probs divorce before removing conditions

[noche 1]

Hi , i came to usa with k1 visa to my fiance , everything went smooth and got married and got our 2 year gc . 

We have a son together.

Our life in america has not been that easy since my wife can t get a job from her failing the background checks ,\

noone hires her , so it s been just me working all the time and working long hours n days.

She used to be an heavy alcohol drinker , and since we together i try to stop her from the drinking cuz all she does 

is just bring fights n arguments home.

I leave for work at 7 am n come back at 8 pm , and when she s drunk , the house is all toren apart , dirty and messy , 

the kid just hangs around doing whatever he wants. And it s funny cuz i don t drink even a beer , i m against alcohol , and when i come home

i smell it from a mile away that she s drunk and she lies saying she didn t .

Now , the problem is not just that she drinks a beer , it s the fights and the screaming she does when she s drunk , trying to make the neighbors 

call the police , she yells trying to make them think she s getting abused , and when she does that i see no love in her.

I never touch her on a abusive way ,she s the one who likes to fight and yell and sometimes even grab n hit me .

i dont  know , i m kinda getting tired of all this , i love her and i m doing this more for my son , to have him have his family together , cuz 

one night when this stuff happened , i told her i ll divorce u if u dont  stop , he was like daddy i want u both , not just her or just u.

It broke my heart , he s so scared when she drinks and i come home , i see it in his eyes.

i feel so bad for not doing anything bad ,just working hard and taking care of my family , 

she tells me stuff like ohh i ll be allright if u divorce me , i ll get on welfare. so stupid i swear to god

I m kinda getting tired of all this . 

i wanna know what s my options if it goes down to get divorced .

i don t wanna lose my son and never see him again , plus she wouldn t be able to take care of him , she s a drunkie.

We do have bills in our both names these 2 years, plus lease agreements and not a whole lot of pictures cuz our life has not been that much of fun cuz

i am the only one working here , not enough money to go on vacation or our for dinners.

thanks a lot

 

[Auds 223]

From a GC conditions removal I believe you should be okay - there's a lot of information on this forum.

 

On a personal level:

 

1. Pls be sure its an alcohol problem.  A toddler can be a lot of work and its normal for the house to be messy.  Maybe counselling and better communication could turn the situation around?

2. If she is an alcoholic abd situation beyond help please get as much proof as you can.  Children of alcoholics, sane as children of Personality Disordered parents are hurt mentally in ways  thst damage them for life and show symptoms of PTSD sometimes.

 

 

[noche 1]

Thank u very much for ur reply , taking ur time to reply , and yes it s not about just the house beeing messy , it s bigger than that , 

she s an alcoholic who doesn t even care about the kid when she s drunk , i m not saying she doesn t love the kid , of course she does 

but when she s drunk i know for sure she doesn t even know he s there with us ,

And i know about a kid beeing raised from alcoholics is a big problem , but what can i do when the mom wants to remain a teenager and not grow up

and be a mom , who is lucky enough to be home all day cuz she can t get a job from her criminal records.

i work 6 days a week , over 60 hours a week

and she doesn t apreaciate anything

[noche 1]

what we have for showing that our marriage was real and not a fraud is ;

1. A son together,

2. lease agreements

3. bills showing our both names in some and in some others just one of us but same adresse

[ THIS DEPENDS ON THE COMPANY WHO SENT IT, THEY HAVE BOTH NAMES BUT ON THE BILL IS JUST ONE NAME]

4. not a whole lot of pictures but we got some

5. tax returns filled jointly

 

we have had insurance for a while but we was tryin to find cheap one and i dont  even think we had it jointly, she was getting it for free while i had to pay that s how the insurance company worked i guess and they wouldn t give it to both of us. not sure about this one

 

do u guys think we got enough stuff for removing conditions?

i don t want to end up divorced with her , i love her and want to have my life with her , but with what she does every day i m getting tired.

and i m not sure if we ll end up divorced or what

 

is that enough stuff to show a bonna fide marriage? 

for both options even to remove conditions together or even for me to remove them by myself?

thank u