Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)

[rhondapayter 0]

OK....Nanny....was Shawn saying a friend or relative, maybe even an ex, of your SO just appears in the states? Is that the warning? I'm still a little fuzzy on what is being said.

He's saying if your husbands babys mother suddenly moves to the U.S. wouldn't you be worried/concerned? I know I would be. Tony has 2 kids with the same JA woman and even though she's a witch and they always cuss each other out, I still worry. He obviously liked her at one point!

[rhondapayter 0]

One of the things that it stated is how Jamaicans are more straight to the point. They dont let you down easy. But Americans dont like to be told "no", and need negative things sugar coated to them first even if it is the cold hard truth.

Yes, this is sooooo true! Of course I want Tony to be honest with me all the time. But I've learned do not ask him "Do I look fat in this" unless you really want to hear the TRUTH! I made the mistake of asking him the other day if I looked pregnant from behind! He said "well, yes. your hips and butt have spread out" Oh my gosh, I shouldn't have asked!! He said "well you ARE pregnant!"

[rhondapayter 0]

The sad part is that not all international relationships/marriages end because the immigrant partner got their greencard. However, just because it is that type of relationship, any other normal relationship issues will take a backseat to the perceived notion that the immigrant partner look for papers only. The divorce rates in America are astonishing between two American citizens. So, why can't the international relationships end for the same reasons? Why does the unfortunate demise of these relationships get pigeon-holed into one catergory? Why can't it be that the two realized that they were just not compatible living together, although they tried everything to keep their love in the forefront?

AMEN

[rhondapayter 0]

They went on and on about their fine "boyfriends" and everything that happened on the trip. I asked how long that had been with their boyfriends...and all of them admitted that this was their first trip to Jamaica. When I asked them how they dealt with the attention from gigalos...they all looked at me like I had two heads and said what gigalos?

Oh boy I can already see how this is going to end. It's sad but I see it happen all the time while I'm down there. Last time, a guy on the beach was trying to get ME to give him money - even after I pointed out my JA husband napping on a nearby lounge chair He wanted me to sneak him $20 so he could get home. I told him to take a Juta bus or route taxi and no way would it cost him $20! That got rid of him!!

[rhondapayter 0]

Some people in Jamaica love their life and would never want to leave and they only reason they would leave would to be with their spouse. If their spouse left them some would go back to Jamaica.

Yes, I agree with this Even though in my opinion, life is better here, Tony was happy in JA and originally never wanted to move here. (Especially when I told him how cold it is in the winter!) He would definately go back if we split up - we've talked about it before. That's where his family is. Even though he has some friends here now, it's just not the same. He LOVED his job that he had when I met him and he liked having family and cousins and friends around all the time. Also, just the whole laid-back atmosphere.

Although it's funny, the last couple times we were down there, he was getting impatient with how slooooow everything is done And how bad the roads are compared to here!!

[rhondapayter 0]

Oh, I am getting so miserable My back is hurting so bad and my feet and ankles are so swollen half of my shoes won't fit! I can't get comfortable at all. Then I had my U.S. today and my cervix is changing which is not good. I'm supposed to take it easy, but that's easier said than done. And to top it off, Tony is leaving today to go to Ohio for work He'll be down there for about a month and come home on the weekends. 9 1/2 weeks to go

[nannygirl82 0]

Hello.

Is anyone watching the Biggest Loser? They're in JA...Negril I think...I'm homesick

i know me too...when i saw the plan land i was thinking i wish that was me.....

[nannygirl82 0]

Oh, I am getting so miserable My back is hurting so bad and my feet and ankles are so swollen half of my shoes won't fit! I can't get comfortable at all. Then I had my U.S. today and my cervix is changing which is not good. I'm supposed to take it easy, but that's easier said than done. And to top it off, Tony is leaving today to go to Ohio for work He'll be down there for about a month and come home on the weekends. 9 1/2 weeks to go

jus try to keep calm and relaxed...light some candles...listen to some relaxing music.....watch a funny movie....anything to keep yourself calm....

[jawi876 2]

Hello.

Is anyone watching the Biggest Loser? They're in JA...Negril I think...I'm homesick

I tivo'd it, and watched it last night. I kept rewinding the part when they flew in and showed Sangsters...I was so happy/sad to see it.

[jawi876 2]

They went on and on about their fine "boyfriends" and everything that happened on the trip. I asked how long that had been with their boyfriends...and all of them admitted that this was their first trip to Jamaica. When I asked them how they dealt with the attention from gigalos...they all looked at me like I had two heads and said what gigalos?

Oh boy I can already see how this is going to end. It's sad but I see it happen all the time while I'm down there. Last time, a guy on the beach was trying to get ME to give him money - even after I pointed out my JA husband napping on a nearby lounge chair He wanted me to sneak him $20 so he could get home. I told him to take a Juta bus or route taxi and no way would it cost him $20! That got rid of him!!

I have talked to a lot of men that have decided on this way of life in Ochi...of course most are gone now (some moved away to Kingston...got greencards...got ship work...or were actually murdered ). After the inital approach and me letting them know that it wasn't going down...we actually had some very enlightening conversations. I have watched some of them "work" and watched the women come and go...and be replaced by other women sometimes on the same trip. The men often have several women at one time that live in the US or Canada or the UK. I have tried talking to some of the ladies...but to no avail. It is amazing how defensive women can get when potential love is threatened. I don't try to tell the women that their relationship is not real...just try to have casual conversation about the possibility of meeting a hustler...and I get treated like I'm a man thief or something. The hustlers that I got to know over several trips, looked out for me, and let the "newbies" know that I wasn't buying. LOL

I have not had the best experiences in Jamaica either. I have almost been raped...three times. I have been called a lesbian...you name it. Some of the men can't believe that a woman (single or married) would return again and again and not be looking for the "hood". At one point, my bad experiences just trying to come to a place that I loved outweighed the good experiences and I made up my mind never to return. I am still deathly afraid of using a taxi driver that I don't know (even if a friend recommends them)...I won't do jet ski rides that require alone time with the guy...and will not visit the beach alone at dusk. Other than those precautions...I decided not to let a few bad mind people ruin something that truly brings me joy and peace in my life.

The guys I met years ago were much more civil and respectful...and actually respected me when I gave them a polite no...but was always open to conversation. The guys now are a lot more aggressive and angry and hostile....a fuse waiting to blow. So, I mind my business now and I don't talk to the women that are love interests at all now or the hustlers after the initial not interested.

[jawi876 2]

Oh, I am getting so miserable My back is hurting so bad and my feet and ankles are so swollen half of my shoes won't fit! I can't get comfortable at all. Then I had my U.S. today and my cervix is changing which is not good. I'm supposed to take it easy, but that's easier said than done. And to top it off, Tony is leaving today to go to Ohio for work He'll be down there for about a month and come home on the weekends. 9 1/2 weeks to go

Awwwww puttus...nuh fret mi gyal. Yuh fe tek dis time and easy yuhself...pick yuh battles. If you normally handwash dishes...use the dishwasher. If you normally fold laundry in the laundry area...fold while sitting in bed or watching tv. Use the vaccuum attachments to dust higher areas instead of your regular duster. Put your feet up as much as possible at work. You are in my prayers.

[*JG* 2]

Hello.

Is anyone watching the Biggest Loser? They're in JA...Negril I think...I'm homesick

I saw that. I was cracking up.

[*JG* 2]

They went on and on about their fine "boyfriends" and everything that happened on the trip. I asked how long that had been with their boyfriends...and all of them admitted that this was their first trip to Jamaica. When I asked them how they dealt with the attention from gigalos...they all looked at me like I had two heads and said what gigalos?

Oh boy I can already see how this is going to end. It's sad but I see it happen all the time while I'm down there. Last time, a guy on the beach was trying to get ME to give him money - even after I pointed out my JA husband napping on a nearby lounge chair He wanted me to sneak him $20 so he could get home. I told him to take a Juta bus or route taxi and no way would it cost him $20! That got rid of him!!

I have talked to a lot of men that have decided on this way of life in Ochi...of course most are gone now (some moved away to Kingston...got greencards...got ship work...or were actually murdered ). After the inital approach and me letting them know that it wasn't going down...we actually had some very enlightening conversations. I have watched some of them "work" and watched the women come and go...and be replaced by other women sometimes on the same trip. The men often have several women at one time that live in the US or Canada or the UK. I have tried talking to some of the ladies...but to no avail. It is amazing how defensive women can get when potential love is threatened. I don't try to tell the women that their relationship is not real...just try to have casual conversation about the possibility of meeting a hustler...and I get treated like I'm a man thief or something. The hustlers that I got to know over several trips, looked out for me, and let the "newbies" know that I wasn't buying. LOL

I have not had the best experiences in Jamaica either. I have almost been raped...three times. I have been called a lesbian...you name it. Some of the men can't believe that a woman (single or married) would return again and again and not be looking for the "hood". At one point, my bad experiences just trying to come to a place that I loved outweighed the good experiences and I made up my mind never to return. I am still deathly afraid of using a taxi driver that I don't know (even if a friend recommends them)...I won't do jet ski rides that require alone time with the guy...and will not visit the beach alone at dusk. Other than those precautions...I decided not to let a few bad mind people ruin something that truly brings me joy and peace in my life.

The guys I met years ago were much more civil and respectful...and actually respected me when I gave them a polite no...but was always open to conversation. The guys now are a lot more aggressive and angry and hostile....a fuse waiting to blow. So, I mind my business now and I don't talk to the women that are love interests at all now or the hustlers after the initial not interested.

I was thinking that too.......in Jamaica.....even LD by phone.....they seem to be getting more aggressive. I don't do well with that in your face stuff.

[jawi876 2]

They went on and on about their fine "boyfriends" and everything that happened on the trip. I asked how long that had been with their boyfriends...and all of them admitted that this was their first trip to Jamaica. When I asked them how they dealt with the attention from gigalos...they all looked at me like I had two heads and said what gigalos?

Oh boy I can already see how this is going to end. It's sad but I see it happen all the time while I'm down there. Last time, a guy on the beach was trying to get ME to give him money - even after I pointed out my JA husband napping on a nearby lounge chair He wanted me to sneak him $20 so he could get home. I told him to take a Juta bus or route taxi and no way would it cost him $20! That got rid of him!!

I have talked to a lot of men that have decided on this way of life in Ochi...of course most are gone now (some moved away to Kingston...got greencards...got ship work...or were actually murdered ). After the inital approach and me letting them know that it wasn't going down...we actually had some very enlightening conversations. I have watched some of them "work" and watched the women come and go...and be replaced by other women sometimes on the same trip. The men often have several women at one time that live in the US or Canada or the UK. I have tried talking to some of the ladies...but to no avail. It is amazing how defensive women can get when potential love is threatened. I don't try to tell the women that their relationship is not real...just try to have casual conversation about the possibility of meeting a hustler...and I get treated like I'm a man thief or something. The hustlers that I got to know over several trips, looked out for me, and let the "newbies" know that I wasn't buying. LOL

I have not had the best experiences in Jamaica either. I have almost been raped...three times. I have been called a lesbian...you name it. Some of the men can't believe that a woman (single or married) would return again and again and not be looking for the "hood". At one point, my bad experiences just trying to come to a place that I loved outweighed the good experiences and I made up my mind never to return. I am still deathly afraid of using a taxi driver that I don't know (even if a friend recommends them)...I won't do jet ski rides that require alone time with the guy...and will not visit the beach alone at dusk. Other than those precautions...I decided not to let a few bad mind people ruin something that truly brings me joy and peace in my life.

The guys I met years ago were much more civil and respectful...and actually respected me when I gave them a polite no...but was always open to conversation. The guys now are a lot more aggressive and angry and hostile....a fuse waiting to blow. So, I mind my business now and I don't talk to the women that are love interests at all now or the hustlers after the initial not interested.

I was thinking that too.......in Jamaica.....even LD by phone.....they seem to be getting more aggressive. I don't do well with that in your face stuff.

Me either. I have a very quick temper as well...and I have had to let loose more times than I would care to...but it seems that some of them don't recognize or respect a woman for being a lady...they only listen when you get rude and back in their face.

[SweetSugahDumplin 0]

oooh its quiet on here today !!!! hi everybody hope your all havin a great day