He doesnt want to come to US now but does not want to talk about divorce

[LionessDeon 2,060]

6 hours ago, caliliving said:

please, also, he knows he wont pass the ROC! so please divorce him now and move on with your life!!

 

let me guess, you are a 10+ year older woman then him, married before with kids... he doesnt want to be with you he is using you! please you are worthy of more.. move on

Yes, OP already stated she is 20 years older than him.

2 hours ago, Hollywud52 said:

I would prefer he agreed to give me a divorce and did it there but if he does not I wil divorce him here wihout his permission, it will just be slightly more difficult and at my expense. I have actually asked him for a divorce and he has not responded. 

Hasn't he already by his actions? 

He has not responded because he is stalling for time!

2 hours ago, Ontarkie said:

You are petitioning a spouse, once he enters he gets a stamp in his passport that acts as a temporary GC. He never has to step foot in your house. He just has to change his address either at entry or shortly after. Pay the GC fee and have the card mailed to whatever address he marks on the file. No he does not need to live with you to get the GC he gets it on entry. Now if he enters before 2 yrs of marriage he would need to remove conditions and for that he would need to show evidence. This is why we are telling you he is stalling, so he can enter after 2 yrs of marriage so he get the 10 yr card without ever needing to live with you. He would never ever have to see you after he gets off the plane, he does not live with you for even a second. 

OP, Please listen to this.  File for divorce ASAP.  Go back to that lawyer now to have papers all prepared by mid March.  Take care of yourself, stop worrying about his respnse or lack of.

[LionessDeon 2,060]

6 hours ago, caliliving said:

please, also, he knows he wont pass the ROC! so please divorce him now and move on with your life!!

 

let me guess, you are a 10+ year older woman then him, married before with kids... he doesnt want to be with you he is using you! please you are worthy of more.. move on

Yes, OP already stated she is 20 years older than him.

3 hours ago, Hollywud52 said:

I would prefer he agreed to give me a divorce and did it there but if he does not I wil divorce him here wihout his permission, it will just be slightly more difficult and at my expense. I have actually asked him for a divorce and he has not responded. 

Hasn't he already by his actions? 

He has not responded because he is stalling for time!

2 hours ago, Ontarkie said:

You are petitioning a spouse, once he enters he gets a stamp in his passport that acts as a temporary GC. He never has to step foot in your house. He just has to change his address either at entry or shortly after. Pay the GC fee and have the card mailed to whatever address he marks on the file. No he does not need to live with you to get the GC he gets it on entry. Now if he enters before 2 yrs of marriage he would need to remove conditions and for that he would need to show evidence. This is why we are telling you he is stalling, so he can enter after 2 yrs of marriage so he get the 10 yr card without ever needing to live with you. He would never ever have to see you after he gets off the plane, he does not live with you for even a second. 

OP, Please listen to this.  File for divorce ASAP.  Go back to that lawyer now to have papers all prepared by mid March.  Take care of yourself, stop worrying about his response or lack of.

Edited February 23, 2017 by LionessDeon

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

PULL the affidavit of support or else you will be on the hook !

 

You did not mention that you pulled the I-864. Did you ? If not, why not ?

[sparkles_ 456]

Divorce bells were ringing when you said he went a week or so at a time without contacting you. It doesn't matter if you're 50 years older than him, you are a wonderful person deserving of someone who is loving and attentive to your emotional needs versus someone who dusts you off

[sparkles_ 456]

Side note. And I dont know if anyone else mentioned this, but there is a process in EVERY state to divorce a person who you don't know their location. You can easily 'not be able' to find what city or area he is in and do it that way. You don't need his consent.

[David&Femke 91]

14 hours ago, sparkles_ said:

Side note. And I dont know if anyone else mentioned this, but there is a process in EVERY state to divorce a person who you don't know their location. You can easily 'not be able' to find what city or area he is in and do it that way. You don't need his consent.

Agree, you can always get a divorce when you want one. Start the filling trough the court right away. these rules about devorcing a person you or your lawyer cant find, require a grace period. And that only starts couting after formal filling just sending him the papers yourself does not count. My advice get a divorce Lawyer, you dont need an expencive one because he wont come over to defent himself. you will be able to find a lawyer that can handle the whole process including all the filing fees for under 1000 dollars and it will save you a lt of headages specially David tryed to do his devorce himself after beeing seperated from his ex for 6 years and not knowing where she went. And it cost a lot ofd time and work and in the end had to get the lawyer afterall getting him rightaway would have saved him 2 years.

Edited February 24, 2017 by David&Femke

[neilsqueen 433]

You can also check with your local court house to see if you qualify for free legal aide or even low cost aide.

[Ihavequestions 419]

OP, I looked at your post history; you married a professional immigrant. There's no telling how long his new job will last, so he's holding onto you to keep the opportunity to go to the US open. 

 

Pull the affidavit of support and file for a divorce, and do it NOW.

 

(p.s. It's not his mother working the second wife angle, it's him either letting you know what to expect or he's already got one.)