Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)

[shawn99 0]

Congrats to all who have made it through the process.... I have been off line for a few days as I am in Jamaica now and my laptop chose to freeze up on me....BUT now I have it working and thought I better check in. Good news....I the weather has been good, Bad news....I am ending my journey. I only say bad because my heart is a bit hurting now but in the long run I know this is a good thing. Kev and I had a great first 2 days together going out partying the first then out in country with his family the next then it all went to hell. Don't ask me what happened because for the life of me....I don't know. I just know that the way he handles differences of opinions it will NEVER work in the USA. He used jealousy as an excuse to cause issues between us....I beleive it was an excuse...whatever the reason... I am too old to be going though this ######. Well....I need to log off because I am not spending my last night in the hotel... Heading to a bar on the beach---no worries...I have a companion....nothing more!! Nothing like going though a breakup in jamaica!!!! always someone to make you feel betta!!!! Sorry guys...just trying to keep from crying

Oh Jamerican...my heart breaks for you . I am so sorry that you went through this.

I'm HOME!!! Thanks everyone for your support. Supposedly there is some explanation that is forthcoming as to why the jekyl and hyde performance........oh I can't wait to hear this one ... all I can say is I wasn't born yesterday. On another subject.....kinda to bring a sort of humor to my trip....so I mentioned that I was going out the last night with a companion....WELLLLLL.....lol....that companion had a OOman...who upon him walking me to my hotel....she followed.....boy did I think I was gonna have to fight a jamaican woman for a man who I didn't even want. Thank GOD she realized the person to be upset with was him so at the gate of my hotel..she started going off on him.....(cause she thought he was coming in-HE WASNT!!!!) all I did was laugh and kept walking in, leaving them behind fussing at the gate. The security with shock on his face asked me...."are you ok?" and my reply....I am perfectly fine it is them who have the problem!!! That seems to be my take on my situation...I am ok, it is him who has the problem.

more to come cause I know his excuse will be a doooozyyyy!!! stay tuned

Well all I can say is: SORRY. But it seems like di man have another woman. Him haffi try fi shake yu off. Maybe is a sugar mumma him find. Better luck next time. Speaking of luck, it start here with me. Maybe we will do better

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Wapen Shawn..were u been ?

[Forever Young 1]

Wapen Shawn..were u been ?

Fi real Shawn...mi tell yuh last time...yuh come in and out like duppy! Mi was a likkle worried bout yuh still...glad tuh knoa yuh still alive being yuh ole blantantly HONEST (tuh a fault) self!! ...han nuh baddah fi git vex...cause yuh knoa ita deh troot! Glad yuh arright still

Blessed,

Gill

Edited November 18, 2007 by Deyoungting

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Wapen Shawn..were u been ?

Fi real Shawn...mi tell yuh last time...yuh come in and out like duppy! Mi was a likkle worried bout yuh still...glad tuh knoa yuh still alive being yuh ole blantantly HONEST (tuh a fault) self!! ...han nuh baddah fi git vex...cause yuh knoa ita deh troot! Glad yuh arright still

Blessed,

Gill

Hahhaa....yup

[shawn99 0]

Wapen Shawn..were u been ?

Yow Girl whats up? And big up everyone. I am doing good and I hope you all too, however mi nuh like di look fi di future right now......dollar a get weak....foreclosures and ole heap a tings. Jamaica nuh betta though. Mi hear seh from laborite win everything gone sky high, and is pure killing down deh. But we have to take it as it comes, work harder etc.

And congrats kimmy, yu deserve it.

Edited November 18, 2007 by shawn99

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Wapen Shawn..were u been ?

Yow Girl whats up? And big up everyone. I am doing good and I hope you all too, however mi nuh like di look fi di future right now......dollar a get weak....foreclosures and ole heap a tings. Jamaica nuh betta though. Mi hear seh from laborite win everything gone sky high, and is pure killing down deh. But we have to take it as it comes, work harder etc.

And congrats kimmy, yu deserve it.

Thanks mi yout....Yeah man mi deh yah a chill out. Wah part a di globe u deh pon yah now ? U inna real estate ? I hear yah bout di dollars if u watch it more time u spend wah u don't have..But all in all mi gladd everyting aright wid u still

Bout di laborite ting..all mi know is mi granny a call more often now....so mi no know

Edited November 18, 2007 by kimmykashi

[shawn99 0]

Wapen Shawn..were u been ?

Yow Girl whats up? And big up everyone. I am doing good and I hope you all too, however mi nuh like di look fi di future right now......dollar a get weak....foreclosures and ole heap a tings. Jamaica nuh betta though. Mi hear seh from laborite win everything gone sky high, and is pure killing down deh. But we have to take it as it comes, work harder etc.

And congrats kimmy, yu deserve it.

Thanks mi yout....Yeah man mi deh yah a chill out. Wah part a di globe u deh pon yah now ? U inna real estate ? I hear yah bout di dollars if u watch it more time u spend wah u don't have..But all in all mi gladd everyting aright wid u still

Bout di laborite ting..all mi know is mi granny a call more often now....so mi no know

Boston mi girl, well granny betta know seh it hard every whey, but wha fi duh wi still haffi sen it sometimes. I never get to tell yu. Yu baby girl pretty more than you....lol... bway yu neva gi di man no jacket.

[SupportOAFJF 0]

Wapen Shawn..were u been ?

Yow Girl whats up? And big up everyone. I am doing good and I hope you all too, however mi nuh like di look fi di future right now......dollar a get weak....foreclosures and ole heap a tings. Jamaica nuh betta though. Mi hear seh from laborite win everything gone sky high, and is pure killing down deh. But we have to take it as it comes, work harder etc.

And congrats kimmy, yu deserve it.

Thanks mi yout....Yeah man mi deh yah a chill out. Wah part a di globe u deh pon yah now ? U inna real estate ? I hear yah bout di dollars if u watch it more time u spend wah u don't have..But all in all mi gladd everyting aright wid u still

Bout di laborite ting..all mi know is mi granny a call more often now....so mi no know

Boston mi girl, well granny betta know seh it hard every whey, but wha fi duh wi still haffi sen it sometimes. I never get to tell yu. Yu baby girl pretty more than you....lol... bway yu neva gi di man no jacket.

ahhahaa..Shawn u no easy at all...Mi granny mi will when mi can....Thanks Shawn..mi dida hope she pretty an mi..mi get mi wish...no JACKET roun 'ere sar

[clairern 0]

Welcome back Shawn, we all miss you.

[jamerican 2]

Interesting..........

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>rscheearch at Cmabrigde Uinervtisy, it dseno't

>mtaetr in waht oerdr the ltteres in a wrod are,

>the olny iproamtnt tihng is taht the frsit and

>lsat ltteer be in the rghit pclae. The rset can

>be a taotl mses and you can sitll raed it

>whotuit a pboerlm. Tihs is bcuseae the huamn

>mnid deos not raed ervey lteter by istlef, but

>the wrod as a wlohe. Azanmig huh? yaeh and I

>awlyas tghuhot slpeling was ipmorantt!

it was easier than patois for me!!!

Good tuh 'ave yuh back, Chica!!! How yuh doing?

Bless,

Gill

I am doing well....Learned a lot about myself in the last week as well as my discoveries about MR MAN. Let me rephrase that because it sounds like I caught him doing something and that wasn't it... I really learned a lot about how people react to different situations based on upbringing, culture, exposure to the world and education (or lack there of). It has been real eye opening to a person who felt that she knew what she was dealing with.....WOW was I not even close to understanding what I had gotten myself into. What is comforting is chatting with others on the board who have surprisingly the same or very similar experiences and how they dealt with it....Just not really sure if I can or if I want to. I am still going to be here ... until I know...what the hell to do. Sorry for babbling on and on but if I sound a bit confused..... I AM.

Man, I know what you mean about all the "differences". Its definitely something that comes up in my relationship alot. All I can say is to be very understanding of who he is and where he's from and what he's accustomed to, because to him those things are important to who he is. We can't blame others of different cultures for having a difference of opinion or reaction to situations than we would have. We just have to learn to understand them and to meet in the middle. As long as he is able to understand that idea also it makes those "differences" easy to tackle. Hope all works out to the best of your being. Be faithful in God and it surely will.

Thanks it may be only part of the issue but at least it helps me to understand reactions (his). And in answer to your previous question, yes after the fact we were able to discuss what happened and why....just not sure if it is a little too late. Only time will tell....

[jamerican 2]

Congrats to all who have made it through the process.... I have been off line for a few days as I am in Jamaica now and my laptop chose to freeze up on me....BUT now I have it working and thought I better check in. Good news....I the weather has been good, Bad news....I am ending my journey. I only say bad because my heart is a bit hurting now but in the long run I know this is a good thing. Kev and I had a great first 2 days together going out partying the first then out in country with his family the next then it all went to hell. Don't ask me what happened because for the life of me....I don't know. I just know that the way he handles differences of opinions it will NEVER work in the USA. He used jealousy as an excuse to cause issues between us....I beleive it was an excuse...whatever the reason... I am too old to be going though this ######. Well....I need to log off because I am not spending my last night in the hotel... Heading to a bar on the beach---no worries...I have a companion....nothing more!! Nothing like going though a breakup in jamaica!!!! always someone to make you feel betta!!!! Sorry guys...just trying to keep from crying

Oh Jamerican...my heart breaks for you . I am so sorry that you went through this.

I'm HOME!!! Thanks everyone for your support. Supposedly there is some explanation that is forthcoming as to why the jekyl and hyde performance........oh I can't wait to hear this one ... all I can say is I wasn't born yesterday. On another subject.....kinda to bring a sort of humor to my trip....so I mentioned that I was going out the last night with a companion....WELLLLLL.....lol....that companion had a OOman...who upon him walking me to my hotel....she followed.....boy did I think I was gonna have to fight a jamaican woman for a man who I didn't even want. Thank GOD she realized the person to be upset with was him so at the gate of my hotel..she started going off on him.....(cause she thought he was coming in-HE WASNT!!!!) all I did was laugh and kept walking in, leaving them behind fussing at the gate. The security with shock on his face asked me...."are you ok?" and my reply....I am perfectly fine it is them who have the problem!!! That seems to be my take on my situation...I am ok, it is him who has the problem.

more to come cause I know his excuse will be a doooozyyyy!!! stay tuned

Well all I can say is: SORRY. But it seems like di man have another woman. Him haffi try fi shake yu off. Maybe is a sugar mumma him find. Better luck next time. Speaking of luck, it start here with me. Maybe we will do better

Thanks Shawn you may be correct and time will be the teller.....Now is my time to just sit back and watch...all things done in the dark come to the light.

[JA Tam 7]

I had to share. This was in this Sunday's Lifestyle section of the Jamaica Observer:

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GIGOLO

Daddy Oh

Tony Robinson

Sunday, November 18, 2007

In faith, he is a worthy gentleman,

Exceedingly well read...

Valiant as a lion,

And wondrous affable.

Shakespeare, 1 Henry 1V

If I didn't know better I would swear that he was talking about me in the above quote. After all, I do fit the profile, even though Tatler and others never mention me in their social pages in that light. Well, on second thought, I guess I should be grateful, for next thing you know, they might link me to some romance scandal or the other.

Still, those attributes are what's needed to be a gigolo, and secretly I always wanted to be a gigolo. The dictionary defines gigolo as 'a man employed to be a woman's escort or dancing partner; a man who is financially supported by a woman not his wife.' That's the official version, and I'm sure they're sticking to it, but you and I know that there's more to being a gigolo than meets the eye, as the main function is not only to escort lonely women, but to offer sexual favours as well.

It really is a service industry and unlike women who fulfil the same function, gigolos are not looked down upon, frowned upon, or seen in a bad light. Women who do the same thing are called harlots, prostitutes, hos, tramps, trollops and other vile names. Yet, men who do the same thing are admired and even have books, poems, songs, plays and movies written about them. So many men who are players or wannabe players refer to themselves as gigolos, and with pride too.

"Honey, I can't be tied down to any one woman as I'm just a gigolo." There was this famous song by Louis Prima, 'I'm just a Gigolo,' plus countless movies such as American Gigolo starring Richard Gere and others that glorified the profession. I think that it was after I saw American Gigolo that I secretly harboured thoughts about becoming one. All those beautiful women at my beck and call, and to top it off, they would be paying me for services rendered and to fulfil their dreams.

But my desire to become a gigolo was cut short when I discovered that not only beautiful women as portrayed in the movies needed that service, but mostly middle-aged, portly, withered, ageing dowagers who required stud service. And come to think of it, that's perfectly logical, for beautiful women would have no need to pay for an escort service. Immediately I realised that I wasn't qualified for that profession, for unfortunately, I can only make love to beautiful women.

So clearly, those guys have an innate gift, to be able to squire and rise to the occasion for any type of woman that comes their way. I am far too selective and picky for that, and although well equipped to handle the job, I am certainly not equipped mentally for that job, if you know what I mean. But gigolos exist, and indeed aplenty. Perhaps the most famous throughout history were Casanova and Don Juan, but there are countless other unsung heroes, fulfilling their role in society, and you'd be surprised who utilise their services.

This practice has been going on for a long time, with perhaps only countries in Europe like Italy, Spain and France giving prominence to the profession. I just saw this movie starring Charlotte Rampling, where these ageing ladies would take their annual vacations in Haiti, way back in the 1960, and sought the services of these young, virile beach boys. They had a ball and really had a good thing going until one silly romantic lady made the mistake of falling in love with one of the gigolos.

That just mash up everything as she got jealous, caused worries, which led to murder and police business. That is the first and foremost and most important rule, never ever fall in love, not with the gigolo, and neither should the gigolo fall in love either. It's a business and should be treated as such.

Here in Jamaica we have them too, and apart from the much heralded rent-a-dreads who patrol our North Coast resort areas, there are many discreet Bald Heads or even Weaves, who earn a decent living, if not indecently. I recently read that a large percentage of tourists worldwide actually seek out different sexual partners while on vacation, and cite that activity as one main reason for visiting certain countries.

So like it or not, play hypocrite all you want, people do visit for sun, sea, sand and sex. Why do you think people flock to countries like Brazil and such? Certainly not for the museums or lecture circuit. There was a time when women actually looked forward to having their rumps pinched by those gigolos in Italy, but I suppose sexual harassment laws have put a damper on that activity.

Gigolos do fill a need, and for that reason, many young men are taking it up as a full-time profession. Many a young man now boasts of having his uptown sugar mama who caters to his every need, buys him all the clothes and stuff that he wants and gives him spending money. I know of some guys who have no permanent fixed place of abode, but live with and live off any current girlfriend whom they happen to be squiring at the time.

They also drive their cars, prompting people to wonder, "But how come Norman driving so much different car and change address so often and him not working?" That's because he's a gigolo and life is just for living.

The movies portray these guys as being debonair, swashbuckling, handsome and suave, who can charm the habit off a nun. But in reality, many are sleazy con artists who have a knack of beguiling gullible women who are in need of companionship and affection, and yes, sex. Many women would swear on a stack of Bibles that they would never succumb to this, but as one told me recently, "When you touch the wrong side of 60 and have no one to talk to, much less go dancing with or to dinner occasionally, life can be lonely." So enter the gigolo. Don't knock it if you haven't tried it.

The qualifications of a gigolo are rigid, and even though it may not seem like it, a certain amount of discipline is required. A gigolo has to be all things to all women, he has to be a tour guide, showing and explaining the qualities and beauty of the country. He has to be a protector, plus he has to be able to talk, for women do love to chat.

Basic social skills are a must, for remember, they also act as escorts, and women love to be wined and dined. They have to be well endowed and be sexual athletes, for the bottom line is a happy ending after a day or night out on the town. What's the point of being a gigolo if you can't rise to the occasion and perform like a stud on demand? And they do demand too.

Gigolos are not only paid in hard cash, but many are paid in kind, as they are allowed to live in posh homes, drive nice cars and enjoy the luxury of laps, even as they live in the lap of luxury. It's a good life if you can swing it, but don't get sick and don't get old, for there is no pension plan for the gigolo, and just like older men, older women love young younger things. More time.

seido1@hotmail.com

[clairern 0]

Hey y'all Has anyone heard from Milan? Her interview was this past Friday. I hope and pray that she was successful in her interview.

[JA Tam 7]

Hey y'all Has anyone heard from Milan? Her interview was this past Friday. I hope and pray that she was successful in her interview.

Yes, they were approved I am so happy for her. She plans to give her experience when they get back.

[Sonshyne 2]

Hey y'all Has anyone heard from Milan? Her interview was this past Friday. I hope and pray that she was successful in her interview.

Yes, they were approved I am so happy for her. She plans to give her experience when they get back.

CONGRATS MILAN

Edited November 19, 2007 by Sonshyne