Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)

[Elizabethnhenry 0]

What kills me is Ken is so patient! "Baby Girl, why yuh astress yuhself...it soon reach!" I guess living in JA, you have to be! . But, I've gotten spoiled living here in the U.S. and I am officially part of the NOW generation!! CHA!!!

You know, that's one of the biggest changes I've seen in Tony since he moved here. He's not so laid back anymore and now I miss it We don't BOTH need to be stressed out!! I miss his, "no worries", "no problem mon" attitude

The same thing with Henry. When I think of it, I get really sad. He was always so laidback and calm and telling me "yuh a choose fe raise yuh blood pressure." Now he calls everyone an eeediat and honks at everyone and everything. Oh yeah and he's always asking me if I'm ready - I'll be in my towel coming out of the shower and he'll be at the door asking "yuh ready?"

Edited November 19, 2007 by Elizabethnhenry

[Elizabethnhenry 0]

Sorry ladies but I posted this question back a few pages back and no one responded. For all New Yorkers I'm looking for braid shop in the Brooklyn area. I know there is one at each corner but I'm looking for a good one. Every time I go I always get it down in the Bronx but I can't take the driving this time.

Hey Nyseness,

I am told Khamit Kinks in Brooklyn is good. I hear they can sometimes be a big swell-headed and overrated, but they are very popular. I will get some info for you...other options. Here is the link.

http://www.khamitkinks.com/Home.html

Edited November 19, 2007 by Elizabethnhenry

[Yaads 0]

The same thing with Henry. When I think of it, I get really sad. He was always so laidback and calm and telling me "yuh a choose fe raise yuh blood pressure." Now he calls everyone an eeediat and honks at everyone and everything. Oh yeah and he's always asking me if I'm ready - I'll be in my towel coming out of the shower and he'll be at the door asking "yuh ready?"

Isn't that the truth! I am always like..."Yep let's go" and walk toward the door soaking wet in my towel and pick up my purse til he finally says, "Ok I get it...finish up"

Edited November 19, 2007 by Yardiewife

[Elizabethnhenry 0]

The same thing with Henry. When I think of it, I get really sad. He was always so laidback and calm and telling me "yuh a choose fe raise yuh blood pressure." Now he calls everyone an eeediat and honks at everyone and everything. Oh yeah and he's always asking me if I'm ready - I'll be in my towel coming out of the shower and he'll be at the door asking "yuh ready?"

Isn't that the truth! I am always like..."Yep let's go" and walk toward the door soaking wet in my towel and pick up my purse til he finally says, "Ok I get it...finish up"

I will have to try that.

[clairern 0]

You girls are a riot!! Mike is also very laid back and I can't wait to see what living in America is gonna do to him.

[BelwinMills 0]

What kills me is Ken is so patient! "Baby Girl, why yuh astress yuhself...it soon reach!" I guess living in JA, you have to be! . But, I've gotten spoiled living here in the U.S. and I am officially part of the NOW generation!! CHA!!!

You know, that's one of the biggest changes I've seen in Tony since he moved here. He's not so laid back anymore and now I miss it We don't BOTH need to be stressed out!! I miss his, "no worries", "no problem mon" attitude

The same thing with Henry. When I think of it, I get really sad. He was always so laidback and calm and telling me "yuh a choose fe raise yuh blood pressure." Now he calls everyone an eeediat and honks at everyone and everything. Oh yeah and he's always asking me if I'm ready - I'll be in my towel coming out of the shower and he'll be at the door asking "yuh ready?"

My husband is the same way with driving. He use to never speed out of control or yell at every car. When he received his first speeding ticket he was so mad he said he would stop speeding that has happened. He has to be on time every where we go. LOL

Sorry ladies but I posted this question back a few pages back and no one responded. For all New Yorkers I'm looking for braid shop in the Brooklyn area. I know there is one at each corner but I'm looking for a good one. Every time I go I always get it down in the Bronx but I can't take the driving this time.

Hey Nyseness,

I am told Khamit Kinks in Brooklyn is good. I hear they can sometimes be a big swell-headed and overrated, but they are very popular. I will get some info for you...other options. Here is the link.

http://www.khamitkinks.com/Home.html

Anna I will email my sister in-law and see if she knows anyone. How is everything going? Is your paperwork moving? All the best !!

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

I can't believe I'm in my 9th month of pregnancy now Man, time flies. Read the little saying under my ticker That's gonna me really soon! I don't want to wait 4 more weeks!

If you HONESTLY want baby out, massage the webbing between your thumb and finger, and also the groove on the inside of your foot just above the fleshy part of your heel.....Can't say that's DEFINITELY why I went into labour, but it was the night before

Ohhhhh, he's so cute!!!

Ty

[JA Tam 7]

Good Mawning VJ Fams!!

OK, PLEASE tell me you guys saw Alicia Keys on the Ameircan Music Awards last night!!!? She was AWESOME!! She did the 'No One' (my SONG!!) remix with Jr. Reid! Plus she had Shabba, Chaka Demus & Pliers and Beenie Man!!! My Gal did the DYAM TING!!!!

If yuh miss hit, check dissa link:http://www.dailymotion.com/group/4426/vide...ma-awards_music

Mi seh mi LOVE LOVE LOVE dat deh Girl!! She always come wid something GOOD!!!!

Blessings,

Gill

YO!!! IT DID WICKED!! I was on the floor enjoying the heck out of myself, di music sweet mi! Junior Reid, "One Blood" had me running through the house

[classychic77 0]

I wish it wasn't so late and you guys were here. I need to vent, cry, scream, or something! The tears are flowin and won't fricken stop. Things have not been good between the SO and I. I broke up with him (or at least tried to but he wasn't haven that) on Halloween and was trying to lie to myself that I was at peace with my decision but as I now see I'm not. We've talked alot and its only making my decision harder. UGHHHH! I just don't know. I know I love him but I got scared, I saw some red flags and decided to bail before I could get hurt. I started to question his intentions (not really because of anything he did but because of stories I've heard and fear) and pull away from him which only made things worse between us because he thought I had another man. There was one night that I had gone over to my girlfriends house with a few other girls (mind you I NEVER go out) and he got angry and told me to go home, well I wasn't gonna take that so I went off and told him he wasn't my father, blah, blah, blah, and how I never tell him that when he goes out. I always tell him to have a good time and call me when he reaches home. I wish relationships were simple. I have so many trust issues from my last relationship that I see myself treating him badly for things another man did. I was single for a year before we met and I really thought I had resolved my issues. HIm being far away sucks even though I've been using my time to be with friends and my kids. I'm stressed out at home raising 2 kids on my own, things are really tough financially right now. The high phone bills and thought of all the $ we'll spend on the visa proccess have me stressed out. His birthday just passed and I completely blew him off, and all because I couldn't give him anything for his birthday. And like he told me if I would have just spoke to him he could have understood. He's only asked for things a few times and I've explained each and every time how hard things are for me financially. I don't want to lose him if his love is for real and I know no one can give me that guarantee that only time will tell. I'll just continue to pray and hopefully follow the correct path. Okay thank for listening while I put all our business out there (boy he'd kill me if he saw this) but.... I know you guys are great and will give me honest feedback wether its what I want to hear or not! u guys!!!!

[Forever Young 1]

I wish it wasn't so late and you guys were here. I need to vent, cry, scream, or something! The tears are flowin and won't fricken stop. Things have not been good between the SO and I. I broke up with him (or at least tried to but he wasn't haven that) on Halloween and was trying to lie to myself that I was at peace with my decision but as I now see I'm not. We've talked alot and its only making my decision harder. UGHHHH! I just don't know. I know I love him but I got scared, I saw some red flags and decided to bail before I could get hurt. I started to question his intentions (not really because of anything he did but because of stories I've heard and fear) and pull away from him which only made things worse between us because he thought I had another man. There was one night that I had gone over to my girlfriends house with a few other girls (mind you I NEVER go out) and he got angry and told me to go home, well I wasn't gonna take that so I went off and told him he wasn't my father, blah, blah, blah, and how I never tell him that when he goes out. I always tell him to have a good time and call me when he reaches home. I wish relationships were simple. I have so many trust issues from my last relationship that I see myself treating him badly for things another man did. I was single for a year before we met and I really thought I had resolved my issues. HIm being far away sucks even though I've been using my time to be with friends and my kids. I'm stressed out at home raising 2 kids on my own, things are really tough financially right now. The high phone bills and thought of all the $ we'll spend on the visa proccess have me stressed out. His birthday just passed and I completely blew him off, and all because I couldn't give him anything for his birthday. And like he told me if I would have just spoke to him he could have understood. He's only asked for things a few times and I've explained each and every time how hard things are for me financially. I don't want to lose him if his love is for real and I know no one can give me that guarantee that only time will tell. I'll just continue to pray and hopefully follow the correct path. Okay thank for listening while I put all our business out there (boy he'd kill me if he saw this) but.... I know you guys are great and will give me honest feedback wether its what I want to hear or not! u guys!!!!

Hey Chica,

I went through the same thing!! I was suppose to file for Ken in March and then my fears from relationships prior reared their ugly head! He would say something...anything and I would go OFF!! I was a complete B1TCH to him!! I'm embarassed to tell you how horrible I was!! He backed off a little, gave me my space and let me work through. I actually realized one day...that my fear was about to stop me from having a a man that really LOVES me in my life and a chance for happiness! So, I put my fears aside and blocked my friends negative 'Stella' comments and actually allowed myself to trust him and be loved. Do I trust Ken 100%...no...but I tell him that and he knows that I have a ton of prior baggage, but I pray with time, I'll get there. But I do trust him more than I have trusted any man.

Classy, I totally understand about the $$ thing! I am raising 2 little boys (by myself too) and the funds are not always there! It's hard and stressful and the last thing you need is the stress of this process....I know I get it!

Chica, you need to do some soul searching. If you really think that your SO is genuine and will add joy to your life and hasn't done anything REALLY to raise your 'not right' antenna, then I say go slowly, even VERY slowly...but GO!!! You are entitled to love and a little happiness in your life! Take your time and save your $$, even if it's years Classy...at least you will have the opportunity to get to know your SO a little more.

I feel for you, I really feel your pain...cause I know what you are going through. I wish I was closer...cause I would give you a BIG SQUEEZE!!!

I hope this helps....love u 2 Chica!!

Blessing & prayers,

Gill

P.S.- Remember Classy 'What is for you, will not go by you'

(((((((((((CLASSY)))))))))))

Edited November 20, 2007 by Deyoungting

[Forever Young 1]

**********TUESDAY CHUCKLE**********

Hey Guys,

ONE MORE FULL WORK DAY TO GO!!!!! Hang in there!!

Blessings,

Gill

****************************************************************

Lost in Africa

A Jamaican man and American man got lost in the jungle of Africa. A Tribe of bushmen got hold of them and gave them two choices, Unga Munga or death. The American chose Unga Munga.

After realising that unga munga was a homosexual act the Jamaican

shouted death, death, death, give me death.

The chief then shouted - Death by Unga Munga

[*JG* 2]

I wish it wasn't so late and you guys were here. I need to vent, cry, scream, or something! The tears are flowin and won't fricken stop. Things have not been good between the SO and I. I broke up with him (or at least tried to but he wasn't haven that) on Halloween and was trying to lie to myself that I was at peace with my decision but as I now see I'm not. We've talked alot and its only making my decision harder. UGHHHH! I just don't know. I know I love him but I got scared, I saw some red flags and decided to bail before I could get hurt. I started to question his intentions (not really because of anything he did but because of stories I've heard and fear) and pull away from him which only made things worse between us because he thought I had another man. There was one night that I had gone over to my girlfriends house with a few other girls (mind you I NEVER go out) and he got angry and told me to go home, well I wasn't gonna take that so I went off and told him he wasn't my father, blah, blah, blah, and how I never tell him that when he goes out. I always tell him to have a good time and call me when he reaches home. I wish relationships were simple. I have so many trust issues from my last relationship that I see myself treating him badly for things another man did. I was single for a year before we met and I really thought I had resolved my issues. HIm being far away sucks even though I've been using my time to be with friends and my kids. I'm stressed out at home raising 2 kids on my own, things are really tough financially right now. The high phone bills and thought of all the $ we'll spend on the visa proccess have me stressed out. His birthday just passed and I completely blew him off, and all because I couldn't give him anything for his birthday. And like he told me if I would have just spoke to him he could have understood. He's only asked for things a few times and I've explained each and every time how hard things are for me financially. I don't want to lose him if his love is for real and I know no one can give me that guarantee that only time will tell. I'll just continue to pray and hopefully follow the correct path. Okay thank for listening while I put all our business out there (boy he'd kill me if he saw this) but.... I know you guys are great and will give me honest feedback wether its what I want to hear or not! u guys!!!!

I'm sorry, girl.

Go with your gut feelings.

I PM'd you the rest.

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

I wish it wasn't so late and you guys were here. I need to vent, cry, scream, or something! The tears are flowin and won't fricken stop. Things have not been good between the SO and I. I broke up with him (or at least tried to but he wasn't haven that) on Halloween and was trying to lie to myself that I was at peace with my decision but as I now see I'm not. We've talked alot and its only making my decision harder. UGHHHH! I just don't know. I know I love him but I got scared, I saw some red flags and decided to bail before I could get hurt. I started to question his intentions (not really because of anything he did but because of stories I've heard and fear) and pull away from him which only made things worse between us because he thought I had another man. There was one night that I had gone over to my girlfriends house with a few other girls (mind you I NEVER go out) and he got angry and told me to go home, well I wasn't gonna take that so I went off and told him he wasn't my father, blah, blah, blah, and how I never tell him that when he goes out. I always tell him to have a good time and call me when he reaches home. I wish relationships were simple. I have so many trust issues from my last relationship that I see myself treating him badly for things another man did. I was single for a year before we met and I really thought I had resolved my issues. HIm being far away sucks even though I've been using my time to be with friends and my kids. I'm stressed out at home raising 2 kids on my own, things are really tough financially right now. The high phone bills and thought of all the $ we'll spend on the visa proccess have me stressed out. His birthday just passed and I completely blew him off, and all because I couldn't give him anything for his birthday. And like he told me if I would have just spoke to him he could have understood. He's only asked for things a few times and I've explained each and every time how hard things are for me financially. I don't want to lose him if his love is for real and I know no one can give me that guarantee that only time will tell. I'll just continue to pray and hopefully follow the correct path. Okay thank for listening while I put all our business out there (boy he'd kill me if he saw this) but.... I know you guys are great and will give me honest feedback wether its what I want to hear or not! u guys!!!!

I'm glad you get comfort here....

I must admit I think you've made the right decision, the tough part being sticking with it.

I see you say 'he only asked for things a few times'.

That would be a BANNER sized flag...

In my experience, the only men who ask for things aren't genuine. Most Jamaican men I know would cut of their right hand before asking for things.

That includes hinting they want things.

I don't know your situation, but based on that statement, I honestly think you've already made the right choice.

[SupportOAFJF 0]

I wish it wasn't so late and you guys were here. I need to vent, cry, scream, or something! The tears are flowin and won't fricken stop. Things have not been good between the SO and I. I broke up with him (or at least tried to but he wasn't haven that) on Halloween and was trying to lie to myself that I was at peace with my decision but as I now see I'm not. We've talked alot and its only making my decision harder. UGHHHH! I just don't know. I know I love him but I got scared, I saw some red flags and decided to bail before I could get hurt. I started to question his intentions and pull away from him which only made things worse between us because he thought I had another man. There was one night that I had gone over to my girlfriends house with a few other girls (mind you I NEVER go out) and he got angry and told me to go home, well I wasn't gonna take that so I went off and told him he wasn't my father, blah, blah, blah, and how I never tell him that when he goes out. I always tell him to have a good time and call me when he reaches home. I wish relationships were simple. I have so many trust issues from my last relationship that I see myself treating him badly for things another man did. I was single for a year before we met and I really thought I had resolved my issues. HIm being far away sucks even though I've been using my time to be with friends and my kids. I'm stressed out at home raising 2 kids on my own, things are really tough financially right now. The high phone bills and thought of all the $ we'll spend on the visa proccess have me stressed out. His birthday just passed and I completely blew him off, and all because I couldn't give him anything for his birthday.

BB Code Help Toggle Side PanelAnd like he told me if I would have just spoke to him he could have understood. He's only asked for things a few times and I've explained each and every time how hard things are for me financially. I don't want to lose him if his love is for real and I know no one can give me that guarantee that only time will tell. I'll just continue to pray and hopefully follow the correct path. Okay thank for listening while I put all our business out there (boy he'd kill me if he saw this) but.... I know you guys are great and will give me honest feedback wether its what I want to hear or not! u guys!!!!

I'm glad you get comfort here....

I must admit I think you've made the right decision, the tough part being sticking with it.

I see you say 'he only asked for things a few times'.

That would be a BANNER sized flag...

In my experience, the only men who ask for things aren't genuine. Most Jamaican men I know would cut of their right hand before asking for things.

That includes hinting they want things.I don't know your situation, but based on that statement, I honestly think you've already made the right choice.

i agree this has also been my experience..and Classy said something "(not really because of anything he did but because of stories I've heard and fear)"..this is one reason I say (in my opinion) somethings r better left unsaid...Classy u know what is ur true situation and only u can make the right one no matter what we say. Right now I think u just want to tell anyone that will listen and to kinda some how justify ur decision. But, again only u can make the right decision for u. Sometimes the more ppl u express ur feelings or situation to the more confused u will become, so it's best at least for me, to sit and ponder to myself or my journal and from there I make my decision, no knows but the man above so don't beat up urself just take a break and write it down it makes sense or no sense when u re-read it.

all the best

Kimmy..a dat a fi mi 2 cents

[jamerican 2]

I wish it wasn't so late and you guys were here. I need to vent, cry, scream, or something! The tears are flowin and won't fricken stop. Things have not been good between the SO and I. I broke up with him (or at least tried to but he wasn't haven that) on Halloween and was trying to lie to myself that I was at peace with my decision but as I now see I'm not. We've talked alot and its only making my decision harder. UGHHHH! I just don't know. I know I love him but I got scared, I saw some red flags and decided to bail before I could get hurt. I started to question his intentions (not really because of anything he did but because of stories I've heard and fear) and pull away from him which only made things worse between us because he thought I had another man. There was one night that I had gone over to my girlfriends house with a few other girls (mind you I NEVER go out) and he got angry and told me to go home, well I wasn't gonna take that so I went off and told him he wasn't my father, blah, blah, blah, and how I never tell him that when he goes out. I always tell him to have a good time and call me when he reaches home. I wish relationships were simple. I have so many trust issues from my last relationship that I see myself treating him badly for things another man did. I was single for a year before we met and I really thought I had resolved my issues. HIm being far away sucks even though I've been using my time to be with friends and my kids. I'm stressed out at home raising 2 kids on my own, things are really tough financially right now. The high phone bills and thought of all the $ we'll spend on the visa proccess have me stressed out. His birthday just passed and I completely blew him off, and all because I couldn't give him anything for his birthday. And like he told me if I would have just spoke to him he could have understood. He's only asked for things a few times and I've explained each and every time how hard things are for me financially. I don't want to lose him if his love is for real and I know no one can give me that guarantee that only time will tell. I'll just continue to pray and hopefully follow the correct path. Okay thank for listening while I put all our business out there (boy he'd kill me if he saw this) but.... I know you guys are great and will give me honest feedback wether its what I want to hear or not! u guys!!!!

I'm glad you get comfort here....

I must admit I think you've made the right decision, the tough part being sticking with it.

I see you say 'he only asked for things a few times'.

That would be a BANNER sized flag...

In my experience, the only men who ask for things aren't genuine. Most Jamaican men I know would cut of their right hand before asking for things.

That includes hinting they want things.

I don't know your situation, but based on that statement, I honestly think you've already made the right choice.

I beg to differ about your feeling that "the only men who ask for things aren't genuine" comment. If that becomes the main gist of the relationship then yes I would say he isn't in the relationship for the correct reason....BUT....I don't think it is fair to make that blanket of a statement when there are so many more peices to the puzzle that we aren't aware of. Bottom line.....take your time..be on JA time...no worries....everything will come out if there is anything to come out!