Rant Another Day [merged threads]

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My Ex's kid.....

I can only imagine how hard it was for him growing up without me. I always worried if he had enough to eat, decent clothes, I wondered if he learned how to drive. I wondered if anyone cared about him as much as I do, etc....Thru the years, I'd look at his FB page every now and then, to see how he was doing. I looked for fishing pictures, pictures of BBQs, trips and such, but there were none...

It took an iCard (something like an arrest warrant) for us to be back in touch. But I'm glad I got to talk to him. He's in City Tech now, first year. Works part time at a bank. We did a lot of catching up.

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1 hour ago, Ontarkie said:

Stretch has been coughing and sleeping. I'm only awake to go get the Tornado. BTW I'm freezing! I need an electric blanket freezing! 

You sound like you need a Ford Festiva.  Only $400 obo.

 

1 hour ago, SAT said:

The kid got her Unicorn frap....

 

 

I got a new "favorite mug"

 

 

 

She looks content.

I haven't gotten new Starbucks mug since my last Denmark trip, but mine has a drawing of the building we were married in on it.  

 

44 minutes ago, SAT said:

My Ex's kid.....

I can only imagine how hard it was for him growing up without me. I always worried if he had enough to eat, decent clothes, I wondered if he learned how to drive. I wondered if anyone cared about him as much as I do, etc....Thru the years, I'd look at his FB page every now and then, to see how he was doing. I looked for fishing pictures, pictures of BBQs, trips and such, but there were none...

It took an iCard (something like an arrest warrant) for us to be back in touch. But I'm glad I got to talk to him. He's in City Tech now, first year. Works part time at a bank. We did a lot of catching up.

That is hard.  I always appreciated that my ex-stepdad stayed in my life.  I don't know if that would have happened if my mother got remarried or if she wasn't really supportive.  The Dane is pushing hard for doing the adoption because he's afraid if something were to happen to me that he wouldn't get custody, which he is probably right about.  We'll see if it is in the budget for this year.

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Yeah and, the older kid will not be entitled to any of Dutch's #### if he doesn't adopt her...

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4 minutes ago, N-o-l-a said:

You sound like you need a Ford Festiva.  Only $400 obo.

 

She looks content.

I haven't gotten new Starbucks mug since my last Denmark trip, but mine has a drawing of the building we were married in on it.  

 

That is hard.  I always appreciated that my ex-stepdad stayed in my life.  I don't know if that would have happened if my mother got remarried or if she wasn't really supportive.  

1- she loved the drink. But Turtle didn't. 

 

 

2- It's a little different here. I wasn't his stepfather. And, I wasn't talking to his mother. And, his mother found a sucker soon after we parted. 

 

One thing is certain. My friends and I, we all loved this kid, and we all took very good care of him. He didn't have such luck with his stepfather and that whole click. 

 

He loved steaks and Turkey legs, fishing, BBQing, it was all he can eat steaks and Turkey legs here. All he can grill and all he can fish. 

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Asia must be getting a woody from that mug picture...

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13 minutes ago, SAT said:

Yeah and, the older kid will not be entitled to any of Dutch's #### if he doesn't adopt her...

 

Will stipulates differently.

Although unless my ex has written an exclusionary will - she would be entitled to his and it is probably a lot more.  Not that it is worth it for that.

 

Plus, you never know how much will be left.  My dad totally blew his millions and left me with a mere pittance.  Could have bought a house in CT had he not blown it all.

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Now I am stuck writing this extra credit essay.... because it will give me an A.  I want to be done....

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5 minutes ago, N-o-l-a said:

  Could have bought a house in CT had he not blown it all.

 

But you had a house in CT. Maybe you shouldn't have sold it, duh!

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Speaking of duh, today is Queen 👑 Elizabeth II's birthday. Her majesty the Queen is like a hunnit years old man...

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Maybe 2 hunnit...

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Now, speaking of Asia, I wonder how the Polish guy is doing lol. Maybe I'll shoot him a text. 

Meanwhile, posted everywhere in the office, there's printouts of parodies of him crashing on a bicycle, snowmobile, airplane, boat, skis, etc...

And there's an autographed Evel Knieval pic (mid-jump), with the autograph replaced with the Polish guys autograph...

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5 hours ago, SAT said:

No it's about an hour. 

But it's 30 acres, and has a rental on it too. My first cousin lives in Howell and commutes to Williamsburg. 

I think you should. Girls woud have lots of space.  Maybe you can get them ponies.

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I'm not sure if they can have a horse there. It is a township that's pretty metropolized. I know there's no hunting there, even with that kind of acreage. 

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I get about 3 expired car warranty calls a day. How about you guys?

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I've spent a productive day.

 

At the Hospital, I lost my cheery disposition. They were ready to discharge her, again.

The discharging Doc is cardiology. And I know the root of her trouble isn't cardiac, they have ruled that out, entirely.  All well and good for him to tell her she is fine and she can go home. From a cardiology standpoint that is true.

 

She was determined to go, and could not be convinced otherwise.  The conversation got quite heated, at times. She said if her GP said she had to stay, she would. I called his office from her room, and he of course was gone for the weekend. At 11:00.

 

Her pressure has developed a new tendency to drop without warning, and very low, so low that she passes out. I tried to explain to her that if she got up in the night as she does, and passed out at the other end of this McMansion, I would be none the wiser. She could do a NOF, give herself a head injury, expire right there on the marble tile  floor and we would not know until we went looking for her in the morning.

 

So, being the mean person I am, I simply refused to take her. Sorry, I told her, I was not comfortable taking her home in the state that she is in. Not happening.

 

Apparently after we had gone, as I cut the visit short given that the conversation was going round and round in ever decreasing circles and I refused to argue with her any longer, she called the nurse and told her how terrible I was. The nurse, to her shock, agreed with me.

 

So, we have a discharge plan, they've rung to say. She isn't going anywhere at all until Monday, and then she is going to The Crossings, which a rehab facility near here. She's going to have all of her specialist followups organized for her, she is going to get a nutritionist to see that she gets a decent diet and actually eats, she is going to see Gerontology, and have a assessment for Alzheimer's or other forms of dementia. She is going to stay there until they sort her out. If they can't sort her out, she's going to stay there until an Assisted Living placement at the same facility can be organized.

 

I've rung the daughter, and explained the latest, and she agrees is well. Not that her acquiescence is based on any real concern for the Mother, she said herself she thanks the good lord she won't get stuck looking after her for who knows how long.

 

I feel relieved, and yet quite awful about refusing to allow her back to what is her own home. She could of course change her mind any minute, forget what she  has agreed to. For the moment, we are good.