Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)

[JA Tam 7]

well you would think with me being preggo things with mike would be different....but nah....i installed a spy program on the computer just to see what was really going on...and well ya he gave a girl on myspace his number...and telling her that she is sexy..not sure what i'm going to do.....

First of all, I think myspace is the worst. I hate the amount of skanky people who send you questionable pictures of themselves when you don't even know them. It has to be one of the pathetic things I have ever seen.

For Mike to buy into that and do this to you saddens me. What do you think you will do? (if you need help disposing of any bodies, just give me a hollar!)

JG - I'm scared of you

[jawi876 2]

Good Morning all,

I have been reading along for two days...but mi rhaatid shoulda pain mi tuh baxside so mi nuh type hennyting. Nuff tings mi wan fe reply tuh...but mi have fe give ie a bly fe now.

[JA Tam 7]

Good Morning all,

I have been reading along for two days...but mi rhaatid shoulda pain mi tuh baxside so mi nuh type hennyting. Nuff tings mi wan fe reply tuh...but mi have fe give ie a bly fe now.

Jawi, sorry to hear you haven't been feeling well. Get betta soon, cause mi might need some laughta tomorrow.

[luvtravlin 0]

Well, until you have a child that goes through the system here..... you'll probably agree with what she said. My son has ADD (now called ADHD), but he's very very borderline. Middle school (6th through 8th grades) THE WORSE ever !!! They literally pushed him through!! I had him evaluated extensely in the beginning of this year because he was doing so poorly in school, just was struggling unbelievably (mostly because the teachers don't give a rats you know what!!). I would help him study for hours and he *knew* the material and would get into the class and totally fail.....so the pychologist tells me he has a learning disability i.e. NO long term retention. The reason being, is that from Kindergarten through 5th grade schools/teachers nowadays (well for the past 6-7 yrs) that they are taught for "short term tasks"....meaning they are NOT required to "memorize" anything before they go onto the next subject. For instance multiplication ....you do NOT "memorize" anymore. They go through the entire work in a week and if you don't know it....oh well, move on. So, when he got into 6th grade, everything he "learned" up till them....he had no memory of and basically was failing every class --that's when I had him evaluated for Attention Deficit. Then 7th grade, is a review of 6th grade...he got all A's & B's and then there was 8th grade...........shoot was THE worse because they are preparing you for high school and the "memory" of everything up to that point. My son STILL does not know (or remember) his "x" tables. He has a hard time "remembering" the flippin months of the year (in order). He used to remember the trips (and details) that we've been on..... not anymore. There is no long term memory !!

His last report card for middle school (the one that comes home in the mail -this summer) ...he got 3 D's (and one was an E, but she moved it up a point to make it a D), 3 C's and one B (in PE) and they passed him....no questions asked......nothing!!!! In our county you are not "allowed" to be passed to the 9th grade if you have any D's (or lower). I was in his middle soooo much the flippin janitors all know me. I met with his teachers on numerous occassions. It was ridiculous !!

SO, there was no way that I wanted him to go into high school ...continuing this way. I met with the Special Ed teacher over the summer and she "assured" me that Austin would have a very smooth transition. When I went to orientation the Friday before school started..."I" was soooooo darn excited to see that they DID do everything for him to make it less stressful, complicated and whatever else you wanna call it. His 1st period class has only 5 kids in it and it's called a "Tutorial", basically a refresher class and the teacher helps with ANY assignments they need help with, or questions with homework for any class. Second period, he has the Varsity soccer coach and he doesn't play....but doesn't give homework. Third period....health. Fourth/5th period Math -- double dose and 2 teachers and only 15 kids. Sixth period-English --only 11 kids and 2 teachers and then he's in Spanish Honors with only 16 kids (since he passed Spanish the past 2 yrs).

He LOVES high school, LOVES all of his teachers (so far). It has been a total nightmare up to this point! Now there's another huge incentive, he canNOT get anything lower than a C (or maintain a 2.0 or higher) grade average to play sports!!! That could also be keeping him very motivated!!!

Sorry for the long post ............but, you just wait. I can only imagine what the school system (especially public school) is going to be like in 4-5 yrs !!!!!

I can only hope that the educational system will improve in the US. Both my sisters are middle school teachers - math and science. When my sister (the math teacher) told me that the administration "encouraged" her to pass a failing student so that he can move on to the high school. When asked why she should send this student unprepared on to high school, the response was, he can't drop out in middle school, but he can do that in high school. That floored me!

Yea...the whole "no child left behind" TOTAL and absolute joke !!! I know soooo many children (boys and girls) that can read, but canNOT comprehend (my child included) what they've just read !!! I've tried eeeeverything, went to an educational center (which was great), but just couldn't afford it anymore. I've read to him since he was an infant. I'm huge on reading and read all of the time. Sunday mornings....when no soccer, let me have my cup of coffee (or 2) read and catch up!! My son asked me when he got his schedule for HS..... do I have a reading class? I said, nope....doesn't happen after middle school !!! I told him that I still want him reading every day/night and then writing a small paragraph about what he just read. Yeah, okay....when there's time and he has the energy !!

Getting off the subject a little....it amazes me.... he's up at 6:30am, school starts at 7:25am. Eats lunch at 11 or 11:30am (depending on the day). Has soccer *right* after school at 2:30pm-5pm. Now yesterday they had their 1st away game for soccer. They are not allowed to leave school, because a bus picks them up (times vary) for their 4pm game. Then they *have* to sit and watch the Varsity game. I didn't pick him up from school till 7:45pm !!! He had a small snack that I put in his bag.....but shoot, he doesn't get to really eat until he gets home !!! They have a concession stand at the HS, but it's all junk ......Unbelievable... so eating and homework is to happen ???

[jawi876 2]

Good Morning all,

I have been reading along for two days...but mi rhaatid shoulda pain mi tuh baxside so mi nuh type hennyting. Nuff tings mi wan fe reply tuh...but mi have fe give ie a bly fe now.

Jawi, sorry to hear you haven't been feeling well. Get betta soon, cause mi might need some laughta tomorrow.

Thanks babygirl! I have had a few laughs from you guys (especially wid yuh nuh knoa de Cure)... :lol:

One thing though. I was talking to my baby last night, and he was telling me about a time when him and his friends went to the river to hang out for the day. One of them made cornmeal porridge while they were swimming, and laced it with ganja. They couldn't figure out why they all started having fits of laughter until the "friend" (and I use the term loosely) admitted what he had done. My baby hasn't smoked in years...but just imagine if we were going for the medical the next day? All he was doing was enjoying a day with his bredrin. I told him about Empress' story too, and he was PISSED. He wanted to know why he was so careless. He also thought it may have been intentional if he got scared. He said he may have been looking for more time...and just didn't realize it would be a 3 year ban. It seems many of them are clueless to the process. I wish that those that were declined visas would share the real with their friends...but they can be so tight lipped about personal matters.

All this to say, it is not enough to warn them about smoking. They also have to be on the lookout for bad mind people dat hate pon dem change fe leave an go farrin. Dem also have de dangers of ganja tea and tings tuh. His own brother doesn't seem to have his best interests either...he blazes all the time...and will try to get my sweetie to try some. I think he may be upset that his brother will actually be leaving him soon, or he just doesn't think that the ganja smoking will be a big deal. I'm happy though that A is very strong willed and strong minded....he can be as stubborn as a mule in the desert. :lol:

[JA Tam 7]

Good Morning all,

I have been reading along for two days...but mi rhaatid shoulda pain mi tuh baxside so mi nuh type hennyting. Nuff tings mi wan fe reply tuh...but mi have fe give ie a bly fe now.

Jawi, sorry to hear you haven't been feeling well. Get betta soon, cause mi might need some laughta tomorrow.

Thanks babygirl! I have had a few laughs from you guys (especially wid yuh nuh knoa de Cure)... :lol:

One thing though. I was talking to my baby last night, and he was telling me about a time when him and his friends went to the river to hang out for the day. One of them made cornmeal porridge while they were swimming, and laced it with ganja. They couldn't figure out why they all started having fits of laughter until the "friend" (and I use the term loosely) admitted what he had done. My baby hasn't smoked in years...but just imagine if we were going for the medical the next day? All he was doing was enjoying a day with his bredrin. I told him about Empress' story too, and he was PISSED. He wanted to know why he was so careless. He also thought it may have been intentional if he got scared. He said he may have been looking for more time...and just didn't realize it would be a 3 year ban. It seems many of them are clueless to the process. I wish that those that were declined visas would share the real with their friends...but they can be so tight lipped about personal matters.

All this to say, it is not enough to warn them about smoking. They also have to be on the lookout for bad mind people dat hate pon dem change fe leave an go farrin. Dem also have de dangers of ganja tea and tings tuh. His own brother doesn't seem to have his best interests either...he blazes all the time...and will try to get my sweetie to try some. I think he may be upset that his brother will actually be leaving him soon, or he just doesn't think that the ganja smoking will be a big deal. I'm happy though that A is very strong willed and strong minded....he can be as stubborn as a mule in the desert. :lol:

Sometimes you hate the stubborn streak in them, but at times like this you have to appreciate it. It's the "crabs in a barrel" mentality, so sad

[*JG* 2]

Good Morning all,

I have been reading along for two days...but mi rhaatid shoulda pain mi tuh baxside so mi nuh type hennyting. Nuff tings mi wan fe reply tuh...but mi have fe give ie a bly fe now.

Jawi, sorry to hear you haven't been feeling well. Get betta soon, cause mi might need some laughta tomorrow.

Thanks babygirl! I have had a few laughs from you guys (especially wid yuh nuh knoa de Cure)... :lol:

One thing though. I was talking to my baby last night, and he was telling me about a time when him and his friends went to the river to hang out for the day. One of them made cornmeal porridge while they were swimming, and laced it with ganja. They couldn't figure out why they all started having fits of laughter until the "friend" (and I use the term loosely) admitted what he had done. My baby hasn't smoked in years...but just imagine if we were going for the medical the next day? All he was doing was enjoying a day with his bredrin. I told him about Empress' story too, and he was PISSED. He wanted to know why he was so careless. He also thought it may have been intentional if he got scared. He said he may have been looking for more time...and just didn't realize it would be a 3 year ban. It seems many of them are clueless to the process. I wish that those that were declined visas would share the real with their friends...but they can be so tight lipped about personal matters.

All this to say, it is not enough to warn them about smoking. They also have to be on the lookout for bad mind people dat hate pon dem change fe leave an go farrin. Dem also have de dangers of ganja tea and tings tuh. His own brother doesn't seem to have his best interests either...he blazes all the time...and will try to get my sweetie to try some. I think he may be upset that his brother will actually be leaving him soon, or he just doesn't think that the ganja smoking will be a big deal. I'm happy though that A is very strong willed and strong minded....he can be as stubborn as a mule in the desert. :lol:

Now, see.........this is why we need each other. I never gave anything but smoking a second thought. It never occured to me that something might be unknowingly laced.

[12/11/2006 0]

Good Morning all,

I have been reading along for two days...but mi rhaatid shoulda pain mi tuh baxside so mi nuh type hennyting. Nuff tings mi wan fe reply tuh...but mi have fe give ie a bly fe now.

Jawi, sorry to hear you haven't been feeling well. Get betta soon, cause mi might need some laughta tomorrow.

Thanks babygirl! I have had a few laughs from you guys (especially wid yuh nuh knoa de Cure)... :lol:

One thing though. I was talking to my baby last night, and he was telling me about a time when him and his friends went to the river to hang out for the day. One of them made cornmeal porridge while they were swimming, and laced it with ganja. They couldn't figure out why they all started having fits of laughter until the "friend" (and I use the term loosely) admitted what he had done. My baby hasn't smoked in years...but just imagine if we were going for the medical the next day? All he was doing was enjoying a day with his bredrin. I told him about Empress' story too, and he was PISSED. He wanted to know why he was so careless. He also thought it may have been intentional if he got scared. He said he may have been looking for more time...and just didn't realize it would be a 3 year ban. It seems many of them are clueless to the process. I wish that those that were declined visas would share the real with their friends...but they can be so tight lipped about personal matters.

All this to say, it is not enough to warn them about smoking. They also have to be on the lookout for bad mind people dat hate pon dem change fe leave an go farrin. Dem also have de dangers of ganja tea and tings tuh. His own brother doesn't seem to have his best interests either...he blazes all the time...and will try to get my sweetie to try some. I think he may be upset that his brother will actually be leaving him soon, or he just doesn't think that the ganja smoking will be a big deal. I'm happy though that A is very strong willed and strong minded....he can be as stubborn as a mule in the desert. :lol:

This is so true. My fiance did not tell anyone that he was looking about papers and all now he still hasn't told his mother that he got tru. He just told his father the day that we were approved that he was going to be leaving for awhile. I was like why are you keeping it a secret and he was like people mouth poison and there are too many bad mind people out there. I was like yeah but geesh not one person the whole 6 months? I had to respect him though because he is absolutely correct. People just don't want to see you get ahead in life (well some of them anyway). He said that he will not tell his mother until a few days before he leaves (he isn't that close to her as you can see). Yeah, but some people are just envious and hate to see others prosper. They will do anything to keep the next man behind.

[Forever Young 1]

Good Morning all,

I have been reading along for two days...but mi rhaatid shoulda pain mi tuh baxside so mi nuh type hennyting. Nuff tings mi wan fe reply tuh...but mi have fe give ie a bly fe now.

Jawi, sorry to hear you haven't been feeling well. Get betta soon, cause mi might need some laughta tomorrow.

Thanks babygirl! I have had a few laughs from you guys (especially wid yuh nuh knoa de Cure)... :lol:

One thing though. I was talking to my baby last night, and he was telling me about a time when him and his friends went to the river to hang out for the day. One of them made cornmeal porridge while they were swimming, and laced it with ganja. They couldn't figure out why they all started having fits of laughter until the "friend" (and I use the term loosely) admitted what he had done. My baby hasn't smoked in years...but just imagine if we were going for the medical the next day? All he was doing was enjoying a day with his bredrin. I told him about Empress' story too, and he was PISSED. He wanted to know why he was so careless. He also thought it may have been intentional if he got scared. He said he may have been looking for more time...and just didn't realize it would be a 3 year ban. It seems many of them are clueless to the process. I wish that those that were declined visas would share the real with their friends...but they can be so tight lipped about personal matters.

All this to say, it is not enough to warn them about smoking. They also have to be on the lookout for bad mind people dat hate pon dem change fe leave an go farrin. Dem also have de dangers of ganja tea and tings tuh. His own brother doesn't seem to have his best interests either...he blazes all the time...and will try to get my sweetie to try some. I think he may be upset that his brother will actually be leaving him soon, or he just doesn't think that the ganja smoking will be a big deal. I'm happy though that A is very strong willed and strong minded....he can be as stubborn as a mule in the desert. :lol:

This is so true. My fiance did not tell anyone that he was looking about papers and all now he still hasn't told his mother that he got tru. He just told his father the day that we were approved that he was going to be leaving for awhile. I was like why are you keeping it a secret and he was like people mouth poison and there are too many bad mind people out there. I was like yeah but geesh not one person the whole 6 months? I had to respect him though because he is absolutely correct. People just don't want to see you get ahead in life (well some of them anyway). He said that he will not tell his mother until a few days before he leaves (he isn't that close to her as you can see). Yeah, but some people are just envious and hate to see others prosper. They will do anything to keep the next man behind.

That is so true. Ken told me a few days ago, he started putting things aside that he would like to bring with him and I said "NOW!!???" He was like "Gill, when I get deh visa, I'm leaving here like a thief in the night!!" Mi nuh waan give nuhbaddy a chance fi mess wid deh runnings. Nuf badmind peeple yah suh! Mi will call dem when mi reach farrin!"

It's a shame though!

[JA Tam 7]

Good Morning all,

I have been reading along for two days...but mi rhaatid shoulda pain mi tuh baxside so mi nuh type hennyting. Nuff tings mi wan fe reply tuh...but mi have fe give ie a bly fe now.

Jawi, sorry to hear you haven't been feeling well. Get betta soon, cause mi might need some laughta tomorrow.

Thanks babygirl! I have had a few laughs from you guys (especially wid yuh nuh knoa de Cure)... :lol:

One thing though. I was talking to my baby last night, and he was telling me about a time when him and his friends went to the river to hang out for the day. One of them made cornmeal porridge while they were swimming, and laced it with ganja. They couldn't figure out why they all started having fits of laughter until the "friend" (and I use the term loosely) admitted what he had done. My baby hasn't smoked in years...but just imagine if we were going for the medical the next day? All he was doing was enjoying a day with his bredrin. I told him about Empress' story too, and he was PISSED. He wanted to know why he was so careless. He also thought it may have been intentional if he got scared. He said he may have been looking for more time...and just didn't realize it would be a 3 year ban. It seems many of them are clueless to the process. I wish that those that were declined visas would share the real with their friends...but they can be so tight lipped about personal matters.

All this to say, it is not enough to warn them about smoking. They also have to be on the lookout for bad mind people dat hate pon dem change fe leave an go farrin. Dem also have de dangers of ganja tea and tings tuh. His own brother doesn't seem to have his best interests either...he blazes all the time...and will try to get my sweetie to try some. I think he may be upset that his brother will actually be leaving him soon, or he just doesn't think that the ganja smoking will be a big deal. I'm happy though that A is very strong willed and strong minded....he can be as stubborn as a mule in the desert. :lol:

This is so true. My fiance did not tell anyone that he was looking about papers and all now he still hasn't told his mother that he got tru. He just told his father the day that we were approved that he was going to be leaving for awhile. I was like why are you keeping it a secret and he was like people mouth poison and there are too many bad mind people out there. I was like yeah but geesh not one person the whole 6 months? I had to respect him though because he is absolutely correct. People just don't want to see you get ahead in life (well some of them anyway). He said that he will not tell his mother until a few days before he leaves (he isn't that close to her as you can see). Yeah, but some people are just envious and hate to see others prosper. They will do anything to keep the next man behind.

That is so true. Ken told me a few days ago, he started putting things aside that he would like to bring with him and I said "NOW!!???" He was like "Gill, when I get deh visa, I'm leaving here like a thief in the night!!" Mi nuh waan give nuhbaddy a chance fi mess wid deh runnings. Nuf badmind peeple yah suh! Mi will call dem when mi reach farrin!"

It's a shame though!

Yu caan blame them

[12/11/2006 0]

well you would think with me being preggo things with mike would be different....but nah....i installed a spy program on the computer just to see what was really going on...and well ya he gave a girl on myspace his number...and telling her that she is sexy..not sure what i'm going to do.....

I'm so sorry to hear this. You definitely don't need to go through this especially because you are pregnant. Communication is key in this situation because as far as you know he hasn't officially cheated and maybe you wanna ask "why are you displaying interest in another person and especially at a time like this?" I would let him know that it's not acceptable at all. Does he have other children? Has he been through this process before because if its his first he should be excited about the baby and about you having the baby.

Men what do you do? Can't live it with em and can't live without em!!!

[Tricia B 0]

to me that's scary, this is one of the fears i talk with quincy about all the time in planning for children. I don't want to be permanently attached to someone through a child who's going to still be acting like he's single while i'm stuck at home. i can't tell you how many times i run scenarios by him to see where his head is at. but you never can tell.

on the other issue i too would like to raise my children in the jamaican school system, so i'm trying to plan ahead whether to do primary or high school or both, i'm not sure if i can live there due to work reasons so i struggle with the idea of possibly having them live apart from me or board, but a part of me feels it worth it.

on the birth certificate issue, since quincy lost the extra one we ordered for the k-1 process, i had to unfortunately order the 6 copies, i ordered them in late may, but luckily i already had a b & w copy of one before and used that for my aos application because i didn't get them until mid-august and that was after i emailed them asking where it was at. and they had the nerve say they've been waiting to send it but needed an address (wasn't on the order form to begin with?) so i say if you can get someone to do it in ja and then have them bring it up/or mail it, i would do it that way.

well you would think with me being preggo things with mike would be different....but nah....i installed a spy program on the computer just to see what was really going on...and well ya he gave a girl on myspace his number...and telling her that she is sexy..not sure what i'm going to do.....

I'm so sorry to hear this. You definitely don't need to go through this especially because you are pregnant. Communication is key in this situation because as far as you know he hasn't officially cheated and maybe you wanna ask "why are you displaying interest in another person and especially at a time like this?" I would let him know that it's not acceptable at all. Does he have other children? Has he been through this process before because if its his first he should be excited about the baby and about you having the baby.

Men what do you do? Can't live it with em and can't live without em!!!

[luvtravlin 0]

well you would think with me being preggo things with mike would be different....but nah....i installed a spy program on the computer just to see what was really going on...and well ya he gave a girl on myspace his number...and telling her that she is sexy..not sure what i'm going to do.....

I'm so sorry to hear this. You definitely don't need to go through this especially because you are pregnant. Communication is key in this situation because as far as you know he hasn't officially cheated and maybe you wanna ask "why are you displaying interest in another person and especially at a time like this?" I would let him know that it's not acceptable at all. Does he have other children? Has he been through this process before because if its his first he should be excited about the baby and about you having the baby.

Men what do you do? Can't live it with em and can't live without em!!!

Maturity....key word and chattin with other women --is emotional cheating, which in my opinion is way worse than the physical !!!! We could repeat it a MILLION times that it is not acceptable, still does NOT sink in !!!

[*JG* 2]

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QUOTE(Tricia B @ Sep 12 2007, 11:18 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

to me that's scary, this is one of the fears i talk with quincy about all the time in planning for children. I don't want to be permanently attached to someone through a child who's going to still be acting like he's single while i'm stuck at home. i can't tell you how many times i run scenarios by him to see where his head is at. but you never can tell.

on the other issue i too would like to raise my children in the jamaican school system, so i'm trying to plan ahead whether to do primary or high school or both, i'm not sure if i can live there due to work reasons so i struggle with the idea of possibly having them live apart from me or board, but a part of me feels it worth it.

on the birth certificate issue, since quincy lost the extra one we ordered for the k-1 process, i had to unfortunately order the 6 copies, i ordered them in late may, but luckily i already had a b & w copy of one before and used that for my aos application because i didn't get them until mid-august and that was after i emailed them asking where it was at. and they had the nerve say they've been waiting to send it but needed an address (wasn't on the order form to begin with?) so i say if you can get someone to do it in ja and then have them bring it up/or mail it, i would do it that way.

well you would think with me being preggo things with mike would be different....but nah....i installed a spy program on the computer just to see what was really going on...and well ya he gave a girl on myspace his number...and telling her that she is sexy..not sure what i'm going to do.....

I'm so sorry to hear this. You definitely don't need to go through this especially because you are pregnant. Communication is key in this situation because as far as you know he hasn't officially cheated and maybe you wanna ask "why are you displaying interest in another person and especially at a time like this?" I would let him know that it's not acceptable at all. Does he have other children? Has he been through this process before because if its his first he should be excited about the baby and about you having the baby.

Men what do you do? Can't live it with em and can't live without em!!!

Hmmmmmm..........seems like a pattern cause that was my issue with them............they said they didn't have a zip code for me. I was like....it was on the order. But, with mine, they e-mailed me to call them. Took us 3 days to even get through to them. And, then, it was just a week or so later when we received them.

[*JG* 2]

well you would think with me being preggo things with mike would be different....but nah....i installed a spy program on the computer just to see what was really going on...and well ya he gave a girl on myspace his number...and telling her that she is sexy..not sure what i'm going to do.....

I'm so sorry to hear this. You definitely don't need to go through this especially because you are pregnant. Communication is key in this situation because as far as you know he hasn't officially cheated and maybe you wanna ask "why are you displaying interest in another person and especially at a time like this?" I would let him know that it's not acceptable at all. Does he have other children? Has he been through this process before because if its his first he should be excited about the baby and about you having the baby.

Men what do you do? Can't live it with em and can't live without em!!!

Maturity....key word and chattin with other women --is emotional cheating, which in my opinion is way worse than the physical !!!! We could repeat it a MILLION times that it is not acceptable, still does NOT sink in !!!

While some of you may call me scary (and make me laugh out loud!!!), it is part of who I am. I speak my mind on EVERY issue which is important to me. I, too, feel cheating can be done in person or by electronic forms and still be cheating in every sense of the word. I have always made it abundantly clear to my husband whether he or someone else we knew did something I felt was questionable behavior, that I felt it was wrong and why. I even yelled at one of his friends cause he got me involved....had me call his US girlfriend to arrange a package delivery to him and then attempt to woo another girl at a hotel I was staying at. I told that guy off and said he better never do anything of that sort in front of me again. His girl was just too sweet to hurt like that. And, I have always made it abundantly clear to my husband that should he do anything I felt questionable, not have a good enough explanation for it, and/or not change said behavior, that I would not stand for it....I would not sit back and be hurt by him because of someone else....and there would be no second chances. I'm sorry....I love him to death and would do just about anything for him; but if he cheats or beats me, he is gone...no ifs, ands, or buts. If he can't respect me, he is not worth of me.