Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)

[*JG* 2]

JOMO, how did you post a pic of you and your husband at the bottom of your responses? I can't figure out how 2 do it!

You are asking the wrong person. I am so horribly computer illiterate, it's not even funny. I was trying to make it my avatar and it just wouldn't shrink down enough. I think I went on my Photobucket and copied one of those boxes under my picture and by trial and error got it to work. I'm sorry I can't speak more computer speak to tell you exactly how I did it.

[*JG* 2]

JOMO, how did you post a pic of you and your husband at the bottom of your responses? I can't figure out how 2 do it!

You are asking the wrong person. I am so horribly computer illiterate, it's not even funny. I was trying to make it my avatar and it just wouldn't shrink down enough. I think I went on my Photobucket and copied one of those boxes under my picture and by trial and error got it to work. I'm sorry I can't speak more computer speak to tell you exactly how I did it.

[Jonesie 1]

no i dont think u all are getting where my anger is coming from with this please re read what i said its wrong what happen to them both however, all that was stated in this post by lilly was ALREADY SPOKEN TO WITH NICKY EVERYTHING this woman talk to nicky and they both shared their stories so what has me upset is that she joined this site to air what they spoke of PERSONALLY what is the purpose if u have already done this with nikki ????someone i need help in understa nding that this is ok

so please tell me now if i was seein ur man and we both found out we shared the same fiance etc....and me and you talk abt it in private off and on all day....then i go join the site u frequent, air it all and you havent, detail for detail and splash a foto and links to blogs etccc...how would u feel. you have to look at it that way as welll what would be the purpose now if someone can get me to understand that then maybe i can begin to see it a different way seriously im open to seein it in a different light but based on facts presented i cant right now woman to woman i would not have put her on blast like that if she had not even come to this thread to express what happen on her own i question her motives on this post

I understand all of that.

Just don't see why she SHOULDN'T have posted here just because they spoke offline?

SHe hasn't 'put her on blast', she's aiming for the MAN!!!

This thread and board are not just for Nicky, they are for everyone, I honestly cannot see a problem with what she's done.

I don't understand the bit about motives, her motives seem clear, she wants the world to know that the man is a two-timing rat.

Nicky hasn't done anything wrong, and neither is she saying she has. Just putting it out there.

If Nicky wants to continue her relationship, there is unlikely to be anyone here that will condemn or judge her for that.

telling something that we spoke personally of is putting someone on blast sorry

Well it's Lilly's business too - she was involved with the man. She has the right to speak of something that has affected her personally. I see this as just agreeing to disagree. Jalove I'm not arguing with you and I do see your point but what's done is done. Even though Lilly talked to Nicky, she is still a factor in this situation because she was dating the man that Nicky is engaged to. She cannot be excluded from all of this.

What a sinting...

[Sonshyne 2]

Hey all ... new to the Board . . . was brought here on an expected "journey" today . . .

Learned that my boyfriend is also Nicky "Salmon's" current fiance'. She last saw him in March. I met him in April and have been back to see him 3 times. He and I have been planning our future together . . . and I'm thankful that I was smart enough to make him wait a year before I filed for a Visa, or I'd be in the same position Nicky is.

Give her love and support, folks.

Wow Nikki and Lilly I am sooo sorry that you two are going thru this my heart goes out to you ladies

Know that we are here for support.

[Jonesie 1]

Aside from all of this going on - I hope that everyone has a great Thursday.

Jawi good luck at your court appearance today

[brownnskinn 0]

DID U REALLY HAVE TO POST THIS IT IS OUT OF ORDER! OUT OF CONTROL! COULD YOU NOT HAVE LEFT THAT TO A PERSONAL MESSAGE WITH NICKY WE ALL DO NOT NEED TO SEE YOUR BUSINESS THIS IS HURTFUL AND I BELIEVE UR PURPOSLEY TRYIN TO RUB THIS IN AND WHY ARE U EVEN TELLING WHERE NICKY LIVES YOUR A MAD OOMAN

Wow!!!! Jalove I completely agree with you. Nicky I am so sorry you are going through this, you are in my prayers!!! I know I'm new to this but we are all here for you.

Remember ... sometimes when in pain...we do things that don't make sense. I know I have in pain sent out crazy letters to friends and family members telling all my sh** because I wanted to hurt HIM but ultimatly it just made me look foolish. Just remember all both women (if not more) are in pain and probably are just looking for support.

Great points.!!!! Ditto! My thoughts as well!!

[brownnskinn 0]

You will always be safe here. Sistren, I know it's hard rightta now, but just know that God NEVER EVER gives you more than you can handle...NEVER!!! Thank god that you found out now, instead of later. Blessed to you my friend, Nicky and don't forget prayer is the strongest tool we have in time like these!! You are most certainly in mine!

xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo-Gill

Dat no lie she ah tell Stay strong!!!

[*JG* 2]

DID U REALLY HAVE TO POST THIS IT IS OUT OF ORDER! OUT OF CONTROL! COULD YOU NOT HAVE LEFT THAT TO A PERSONAL MESSAGE WITH NICKY WE ALL DO NOT NEED TO SEE YOUR BUSINESS THIS IS HURTFUL AND I BELIEVE UR PURPOSLEY TRYIN TO RUB THIS IN AND WHY ARE U EVEN TELLING WHERE NICKY LIVES YOUR A MAD OOMAN

Wow!!!! Jalove I completely agree with you. Nicky I am so sorry you are going through this, you are in my prayers!!! I know I'm new to this but we are all here for you.

Remember ... sometimes when in pain...we do things that don't make sense. I know I have in pain sent out crazy letters to friends and family members telling all my sh** because I wanted to hurt HIM but ultimatly it just made me look foolish. Just remember all both women (if not more) are in pain and probably are just looking for support.

im wondering why lily would join VJ today just to air this business and tell nicky business is what upset me why today? why not give nicky a chance to have aired her business on a site that she frequents daily or keep the most personal details in a PM noone need know where nicky live or that his son is coming then to say give nicky love and support? did nicky vent her issue on here to ask for love and support she didnt post abt this or was even given the opportunity hence her statement of He's telling her that we were just friends, LOL. I have photos, text messages, etc. I've shared it all with Nicky -- but she's in a quandary as to what she should i just feel it a little bit much

OK...time for me to step in on this issue.

I told Lilly and Nicky what I figured out yesterday. And, yes, Marlita, it was because of you posting her pictures that I figured it out. I know Lilly from a couple of other sites and she had posted many pictures of Corey, in the exact same shirt he was wearing in one of those pictures yesterday. I did some research on some previous postings here and there and then I went to the ladies via PM's and told them what I thought. I sent each to the respective websites to verify for themselves. Turns out, I was right. They ended up wanting to talk to one another and after asking permission from both, I gave each the other's information. From there, they are working this triangle out.

Nicky is in denial. She's invested much time, energy, emotions, and money into this relationship and she doesn't see a clear cut answer on what to do. Lilly dumped Corey immediately. I believe Lilly's post was a way of working through her feelings. She loved this guy. If you would read some of her posts, she really loved him. And, he talked words of love and of building a future right back at her. They even discussed LIlly filing a visa for him. She asked me where to start a few months ago. To add insult to injury, Nicky and he were already engaged when Lilly met Corey. She was duped from the very beginning. Anyhow, I believe her posts are her way of trying to get over Corey and this situation. And, a way to show Nicky that he did this to her too......he carried on while Nicky filed for a visa for him and talked about their wedding and their lives together. She really wants Nicky to think about what she is still contemplating. Believe it or not, Lilly took an automatic liking to Nicky and her maternal instincts kicked in. She doesn't want to see her hurt again now or in the future.

Sometimes you have to do bold things to get the point across. That's all that was. Lilly cares enough to want to shock her into really thinking about it. And talking on the phone to her did not seem to be getting this point across.

One last thought for you, Nicky, if you are reading this......if there were two of you and all his family and friends were involved.........how many more could there be out there? Think about it.

Nicky......tune out the thoughts of money and pride and really, REALLY think about this. Please.

[lillywight 0]

I'm not sure what else to say.

I posted what I posted because there's strength in numbers . . . and I feel that women should have each other's backs.

Nicky can decide to believe Corey and marry him. Or, she can open her eyes wide and SEE what kind of a man she's in love with.

I'm glad I found out now. It hasn't been easy and I've spent hour and hours crying . . . and I haven't slept all night . . . but I will be okay in time.

I just want Nicky to be okay -- and not marry a man who's a two-timing (or more) no-good, lying cheat! If she does marry him, a week, a month, a year, ten years later . . . she will be dealing with this same situation all over again.

[brownnskinn 0]

It's a shame...

[brownnskinn 0]

In my opinion, Lilly wants to show the world what he is.

If something similar happened to me, this would be the TIP of the iceberg.

I don't blame her, apart from mentioning where Nicky lives if that's something that Nicky hasn't put out there.

Can't see why Lilly SHOULDN'T post it if it's true.

I agree JaEnglish. Lilly welcome to the board and I'm sorry that you're going thru this - my prayers go out to you, as well as you Nicky.

yup....i think this happens a lot...and i really would want someone to tell me if they knew my man....and this is one of the down sides for going through this process

What bothers me is that ppl are getting upset with Lilly because she posted here, but the culprit is the "man" they both share. Why is none of the blame on him? He's the one deceiving both women (and probably even more women none of us know about). It's a shame...

no i dont think u all are getting where my anger is coming from with this please re read what i said its wrong what happen to them both however, all that was stated in this post by lilly was ALREADY SPOKEN TO WITH NICKY EVERYTHING this woman talk to nicky and they both shared their stories so what has me upset is that she joined this site to air what they spoke of PERSONALLY what is the purpose if u have already done this with nikki ????someone i need help in understa nding that this is ok

so please tell me now if i was seein ur man and we both found out we shared the same fiance etc....and me and you talk abt it in private off and on all day....then i go join the site u frequent, air it all and you havent, detail for detail and splash a foto and links to blogs etccc...how would u feel. you have to look at it that way as welll what would be the purpose now if someone can get me to understand that then maybe i can begin to see it a different way seriously im open to seein it in a different light but based on facts presented i cant right now woman to woman i would not have put her on blast like that if she had not even come to this thread to express what happen on her own i question her motives on this post

Honestly. I can see it both ways. The truth hurts and if, Lilly truely has good intentions, she felt like she wasn't gettin through to Nikki in their private convesations so maybe she thought more drastic measures were in order. All I can say to Nicky is to not act on your emotions the Bible will tell you that, stick to the facts!!! and not your feelings, pray about it and what ever u descide God will bring u through!!! I'm sorry that both of you have to through this!

JOMO, how did you post a pic of you and your husband at the bottom of your responses? I can't figure out how 2 do it!

You are asking the wrong person. I am so horribly computer illiterate, it's not even funny. I was trying to make it my avatar and it just wouldn't shrink down enough. I think I went on my Photobucket and copied one of those boxes under my picture and by trial and error got it to work. I'm sorry I can't speak more computer speak to tell you exactly how I did it.

[brownnskinn 0]

Nicky......tune out the thoughts of money and pride and really, REALLY think about this. Please.

Really.

[luvtravlin 0]

I'm not sure what else to say.

I posted what I posted because there's strength in numbers . . . and I feel that women should have each other's backs.

Nicky can decide to believe Corey and marry him. Or, she can open her eyes wide and SEE what kind of a man she's in love with.

I'm glad I found out now. It hasn't been easy and I've spent hour and hours crying . . . and I haven't slept all night . . . but I will be okay in time.

I just want Nicky to be okay -- and not marry a man who's a two-timing (or more) no-good, lying cheat! If she does marry him, a week, a month, a year, ten years later . . . she will be dealing with this same situation all over again.

ABSO-FREAKIN-LUTELY !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

WHY be mad at Lilly ??? Just do not get that at all. BOTH of these women were duped by this guy ??? Wouldn't you want to post something and help others that may be in the same situation.....shoot "I" would !!!

My heart goes out to both of you. We ALL know how much time, money, patience, etc etc goes into these relationships. I hope TO GOD that Nicky sees this with her HEAD **not** her HEART !!!! cause heart always wins.

Thanks for sharing, that's all I gotta say, thanks for sharing ---you are helping others more than you know !!!!

[lillywight 0]

Jomo's Girl . . . thanks for the love and support. You are exactly correct! Nicky's looking for some little piece of "hope" about Corey's core personality to keep him and marry him. Love is a strong emotion . . . as if pride, and my fear is that Nicky is not strong enough to walk away. I'm hurting so very badly . . . but I hurt even more to think that Nicky is hurting. She didn't deserve this either. She's a beautiful woman with a huge heart and I truly only want what's good for her. I've been down this road before. I married a cheating man when I was 28 years old . . . so I feel like Nicky is ME many, many years ago. After I married him, guess what I had??? A cheating husband!!!!!

I appreciate the private messages and support from you folks. Truth be told, I've been lofting on this site since the day I met Corey on 4/7 . . . but hadn't joined because I hadn't started the process. I would've seen these photos on my own at some point.

[StaySweet1 0]

Hey all ... new to the Board . . . was brought here on an expected "journey" today . . .

Learned that my boyfriend is also Nicky "Salmon's" current fiance'. She last saw him in March. I met him in April and have been back to see him 3 times. He and I have been planning our future together . . . and I'm thankful that I was smart enough to make him wait a year before I filed for a Visa, or I'd be in the same position Nicky is.

I've struggled all day . . . have talked to Nicky several times. He's telling her that we were just friends, LOL. I have photos, text messages, etc. I've shared it all with Nicky -- but she's in a quandary as to what she should do . . .

Give her love and support, folks. Her financial investment over this lying and cheating man is only gonna increase when she brings him and his son over here to Florida and she has to support them for a long time. I say cut your losses now, Girl!

Here's a picture of Corey and I taken in August when I was last there to see him and his family (yes -- they ALL know about me).

I am here for nothing but support to my friend who is hurting badly over this situation. Not only from being dupped by this dog, but because she doesnt want Nicky or any other women to be hurt by this man or others playing the same game. I was with Lilly on the trip when she meet Corey. He persued her like a vengence and I am aghast to find out that he was already engaged. I really cant even wrap my mind around it.

I know some are going to reply and say I am still bringing up personal info, but even though this is not my situation, i have also dated men from JA and it hits a very very personal spot for me. I can not say i have had this exact situation, but there have been uh oh times that i think many women have but tend to ignore. This has opened my eyes and I hope it opens other womens eyes that come across these recent posts that may be questioning there situation and if it helps one women make the decision to leave a bad relationship then God Bless her for she is being save from one less heartache in life.

Nicky as a women there is no judgement being passed on anyone. This is embarrasing, emotional, and very hurtful for all involved and people that love you both. We are women, we need to stand by each other, protect each other, love each other, learn from each other, and teach each other. We are the nurturers of the world and its a much better place because of women.