Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)

[rhondapayter 0]

Baby List:

Rhonda

Jax

Jonesie

Elizabeth

Lurissa

Sarah

Mindy

Shemanya

Squitto

Shauna

Anna

Dee

[darlene 0]

Baby List:

Rhonda

Jax

Jonesie

Elizabeth

Lurissa

Sarah

Mindy

Shemanya

Squitto

Shauna

Anna

Dee

Are you trying to tell us something??

[Shemmy 4]

Baby List:

Rhonda

Jax

Jonesie

Elizabeth

Lurissa

Sarah

Mindy

Shemanya

Squitto

Shauna

Anna

Dee

Are you trying to tell us something??

What is going on?

Good morning.

[Minfay 0]

Rhonda + Tony = _______

[Marie876 0]

Baby List:

Rhonda

Jax

Jonesie

Elizabeth

Lurissa

Sarah

Mindy

Shemanya

Squitto

Shauna

Anna

Dee

WoW! I had to stop lurking and actually post for this one!!!

[morantbaygirl 0]

Rhonda + Tony = _______

CONGRAT!!!! YOU ARE HIS BABIE MAMA!!!!!!!! YEA !!!!!!!!

[nannygirl82 0]

OMG RHONDA!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :dance:

[nannygirl82 0]

You ladies are very strong and I applaud you for your strength. It's just not something I could do. If I thought my SO, whether BF, fiance, or spouse and whether in JA or USA was cheating, I would not be as nice as you all are being.

Here Here to that! I thought it was just me that was thinking the 'let it slide' comments were a little bit weird! Why would I want to marry someone that was cheating on me from the BEGINNING of our relationship. Do I think I can't get any better? Do I not deserve any better? Do I allow it just cause he's in another country?

I don't understand this logic. I know that people cheat in relationships all the time, but I have never known of som many people who are turning a blind eye on it so easily. What is that all about? No wonder the men get to the US and see all these hot ladies and think its OK to "have friends", you were letting him do it to you before you were even married to one another. SO basically you married a scoundrel of a man, and you knew it, and then you get upset that he's still a scoundrel after you've paid all this money and dedicated all this time to get him here in the US with you.

Does anyone else not see a problem with this here! As a person looking in from the inside, I can see so many red flags in some of these relationships, it absolutely ridiculous.

I don't mean to offend anyone, but some of these comments were just sooo shocking to me. They just blew my mind! WOW!!

ok i never said he was doing this before we married....this happend 2 months into our marriage....and yes i have every reason to be upset....was he doing this to me in Jamaica...well i have no real way of knowing...does anyone???

i never said i was going to let it go..

[Yaads 0]

Baby List:

Rhonda

Jax

Jonesie

Elizabeth

Lurissa

Sarah

Mindy

Shemanya

Squitto

Shauna

Anna

Dee

I am pretty sure the rest of your post got cut off Are you making an official announcement?!?

[brownnskinn 0]

Hello..

I know that it has been a while since I've posted anything... My husband got his visa this tuesday.

Congrats

Good morning congrats!!!

[Sonshyne 2]

Baby List:

Rhonda

Jax

Jonesie

Elizabeth

Lurissa

Sarah

Mindy

Shemanya

Squitto

Shauna

Anna

Dee

Congrats Rhonda

[brownnskinn 0]

Do you mind if I ask, why are you allowing HIM to make the decision of whether he stays or goes? It's your life. If you are unhappy and feel that he is not doing what he needs to do in order to stay, why not just change the locks or something?

I know the laws are slightly different in each state, but here in Michigan you can not prevent your HUSBAND from entering your home. It is technically his home too because you're married. Everything that's yours is his and vise versa. You have to file for seperation or divorce and/or a restraining order to physically keep him out of the house. This is one of the reasons some women have been forced to take extreme measures (like Trinilad's friend) to get their men "deported". Just an FYI.

Same thing here in Missouri, so you know what I did....I left House, car, everything I had worked soo hard for, gone. When it's over it's over. There is only so much one person can do. When the second partner refuses to change, refuses to even see his part in the conflict, when the two no longer can relate, then the realtionship is over, been there did that one too.

[Minfay 0]

You ladies are very strong and I applaud you for your strength. It's just not something I could do. If I thought my SO, whether BF, fiance, or spouse and whether in JA or USA was cheating, I would not be as nice as you all are being.

Here Here to that! I thought it was just me that was thinking the 'let it slide' comments were a little bit weird! Why would I want to marry someone that was cheating on me from the BEGINNING of our relationship. Do I think I can't get any better? Do I not deserve any better? Do I allow it just cause he's in another country?

I don't understand this logic. I know that people cheat in relationships all the time, but I have never known of som many people who are turning a blind eye on it so easily. What is that all about? No wonder the men get to the US and see all these hot ladies and think its OK to "have friends", you were letting him do it to you before you were even married to one another. SO basically you married a scoundrel of a man, and you knew it, and then you get upset that he's still a scoundrel after you've paid all this money and dedicated all this time to get him here in the US with you.

Does anyone else not see a problem with this here! As a person looking in from the inside, I can see so many red flags in some of these relationships, it absolutely ridiculous.

I don't mean to offend anyone, but some of these comments were just sooo shocking to me. They just blew my mind! WOW!!

ok i never said he was doing this before we married....this happend 2 months into our marriage....and yes i have every reason to be upset....was he doing this to me in Jamaica...well i have no real way of knowing...does anyone???

i never said i was going to let it go..

I was the one who said I thought something was going on before we were married.....I had no proof. I just assumed. It wasn't like I could jump in my car and stalk him to see what he was doing when I was not there. So, I did what I had to do to get through the time we spent apart -- I assumed the worst, hoped for the best and got on with my life. Ya see, I am a VERY jealous person -- always have been, always will be. I accept that and so does he. The strength of our relationship (hopefully) will continue to get us through any tough times that we might encounter. That's really all you can hope for......

I am not turning a blind eye. I do not believe any of the girls who post here in this forum are. I think everyone just needs to understand that every person is different, every relationship is different and everyone has different experiences......we are all here to try to help each other -- not tell each other how stupid we think they are....we are suppose to be a support system. I'm not here to judge what someone else chooses to do in their relationship and I hope nobody is going to judge me.

It's getting a little too heated in here for me -- I'm gonna be taking a break from you guys for a while. I get too emotional when I see people bashing and attacking each other and I don't want it to have an adverse effect on my own relationship. Squitto got this whole thing started so we all had a place to go to support each other and that's exactly what this used to be one big happy family of support -- for some reason it has gotten really ugly lately.

There used to be a time where if you had a problem you could post it here and everyone would offer suggestions to try to help you out. It doesn't seem like that is happening here anymore. People are getting a bit too judgemental for me. I might not agree with the choices that you have made but I will be more than happy to offer suggestions -- not say how stupid I think you are. When things like that start happening it tends to make it ugly for everyone.

I wish you all the best of luck and hope all of you have long, happy <and PROBLEM FREE> marriages

[brownnskinn 0]

It's getting a little too heated in here for me -- I'm gonna be taking a break from you guys for a while. I get too emotional when I see people bashing and attacking each other and I don't want it to have an adverse effect on my own relationship.

I wish you all the best of luck and hope all of you have long, happy <and PROBLEM FREE> marriages [/color]

Ditto

[morantbaygirl 0]

It's getting a little too heated in here for me -- I'm gonna be taking a break from you guys for a while. I get too emotional when I see people bashing and attacking each other and I don't want it to have an adverse effect on my own relationship.

I wish you all the best of luck and hope all of you have long, happy <and PROBLEM FREE> marriages [/color]

Ditto

Well said . We are not here to judge, just to support. I have never read were anyone asked for anyone's opinion. They just wanted to vent. Everyone deals with their individual problems differently. Whats good for me may not be good for you. I love this family and I am going to hang in there and keep reading. A good friend listens and supports any decision the other friend makes wheather they agree or not. Only if that friend ask for my opinion will I give it. But opinions are like a##holes everyone has one. . Don't give up Minfay it will get bette in here, its just like when you work in a office full of females everyone starts PMSing at the same time . JAH BLESS EVERYONE.