in a bad situation (split topic)

[Randle 0]

I'm literally going through a similar situation, except I immigrated to be with my wife in the states. Everytime I try and breakup with her she threatens to kick me to the curve and destroy my property. I've spoken to a lawyer and they suggest I follow through with the process but how can I trust it will ever happen it's already been eight years of litterally wasting career opportunities and missing watching my younger cousins and nephew growing up. The entire time I've had to help support and endure her sister and her kids who aren't able to look after themselves for some reason. So basically people who get into a bad situation like this are SOL or what?

Edited February 28, 2017 by Kai_Hobdden

[Ryan H 3,812]

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[Ash.1101 1,756]

What visa did you come in on?

Have you ever received your green card? Your status says you're waiting for AOS, but you also say you've been dealing with this for eight years.


If you want to leave your wife, then leave your wife, her kicking you to the curb would be part of leaving her. If she destroys your property, then sue her for damages, or simply take the stuff first and then serve divorce papers.

Now if you want to stay in the US and you're still awaiting AOS, you won't have a path into the US without her. If you're at least doing removal of conditions, you could be able to stay with a divorce waiver but I don't know what your status in the country is.
If you're on a 10 year green card, then just divorce her.
 

Edited February 28, 2017 by Ash.1101

[caliliving 606]

4 hours ago, Ash.1101 said:

What visa did you come in on?

Have you ever received your green card? Your status says you're waiting for AOS, but you also say you've been dealing with this for eight years.


If you want to leave your wife, then leave your wife, her kicking you to the curb would be part of leaving her. If she destroys your property, then sue her for damages, or simply take the stuff first and then serve divorce papers.

Now if you want to stay in the US and you're still awaiting AOS, you won't have a path into the US without her. If you're at least doing removal of conditions, you could be able to stay with a divorce waiver but I don't know what your status in the country is.
If you're on a 10 year green card, then just divorce her.
 

Sounds like he came on his WVP and got married..

 

so you overstayed your visitor visa, and you got married and you filed no paperwork.. unfortunately, she has all the power! you need to file AOS immediately or once you leave you will incur a 10yr ban and getting a tourist visa to the USA in the future will be almost impossible...

 

many USC threaten to send the spouse back.. this is normal.. its unfair and defintely verbal abuse.. but i really suggst you try to work it out!  i also think your spouse doesnt hate you but maybe wants attention or for you to pay more attention ect.. 

 

this really is very similar to a normal couple fight except instead of someone saying 'im going to throw u out of the house' the spouse says 'im going to throw you out of the country' lol neither spouse can do either! haha! 

 

get your greencard also so u can work.. that should help:) 

[Roel 7,192]

Why not just go back to your country? I mean, if you never applied for AoS and you don't have a green card or a job, then there is nothing keeping you here. Except the miserable relationship.

[MeAlone 161]

On 2/27/2017 at 7:08 PM, Randle said:

I'm literally going through a similar situation, except I immigrated to be with my wife in the states. Everytime I try and breakup with her she threatens to kick me to the curve and destroy my property. I've spoken to a lawyer and they suggest I follow through with the process but how can I trust it will ever happen it's already been eight years of litterally wasting career opportunities and missing watching my younger cousins and nephew growing up. The entire time I've had to help support and endure her sister and her kids who aren't able to look after themselves for some reason. So basically people who get into a bad situation like this are SOL or what?

Sorry, she is not a good person. Just because you are a foreigner she shouldn't trhow you out as you were an old suitcase, you are a human being. Sorry

Tasha

[MeAlone 161]

On 2/28/2017 at 0:41 AM, caliliving said:

Sounds like he came on his WVP and got married..

 

so you overstayed your visitor visa, and you got married and you filed no paperwork.. unfortunately, she has all the power! you need to file AOS immediately or once you leave you will incur a 10yr ban and getting a tourist visa to the USA in the future will be almost impossible...

 

many USC threaten to send the spouse back.. this is normal.. its unfair and defintely verbal abuse.. but i really suggst you try to work it out!  i also think your spouse doesnt hate you but maybe wants attention or for you to pay more attention ect.. 

 

this really is very similar to a normal couple fight except instead of someone saying 'im going to throw u out of the house' the spouse says 'im going to throw you out of the country' lol neither spouse can do either! haha! 

 

get your greencard also so u can work.. that should help:) 

Yes, I agree, it's possible, maybe she is very angry at him because something yet it could be still love present and maybe all fixed. The new immigrant depending in all for us, USCs is very sensitive and easy to hurt but also we, USCs are confused and frequently hurt reacting in a strong way. They both need to calm down, try to respect each other, maybe the marriage stays or maybe not but anyway trying to do better.

Not easy at all, many mixed marriages fail and many regret about it afterwards because usually both parts come to each other with a genuine desire to build a family but so many differences yet throwing the person out should be the last one thing to do, maybe in case of abuse and danger but not playing with the foreign spouse dependence

Tasha

Edited March 2, 2017 by EricTasha