Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)

[*JG* 2]

That's for sure Jomo just memories. I know we've talked about my MIL quite a few times. But u know the ooman no try get in contact wid a beloved son, apparently her phone is off...U caan have likkle sumpting bout u and inform the ppl in ur live that u are OK..cho..now mi affi drive go a Queens and hope she is home...waste of freaking time

I will leave that whole subject alone, Kimmy, or I may something I will regret later. Let's just say me and MIL's don't get along.

You are a kind person for putting up as well as you do. I really respect that about you.

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hAHHAAH..U REALLY CRAZY...but addi same ting me did seh when me and my hubby reconnected out of the blue...affi try at least ..dat a mi motto

Hey there Jawi, welcome to the board. My name is Kimmy and I just finished the I-30 process. no know how else fi classify it . U'll def get informed and up to di time on here everyone's great.

But, yeah fi real wah mek u decide fi go tru the pain and agony again good luck though

BTW..NVC is National Visa Center...no more INS

Kimmy

Hi Kimmy! I feel like I know you (and some others)...already. Mi like yuh vibes...yuh gwaan good. Mi tink mi mad fe true when mi tink bout whaa mi about tuh hendure...but mi cyaan himagine nuh spending de rest of mi life wid mi love an best friend ova Babylon red tape.

Tonks fe de warm welcome frum oonu...

Congrats FutureMrs. nuh fret de small tings...give a mont ar two and heveryting yuh hown inna new spot hennyway. LMAO.

[*JG* 2]

I kept thinking I was forgetting something the entire time. I wish you luck.

Thanks so much. Jittery bout the interview and not to mention the latest topic on here, the adjustment factor. I am sure we'll have some rough spots, but we are a praying couple, so I am going to lean on God with that. But I can't help having constant thoughts about that. It's going to be somewhat of an adjustment of him not working for a little time, since he has had a job ever since leaving high school and he is leaving a company he has been with for almost 14 years.

Kimmy - I don't know what you're going to do with you MIL. Sometimes parents can act like such children! I have to draw up my own mother sometimes

Prayer, love, and patience. You will be just fine.

Hollar out if you need to talk about any of as it pops up. No one is alone in the adjustment process.

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Hahaha...u see it.a no nuttin..we don't have to go there ..mi no want him start resent her u know..dats why mi mek sacrifices

That's for sure Jomo just memories. I know we've talked about my MIL quite a few times. But u know the ooman no try get in contact wid a beloved son, apparently her phone is off...U caan have likkle sumpting bout u and inform the ppl in ur live that u are OK..cho..now mi affi drive go a Queens and hope she is home...waste of freaking time

I will leave that whole subject alone, Kimmy, or I may something I will regret later. Let's just say me and MIL's don't get along.

You are a kind person for putting up as well as you do. I really respect that about you.

[JA Tam 7]

Hi Kimmy! I feel like I know you (and some others)...already. Mi like yuh vibes...yuh gwaan good. Mi tink mi mad fe true when mi tink bout whaa mi about tuh hendure...but mi cyaan himagine nuh spending de rest of mi life wid mi love an best friend ova Babylon red tape.

Tonks fe de warm welcome frum oonu...

Congrats FutureMrs. nuh fret de small tings...give a mont ar two and heveryting yuh hown inna new spot hennyway. LMAO.

Despite all the stress, it worth it in the end. Anything worth having takes a lot of work. I wish you luck on the journey. From just going through this process, things have changed and continue to change. Imagine my surprise when in di miggle of mi process, dem start scheduling interview from NVC fi CR-1.

[*JG* 2]

Hahaha...u see it.a no nuttin..we don't have to go there ..mi no want him start resent her u know..dats why mi mek sacrifices

That's for sure Jomo just memories. I know we've talked about my MIL quite a few times. But u know the ooman no try get in contact wid a beloved son, apparently her phone is off...U caan have likkle sumpting bout u and inform the ppl in ur live that u are OK..cho..now mi affi drive go a Queens and hope she is home...waste of freaking time

I will leave that whole subject alone, Kimmy, or I may something I will regret later. Let's just say me and MIL's don't get along.

You are a kind person for putting up as well as you do. I really respect that about you.

I tried that route. Eventually when she didn't even bother to call him on his birthday and faked a serious illness to extort money from him, he wisened up. I don't have to say a word one way or another now. He sees.

[JA Tam 7]

Prayer, love, and patience. You will be just fine.

Hollar out if you need to talk about any of as it pops up. No one is alone in the adjustment process.

Thanks - I am sure we'll need the patience from both sides.

Kimmy - when I was looking over our interview letter I see that they have on the preference category, IR-1. I will still make sure that at POE we tell them IR-1 and not conditional greencard, since we have been married almost 4 years.

I tried that route. Eventually when she didn't even bother to call him on his birthday and faked a serious illness to extort money from him, he wisened up. I don't have to say a word one way or another now. He sees.

This process really shows a person's true colors. If anyone had told him before that this is how his mother was, he would cuss them out. Sorry to know that he is having such issues with his mom.

Edited September 6, 2007 by JA Tam

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uR RIGHT...he will, but the relationship they have always had to see it come to this makes me upset more time..but mi nah go force nuttin wah him no want..

Hahaha...u see it.a no nuttin..we don't have to go there ..mi no want him start resent her u know..dats why mi mek sacrifices

That's for sure Jomo just memories. I know we've talked about my MIL quite a few times. But u know the ooman no try get in contact wid a beloved son, apparently her phone is off...U caan have likkle sumpting bout u and inform the ppl in ur live that u are OK..cho..now mi affi drive go a Queens and hope she is home...waste of freaking time

I will leave that whole subject alone, Kimmy, or I may something I will regret later. Let's just say me and MIL's don't get along.

You are a kind person for putting up as well as you do. I really respect that about you.

I tried that route. Eventually when she didn't even bother to call him on his birthday and faked a serious illness to extort money from him, he wisened up. I don't have to say a word one way or another now. He sees.

[Shemmy 4]

Jomo: I am jittery as hell! lol

He will be here tomorrow night! I still have to at least clean my room for he is a neat freak and if he were to walk in it right now, I would not get to have my way with him until he or I cleaned it!

OMG! He will be HERE tomorrow, gotta go, I will be on while at work!

Sarah - you are cracking me up but doing better than me almost 3 years ago. I broke down at the grocery store the day before Damien arrived. Mind you, it was the day before Thanksgiving so the store was packed .

I was fine cleaning all day but it hit me when I didn't know what the buy the man to eat I was an emotional mess.

[SweetSugahDumplin 0]

;)Welcome Jawi this is a great place to be without it id so be lost and i want to say thank you to everyon here if it wasnt for you guys id be so behind in the process and Jomo i really have u to thank for telling me about this site

[JA Tam 7]

Sarah - you are cracking me up but doing better than me almost 3 years ago. I broke down at the grocery store the day before Damien arrived. Mind you, it was the day before Thanksgiving so the store was packed .

I was fine cleaning all day but it hit me when I didn't know what the buy the man to eat I was an emotional mess.

Oh poor thing. I feel like I'm in tears right now thinking about the hubby finally being here.

Sarah - So happy and excited for you that your sweetie will be here tomorrow. You must be counting down the hours.

[jawi876 2]

Hello everyone! I'm a new poster to the VJ board. I have been lurking for a few weeks, mostly reading this thread. Before, I jump in with both feet, I figured I would give you a little info on me

I live in Atlanta, and I am in the process of a divorce (long awaited)....but a story for a different time. I went through the K1 journey back in 2001. During my timeline, USCIS was simply INS. Atlanta had to deal with the horrific waiting times for the Texas Service Center (sometimes two months before check cashed...even longer for a NOA). The group of us going through this process were not able to use a bullentin board like VJ...but we used newsgroups to keep each other abreast of the Service Center "real" processing times. Those processing times on the different sites, were laughable.

I went the ordeal of having people approved before me that submitted apps waaaaaaaaaay after me. My co-workers and I would literally sit on hold with the TSC for hours trying to get a rep...just to be hung up on. I finally contacted two of my local congressmen, to be told that they lost my entire file. Thankfully, I was one of the pioneers of the visa file with tabs, ziploc baggies, etc. LOL so I was able to duplicate the entire file in a matter of an hour using a fax number.

Well...I never thought I would subject myself to the torture again...but here I sit. Confused tuh rass. I don't know what all the acronyms mean...I confused about which forms should be mailed to start the K1 petition...which ones should be sent later. Who in the heck is the NVC? When and why did the I-129f go from $95 to $400+????? Whaa de efff???

BTW...I am very very very good friends with Jonesie. I tried to give her hints on the process when she started...but all my tricks and hints were woefully outdated...LOL *I know that I can start from the beginning and read all the helpful linked posts on this process, but I wanted to get to know all of you before you disappear from the site*

Woman, you are a much braver soul then I am. Don't think I could ever go through it again.

I hope all your questions are answered. Good luck to you.

Just realised that today makes 1 whole month since hubby has been here..time flies when ur having fun

WOW...That is awesome. It surely does fly!

I realised that now I am getting some pre-interview jitters and I am 2 weeks away! What a stress!

I kept thinking I was forgetting something the entire time. I wish you luck.

Kimmy.....I know what you mean. Andre's been here almost 15 months now. Feels like he got here last week. I always say, this will all just be a memory one day. It goes so fast.

Hi Jomo!

Mi nuh get ie right de first time...mi marry pickney fe true....dis time mi marry a big man. My new man is my friend first and foremost...without a shadow of a doubt. We are putting God first, and following HIS path and direction for our life together.

Honestly, my soon2b xhusband decided that his unmarried friends (new Jamaican friends he met here) knew what was best for him to be a man in our household. Their word was bond...and mine was questionable until his "friends" confirmed it true. Instead of it being me and him against the world...ride or die, it was ummm...baby you were right because ray ray said xyz. To sum it up in a nutshell, I couldn't stay married to a man that I didn't respect or trust anymore. He has been stalling the inevitable because he suddenly decided he was ready for big man tings and wanted his family back. EEEHHHNNNN???? *kiss teet* Im tek big ooman fe bc eediat. cha.

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TAM, mi bite mi tongue so many times fi her, cause mi know seh a my husband mi mek sacrifices for not her. And in the end a him alone matter and his kids. She swear God allow me fi bring him here fi her..damn out a order.

[JA Tam 7]

TAM, mi bite mi tongue so many times fi her, cause mi know seh a my husband mi mek sacrifices for not her. And in the end a him alone matter and his kids. She swear God allow me fi bring him here fi her..damn out a order.

Mek she tan deh...I can only hope she wisens up and sees her mistakes. Though I am sure he isn't showing it, I am sure this is hurting him so much.

[SupportOAFJF 0]

Hello everyone! I'm a new poster to the VJ board. I have been lurking for a few weeks, mostly reading this thread. Before, I jump in with both feet, I figured I would give you a little info on me

I live in Atlanta, and I am in the process of a divorce (long awaited)....but a story for a different time. I went through the K1 journey back in 2001. During my timeline, USCIS was simply INS. Atlanta had to deal with the horrific waiting times for the Texas Service Center (sometimes two months before check cashed...even longer for a NOA). The group of us going through this process were not able to use a bullentin board like VJ...but we used newsgroups to keep each other abreast of the Service Center "real" processing times. Those processing times on the different sites, were laughable.

I went the ordeal of having people approved before me that submitted apps waaaaaaaaaay after me. My co-workers and I would literally sit on hold with the TSC for hours trying to get a rep...just to be hung up on. I finally contacted two of my local congressmen, to be told that they lost my entire file. Thankfully, I was one of the pioneers of the visa file with tabs, ziploc baggies, etc. LOL so I was able to duplicate the entire file in a matter of an hour using a fax number.

Well...I never thought I would subject myself to the torture again...but here I sit. Confused tuh rass. I don't know what all the acronyms mean...I confused about which forms should be mailed to start the K1 petition...which ones should be sent later. Who in the heck is the NVC? When and why did the I-129f go from $95 to $400+????? Whaa de efff???

BTW...I am very very very good friends with Jonesie. I tried to give her hints on the process when she started...but all my tricks and hints were woefully outdated...LOL *I know that I can start from the beginning and read all the helpful linked posts on this process, but I wanted to get to know all of you before you disappear from the site*

Woman, you are a much braver soul then I am. Don't think I could ever go through it again.

I hope all your questions are answered. Good luck to you.

Just realised that today makes 1 whole month since hubby has been here..time flies when ur having fun

WOW...That is awesome. It surely does fly!

I realised that now I am getting some pre-interview jitters and I am 2 weeks away! What a stress!

I kept thinking I was forgetting something the entire time. I wish you luck.

Kimmy.....I know what you mean. Andre's been here almost 15 months now. Feels like he got here last week. I always say, this will all just be a memory one day. It goes so fast.

Hi Jomo!

Mi nuh get ie right de first time...mi marry pickney fe true....dis time mi marry a big man. My new man is my friend first and foremost...without a shadow of a doubt. We are putting God first, and following HIS path and direction for our life together.

Honestly, my soon2b xhusband decided that his unmarried friends (new Jamaican friends he met here) knew what was best for him to be a man in our household. Their word was bond...and mine was questionable until his "friends" confirmed it true. Instead of it being me and him against the world...ride or die, it was ummm...baby you were right because ray ray said xyz. To sum it up in a nutshell, I couldn't stay married to a man that I didn't respect or trust anymore. He has been stalling the inevitable because he suddenly decided he was ready for big man tings and wanted his family back. EEEHHHNNNN???? *kiss teet* Im tek big ooman fe bc eediat. cha.