least. I don't think I could have lasted almost 4 years, so don't beat yourself up if you need to lean right now!!! Try to seek professional help, it may or may not work. Remember you are not alone in this and you will get through it! Inshaallah soon.

hugs

[Henia 11]

Esalaam I would keep my head up lady. Seems like everyday for us MENA girls something is coming in our way to slow down things...but as Allah promised there is relief in every trail.

I think if it is all, possible go to your man in the UK. But that is just my 2cents.

You are in all my duúa sister! Bonne chance and never forget your Creator is with you!

[The_dip_sticks 0]

I am thankful and humbled by every ones support here. Im thanking each and every one of you from the bottom of my heart. Since its easter Sunday I will go eat a whole box Andes mint chocolates all by my self to help me snap out of this doward spiral mode. I will worry about the weight on Monday. At the of the day I got my Adiel and my Mena sisters support......now where did I hide that chocolate box of 28 pieces. I will take a pic of all the empty wrappers when Im done. Arent thoes so good? Wonder if there is such a thing as chcolate intoxication.

Edited April 8, 2007 by The_dip_sticks

[The_dip_sticks 0]

Edited.

I am humbled by every ones support here. Im thanking each and every one of you from the bottom of my heart. Being that it's easter Sunday, I will go eat a whole box Andes mint chocolates all by my self to help me snap out of this downward spiral mode that I'm in. I will worry about the weight on Monday. At the end of the day I got my Adiel and my Mena sisters support. I feel like no one understands the hell that we are all going through except for thoes that are going through it. Friends and family can say they do, but deep down inside its hard understand something you have no clue about. I suppose thats why I feel at home in this regional forum.

......now where did I hide that Andes min chocolate box of 28 pieces. I will take a pic of all the empty wrappers when I'm done. Aren't thoes so good? Maybe im the only moron that is obossesed with them. It's ok more for me in'it? Wonder if there is such a thing as chocolate intoxication.

Merci beaucoup à tous mes amis ici.

[Nagishkaw 510]

God be with you, and may you find peace, even if it comes in the form of Andes!

[PalestineMyHeart 1,897]

Your petition is taking an incredibly, agonizingly long time. The stress on you both must be overwhelming.

Mireya... I have hardly ever seen you complain. You are usually cheerful and patient, and you are always so supportive of others. You deserve a break. Insha'allah you will soon be getting one.

Stay strong for your husband. This process is even harder on him -- if you can imagine that -- as he is the one being scrutinized so minutely. I think it's an excellent idea for you to go and visit him. Even for 2 weeks or whatever you can possibly manage. You both need that close time together. It will help you in helping each other through this.

Thoughts and prayers with you for a reunion, and a visa success, very very soon.

-MK

[The_dip_sticks 0]

I’m here to confirm that I ate the whole box up of Andes chocolate mints yesterday. Do I feel guilty NAH. They wanted me to eat them. I heard their little voices coming from the wrappers eat me eat me. It was the only thing I ate all day so at least I feel better about that. HA. I’m off to do my daily status check now. I want this cycle to end soon.

We all need bigger and better things, happy news some where to at least have something to look forward to. With that in mind my yearly visit is coming up. Since things are a bit tight right now we are hoping for June-Julyish to have a little reunion. I can only go for one week because if spend my only 2 work week vacation time at once that means I wont be able to see him for a whole year after. At least this way I can see him now and maybe again towards the end of the year. Its really hard to pick and choose either I go and be with him for 2 weeks and not see him for a whole year or go and see him for 1 week and see him again for another week 6 months latter (pending we have money for a second trip).

Maybe I should start some type of home business and become my own boss so I can have more flexibility to see him. God willing we get to see each other soon, and that we don’t have to push back the date. Tomorrow my Adiel finds out if he got the job he interviewed for last week. I really hope we gets it, it would be a big major help for us both. Are any of you ladies self employed or know of a good home based business?

[doodlebug 3]

I'm not self employed but at one point in my life I was making extra money via ebay. I would go to yard sales, etc. and buy up nice quality items such as clothes with the tags still on them, dvd's etc. and then sell them on ebay. I still sell here and there but nothing to shake a stick at. You might want to look into doing that for some spending money.

What field are you in? Is there a need for what you do in the UK? If you were to work over there couldn't you send money home to support the family? Since the UK pound is worth like 1.5 times the US dollar that would give you a kind of a raise too when you send the money over there. I'm sure you've already thought about that but just spitballin' here 'cause I feel bad.

[cbd2cai 0]

I’m here to confirm that I ate the whole box up of Andes chocolate mints yesterday. Do I feel guilty NAH. They wanted me to eat them. I heard their little voices coming from the wrappers eat me eat me. It was the only thing I ate all day so at least I feel better about that. HA.

Sounds like something I would do . . . but yesterday I wasn't eating anything, so I am glad I didn't read this then, lol, it would have made me sick since I was trying to prepare for that "medical procedure" where you can't have any food in your system, hehe!!

Hope everything is better today!