USC ENGAGED TO NIGERIAN

[chispas 0]

I sincerely apologize to anyone if they feel I was transferring my "being burnt" to this thread. I did not perceive my life's growth as something negative. Moreover, it was not my intention to put a damper on the happiness of anyone on this board. The only thing I ask is that my relationship with my husband not be seen as if I was burnt, taken advantage of, picked the wrong one, unlucky or anything like that. Again, it was not my intention to spoil anyone's happiness on this board and thanks for the timely reprimand to an old-timer whose experiences are now passé.

Chispas

[Ta Ta 1]

Chispas, apologies for my choice of words...( being burned ).

It shows maturity that you take your experiences life has taught you as not being negative. That is a good thing.

There was no damper on happiness ........the OP was distraught because of the embassy review ( AP/AR ) she just found out about and needed support.

No hard feelings at all and may God bless you,

Sabine

[taurean 0]

Chispas:

Now it's my turn to apologize. I in no way meant for you to feel bad about sharing your experiences. And I am the last one to reprimand anyone about anything. I value hearing about all experiences, and I really feel that to share all of the experiences in a public forum, good and bad is courageous. Unfortunately the tone of written words can come across not in the way that words do in person. The only intent by my previous comments was just to direct support to Destiny's Journey. Again I apologize for any harsh words that might have been written.

Edited July 6, 2007 by taurean

[idocare 3]

Omoba and others.

Just because my journey isn't as cheery as some others doesenl't mean that I should pick and choose where I should write about it. I felt a burdon to write what I wrote and that's what I did, sorry it wasen't to your likeing, but as you may no, I do what I do, I feel that I have a right to share my journey as well.

[Ta Ta 1]

Yes, you do have that right to choose where and when to post.

The general consensus however is to be sensitive to the OP in this particular thread at this particular time.

Sometimes our own problems should not overshadow the pain of others but encouragement is in order.

There is nothing "cheery" about the OP's topic here either and it serves no purpose to spread doom and gloom when

someone is already down after just getting bad news and looking for encouragement and help.

That is the reason I suggested you create a topic of your own instead of taking this thread into a different

direction.

You and your story can be helpful to certain people and we all value your opinion and validate your experience and

regret you had to go through that. I truly hope never to be in your shoes.

I feel it would be better voiced in a separate thread and to stay on topic with the issue of AP/AR at hand and how to deal

with the embassy from here.

If you fail to get my point then fire away, there is nothing else I can say to try to evoke empathy for the OP from you.

Peace

[Destiny'sJourney 0]

Hello all,

I want to thank all those who have posted here in support of my fiance and I. I also want to thank those of you who have shared your negative experiences. I'm sure your heart was in the right place, even though your comments may not have been. In any case, I wish everyone the best.

Now to update you on our case. As you know, my fiance had his interview on June 21st and we were placed on AP. Our calls and e-mails to the DOS and the Dakar embassy had only netted generic responses, which prompted me to contact my senator's office on July 5th. His immigration constituent said she would mail me a Privacy Act Release form. I finally received the form in the mail on July 12th and faxed it back the next day. My fiance and I received an e-mail from the embassy on July 10th stating the following:

Dear Mr. XXXXXX:

During the interview stage of the immigrant visa process, consular officers have to review approved petitions to confirm that the requisite family relationship, on which the petition is based, still exists.

Unfortunately, you could not provide any convincing evidence of your relationship with the petitioner, and could not answer basic questions regarding the relationship. As a result the consular officer has scheduled you for a more in-depth interview on October 16, 2007 at 2 PM. Please bring all evidence of yours relationship to the petitioner and all previous passports.

Sincerely,

Eligibility Review Unit. (MS).

What a load of bullshovic!!!!! My fiance answered all of the interviewers questions and we provided several photos (including one taken while he was on his knee proposing with the ring in his hand), e-mails, shipping receipts, letters, my phone records (he wasn't able to get his), and greeting cards. My fiance said the interviewer browsed through our relationship evidence, but returned everything to him after the interview. How the he|| can the Eligibility Review Unit make a decision about the validity of our relationship without the evidence in front of them!! I included all of this info in my letter to the senator.

Needless to say, I've been very angry and depressed about this whole thing. I'm slowly getting better. I refuse to let this situation take away my sanity or break my spirit. My fiance and I are committed to being together. I pray that this will be resolved very soon so we can start our lives together here under one roof as husband and wife.

Shanon

[MaRob 0]

Hello all,

I want to thank all those who have posted here in support of my fiance and I. I also want to thank those of you who have shared your negative experiences. I'm sure your heart was in the right place, even though your comments may not have been. In any case, I wish everyone the best.

Now to update you on our case. As you know, my fiance had his interview on June 21st and we were placed on AP. Our calls and e-mails to the DOS and the Dakar embassy had only netted generic responses, which prompted me to contact my senator's office on July 5th. His immigration constituent said she would mail me a Privacy Act Release form. I finally received the form in the mail on July 12th and faxed it back the next day. My fiance and I received an e-mail from the embassy on July 10th stating the following:

Dear Mr. XXXXXX:

During the interview stage of the immigrant visa process, consular officers have to review approved petitions to confirm that the requisite family relationship, on which the petition is based, still exists.

Unfortunately, you could not provide any convincing evidence of your relationship with the petitioner, and could not answer basic questions regarding the relationship. As a result the consular officer has scheduled you for a more in-depth interview on October 16, 2007 at 2 PM. Please bring all evidence of yours relationship to the petitioner and all previous passports.

Sincerely,

Eligibility Review Unit. (MS).

What a load of bullshovic!!!!! My fiance answered all of the interviewers questions and we provided several photos (including one taken while he was on his knee proposing with the ring in his hand), e-mails, shipping receipts, letters, my phone records (he wasn't able to get his), and greeting cards. My fiance said the interviewer browsed through our relationship evidence, but returned everything to him after the interview. How the he|| can the Eligibility Review Unit make a decision about the validity of our relationship without the evidence in front of them!! I included all of this info in my letter to the senator.

Needless to say, I've been very angry and depressed about this whole thing. I'm slowly getting better. I refuse to let this situation take away my sanity or break my spirit. My fiance and I are committed to being together. I pray that this will be resolved very soon so we can start our lives together here under one roof as husband and wife.

Shanon

Is there any possible way for you to be at the interview in October? That should show them proof... God Bless.. it is a frustrating process even when everything goes smoothly, I can't imagine having "bumps" in the road.

[Destiny'sJourney 0]

Oh yes! I plan to be there for the second interview, unless something positive happens before then. Maybe the CO grinches will decide they have tortured us enough and call my fiance to come pick up his visa. *sigh* A girl can dream.....