Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)

[JA Tam 7]

Good one nannygirl!

[JA Tam 7]

So yesterday............The limited the race to 50 guys. Butt ugly shoes. Do men actually see us as wearing such ugly shoes? One guy had zebra striped KISS boots.

They taped the shoes on to try and limit casualities. Made them sign all kinds of waivers.

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10 groups of 5 men raced. Whittled the winners down to 2 groups of 5. Whittled down to 2 guys. The prize....4 front row Hanna Montana tickets and 4 back stage passes. (BTW....whoever commented on the Jonas Brothers in a previous post....they are the opening band.)

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Andre won his first race. Lost the 2nd. At least he didn't fall, dive on the concrete, or lose a shoe like some men. And, he got a free t-shirt.

I have never laughed so hard in my entire life. (Ah, the things we do for our kids!)

JG...Thanks for sharing. That was too cute

[jamerican 2]

How old was he when he got here?

It would be interesting to know the ages of ALL our SO's when they arrived here.

I don't know how old my guy will be when he gets here...so we'll see as time progresses.

Craig was 27 ....now 28.....going on 10 !

Wow well he's a good 4 years older than my husband. But I swear my huband is 50! He doesnt even have friends in their 20's. All his friends are 30something and older, even to the point where they could be our parents age!!

Yeah...Kevin is 24 but he too doesn't have friends his own age...actually doesn't have many friends at all. His best friend is his uncle who is in his 50's. He IS imature in some area's (PHONE!!!!! ) but in other areas he surprises me.... time will tell

[JA Tam 7]

Ok, so I had just finalized my divorce in October 2006, after 8 years of marriage 2 actually married and 6 years of 'trying' to make it work separately. I swore I would NEVER EVER get married again. That was just NOT for me!

My family had planned a trip back to JA for my Godparent's 50th Anniversary, in November 2006.

I was staying at a hotel near MoBay and Ken worked there! He said 'Hi' my first day there and I grumbled 'Hi' back and kissed my teeth at him...Surprisingly, he laughed at my response. I was so anti-love and men at that point. I didn't want to hear it. Everyday, he would find me and make sure to say 'Hi' or ask me 'How I was doing?' (Most days I'd just give him the death stare and tell fi leave me alone) Well, he asked me to go to dinner with him, I laughed at first, then realized I hadn't really gone out since I had gotten to Mo Bay, I agreed. We went to the Ville and the Pelican for a Wacky Wednesday party and danced the night away! I hadn't had such a good time in YEARS!!

We went to Coral Cliff the next night and just talked until I missed ther darn bus back to the hotel. And we went out the night after that! I really started to warm-up to him and enjoyed his company, sense of humour and his passion to do better in life!

He told me I would marry him on the the day I left and I just laughed in earnest then.

We exchanged numbers and I went home. We've spoken every single day since. Sometime around Christmas we realized that we had fallen in love and I was scared witless! I went down to JA in February and had a really good time with Ken again. Then I went back to JA. with my sons in June, (I needed to make sure that they would get along with him.) And the last night I was there he asked me to marry him and surprisingly ...I said yes!!

I actually started thinking about filing for him in December, but took my time and made sure it all clicked. I did. I have never been so happy. I have finally found my soulmate. I didn't believe in that ####### before, but little by little this man broke the wall around my heart and showed me what TRUE love is, and for that I am forever grateful and thank God EVERYDAY for blessing me with such a good, kind, motivated, and sincerely sweet man.

So I say all this to say...Never say never...cause you never know what Jah has in store for you!

Blessings ,

Gill

Gill, that was so sweet...I hate love stories, but unnu getting mi all mushy inside . By the way, I LOVE THE PELICAN!!! It holds such good memories of when I would go down to Hanover to visit my grandparents with my parents. We always used to stop there for breakfast on Saturday mornings.

[nannygirl82 0]

Marie so sorry for your loss.....

marlita....yup he has a job...one that doesn't pay that well but still it is a job...and he too is a label hoe....drives me crazy cause i am not like that so i don't understand that at all....but we are trying to work at it....

[JA Tam 7]

Hey ladies...I want to post something that I read back in 2003. It is purely fictional...and I didn't write it. The author stated that she is fine with others using it. So here is goes:

New Diary of a Gigolo...

DISCLAIMER - The following in not meant to be a slur on any gigolos or is it trying to say Jamaican men are all like this...

Day 1

Wake up to alarm clack a ring.

Cho man, if mi neva know seh mi haffi gwaan like mi ago miss dis fool fool gyal, mi woulda neva a wake up dem ungodly hours jus fi go a airport fi mek sure diss fool fool gyal send mi some money afta shi gaan...An mi cyaa tek di false crying ting...

Haffi put an mi best suit a close, mi waa har fi memba mi ina dis bess light...

Cho, mek mi run go ova Miss Myrtle yaad fi tief coupla har rose dem, mek mi gie di gyaal..

'Mass Charlie, draap mi outa airport nuh man, mi nuh have nuh money fi pay yuh now, but juss wait outside, a she gaan mi come pay yuh.'

At the aiport

'Dawlin, we may have been together for just a few nights, but you have touched my soul' Lawd gad, mi hope lightning nuh strike mi dung

Her-'Oh Romeo darling, I really don't to go, I want to stay here, I don't care if we don't have money, I just want to be with you'.

Me -'Darling, you know I feel that way too...please stay..' But kiss mi behine, a waa di xxxxx du dis chupid gyal, a mad shi muss mad..hurry up gwaan back goh fine mi some dallas, afta mi nuh mad

Her-'Baby, you know I have to go...'

Me -'If that's what you have to do, I can't stop you, I will count the days until you return.' Gyal, GWAAN NUH MAN

Cho, is why mi wear mi nice white shirt dowe...look how dis gyaal a dutty it up wid har cow bawlin...

Her - 'Darling, here's all my leftover money..'

Me - 'Baby, how many times do I have to tell you I don't want anything from you..'A hope dis gyal nuh spend aff har money an nuh lef none fi mi, is how it look so likkle bit, cho man

Her - 'Darling, I insist, you don't have to prove anything to me.'

Me - 'Baby, you know I love you'. tekking di money, bwaay a dis alone she a come gie big man....she a diss...but is alright, as she reach she haffi guh sen more...

Bwaay mi tink di fool fool gyal neva dida badda go home...mek mi juss walk go rouna arrivals likkle, neva know mi luck...

Rahtid, is how mi so lucky si waan gyal deh, fresh affa di plane...mek mi si a who shi come wid...lawd, it look like a juss shi...my time noe fi rope een..

Me- 'Welcome to Jamaica, beautiful.' mi nuh really like when dem fat so, but at least shi nuh big lakka some mi si

Her-'Um thank you.' oooh he's not bad looking, I wonder if it's true what they say about these Jamaican men

Me -'I was just here sending off my younger sister to the States, and it was as if God told me not to go so soon.' Dis ya lyrics wicked, muss ketch har

Her-'I don't know what to say.' Looks like I've pulled, but maybe he's just after my money or just wants sex...

Me -'Where are you staying, I might be able to give you a ride..' mi hope a Negril she a go, if shi seh yes, ar mi goose cook, shi naah go come man, shi ago fraid..

Her-'My hotel has arranged a ride, I'm fine.I'll be staying in Negril.' Wasn't that sweet of him to offer, but no way would I go with someone I just met..

Me -'It's very hot in here, can I buy you a drink...I'm sure you'd enjoy a cold Red Stripe..' Is how dis gyaal a sweat like hag....mi fraid she faint wey pan mi...

Her-'Yes please, I'd love one, here's the money..' Let's see what happens, if he takes it, he's after money..

Me -'Here in Jamaica, if we offer you a drink, we pay for it, I'll get it now..don't you go away...' Da US money deh woulda du mi good ya nung, but mi haffi play di game, nuh worry, mi wi soon tek yuh money

Her-'Oh I'm sorry, oh no, I have to go, there's my bus now...' Hope he asks me if he can see me again...

Me -'Can I meet up with you real soon, I can't let you just walk away..' Dis gyaal is just ripe fi mi, afta shi cyaan ramp wid mi

Her-'I'm staying at the Beach hotel.' oooh he wants to meet up with me....yessssss

Me -'Shall I come and pick you up at 5, then I can take you out for dinner.' Mi hope seh anno nuff shi nyaam ar a bruk she ago bruk mi

Her-'Ok..' He's offering to buy me dinner, he MUST be ok then...

TO BE CONTINUED...............

Jawi...dat did wickid!!! Thanks for sharing.

[JA Tam 7]

Hi everyone,

Everything is going good with me and SO. He is already starting to get a little depressed about not finding work but I just keep telling him to hang in there. We went to the SSA office on the 16th so hopefully he will get a card soon so that he can work. I haven't read anything beyond this page so if anyone was asking me something directly you should PM me the quest as i have gotten a few already. When I left we were on page 536 and now we almost on 600.....can't read all of that.

Welcome back Shonnie. Good to see you online. I know exactly what you mean. Hubby has been here for 4 days and he is already obsessing about work. We went to visit one of the suppliers of the company he worked for in Jamaica and they are already putting the word out for him to get a job. They have already made a few calls for him and took us for lunch today. It was nice, almost felt like visiting family. He has a few prospects and one that we are particularly interested in, we are going to wait to visit after he gets the SSC. Good luck to you and SO.

Just to comment on how these antics may continue when your SO gets here...I think thats all well and true cause just cause they get to the US doesnt mean that they are all of a sudden "American" and checked their Jamaican identity at the door.

I think the adjustment is better depending on how un-selfish your SO is, and how much they are willing to compromise with you. I sometimes think that we as Americans are so used to many people of different countries and cultures coming here or living here but we like the fact that those people "melt" into our pot rather than just get "tossed" in. So don't hold on to the idea that he will be the same way when he gets here. Let him know how you feel and how the two of you should begin working on your compromising skills now cause you are both coming from 2 different cultures and societies so BOTH your ideas and notions are valid and correct its just that they dont always agree with each other. You can't really bash him for having a different opinion than you cause his opinion is all he knows.

So as far as how you would like to raise your kids, you may just have to compromise and in some ways raise them the way he would like also. I think these are all just the BASIC concepts that come into a marriage whether from 2 different cultures or not. I think some of us on here have more problems cause of how fast the marriage came before the discussion of these types of compromises....so you just have to work a bit harder in the beginning. Its all about respect and understanding of one anothers culture in the end.

Marlita, very good points and I must agree with what you have to say on the issue

[JA Tam 7]

Well good Lord does he have a job? Does he say these things cause he expects you to buy them for him. I find this to be a Jamaican trait. LOL. I thik it comes from the misperception of how much money American make or have.

I wish that you would not make such statements to generalize us . My husband is not like that and as a Jamaican woman, I am not either. I understand the value of a dollar and work hard for it. Neither myself, my husband nor my family expect a handout from anyone. If these are the people that you are associating with, please speak on that, but don't lump us all into a bunch like that.

[JA Tam 7]

Hi guys.

I don't mean to bring any bad news but my uncle was killed yesterday and his killer is still on the loose.

Please keep me and my family in your prayers.

Marie

My Uncle - Alvin "Texas" Smith

Marie, I am so sorry for your loss. You will be in our prayers

-Tam

[brownnskinn 0]

Husband: "Stuups ..... No! All night long di damn woman just deh deh a twis up, twis up mi rass ears dem".

lol

[MSNELLY 0]

I KNOW I MUST NIP IT NOW, ITS LIKE WHEN HE CALL AND I DONT ANSWER HE CALL RIGHT BACK AND BACK HECK I WORK 2 JOBS A SISTA BE BEAT SOME DAYS

Fi real, you must be tired Girl you need a serious spa day. You let him have it, shock him into being more considerate. As hardworking as you are, you need some serious rest. Has he always been like this?

NAW HE HAVENT BUT HE SAID LATELY WHEN HE CALL I DONT ANSWER BUT I JUST BEEN REALLY BUSY MY AUNT WAS IN THE HOSPITAL AND DR WAS SAYING SHE HAVE A 50/50 CHANCE OF LIVING SO I WAS SITTING BEDSIDE WITH HER AND MY JOB IS STRESSFUL ENOUGH AND HE KNOW THIS BUT HE IS ONLY MAKING IT BAD FOR HIS SELF

How is your Aunt? I hope she is doing much better. He needs to help you relieve stress, not add to it. Nuh mind, he will do better.

My aunt is doing much better thanks for asking the Dr coundlt beleive she recover so well,the only thing is her speech is affect a lil but overall she is back to her self thank god!!!!!!!!!!! .I tell u prayer works!!!!!!!!!

Edited October 19, 2007 by MSNELLY

[Marlita 0]

Well good Lord does he have a job? Does he say these things cause he expects you to buy them for him. I find this to be a Jamaican trait. LOL. I thik it comes from the misperception of how much money American make or have.

I wish that you would not make such statements to generalize us . My husband is not like that and as a Jamaican woman, I am not either. I understand the value of a dollar and work hard for it. Neither myself, my husband nor my family expect a handout from anyone. If these are the people that you are associating with, please speak on that, but don't lump us all into a bunch like that.

Oh Lord girl you are trippin'. You may want to re read my post cause I didnt say ANY of those things you just mentioned...so all those :angry: are unnecessary. I was just stating that....aw heck it really don't matter.

[rhondapayter 0]

So yesterday............The limited the race to 50 guys. Butt ugly shoes. Do men actually see us as wearing such ugly shoes? One guy had zebra striped KISS boots.

They taped the shoes on to try and limit casualities. Made them sign all kinds of waivers.

Those pics are just priceless!! And the duck tape just makes them look even more comical!

[rhondapayter 0]

Hey ladies...I want to post something that I read back in 2003. It is purely fictional...and I didn't write it. The author stated that she is fine with others using it. So here is goes:

New Diary of a Gigolo...

Yes, I've read that one too. It's actually a really good story w/ a very surprising ending. Great author The crazy thing is that these guys DO exist. I think every single woman travelling to JA should have to read this story on the plane ride down!

[rhondapayter 0]

So as far as how you would like to raise your kids, you may just have to compromise and in some ways raise them the way he would like also.

Its all about respect and understanding of one anothers culture in the end.

I know one of the "issues" my friend had when they had their baby was that he wanted to pierce her ears immediately after baby was born and she was totally against the idea. I guess it's very typical for little babies to get ears pierced in JA right away. Well, it was a big argument and they didn't do it. Now the baby is over 2 yrs. old and she wishes she would have gotten them done when she was a baby! Now she's at the age where she'll play with them or pull them out etc..

What do you ladies think? Since I'm having a girl, I'm sure this is going to come up soon in my house!