Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)

[Jonesie 1]

Anyone notice we're on page 666?

[*JG* 2]

I'm not even gonna comment on other posts like I'd like to because this is absurd...for those of you who believe that every Jamaican (man or woman) just wants a woman/man to support him/her and their family, why the hell haven't you left/why did you go thru the visa process/ gotten out of the relationship (divorced) when the "signs" were clear as the sky is blue? Foolishness...

Ah, but see, that is where you are all jumping to the conclusions. If you think only the US spouse is the one with these issues, you are inferring incorrectly.

If you say so - jumping to conclusions is not something I do. I was only commenting on YOUR words and frequent posts about how your hubby's family/friends/acquaintances only call to beg and ask for things from you.

I hope that those in new relationships don't take these words to heart, because not every situation with JA/farrin relationships is like yours (thank the Lord ).

Oh, of course not all. But, to think that there aren't many like this out there is to only fool oneself.

[jawi876 2]

I did. I'm glad your post put us on 667.

[Jonesie 1]

see above

Awww damn - this ended on 667 *whew*

[rhondapayter 0]

I am still here in the yardie thread...it's just been kinda quiet and I don't have anything to discuss...I am around though.

Jamie, did you get my e-mail???

What's a dirty banana, Rhonda? That sounds yummy.

You know, I don't know for sure what goes in it, but they're so good I know there's rum cream and some kinda banana flavored liquor. I'll have to do some research!

[Jonesie 1]

Dyam duppy a tek ova mi system - sorry for dupe post

Edited November 8, 2007 by Jonesie

[Jonesie 1]

I am still here in the yardie thread...it's just been kinda quiet and I don't have anything to discuss...I am around though.

Jamie, did you get my e-mail???

What's a dirty banana, Rhonda? That sounds yummy.

You know, I don't know for sure what goes in it, but they're so good I know there's rum cream and some kinda banana flavored liquor. I'll have to do some research!

I was gonna ask what you were doing online, but I forgot they changed your shift again...hang in there - not too much longer until you go on maternity leave

[Yaads 0]

I am still here in the yardie thread...it's just been kinda quiet and I don't have anything to discuss...I am around though.

Jamie, did you get my e-mail???

Yes I will write you back later today.

Thanks for all the advice on saltfish. I have tried the local hispanic markets but no luck...we did find goat though Bring on the curry goat for Christmas! I will try a fish/meat market and see if I can get it special order. It might cost more to do that than to just ship it from NYC.

Sorrel *YUM* We will be making ours shortly after Thanksgiving. We made so much last year we were drinking sorrel at Easter

[Jonesie 1]

I still don't know what I'm making for Thanksgiving...previous years my family cooked. I don't want turkey

Edited November 8, 2007 by Jonesie

[rhondapayter 0]

Not everyone. Written Patois gives me a headache. Can't bother with it.

You are funny. Several of us have seen you in the thread early mornings. Why, if you can't be bothered? You know what never mind. Keep talking about your p whipped husband. I'm done.

I'm sensing a little hostility here

[Yaads 0]

Dyam duppy a tek ova mi system - sorry for dupe post

hehehe I was gonna ask what happened...duppy

[rhondapayter 0]

Mi see de peeps pon de MENA thread chat in Islamic/Hebrew ar whatever de dialect called. Nuff respect cuz dem hembrace de whole ting, lock, stock and barrel.

I wish there was books and CD's to learn Patois. I'd do it in a second. Tony won't teach me He only speaks proper Enlgish 99% of the time. Once in a while if I'm lucky, a few words come out in Patois. How am I ever going to learn it? I want to understand and speak it. When I go to JA, I feel left out when they speak so fast I can't keep up. Help!

[luvtravlin 0]

Umm, not sure what happened here. A few "rude statements" were made. then everyone appoligized and then words started being thrown at "Jomo's girl" or mainly at her??? and then other people who wanted to say something about "Jomo's girl" posts in the past, felt it was fine to jump on the bandwagon. Did Jomo's girl say not to talk patios in the thread? I don't see that post, maybe I didn't go back far enough to read where she made that comment. Oh and of course can't forget bad gyal nuh back down from nuttin.

carry on ladies

It's okay, Jengles. But, thanks for the sentiment.

All I said was READING Patois gives me a headache. Anyone who inferred that I said DON'T talk Patois on any of these threads did that all on their own. And, those of you who implied I don't know my man's culture or where he comes from or even that there is some agreement that we dont' speak Patois in our home, also did that all on your own. Sweeping generalizations over and over again.

Nobody said any version of this in English or patois. You have told me that you understand it and can speak it, you just don't like to read it. I don't have a problem with you not reading it, which is why I started my OWN thread. You were being nasty when you said you couldn't be bothered with my story because of it, but you are in there every day. That is what most people took offense to, and that is what made me post the way I did. Some people are tired of being told that they shouldn't post in patois, and the jokes began. Again, the jokes and suss are part of the Jamaican and African American culture. You can love each other to death, but you will slew each other with the words and jokes.

Jengles what I meant about toe-to-toe on written words was just that, not a literally coming to blows. If someone wants to be snide and rude, and I can go there too. I was tired of saying it's okay Jomo, no hard feelings taken. It seems that she would post a comment to me, and then apologize if it came off rude or harsh. I wonder if she was doing it on purpose to see if I would respond. I did yesterday, and apologized.

Daaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaag is allllll I gotta say !!! I haven't been on, haven't had the time, but whew, here we go ONCE AGAIN !!!!

So I'm confused WHERE did JOMO say she didn't LIKE your story ??? I think I missed that somewhere. I love the story so far, patois and everything and I do seem to skim over the patois parts and I think I miss what's truly being said and then I have to go back and re-read....but sitting waiting for soccer practice 3 nights a week, gives me that time. "I" don't personally speak it at all, but fully understand it being around patois for over 10 yrs!

The other comments about JOMO telling her husband this and that ..."runnin" him, ya know.... just ridiculous !!! I too, "run" my husband -if that's what you want to call it !!! He's been here for 17 months now and STILL acts like an immature child!! We've been through ALOT in our relationship and I have given him ALL the help, guidance, support, lessons to learn, tools, etc etc etc. I have been more than patient in this so called marriage. MY HUSBAND CHANGED when he came here. HE has chosen to be "stuck" in his Jamaican past with violence, rudeness, disrespect and HE has NOT once grown from the experience that he has had here.

It has been said, over and over and over again in this yardie thread.....that there are only a FEW relationships that are "still in tact" and that are truly happy, healthy, prosperous and whatever other positive words you want to use. "MY" relationship SUCKS and I DO want out and I DO want him to leave!! He KNOWS that, we've talked about it till the cows come home. He makes alllllllllllll kinds of promises to be a better man, take care of his responsibilities, be a better husband and stepfather, ladidada..... but I NEVER see that, ever !!!! "I" canNOT kick the LOSER out of my house, but he also will NOT leave on his own !!!! He tries his best to make MY life a living he&&, but I will NOT allow him to do that. "I" AM a strong woman!! My son and I are both STRONG individuals that have a very tight relationship. My son and I talk about what's acceptable and not acceptable all the time. My son asked Craig over the weekend -AGAIN- WHY has he changed so much and that he liked the guy that he knew in Jamaica and when he first came here..... Craig's response is, your mother has changed too!!! But Craig does NOT GET the reason that "I" have changed towards him and OUR marriage is that "I" caught him having a relationship with another farrin woman....went on for 9 months that "I" know about. Anyone that has read my posts in previous yardie threads knows this. I told him to GO and be with her if that is who he truly wanted to be with. "I" have caught him numerous times giving women his cell phone number (and vice/versa). He does NOT help with bills and responsibilities around the home. He has NOT once stepped up to be a supportive and positive role model to my child. We have talked and communicated our feelings, emotions, etc etc .... it works for a day and then WHAM back to being an A-hole the next !!!!

I admire ANYones relationship that works....I truly envy those that are in JA/American relationships that work !!! but they are far and few between that "I" know of !!!!

I also know that "I" will (me and my son) be absolutely fine. I do not need a man to make me feel good about myself. Craig is the one with serious and I mean serious -especially- anger issues !!!

Not everyone. Written Patois gives me a headache. Can't bother with it.

[Jonesie 1]

Mi see de peeps pon de MENA thread chat in Islamic/Hebrew ar whatever de dialect called. Nuff respect cuz dem hembrace de whole ting, lock, stock and barrel.

I wish there was books and CD's to learn Patois. I'd do it in a second. Tony won't teach me He only speaks proper Enlgish 99% of the time. Once in a while if I'm lucky, a few words come out in Patois. How am I ever going to learn it? I want to understand and speak it. When I go to JA, I feel left out when they speak so fast I can't keep up. Help!

Call me - I'll teach you

Seriously, reading it is the best start. Whether it's on this board or another Jacan board (Dancehallreggae.com or Jamaicans.com) - reading the words out loud will get you started. I think Jamaicans.com actually has a link that says some common words and phrases via Windows so you can hear the pronounciation.

[*JG* 2]

Mi see de peeps pon de MENA thread chat in Islamic/Hebrew ar whatever de dialect called. Nuff respect cuz dem hembrace de whole ting, lock, stock and barrel.

I wish there was books and CD's to learn Patois. I'd do it in a second. Tony won't teach me He only speaks proper Enlgish 99% of the time. Once in a while if I'm lucky, a few words come out in Patois. How am I ever going to learn it? I want to understand and speak it. When I go to JA, I feel left out when they speak so fast I can't keep up. Help!

Really, Rhonda? We speak it at home. Hell, I think the dog even understands cause he ONLY speaks Patois to her. Plus, we talk to lots of friends and family here and at home. I wonder if that will slowly lessen over time for us too?