I-129F March 2017 Filers

[CubaAndChill 389]

I've been having a really rough time this past month, to be honest. It's easy for me to be positive for other people, I guess it's a fake it til you make it type of scenario for me right now..
 

I had to put my dog down a couple of weeks ago after 11 years together and the last year of us battling her brain tumor. She fought so hard and I really thought she'd be with me until my next comfort/rock was here with me... but it didn't work out that way. It got to a point that she wasn't walking on her own, gave up eating because her mouth/face became paralyzed and you could just see it in her face. She was done and I wasn't about to let her suffer if I could give her peace. Hardest decision I've had to make yet...

 

Then my job told me that I'll be getting layed off in September. That put me into panic mode because what's going to happen with the affidavit of support.. my sister's in too much debt even though she makes good money. I'm looking for other jobs, but after giving your everything to a company for 6 years it's tough when they don't value you like they should... It's all apart of business though. I just thought they valued me more than that. SMH.

 

& last but not least now I'm looking at cancelling the K1 visa and just walking away from everything. Things haven't been going so smoothly w/ my fiance & I. We actually haven't been talking to each other as of late (mostly my fault)... the distance has really gotten to me & not having him in person as a comfort while I go through some difficult things hasn't made it easier...  The second hardest decision I'll have to make in such a short time. I don't know if to just wait until the petition gets to the embassy to decide what to do in hopes that everything will get better or just cut my losses.. I've already cancelled his flight back to Cuba from Argentina where he's at now, just in case things don't work out but flights are easily purchased again... Visa's aren't as easy.. (big sigh)

[Kpetraska 67]

1 minute ago, CubaAndChill said:

I've been having a really rough time this past month, to be honest. It's easy for me to be positive for other people, I guess it's a fake it til you make it type of scenario for me right now..
 

I had to put my dog down a couple of weeks ago after 11 years together and the last year of us battling her brain tumor. She fought so hard and I really thought she'd be with me until my next comfort/rock was here with me... but it didn't work out that way. It got to a point that she wasn't walking on her own, gave up eating because her mouth/face became paralyzed and you could just see it in her face. She was done and I wasn't about to let her suffer if I could give her peace. Hardest decision I've had to make yet...

 

Then my job told me that I'll be getting layed off in September. That put me into panic mode because what's going to happen with the affidavit of support.. my sister's in too much debt even though she makes good money. I'm looking for other jobs, but after giving your everything to a company for 6 years it's tough when they don't value you like they should... It's all apart of business though. I just thought they valued me more than that. SMH.

 

& last but not least now I'm looking at cancelling the K1 visa and just walking away from everything. Things haven't been going so smoothly w/ my fiance & I. We actually haven't been talking to each other as of late (mostly my fault)... the distance has really gotten to me & not having him in person as a comfort while I go through some difficult things hasn't made it easier...  The second hardest decision I'll have to make in such a short time. I don't know if to just wait until the petition gets to the embassy to decide what to do in hopes that everything will get better or just cut my losses.. I've already cancelled his flight back to Cuba from Argentina where he's at now, just in case things don't work out but flights are easily purchased again... Visa's aren't as easy.. (big sigh)

I am so sorry you're having such a rough time right now "/ this definitely isn't easy! i know exactly how you feel, as I am going through quite a bit as well without my s/o here to help. But you can not give up! You have gotten this far, you have to see this through or you will ALWAYS wonder what could've been. If you're looking for a sign or advice not to throw in the towel, this is it! Do not give up! We can do this. Only a few more months now. See this through. We are here if you need us ❤

[Estibaliz 3,037]

7 minutes ago, CubaAndChill said:

I've been having a really rough time this past month, to be honest. It's easy for me to be positive for other people, I guess it's a fake it til you make it type of scenario for me right now..
 

I had to put my dog down a couple of weeks ago after 11 years together and the last year of us battling her brain tumor. She fought so hard and I really thought she'd be with me until my next comfort/rock was here with me... but it didn't work out that way. It got to a point that she wasn't walking on her own, gave up eating because her mouth/face became paralyzed and you could just see it in her face. She was done and I wasn't about to let her suffer if I could give her peace. Hardest decision I've had to make yet...

 

Then my job told me that I'll be getting layed off in September. That put me into panic mode because what's going to happen with the affidavit of support.. my sister's in too much debt even though she makes good money. I'm looking for other jobs, but after giving your everything to a company for 6 years it's tough when they don't value you like they should... It's all apart of business though. I just thought they valued me more than that. SMH.

 

& last but not least now I'm looking at cancelling the K1 visa and just walking away from everything. Things haven't been going so smoothly w/ my fiance & I. We actually haven't been talking to each other as of late (mostly my fault)... the distance has really gotten to me & not having him in person as a comfort while I go through some difficult things hasn't made it easier...  The second hardest decision I'll have to make in such a short time. I don't know if to just wait until the petition gets to the embassy to decide what to do in hopes that everything will get better or just cut my losses.. I've already cancelled his flight back to Cuba from Argentina where he's at now, just in case things don't work out but flights are easily purchased again... Visa's aren't as easy.. (big sigh)

Hang in there, girl! Of course, you are the only one that knows all the shadows and lights of your situation, regarding not only the relationship itself but everything else in your life right now. And yes, it doesn't seem as brilliant of a future now as it probably did some weeks ago, but if you work on it, things tend to get better...

 

And I think you are just like me, the kind of person that always finds easier to bring hope and optimism to other people rather than yourself, but still... My fiancé and I have been through some rough times in the past too, though normally we don't externalize it much for the rest of the world to see. Over a year ago we already knew we wanted to go through this process if that was what it took to be together... But we were trapped in a situation where we simply couldn't because his wife refused to sign the divorce and he didn't have the money or a good enough job financially speaking to pursue the divorce through other ways than the mutual agreement. There was not much hope for us back then... But we worked together in finding him a better safer job that he would like (he worked with criminal juveniles and was starting to get depressed there) and now he works as Probation Officer for the county making a difference in society and with a much better salary too. He likes his job and could afford a lawyer that got him divorced after almost two years of trying. We know there's still way to improve our situation and lives... together. But we've gone so far when every hope seemed lost...

 

Well, just felt like sharing a bit because it really got to me seeing you so down and in such a rough situation

But just keep this in mind: you have time for things to get better again and to make a final decision. The visa process gives you enough time to make a decision later and you don't need to rush. You still are waiting for NOA2, and then you still have time to keep going on with the process after that.

 

It's not easy to do, but breath deeply and try to figure out what will make you happier in the end.

 

Good luck.

[pajobra 1,395]

2 hours ago, Alysia&Luis said:

Mowing is the worst!  Hopefully you get some needed rest!!

I rested after I mowed and then I started dinner and the power went out. Was out for just over an hour which for us is unusual. Course Manitoba Hydro will never let us know why practically all of southern manitoba was out. lol. 

[pajobra 1,395]

2 hours ago, CubaAndChill said:

I've been having a really rough time this past month, to be honest. It's easy for me to be positive for other people, I guess it's a fake it til you make it type of scenario for me right now..
 

I had to put my dog down a couple of weeks ago after 11 years together and the last year of us battling her brain tumor. She fought so hard and I really thought she'd be with me until my next comfort/rock was here with me... but it didn't work out that way. It got to a point that she wasn't walking on her own, gave up eating because her mouth/face became paralyzed and you could just see it in her face. She was done and I wasn't about to let her suffer if I could give her peace. Hardest decision I've had to make yet...

 

Then my job told me that I'll be getting layed off in September. That put me into panic mode because what's going to happen with the affidavit of support.. my sister's in too much debt even though she makes good money. I'm looking for other jobs, but after giving your everything to a company for 6 years it's tough when they don't value you like they should... It's all apart of business though. I just thought they valued me more than that. SMH.

 

& last but not least now I'm looking at cancelling the K1 visa and just walking away from everything. Things haven't been going so smoothly w/ my fiance & I. We actually haven't been talking to each other as of late (mostly my fault)... the distance has really gotten to me & not having him in person as a comfort while I go through some difficult things hasn't made it easier...  The second hardest decision I'll have to make in such a short time. I don't know if to just wait until the petition gets to the embassy to decide what to do in hopes that everything will get better or just cut my losses.. I've already cancelled his flight back to Cuba from Argentina where he's at now, just in case things don't work out but flights are easily purchased again... Visa's aren't as easy.. (big sigh)

Oh hun.  Sorry to hear about everything you are going through. Putting an animal down is so hard. I had to do that in 2010 with my kitty Cosmo as he had feline leukemia. I agree about how hard of a decision it is.

 

I hope you can find something soon. HUGS

 

Oh wow.  I am sorry to hear about you and your fiance. We are always here if you need to vent trust me. I do hope things work out for you. Hugs you tight.

[CubaAndChill 389]

2 hours ago, Kpetraska said:

I am so sorry you're having such a rough time right now "/ this definitely isn't easy! i know exactly how you feel, as I am going through quite a bit as well without my s/o here to help. But you can not give up! You have gotten this far, you have to see this through or you will ALWAYS wonder what could've been. If you're looking for a sign or advice not to throw in the towel, this is it! Do not give up! We can do this. Only a few more months now. See this through. We are here if you need us ❤

 

1 hour ago, Estibaliz said:

Hang in there, girl! Of course, you are the only one that knows all the shadows and lights of your situation, regarding not only the relationship itself but everything else in your life right now. And yes, it doesn't seem as brilliant of a future now as it probably did some weeks ago, but if you work on it, things tend to get better...

 

3 minutes ago, pajobra said:

Oh hun.  Sorry to hear about everything you are going through. Putting an animal down is so hard. I had to do that in 2010 with my kitty Cosmo as he had feline leukemia. I agree about how hard of a decision it is.

 

I hope you can find something soon. HUGS

 

Oh wow.  I am sorry to hear about you and your fiance. We are always here if you need to vent trust me. I do hope things work out for you. Hugs you tight.

 

Thank you for the encouragement, I really appreciate it.

 

Yes, I think I'm having more of a rough time with the loss of my pet than anything else. Of course the loss of a relationship and the promises of a future weigh down on me as well but my dog was more like my child and she's been by my side for 11 years. I come home and still expect her to be waiting for me or have her snoring as my white noise for when I go to sleep lol. I know it was the right thing to do though, just need my heart to catch up to my brain.

 

I'm praying everything works itself out and trying to give all my worries and problems up to the big man so he can take care of them, it's just hard to let go and let God. Hopefully things will start getting better soon. (hugs to all)

[dkmfan85 832]

4 hours ago, CubaAndChill said:

I've been having a really rough time this past month, to be honest. It's easy for me to be positive for other people, I guess it's a fake it til you make it type of scenario for me right now..
 

I had to put my dog down a couple of weeks ago after 11 years together and the last year of us battling her brain tumor. She fought so hard and I really thought she'd be with me until my next comfort/rock was here with me... but it didn't work out that way. It got to a point that she wasn't walking on her own, gave up eating because her mouth/face became paralyzed and you could just see it in her face. She was done and I wasn't about to let her suffer if I could give her peace. Hardest decision I've had to make yet...

 

Then my job told me that I'll be getting layed off in September. That put me into panic mode because what's going to happen with the affidavit of support.. my sister's in too much debt even though she makes good money. I'm looking for other jobs, but after giving your everything to a company for 6 years it's tough when they don't value you like they should... It's all apart of business though. I just thought they valued me more than that. SMH.

 

& last but not least now I'm looking at cancelling the K1 visa and just walking away from everything. Things haven't been going so smoothly w/ my fiance & I. We actually haven't been talking to each other as of late (mostly my fault)... the distance has really gotten to me & not having him in person as a comfort while I go through some difficult things hasn't made it easier...  The second hardest decision I'll have to make in such a short time. I don't know if to just wait until the petition gets to the embassy to decide what to do in hopes that everything will get better or just cut my losses.. I've already cancelled his flight back to Cuba from Argentina where he's at now, just in case things don't work out but flights are easily purchased again... Visa's aren't as easy.. (big sigh)

I'm very sorry to hear this. I completely understand the loss of a furry friend and family member. I've had dogs my whole life, and it's devastating to lose them. I can also relate to having the loss of a pet interfere with a relationship. My only word of advice is to not push back against your fiance if he is trying to comfort you. He may not know exactly what to do or say, but if he tries, he cares. From the male's perspective, it is extremely difficult to know that my sweetheart is suffering so far away, and it feels as if my hands are tied. I can't do the things I would do in a heartbeat if I were by her side. (Mine has been having some minor health issues and all I want to do is be there to hold her and take care of her). You've got a whole lot of unfortunate circumstances all coming in at once, and it will all take time and patience to get through. We all care about you and are here for you!

[Eric&Olya 881]

6 hours ago, CubaAndChill said:

I've been having a really rough time this past month, to be honest. It's easy for me to be positive for other people, I guess it's a fake it til you make it type of scenario for me right now..
 

I had to put my dog down a couple of weeks ago after 11 years together and the last year of us battling her brain tumor. She fought so hard and I really thought she'd be with me until my next comfort/rock was here with me... but it didn't work out that way. It got to a point that she wasn't walking on her own, gave up eating because her mouth/face became paralyzed and you could just see it in her face. She was done and I wasn't about to let her suffer if I could give her peace. Hardest decision I've had to make yet...

 

Then my job told me that I'll be getting layed off in September. That put me into panic mode because what's going to happen with the affidavit of support.. my sister's in too much debt even though she makes good money. I'm looking for other jobs, but after giving your everything to a company for 6 years it's tough when they don't value you like they should... It's all apart of business though. I just thought they valued me more than that. SMH.

 

& last but not least now I'm looking at cancelling the K1 visa and just walking away from everything. Things haven't been going so smoothly w/ my fiance & I. We actually haven't been talking to each other as of late (mostly my fault)... the distance has really gotten to me & not having him in person as a comfort while I go through some difficult things hasn't made it easier...  The second hardest decision I'll have to make in such a short time. I don't know if to just wait until the petition gets to the embassy to decide what to do in hopes that everything will get better or just cut my losses.. I've already cancelled his flight back to Cuba from Argentina where he's at now, just in case things don't work out but flights are easily purchased again... Visa's aren't as easy.. (big sigh)

What you are going through is really really hard. I am so sorry about your dog, it must feel like losing a family member.

As for the job, it sounds awfully discouraging but at least you have enough time till September to find something else. Wish you the best of luck with that!

 

Well, I am not sure how much you are looking for advice here but anyway - it's impossible to solve any relationship problems by distancing yourself from your partner. I learned it the hard way in my first marriage, and so did my fiance in his. Long distance is hard enough, and there's no point in making it harder by not talking. Communication is vital, without it things won't get easier by themselves. Many years ago I was in a similar situation to your fiance's now. I had a long distance boyfriend (luckily, he was from my country, at least it was easy to visit each other), and when his mother passed away, he shut himself off from me. On the one hand, it was understandable, but it was so heart-breaking. I desperately wanted to help and support him but he was not giving me a chance to do that. Was he feeling any better without me? Not at all. He admitted later that it had been a mistake to put both of us through this innecessary suffering. Well, we did break up eventually as you can guess, but for a different reason and much later. So, what I mean is it's easier to go through hard times together with someone who loves you. The distance doesn't really give you a lot of options, just talking, and guys are not very good at expressing empathy by definition, but if you are not 100% sure you should give up, please give him - in fact, both of you - a chance.

 

I am sure all the March Whiners are here for you if you need a place to vent or a big virtual hug. 

 

[Del to ny 97]

Does anyone know if they have started working on March filers?? I can't wait anymore it's so fratusating!!! My lease is about to be expired in 3 months and I really hope I get approval by that so I don't have to renew it for another year because when my fiancé comes here I will be moving to New Jersey with his family there!!

[Holly♡ 401]

8 hours ago, CubaAndChill said:

I've been having a really rough time this past month, to be honest.

Sorry to hear you are going through a VERY rough patch right now..
And even more sorry to hear of your loss. Losing our best friends are THE worst. I don't ever want to have another dog because that is a pain that I just can't take again. My F however has never had a pet and is looking forward to us getting one here, I have agreed because I want him to know how it is to have a pet, but still.. I am not looking forward to THAT day. To this day I get teary eyed when I think about my dogs. 
And I am not sure what kind of work you do, but I can also relate to what you are going through in this department as well... I have been with my current employer since Sept 2009. I have held the same part time position since I was hired and have watched many people move on up the ladder. I had tried a few times with no luck. In March, I took a break from school for my surgery and did not get paid during that time. I realized how this could affect the Affidavit of Support in April and thought OMG I need to work FT now to make up for the time I was out for my recovery. So, I put schooling on hold to get a FT position since there were 3 spots open and the HR told me that my chances were really good and they were happy that I was going to apply for the one of the 3 spots. I had my interview 3 weeks ago. I felt the interview had gone really well and was told I would know something by the following Tuesday (4 days later). I heard nothing so, after a week had gone by, I asked my interviewer several times what the status was and he would just tell me that they were still trying to figure things out. Silly me was still hopeful and sure I had the spot. Another week had passed and I was giving up hope. I started to look on Indeed for for jobs because if they were not going to hire me, I still need a FT job. I have never been written up at this place, I am there on a phone call's notice, I don't call out unless something is terribly wrong, I am not always tryna leave early, I do more than what is needed or required of my job and they have to figure things out?! I went to HR and told her that I was looking around for another job because I need to work FT (they know about what I am going through) and she told me that someone had scored higher than me on the interview and that they were waiting to hear back from said person to see if they were going to accept the job. She also told me that they were only going to hire for 1 spot now because they did not have 9 applicants to cover the 3 spots. While she was telling me all this, the only thing I could hear was... Your not getting the job. Today, it was confirmed. I got the "we regret to inform you" email... 3 weeks later! Everyone at my job is shocked... everyone. I really don't want to stay at this place, but I felt like because of the longevity of it, it was good to stay there since September will be my 8 year anniversary. But after this, I am just sick to my stomach and am only staying as long as I have to until I can get another job, which I am working on! So, If I were you, I would just start looking now so you can have something in place and you won't have a lapse in employment. At least it's not like you are getting fired or quitting and don't have anything else lined up. I think they will see that getting laid off is something that is completely out of your control. It definitely sucks cuz I am kinda there too and the only thing you can do is try to stay positive and pick yourself and move forward. They say everything happens for a reason, maybe in this case too =)
And as for the relationship, I think that with there being so many things hitting you all at once it is magnifying the situation with your F. I hope you don't make any sudden and quick decisions at this point in time when you are feeling down about the other things too. I know that me and mine (as I have said before) have issues here and there, but we know that once he gets here, we definitely won't be having them because they are issues due to the distance. I also would like to say, you guys chose to go through this for a reason, and as the others have said, maybe you should give it a few months (when you could be in a better state of mind) before making a life decision. And you guys really should talk. Talking to him and working through things could ease your mind a bit and bring you guys close again. 
Anyhow, just tryna be as helpful as I can and I hope I didn't ramble too much and hope you are able to cheer up soon! 

[Eric&Olya 881]

6 minutes ago, Del to ny said:

Does anyone know if they have started working on March filers?? I can't wait anymore it's so fratusating!!! My lease is about to be expired in 3 months and I really hope I get approval by that so I don't have to renew it for another year because when my fiancé comes here I will be moving to New Jersey with his family there!!

They haven't really started yet, I don't think we'll hear anything for another month.

[chicago_23 90]

24 minutes ago, Del to ny said:

Does anyone know if they have started working on March filers?? I can't wait anymore it's so fratusating!!! My lease is about to be expired in 3 months and I really hope I get approval by that so I don't have to renew it for another year because when my fiancé comes here I will be moving to New Jersey with his family there!!

Likely by mid June they will start processing March filers. I was hoping it can start 1st week of june but at this rate, it's our best bet. Next frustration will be for waiting on NVC number to be issued, medical and for interview, its can go for 2-3 month stretch for K1. (Sigh). I miss my fiancee very much.

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50 minutes ago, Holly♡ said:

Sorry to hear you are going through a VERY rough patch right now..
And even more sorry to hear of your loss. Losing our best friends are THE worst. I don't ever want to have another dog because that is a pain that I just can't take again. My F however has never had a pet and is looking forward to us getting one here, I have agreed because I want him to know how it is to have a pet, but still.. I am not looking forward to THAT day. To this day I get teary eyed when I think about my dogs. 
And I am not sure what kind of work you do, but I can also relate to what you are going through in this department as well... I have been with my current employer since Sept 2009. I have held the same part time position since I was hired and have watched many people move on up the ladder. I had tried a few times with no luck. In March, I took a break from school for my surgery and did not get paid during that time. I realized how this could affect the Affidavit of Support in April and thought OMG I need to work FT now to make up for the time I was out for my recovery. So, I put schooling on hold to get a FT position since there were 3 spots open and the HR told me that my chances were really good and they were happy that I was going to apply for the one of the 3 spots. I had my interview 3 weeks ago. I felt the interview had gone really well and was told I would know something by the following Tuesday (4 days later). I heard nothing so, after a week had gone by, I asked my interviewer several times what the status was and he would just tell me that they were still trying to figure things out. Silly me was still hopeful and sure I had the spot. Another week had passed and I was giving up hope. I started to look on Indeed for for jobs because if they were not going to hire me, I still need a FT job. I have never been written up at this place, I am there on a phone call's notice, I don't call out unless something is terribly wrong, I am not always tryna leave early, I do more than what is needed or required of my job and they have to figure things out?! I went to HR and told her that I was looking around for another job because I need to work FT (they know about what I am going through) and she told me that someone had scored higher than me on the interview and that they were waiting to hear back from said person to see if they were going to accept the job. She also told me that they were only going to hire for 1 spot now because they did not have 9 applicants to cover the 3 spots. While she was telling me all this, the only thing I could hear was... Your not getting the job. Today, it was confirmed. I got the "we regret to inform you" email... 3 weeks later! Everyone at my job is shocked... everyone. I really don't want to stay at this place, but I felt like because of the longevity of it, it was good to stay there since September will be my 8 year anniversary. But after this, I am just sick to my stomach and am only staying as long as I have to until I can get another job, which I am working on! So, If I were you, I would just start looking now so you can have something in place and you won't have a lapse in employment. At least it's not like you are getting fired or quitting and don't have anything else lined up. I think they will see that getting laid off is something that is completely out of your control. It definitely sucks cuz I am kinda there too and the only thing you can do is try to stay positive and pick yourself and move forward. They say everything happens for a reason, maybe in this case too =)
And as for the relationship, I think that with there being so many things hitting you all at once it is magnifying the situation with your F. I hope you don't make any sudden and quick decisions at this point in time when you are feeling down about the other things too. I know that me and mine (as I have said before) have issues here and there, but we know that once he gets here, we definitely won't be having them because they are issues due to the distance. I also would like to say, you guys chose to go through this for a reason, and as the others have said, maybe you should give it a few months (when you could be in a better state of mind) before making a life decision. And you guys really should talk. Talking to him and working through things could ease your mind a bit and bring you guys close again. 
Anyhow, just tryna be as helpful as I can and I hope I didn't ramble too much and hope you are able to cheer up soon! 

Your situation with your employer really reminds me of what my fiance was going through a year ago. I can't understand why some companies don't value their best employees as they should, it's sad. For my guy, it was starting to be actually depressing till the point he didn't want to go to work, being always encouraged to apply for higher positions and then always being told "you are great, sure next time". That in a dangerous environment with criminal teens and with a salary that was just slightly over the joke barrier.

 

So yeah, he finally understood there was no point in being loyal to a company that doesn't really care about their staff. He applied for several jobs and had a few interviews. He got a better paid job in a nicer environment... And he ended working there only one day, because he got an even better job for the county

 

So yep, there's always options and the chance to improve. I really hope you find a place where you can be happy and really appreciate like my fiance did. No one deserves less than that.

[SimplyBlessed 65]

Has anyone been able to check the data and see if there are changes from USCIS?

[CubaAndChill 389]

Thank you everyone for your kind words and encouragement. It feels so good to have a community like this that understands and is there for you.

 

Me & my fiance.. ex-fiance.. I don't know.. Had a blow up fight and that's the main reason we aren't speaking. He's really upset at me and I've tried reaching out to no avail... Having to just leave it up to God and take some time... I believe I'll take y'alls advise and wait it out.. I have a couple more months until my NOA2 and then it'll probably be another month until it gets to the embassy and then from there we have 4 months until it expires and I can always extend it before it expires... I'm hopeful by then that things will have gotten better and we'll have a chance to talk and sort everything out.

 

You don't know how much I appreciate the fact I can come and vent to you guys/gals. I've tried going to my family with how I feel, mainly my sister, and it's always a "You don't need him! He didn't do anything for you anyway!" Which in reality, I don't need anyone doing anything for me financially... and he couldn't do anything for me financially anyways, in Cuba you get paid at most $20 a month, but I knew once he got here and was able to work that he'd pull his own weight plus more; so I wasn't ever worried about pulling both of our weights because he'd have his turn when he came here. I'm the one working and taking care of us but once he got here he would be the one working and taking care of us because I'd be layed off and searching for jobs... In a relationship it's always a give and take.. A mutual one even though it might not be mutual in that moment; it always evens out.

 

Anyway, it was quite ironic that I had a dream a couple nights ago we received an RFE... I woke up like what the?.. SMH lol