Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)

[rhondapayter 0]

I think one thing that always bugs me is people seem to think that once their SO arrives, all problems just disappear cause they are not together. While the LD issues disappear, new ones appear. It's a bumpy road. Worth it, I think. But, not as easy as you may envision it.

Yeah, they say the 1st year of marriage is the most difficult anyways. And that's NOT taking into account leaving your home and all your family and friends, moving to a new country, adjusting to a new culture, moving in with someone you've never lived with, and trying to find a job!

I know our first year was very difficult. There was more than one time where I didn't think we were going to make it. But it does get better! So hang in there, be patient, and learn to compromise and choose your battles.

[rhondapayter 0]

Question for those that have their SO's here AND have been here awhile........how many can say their SO "changed" when they got here?

You know I used to accuse Tony of changing in the beginning. It took me awhile to realize that we just didn't know each other that well to begin with. We had only spent time together in Jamaica - while I was on vacation pretty much and he was surrounded by family and friends and everything he was used to. Fast forward to the U.S. and I have a job to go to every day, a house to clean, dinner to cook, and I'm surrounded by MY family and friends. All of a sudden, he is the one in an unfamiliar place with no job, no family, no friends and he has to adjust to the fast pace of the U.S. We can no longer just hang out on the beach all day sipping pina coladas and Guiness and planning what club we'll go to that night Real life has kicked in and it's a rude awakening for both of us. So I think neither one of us really "changed" we just begin to see each other in different situations than we ever had before.

[rhondapayter 0]

It would be interesting to know the ages of ALL our SO's when they arrived here.

I don't know how old my guy will be when he gets here...so we'll see as time progresses.

I was 26 and Tony was 28 when he got here. We're now 29 and 31.

[rhondapayter 0]

Damien is a "label ho"

So is Tony I'm starting to think this is a Jamaican man trait!! Tommy, Nike, Puma, Timberland, ...... it's never ending! We went shopping at a huge outlet mall last spring and he was like a kid in a candy store. They had Nike, Reebok, Adidas, Tommy, Polo, Calvin Klein, everything you can think of!

[rhondapayter 0]

I think the biggest thing was going from a "vacation/no worries attitude" to a "real life/work/responsibility attitude". Andre has a hard time realizing that what people have didn't happen overnight and it won't happen overnight for him.

Yes, that's exactly what I was trying to say! And yes, that's the biggest misconception I think foriegners have of America. It's not easy and it does NOT happen overnight. Yes, there may be more opporunity here, but it takes hard work and time. Tony is finally 'getting it' now.

[rhondapayter 0]

I met Beenie Man on my way to JA last week and took a picture with him and got his autograph for my daughter. Big UP

That's awesome. I want to see the pic!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Nicky Salmon 0]

Wow well he's a good 4 years older than my husband. But I swear my huband is 50! He doesnt even have friends in their 20's. All his friends are 30something and older, even to the point where they could be our parents age!!

Corey is 28. He hangs out with older people also. I wonder what that is about. HE IS ALSO THE ONE WHO WANTS TO SAVE MONEY WHILE I AM A SPENDAHOLIC

[jamerican 2]

I LOVE HIS MUSIC....such a loss and tragedy

Reggae musician Lucky Dube was shot dead in a hijacking on Thursday in Rosettenville, Johannesburg police said.

Captain Cheryl Engelbrecht said the incident took place at around 8.20pm when Dube was driving a blue Polo in the Johannesburg suburb.

She said Dube was dropping off his son in the area when he was attacked.

"His son was already out of the car. When he saw what was happening, he ran to ask for help."

The hijackers were still at large.

The boy was too traumatised to provide police with any information, Engelbrecht said. - Sapa

http://www.zoopy.com/video_3023_Lucky_Dube...8_Oct_2007.html

See the link for a mix of his music

[rhondapayter 0]

Guess what I had for lunch at 3am? Chili-dog supreme pizza!! :energetic: I will blame it on the pregnancy cravings Everybody at work was making fun of me! It was actually yummy

[12/11/2006 0]

I saw a question that I thought would be a good one to ask here in this particular forum.

How would you feel about your SO viewing a gay porn website?

[jawi876 2]

Hey ladies...I want to post something that I read back in 2003. It is purely fictional...and I didn't write it. The author stated that she is fine with others using it. So here is goes:

New Diary of a Gigolo...

DISCLAIMER - The following in not meant to be a slur on any gigolos or is it trying to say Jamaican men are all like this...

Day 1

Wake up to alarm clack a ring.

Cho man, if mi neva know seh mi haffi gwaan like mi ago miss dis fool fool gyal, mi woulda neva a wake up dem ungodly hours jus fi go a airport fi mek sure diss fool fool gyal send mi some money afta shi gaan...An mi cyaa tek di false crying ting...

Haffi put an mi best suit a close, mi waa har fi memba mi ina dis bess light...

Cho, mek mi run go ova Miss Myrtle yaad fi tief coupla har rose dem, mek mi gie di gyaal..

'Mass Charlie, draap mi outa airport nuh man, mi nuh have nuh money fi pay yuh now, but juss wait outside, a she gaan mi come pay yuh.'

At the aiport

'Dawlin, we may have been together for just a few nights, but you have touched my soul' Lawd gad, mi hope lightning nuh strike mi dung

Her-'Oh Romeo darling, I really don't to go, I want to stay here, I don't care if we don't have money, I just want to be with you'.

Me -'Darling, you know I feel that way too...please stay..' But kiss mi behine, a waa di xxxxx du dis chupid gyal, a mad shi muss mad..hurry up gwaan back goh fine mi some dallas, afta mi nuh mad

Her-'Baby, you know I have to go...'

Me -'If that's what you have to do, I can't stop you, I will count the days until you return.' Gyal, GWAAN NUH MAN

Cho, is why mi wear mi nice white shirt dowe...look how dis gyaal a dutty it up wid har cow bawlin...

Her - 'Darling, here's all my leftover money..'

Me - 'Baby, how many times do I have to tell you I don't want anything from you..'A hope dis gyal nuh spend aff har money an nuh lef none fi mi, is how it look so likkle bit, cho man

Her - 'Darling, I insist, you don't have to prove anything to me.'

Me - 'Baby, you know I love you'. tekking di money, bwaay a dis alone she a come gie big man....she a diss...but is alright, as she reach she haffi guh sen more...

Bwaay mi tink di fool fool gyal neva dida badda go home...mek mi juss walk go rouna arrivals likkle, neva know mi luck...

Rahtid, is how mi so lucky si waan gyal deh, fresh affa di plane...mek mi si a who shi come wid...lawd, it look like a juss shi...my time noe fi rope een..

Me- 'Welcome to Jamaica, beautiful.' mi nuh really like when dem fat so, but at least shi nuh big lakka some mi si

Her-'Um thank you.' oooh he's not bad looking, I wonder if it's true what they say about these Jamaican men

Me -'I was just here sending off my younger sister to the States, and it was as if God told me not to go so soon.' Dis ya lyrics wicked, muss ketch har

Her-'I don't know what to say.' Looks like I've pulled, but maybe he's just after my money or just wants sex...

Me -'Where are you staying, I might be able to give you a ride..' mi hope a Negril she a go, if shi seh yes, ar mi goose cook, shi naah go come man, shi ago fraid..

Her-'My hotel has arranged a ride, I'm fine.I'll be staying in Negril.' Wasn't that sweet of him to offer, but no way would I go with someone I just met..

Me -'It's very hot in here, can I buy you a drink...I'm sure you'd enjoy a cold Red Stripe..' Is how dis gyaal a sweat like hag....mi fraid she faint wey pan mi...

Her-'Yes please, I'd love one, here's the money..' Let's see what happens, if he takes it, he's after money..

Me -'Here in Jamaica, if we offer you a drink, we pay for it, I'll get it now..don't you go away...' Da US money deh woulda du mi good ya nung, but mi haffi play di game, nuh worry, mi wi soon tek yuh money

Her-'Oh I'm sorry, oh no, I have to go, there's my bus now...' Hope he asks me if he can see me again...

Me -'Can I meet up with you real soon, I can't let you just walk away..' Dis gyaal is just ripe fi mi, afta shi cyaan ramp wid mi

Her-'I'm staying at the Beach hotel.' oooh he wants to meet up with me....yessssss

Me -'Shall I come and pick you up at 5, then I can take you out for dinner.' Mi hope seh anno nuff shi nyaam ar a bruk she ago bruk mi

Her-'Ok..' He's offering to buy me dinner, he MUST be ok then...

TO BE CONTINUED...............

Jawi...dat did wickid!!! Thanks for sharing.

Hey ladies...I want to post something that I read back in 2003. It is purely fictional...and I didn't write it. The author stated that she is fine with others using it. So here is goes:

New Diary of a Gigolo...

Yes, I've read that one too. It's actually a really good story w/ a very surprising ending. Great author The crazy thing is that these guys DO exist. I think every single woman travelling to JA should have to read this story on the plane ride down!

I'm going to post it in a separate thread...because I agree that every woman traveling abroad should read it. Rhonda...I think you should pierce early too. I got mine at about 7 or 8 and I was traumatized. I never wanted to pierce another thing. I have seen mothers holding their babies at Walmart to get the piercing done. The baby girl is nursing from her bottle...then lets out this loud shrill...then it's over.

[nannygirl82 0]

I saw a question that I thought would be a good one to ask here in this particular forum.

How would you feel about your SO viewing a gay porn website?

hhhmmm interesting topic......well not to really go into it...but he has viewed porn sites....it really bothers me a lot....even more so know cause i am preggo and you know things are changing....but a gay porn site.....i think i would stick me head in the oven....

[jawi876 2]

I saw a question that I thought would be a good one to ask here in this particular forum.

How would you feel about your SO viewing a gay porn website?

I would be highly upset. DL brothers are all over Atlanta...and there would just be no explaining why he is on a gay porn site.

My ex had a HUGE addiction to girlie sites...magazines...DVDs...you name it. I pulled the brakes when my 12 year old (then 8) found a magazine page advertising all these different ghetto girl sites and movies sitting in plain sight on the computer desk. He couldn't understand why I was so upset about him finding it! Whaattt????!!!!

[Sonshyne 2]

MY HUSBAND FINALLY GOT A DATE (NOVEMBER 13TH @ 1 PM). I LOVE YOU GUYS. BIG UP TO FATHER GOD, FAMILY, VJ MEMBERS & SENATOR JOHNNY ISAKSON! I HAVE ALREADY SCHEDULED KEVIN'S MEDICAL. THIS IS SO SURREAL. WE ARE CELEBRATING OUR FIRST WEDDING ANNIVERSARY ON SATURDAY, OCTOBER 20TH. I AM OFF TO JAMAICA ON FRIDAY. I AM SO EXCITED!!!!!!!!!!!!

Congrats Have a safe trip.

Congrats

Happy Anniversary

Safe travels to you

[Sonshyne 2]

Congrats on your Visa Approval JALOVE :dance:

Edited October 19, 2007 by Sonshyne