Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)

[12/11/2006 0]

Hubby told me that he spoke to a friend who works at Andrews Memorial (where he did the medical). She told him that they sent his medical to the Embassy today

Thats great. Moving right along

[SupportOAFJF 0]

Fi real TAM..but wi a bun Murphy's Law right now..nuttin nah go wrong..u errr..

That's right TAM..i'm just kidding around...I'm happy the starz are aligning

Kimmy, with this process mi haffi celebrate everything weh go right. Now mi nah lie yuh, mi ah pray seh dem no misplace di ting -- that damn Murphy's Law

KK, Claire - I hope you all get the BC things worked out. Them slack, even when you are there in the country, no lie

Claire,

DAt a one reason why mi never order it to be sent here..cause mi read too many horror stories..got mine delivered to mi granny took maybe 3 days..that's it !!

[jamerican 2]

never said better !!!...I can't stand it. Many times I hear "the brown girl" or the "good hair" like what makes anyone "prettier" cause dem shade dif...IT'S 2007 !!

Jena, Louisiana

This is terrible, when is it EVER going to stop..it's a little long but sooo worth the reading..just wanna share

Dyam Disgraceful!!! Everytime I read about this story it makes me SICK!!!!! I have heard about this story in the mainstream media....ONCE!!! Every other time it has been through friends and social organiztions I belong to!!!! In 2007 that this ish is still going on doesn't say much about race relations in the U.S.

But, I figured out it's everywhere!! Even in JA. where majority of the population is of African descent, they turn it around to light-skin vs. dark-skin!!! And the poor girls dem a bleach out dem pretty skin fi feel like dem worth sumting! Dyam foolishness fi real!! White people killing themselves fi get tan and black people a kill themself fi get white!! When the hell will everyone just accept themselves and each other for who they are!! <Surrrrps...kiss teet>

Bless,

Gill

and it starts early...my 7 year old daughter who is a beautiful brown came home one day last year saying all the boys like the blond girls with straight hair better than the brown girls......I am like....#######?? She is having to deal with this crazyness already??? Reason #101 why to raise her in Jamaica!!!

[jamerican 2]

ur right Gill. we talked about alot of things b4 he came, with help from the VJ fam. I saw alot of experiences posted and I'D tell him about them. He's like how u know..I say it happened to my friend

hAHAHA..I bet u do..so than can STOP callin ur darn PHONE ..ahahhaaaa

You hit the nail on the head. Solved the problem by not answering the phone anymore. On Sunday, after a particularly frustrating day, I told him if one person called and asked for money yesterday, I was going to take the (insert favorite cuss word) phone and drive over it with my car!!!!!

Yuh a turn Bad gyal now, Jomo?...you are too dyam funny! But I hear you! I already had that conversation with Ken too! "You and I shall not be working fi support the whole of your brethen dem!" He understood that much! I got..."Yuh MAD!!!" from him, but we'll see.

I really read this thread and try to explain stuff that may become an issue from now...in the hopes that we can lessen some of the problems when 'im reach! Like Bob says..."Time will tell"

Fi real!!! Last night our topic of conversation was poor Empress' issue!! He doesn't really smoke...but I wanted to reiterate...just in case! Again...I got..."Ooman,yuh Mad a who? Nuh suh, mi sorry fi deh Sistren, she deserve better than dat. But dat nuh guh reach we!!! I need fi inna deh States wid mi wife & family!!"

I am just so grateful that people here share the good as well as the bad...so others can learn from them!

LOL I got that too "No suh!!! that not mi...." bla bla bla.....all I said is...well u know mi, I no wait 4 u 3 years!!! Jus u know!!!

[rhondapayter 0]

Hey Rhonda;

What's up? I see you are on the job as am I. Just did 8 hours yesterday then went home slept for 3 hours and am back for 8 hours more. I do this night thing occasionally. I have to work the extra to make my pocket money for my trip to JA next month. I'm so excited.

Yeah, I work midnight shift. I used to just go to the go-go bar and do some topless dancing to earn my JA pocket money

[rhondapayter 0]

I heard also you can bring on labour by massaging certain pressure points, the webbing between your thumb and finger, parts of your foot.

Yes, reflexology they call it. Many massage therapists won't even touch your feet if you're pregnant! I guess they're scared of what might happen!

[rhondapayter 0]

they lock up plenty of people in this country everyday for having weed on them do they get a blood test to see if they're using? They get fined depending on the quantity and released back into society, are they still going to USE ILLEGAL drugs ?

Actually, yes, they do get drug tested. Most of them are put on probation and have to do a drug test once a month (or more) and the results go to their probation officer. If they don't show up for a test, they automatically get a warrant out for their arrest. The whole point I was trying to make is that the U.S. is not going to knowingly allow someone from another country who uses drugs to come here to live. They have enough drug problems here as it is.

[rhondapayter 0]

Yu see mi...I have no qualms to let them know that foreign not easy. My husband knows how hard I had to work before I finally finished my Bachelor's and even now. I make sure that our family know that if life was a little easier in Jamaica, I would totally come back home, because the QUALITY of life is much better!

I'm curious as to why you think this? Is it the slower pace of things? The friendly people? How do you define "quality of life"? I see how many of Tony's family and friends live down in JA and I could never live that way. I'm just curious.

[rhondapayter 0]

Yuh dyam right...again!! Preach, Preach Sis! I would move home inna heartbeat if I couldda live inna JA deh life I live 'ere! I always seh I would LOVE fi send mi pickney dem to school inna JA. Believe it on not, it is a much better educational system den the one here!

We've had this discussion on here before and I totally disagree with you. What are you basing this off of? You can get an education ONLY IF you can afford to pay for school, pay for books, pay for uniforms, and pay to get to and from school. Here in the U.S. education is free to everyone. Not to mention, the standards are a lot different. My husband went up through 10th grade and can barely read and write. Here, you wouldn't even get past 2nd grade without these basic skills.

[rhondapayter 0]

Very well said!!! Everyone is trying to do "improvements", thinking life will be better if I could have (lighter skin/longer hair/nice tan. etc). I remember when some of the "bleachers" were taking chicken pills for a bigger bust line and the J-Lo behind...

I remember Tony telling me about that That is so scary. Who knows what those pills do to human beings?!!!

[rhondapayter 0]

I used this same topic when Andre was in Jamaica....it was Jilly....um Christine James who I used as an example. I actually told him if he did that to me, I would fly down there and kill him....I didn't work this hard to get him that far to be turned away for that reason. I meant it too!

Yes, you and Mindy really do have a lot in common!!!! She told Roy the exact same thing! After she said she would cut his balls off first

[rhondapayter 0]

I hear yuh, pon dat!!! Is it a blood or Urine test? I SERIOUSLY don't think second-hand smoke will effect the result! If that were the case their would be ALOT more medical denials due to drugs...TRUSS mi pon dat!!!

It's a blood test. I don't think he'll have any problem due to 2nd hand smoke. You're right - if that were the case, No one would ever get a visa!!

[Minfay 0]

I used this same topic when Andre was in Jamaica....it was Jilly....um Christine James who I used as an example. I actually told him if he did that to me, I would fly down there and kill him....I didn't work this hard to get him that far to be turned away for that reason. I meant it too!

Yeah -- Roy knew there would be "consequences" if he didn't cross the road when he smelled it. This one was a "no-brainer" -- if we got denied because of this -- he probably wouldn't have made it out of the Embassy alive!!

Has anyone ordered copies of Jamaican Birth Certificate online? How long does it take? And how much does it cost? The website doesn't tell me much.

Jomo did -- she had a slight problem but got them pretty fast. I ordered ours on June 6 -- after MANY unanswered e:mails they finally responded and they "should" be sent out on 9/5.....nothing yet......

My two cents -- if you think you will need them in the future -- ORDER THEM NOW!!!

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Yuh dyam right...again!! Preach, Preach Sis! I would move home inna heartbeat if I couldda live inna JA deh life I live 'ere! I always seh I would LOVE fi send mi pickney dem to school inna JA. Believe it on not, it is a much better educational system den the one here!

We've had this discussion on here before and I totally disagree with you. What are you basing this off of? You can get an education ONLY IF you can afford to pay for school, pay for books, pay for uniforms, and pay to get to and from school. Here in the U.S. education is free to everyone. Not to mention, the standards are a lot different. My husband went up through 10th grade and can barely read and write. Here, you wouldn't even get past 2nd grade without these basic skills.

I went to school in Jamaica.

When I went back to England, I was shocked and amazed at how backward a lot of the people were who went to school in England.

From my own personal experience, I would say my education in Jamaica was FAR better than a lot of people in England received.

[luvtravlin 0]

Yuh dyam right...again!! Preach, Preach Sis! I would move home inna heartbeat if I couldda live inna JA deh life I live 'ere! I always seh I would LOVE fi send mi pickney dem to school inna JA. Believe it on not, it is a much better educational system den the one here!

We've had this discussion on here before and I totally disagree with you. What are you basing this off of? You can get an education ONLY IF you can afford to pay for school, pay for books, pay for uniforms, and pay to get to and from school. Here in the U.S. education is free to everyone. Not to mention, the standards are a lot different. My husband went up through 10th grade and can barely read and write. Here, you wouldn't even get past 2nd grade without these basic skills.

Well, until you have a child that goes through the system here..... you'll probably agree with what she said. My son has ADD (now called ADHD), but he's very very borderline. Middle school (6th through 8th grades) THE WORSE ever !!! They literally pushed him through!! I had him evaluated extensely in the beginning of this year because he was doing so poorly in school, just was struggling unbelievably (mostly because the teachers don't give a rats you know what!!). I would help him study for hours and he *knew* the material and would get into the class and totally fail.....so the pychologist tells me he has a learning disability i.e. NO long term retention. The reason being, is that from Kindergarten through 5th grade schools/teachers nowadays (well for the past 6-7 yrs) that they are taught for "short term tasks"....meaning they are NOT required to "memorize" anything before they go onto the next subject. For instance multiplication ....you do NOT "memorize" anymore. They go through the entire work in a week and if you don't know it....oh well, move on. So, when he got into 6th grade, everything he "learned" up till them....he had no memory of and basically was failing every class --that's when I had him evaluated for Attention Deficit. Then 7th grade, is a review of 6th grade...he got all A's & B's and then there was 8th grade...........shoot was THE worse because they are preparing you for high school and the "memory" of everything up to that point. My son STILL does not know (or remember) his "x" tables. He has a hard time "remembering" the flippin months of the year (in order). He used to remember the trips (and details) that we've been on..... not anymore. There is no long term memory !!

His last report card for middle school (the one that comes home in the mail -this summer) ...he got 3 D's (and one was an E, but she moved it up a point to make it a D), 3 C's and one B (in PE) and they passed him....no questions asked......nothing!!!! In our county you are not "allowed" to be passed to the 9th grade if you have any D's (or lower). I was in his middle soooo much the flippin janitors all know me. I met with his teachers on numerous occassions. It was ridiculous !!

SO, there was no way that I wanted him to go into high school ...continuing this way. I met with the Special Ed teacher over the summer and she "assured" me that Austin would have a very smooth transition. When I went to orientation the Friday before school started..."I" was soooooo darn excited to see that they DID do everything for him to make it less stressful, complicated and whatever else you wanna call it. His 1st period class has only 5 kids in it and it's called a "Tutorial", basically a refresher class and the teacher helps with ANY assignments they need help with, or questions with homework for any class. Second period, he has the Varsity soccer coach and he doesn't play....but doesn't give homework. Third period....health. Fourth/5th period Math -- double dose and 2 teachers and only 15 kids. Sixth period-English --only 11 kids and 2 teachers and then he's in Spanish Honors with only 16 kids (since he passed Spanish the past 2 yrs).

He LOVES high school, LOVES all of his teachers (so far). It has been a total nightmare up to this point! Now there's another huge incentive, he canNOT get anything lower than a C (or maintain a 2.0 or higher) grade average to play sports!!! That could also be keeping him very motivated!!!

Sorry for the long post ............but, you just wait. I can only imagine what the school system (especially public school) is going to be like in 4-5 yrs !!!!!