Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)

[nannygirl82 0]

Biometrics coming up on Saturday...so we need the appt letter, his passprort....anything else??

[*JG* 2]

Biometrics coming up on Saturday...so we need the appt letter, his passprort....anything else??

Nope. That's it.

That's what I was saying..........no more visitor line in immigration...........Nationals here I come!!!!!!

[missjones 0]

Does anyone here like (or know) who Gyptian is? I am listening to his song "Beautiful Lady." I know this song has been out for a while, but everytime I hear it, it makes me feel like I am at home (JA, that is.)

"She said oooohhh, and aaaahhhh, she never felt so right. I said yeeesss , oh baby, breathe on me tonight...." Just lovely.

[Jayandmars 0]

Does anyone here like (or know) who Gyptian is? I am listening to his song "Beautiful Lady." I know this song has been out for a while, but everytime I hear it, it makes me feel like I am at home (JA, that is.)

"She said oooohhh, and aaaahhhh, she never felt so right. I said yeeesss , oh baby, breathe on me tonight...." Just lovely.

He debuted (I think) with his big hit "Serious Times" which is a tuff song about the crime and socioeconomic situation in Kingston. He has a very interesting voice.

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Now to the topic at hand.

I for one don't care if a woman says 'My Jamaican husband is a dog'.

However, I take EXTREME issue with her saying 'Any Jamaican man you bring up is going to be a dog'

Because that is no longer PERSONAL experience, but a BLANKET statement!!

So while I will bite my lip when I hear some generalizations being made in what I believe is ignorance, I will not sit idly by and watch my Jamaican kings being lumped together because of someone's bad experiences.....

Of course I expect women to tell both the good and the bad, hopefully sharing will help someone else in a similar situation. I think it is of paramount importance that the 'seedy' side is shown, the horror stories.

But what needs to be remembered is that the bad in your relationship is not a trend, not a given, but a PERSONAL experience.

I derieve no pleasure from 'jumping' on people or proving they are stereotypical. All I demand is that you treat every situation as a personal experience, not a blueprint on 'What Happens When You Marry A Jamaican'....

Many of the women here are living with their families buying into the stereotype of a 'black Jamaican man' and are vocal in their outrage. Yet many here are creating their very own pet stereotype while critizing the actions of others....

I will always try to support, to educate, to help, to provide any insight I can to help people here.

But I will not sit and watch ANYONE tear Jamaicans to shreds.

Did "I" miss something that someone said???? I went back and looked and looked, but I didn't see ANYONE say that their Jamaican husband is a dog ??!!!!! If you're referring to what "I" have said in recent posts, I have never said that MY husband is a dog.....stupid sometimes (what man isn't......sorry for any of the men reading).....but I absolutely LOVE Jamaica (that's why I continue to go back, it's my home away from home), the people, ALLLLLL of my friends (male and female) and that includes my husband. Yes I have NO IDEA why he choses to do STUPID stuff withOUT thinking about the consequences....as you will SOON find out when you have a child and raise that child to be the BEST they will be and he or she turns around and makes BAD CHOICES!!!!

ALOT of the things that Craig does IS because of the way he was brought up and witnessed and lived with the situations and experiences "around" him....with the way to treat women, act a certain way etc etc. I have never ONCE said that ALL Jamaican men (or women) are like this and it's been stated over and over and over again (we can't say it enough) that what I've posted has been MY personal EXPERIENCES !!!!!! You do NOT truuuuuuly know someone until you have lived under the same roof......fact!!!

Question for you......Are you marrying an American man???? If so, dag I'm QUITE SURE we could bash the h*** out of OUR american men and NOT ONE AMERICAN WOMAN ON HERE WILL FEEL OFFENDED IN ANY WAY !!!!!!!

I did not state anyone DID call their man a dog, merely stated that IF someone did etc etc, as an EXAMPLE!

As for 'your' personal experiences, must I define the word 'ANY' for you??

And there you go AGAIN with generalizations, have ALL the American women here told you that no matter what ypu say about 'your' American men they won't be offended in ANY way???

[Shemmy 4]

Does anyone here like (or know) who Gyptian is? I am listening to his song "Beautiful Lady." I know this song has been out for a while, but everytime I hear it, it makes me feel like I am at home (JA, that is.)

"She said oooohhh, and aaaahhhh, she never felt so right. I said yeeesss , oh baby, breathe on me tonight...." Just lovely.

I love that song. Damien enjoyed his performance last year at the Sumfest. What cd is that song on? I have a Gyptian CD but I think it's his newest one.

[Minfay 0]

And there you go AGAIN with generalizations, have ALL the American women here told you that no matter what ypu say about 'your' American men they won't be offended in ANY way???

I wouldn't be offended because it has nothing to do with me.....pretty much all the American men I have had realtionships with were DOGS!!! Maybe I pick the wrong ones....BUT....my father is also a DOG and so is my stepfather.....Oh, and don't let me forget about my brother-in-law....he's one too!! Whatever.......

[missjones 0]

I believe its on his CD Rebellion, but double check to make sure. And Damian, that is another story. I am usually not too "celebrity crazy" but that is one artist that I love with a passion. He did a few concerts in JA while I was there and I was sooo tempted to go, but then I remembered that I was married, and my husband wouldn't like me trying to kiss all over Damian and stuff. (He is a bit jealous of my obsession.) His lyrics are so real, he just keep it real, and I appreciate him as an artist. And when him and Steven get together they can really do some damage.

My hubby claims he has "connections ", and one day he will take me to meet Damian. Im like, whatever...

[missjones 0]

WAIT, are you speaking about Damien (your hubby)?? Oh, I though you meant Damian Marley. Girl, now you know I love me some Damian M. because I am just ranting on and on and on. I am laughing so hard right now, I think I am going to cry. (Inhale/Exhale). Ok, I am sorry. But yea, Gyptian is a good artist. I have never seen him perform in person though. And as you know Damian is another fav of mine. I think I need to take a nap now.

[*JG* 2]

I believe its on his CD Rebellion, but double check to make sure. And Damian, that is another story. I am usually not too "celebrity crazy" but that is one artist that I love with a passion. He did a few concerts in JA while I was there and I was sooo tempted to go, but then I remembered that I was married, and my husband wouldn't like me trying to kiss all over Damian and stuff. (He is a bit jealous of my obsession.) His lyrics are so real, he just keep it real, and I appreciate him as an artist. And when him and Steven get together they can really do some damage.

My hubby claims he has "connections ", and one day he will take me to meet Damian. Im like, whatever...

Who are you meeting? I'm thinking your hubby will be real jealous if you are trying to kiss her husband. You guys have me rolling today.

My husband's cousin is Jah Cure. I can't wait to get all up close and personal with him one day, probably this summer. No kissing involved though.

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Hello Everyone,

Of course I cannot sit and read this thread (and part 3) and be quiet. As you all know I am new here, and I must stress that you all have been very helpful regarding the immigration process for my husband. This whole thing about generalizations and tearing down our Jamaican men- I must say that everyone's experiences is there own experiences. (I am sure someone said this already, however it must be emphasized.) And whoever discuss their experiences about a JA should state the fact that they are talking about their JA, not everyone's JA. Everyone is different; no two people are the same, regardless of where they come from. And I am sure a lot of us were aware of the sterotypes about our men before we met them.

Also, everyone has the right to take someone's opinon and apply it to their situation. People try to tell me about their bad experience's with a JA all the time. I stop them mid-sentence , and I just get real "hood" with them and be like " nope, naw girl, you aint tellin me bout my man. i know my husband, and if you think i made a bad decision, then good for you. IF (and i must stress the I-F) things don't work out wit me and him, then at least i experienced it myself. let me deal with the heartbreak or whateva. i don't need no warning signs, no watch out signals, or whateva you talkin. i appreciate yo comments and concerns, but i am a grown a** woman, and i don't wanna hear yo negativity about yo JA man, becauze i know what im dealin with." And then I just keep on pushing.

I know there are majority women on this thread, but if there are some men on here, please speak up, we need you. So I hope everyone can try to keep the peace, because you all have been helpful. Even if I don't reply to specific comments, I do read them all and prepare myself. I am very thankful for all of you, because me and my hubby would be lost...literally. We would be so frustrated right now, we probably wouldn't think about bringing him here. But reading everyone's timelines/experiences has helped me realize that me and my husband can do this... we will survive this excruciating process.

(reading this thread + early pregnancy emotions = (excuse me, i must get some tissue now).

EXCELLENT post!!!! :thumbs:

Girl I feel you about the emotions, I've just changed BACK from the B****H from helll lol!

Been sick from maybe 3 weeks pregnant though and STILL throwing up

[luvtravlin 0]

Hello Everyone,

Of course I cannot sit and read this thread (and part 3) and be quiet. As you all know I am new here, and I must stress that you all have been very helpful regarding the immigration process for my husband. This whole thing about generalizations and tearing down our Jamaican men- I must say that everyone's experiences is there own experiences. (I am sure someone said this already, however it must be emphasized.) And whoever discuss their experiences about a JA should state the fact that they are talking about their JA, not everyone's JA. Everyone is different; no two people are the same, regardless of where they come from. And I am sure a lot of us were aware of the sterotypes about our men before we met them.

Also, everyone has the right to take someone's opinon and apply it to their situation. People try to tell me about their bad experience's with a JA all the time. I stop them mid-sentence , and I just get real "hood" with them and be like " nope, naw girl, you aint tellin me bout my man. i know my husband, and if you think i made a bad decision, then good for you. IF (and i must stress the I-F) things don't work out wit me and him, then at least i experienced it myself. let me deal with the heartbreak or whateva. i don't need no warning signs, no watch out signals, or whateva you talkin. i appreciate yo comments and concerns, but i am a grown a** woman, and i don't wanna hear yo negativity about yo JA man, becauze i know what im dealin with." And then I just keep on pushing.

I know there are majority women on this thread, but if there are some men on here, please speak up, we need you. So I hope everyone can try to keep the peace, because you all have been helpful. Even if I don't reply to specific comments, I do read them all and prepare myself. I am very thankful for all of you, because me and my hubby would be lost...literally. We would be so frustrated right now, we probably wouldn't think about bringing him here. But reading everyone's timelines/experiences has helped me realize that me and my husband can do this... we will survive this excruciating process.

(reading this thread + early pregnancy emotions = (excuse me, i must get some tissue now).

EXCELLENT post!!!! :thumbs:

Girl I feel you about the emotions, I've just changed BACK from the B****H from helll lol!

Been sick from maybe 3 weeks pregnant though and STILL throwing up

Daaaag WHERE are you women finding this information about US tearing down our Jamaican men ???????????? I just do NOT GET IT.....it MUST be the hormones !!!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh wait, yeah....been there/done that !!!

[rhondapayter 0]

Jeez!

I sign off and go to bed and wake to find that not only has the thread been moved but something akin to Armageddon has taken place. Jerry! Jerry! Jerry!

I used to love that show

[Trinilad 0]

Now to the topic at hand.

I for one don't care if a woman says 'My Jamaican husband is a dog'.

However, I take EXTREME issue with her saying 'Any Jamaican man you bring up is going to be a dog'

Because that is no longer PERSONAL experience, but a BLANKET statement!!

So while I will bite my lip when I hear some generalizations being made in what I believe is ignorance, I will not sit idly by and watch my Jamaican kings being lumped together because of someone's bad experiences.....

Of course I expect women to tell both the good and the bad, hopefully sharing will help someone else in a similar situation. I think it is of paramount importance that the 'seedy' side is shown, the horror stories.

But what needs to be remembered is that the bad in your relationship is not a trend, not a given, but a PERSONAL experience.

I derieve no pleasure from 'jumping' on people or proving they are stereotypical. All I demand is that you treat every situation as a personal experience, not a blueprint on 'What Happens When You Marry A Jamaican'....

Many of the women here are living with their families buying into the stereotype of a 'black Jamaican man' and are vocal in their outrage. Yet many here are creating their very own pet stereotype while critizing the actions of others....

I will always try to support, to educate, to help, to provide any insight I can to help people here.

But I will not sit and watch ANYONE tear Jamaicans to shreds.

Amen to that!

[luvtravlin 0]

My husband's cousin is Jah Cure. I can't wait to get all up close and personal with him one day, probably this summer. No kissing involved though.

I LOVE Jah Cure. I have all of his CDs!!! and meeting him would be so interesting!