Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)

[rhondapayter 0]

You have a year to file for AOS. The only problem I can think of would be EAD as I'm guessing you will think Marlon needs to work. I don't have the answer on the EAD cause we filed with our AOS. I'm sure someone on here will.

I don't agree with this at all Their K-1 Visa is only good for 90 days - once that expires, they are out of status. You are technically supposed to file for AOS BEFORE the 90 days is up. That's why they say to file immediately after you get married. I know some people have waited, but I don't recommend it.

This is what it says under FAQ for Adjustment of status:

6.1)...How soon after we get married should we apply for Adjustment of Status?

A..Right away, or at least right after your honeymoon. You should make every effort to get the Adjustment application filed within 90 days of the fiance(e) entering the United States, which is when the K-1 status expires, as indicated on the I-94.

Filing for Adjustment of Status within the 90 days protects your legal status. Your legal status as a K1 expires after 90 days, married or not. The only way to protect your legal status is to apply for Adjustment of Status, and the only way to maintain continuous legal status is to file for AOS before the K1 visa expires. On the practical side, it is often difficult to arrange for the marriage, and get all the paperwork ready in time to file for AOS within 90 days. Many newsgroup couples have filed for AOS a few days or weeks after the 90 day limit with no problems. Thus far, newsgroup experience has shown this is not a major issue with local USCIS (INS) offices.

[Sonshyne 2]

YAY

Dear Madam

Our system is showing that an interview date has been set for 16th

October, 2007 @ 07;30am. A packet 4 was send off today 5th September,

2007

CONGRATS

[Sonshyne 2]

I love my husband and would not trade him or any of the experiences leading up to where we are today for anything. But, it was not always easy, in fact some of it was overly difficult. The K-1 process is just the tip of the iceberg. I really believe the hard part is the adjustment period....and that goes for both of you. That being said, if you had asked me the same questions during the process, I would've said it could not be more difficult then it is now.

This whole thing tests your patience to the limits sometimes. But, it can be a wonderful thing and work out incredibly well. Like I said, it's a work in progress. And, nothing so far has done any detrimental harm.

He has been here 14 months and I just now feel like we are getting a handle on some of the things that have been so difficult for us. It's not all rose colored all the time; but I do believe it is very worth it in the end.

I know some people on here don't like to talk about the unpleasant things and that's fine and dandy. Whatever works for you works. But, I do believe others can relate and learn from what we have to say on ALL subjects. I am always willing to share whatever I have experienced with anyone who asks. Please feel free to PM me anytime you like. I promise to give honest answers.

Very well said Jomo I agree

My husband has been here for a little more than 4 months and believe me there has been some good, bad, and ugly. But things are coming along. He was bored to death without anything to do (work wise). He explored the neigborhood for a few weeks and found that there were a group of people who play soccer every Tues and Thurs, which he was totally happy about and began playing with them. He now works two jobs so... He is pretty busy now.

I think we should talk more about these issues as it will be helpful and a stress reliever as well as support for one another.

Jomo I'm gonna PM you in a few days.

[DonnaJay 0]

This is Donna's one week anniversary being here in the US. She is doing well now. She is just getting over flu like symptoms since arriving. We have been having a drought here in Atlanta this summer, so I asked Donna to bring some rain with here from Jamaica. She did and her flight was not allowed to land because of a storm cell. She went to Alabama to re-fuel (get liquid) and wait until clearance from the Atlanta airport was given. After waiting five hours she arrived. Donna told me that her flight was rough because of the weather. She mentioned that people on board were actually screaming from the turbalance their flight was going through. Donna had a guy next to her who held her hand. I am grateful for him.

Until we are married Donna is staying with a couple who raised her in Jamaica. She is only a 30 minute drive away now.

My question today is can we expect Donna's SS card to come in the mail? We checked the box to receive it on one of the forms that was turned into the embassy during the interview process. Should I call to check to see or just wait another week or two?

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

This is Donna's one week anniversary being here in the US. She is doing well now. She is just getting over flu like symptoms since arriving. We have been having a drought here in Atlanta this summer, so I asked Donna to bring some rain with here from Jamaica. She did and her flight was not allowed to land because of a storm cell. She went to Alabama to re-fuel (get liquid) and wait until clearance from the Atlanta airport was given. After waiting five hours she arrived. Donna told me that her flight was rough because of the weather. She mentioned that people on board were actually screaming from the turbalance their flight was going through. Donna had a guy next to her who held her hand. I am grateful for him.

Until we are married Donna is staying with a couple who raised her in Jamaica. She is only a 30 minute drive away now.

My question today is can we expect Donna's SS card to come in the mail? We checked the box to receive it on one of the forms that was turned into the embassy during the interview process. Should I call to check to see or just wait another week or two?

Not quite sure here.

If you aren't married, means you filed a K1 right?

If you have filed a K1, you have to go to the SS office to apply for a card there, it won't come automatically unless you are married and filed a K3 or CR-1

[SupportOAFJF 0]

This is Donna's one week anniversary being here in the US. She is doing well now. She is just getting over flu like symptoms since arriving. We have been having a drought here in Atlanta this summer, so I asked Donna to bring some rain with here from Jamaica. She did and her flight was not allowed to land because of a storm cell. She went to Alabama to re-fuel (get liquid) and wait until clearance from the Atlanta airport was given. After waiting five hours she arrived. Donna told me that her flight was rough because of the weather. She mentioned that people on board were actually screaming from the turbalance their flight was going through. Donna had a guy next to her who held her hand. I am grateful for him.

Until we are married Donna is staying with a couple who raised her in Jamaica. She is only a 30 minute drive away now.

My question today is can we expect Donna's SS card to come in the mail? We checked the box to receive it on one of the forms that was turned into the embassy during the interview process. Should I call to check to see or just wait another week or two?

Not quite sure here.

If you aren't married, means you filed a K1 right?

If you have filed a K1, you have to go to the SS office to apply for a card there, it won't come automatically unless you are married and filed a K3 or CR-1

I think Alien is right, we r married and we received my husbands ss card in the mail about 2 weeks after arrival. But, then again I think Jax went to the SS office and she is married also, maybe Jomo could help more.

Kimmy

[luvtravlin 0]

I don't agree with this at all Their K-1 Visa is only good for 90 days - once that expires, they are out of status. You are technically supposed to file for AOS BEFORE the 90 days is up. That's why they say to file immediately after you get married. I know some people have waited, but I don't recommend it.

This is what it says under FAQ for Adjustment of status:

6.1)...How soon after we get married should we apply for Adjustment of Status?

A..Right away, or at least right after your honeymoon. You should make every effort to get the Adjustment application filed within 90 days of the fiance(e) entering the United States, which is when the K-1 status expires, as indicated on the I-94.

Filing for Adjustment of Status within the 90 days protects your legal status. Your legal status as a K1 expires after 90 days, married or not. The only way to protect your legal status is to apply for Adjustment of Status, and the only way to maintain continuous legal status is to file for AOS before the K1 visa expires. On the practical side, it is often difficult to arrange for the marriage, and get all the paperwork ready in time to file for AOS within 90 days. Many newsgroup couples have filed for AOS a few days or weeks after the 90 day limit with no problems. Thus far, newsgroup experience has shown this is not a major issue with local USCIS (INS) offices.

There is absolutely no "technical" part to filing AOS and there's is absolutely no mention of a filing date before then. It is "recommended". TRUST ME, I have done research upon research on this. There are maaaaaany couples from all sorts of countries that have waited well over the "90 day period" and never had problems. Now, for us....OH I'm quite sure we'll have issues, just because that's "my luck" and nothing is ever ever an easy road for me.

You file for AOS so that the SO can be legally working, driving, etc etc.

I look at the whole process like this............as everyone has said this IS a totally and complete, without a doubt adjustment on everyone (in the house). Craig is still adjusting and he's been here 14 months as well. I know some that aren't associated with the VJ site whose SO's have been here 5 yrs and they are still adjusting. Another friend of mine, knowing her man for 9 yrs, than marrying and him being here for 4 yrs and now they are separated because of "adjustment" issues.

Doesn't matter if you live in a rural area, if there are no folks "of color", if there are tons and tons of Jamaican things to see and do, if there are "clubs" (which is not a good suggestion as you are working on a marriage). Craig, himself, has made BAD choices upon bad choices, upon bad choices and mostly............MATURITY is the issue. "I" can't make him grow up, but he has to learn and grow from his F**ups !!! Then you think everything is going great and they get that call from a cousin or "friend" (who is single and/or not in a TRUE marriage) and we start all over!!!!!

I've said it a million times on here in the past, it's how they are raised !! Other cultures "allow" men treat women a certain way, do things & make choices that are "acceptable" in THEIR culture, but no way ....no how would they be accepted here. Craig complained for months that America has TOO MANY rules and restrictions.

I've been traveling to Jamaica for 10 yrs, I've seen just about everything and the "vacation" romances and what happens in Jamaica stays in Jamaica. The married women that go there just to *have* their way with the jamaican men and alot of times it's been a couple of different men on their trip. The stories Craig tells me about the women that would proposition him at the hotel.....and then him coming here and still thinking that is okay on how to "make money" .................NOT !!!!! I don't know why that on my 20th trip to Jamaica I met Craig and why we ended up together. I've never had a relationship with a caribbean man and it has been THE toughest relationship in my life !!!!! That link that someone just put up in here..... couldn't have been more true !!! Please take time to read it, it's very interesting ! I personally wish I would have heard "bad things" when I was going through this process, but all I ever read was those rosey kind of stories !!

So ladies (and men) ....just the simple things with not being able to drink a beer and walk up and down the street. Craig used to sit up on along the roadside and he couldn't "understand" why everyone would watch him and give him weird looks. Wearing a seatbelt ALL the time in the car. Keeping ALL the lights and radio on while he wasn't here. I mean the list goes on and on and on and on.

Like the other Kelly said.................PATIENCE is key in these relationships. If you yourself are NOT a patient person....you will need to learn real quick !!! If you have issues with "your space" and having things done a certain way, be PATIENT !! Those that have kids already in your home.....be PATIENT !! In alot of ways, you are bring an adult "child" into your home to show him/her alllllll the ways to live the life we all live here in the US.....and patience is totally a virtue !!!

Anyone can PM me anytime if you ever needed to chat in private.

Kelly

[nannygirl82 0]

Jay...i am so glad donna got her safely!!! yes you need to go to your local SS office she needs her passport and 1-94...sometimes they will say no she can't get it she needs the Green Card...there is a letter on here from USCIS that states k-1 people can get the SS card...so you might want to do a search for that....it is recommended that you wait AT LEAST 2 weeks to go and get the SS card to make sure that she is put into the system...

[Jengles 0]

This is Donna's one week anniversary being here in the US. She is doing well now. She is just getting over flu like symptoms since arriving. We have been having a drought here in Atlanta this summer, so I asked Donna to bring some rain with here from Jamaica. She did and her flight was not allowed to land because of a storm cell. She went to Alabama to re-fuel (get liquid) and wait until clearance from the Atlanta airport was given. After waiting five hours she arrived. Donna told me that her flight was rough because of the weather. She mentioned that people on board were actually screaming from the turbalance their flight was going through. Donna had a guy next to her who held her hand. I am grateful for him.

Until we are married Donna is staying with a couple who raised her in Jamaica. She is only a 30 minute drive away now.

My question today is can we expect Donna's SS card to come in the mail? We checked the box to receive it on one of the forms that was turned into the embassy during the interview process. Should I call to check to see or just wait another week or two?

Not quite sure here.

If you aren't married, means you filed a K1 right?

If you have filed a K1, you have to go to the SS office to apply for a card there, it won't come automatically unless you are married and filed a K3 or CR-1

I thought if you filed a k-3 you can't get an ss card until you filed the AOS?

[nannygirl82 0]

jay...

here it is

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...om&page=ssn

i forgot she also needs to fill out a form as well...the link to the form is on this page

[luvtravlin 0]

There is absolutely no "technical" part to filing AOS and there's is absolutely no mention of a filing date before then. It is "recommended". TRUST ME, I have done research upon research on this. There are maaaaaany couples from all sorts of countries that have waited well over the "90 day period" and never had problems. Now, for us....OH I'm quite sure we'll have issues, just because that's "my luck" and nothing is ever ever an easy road for me.

You file for AOS so that the SO can be legally working, driving, etc etc.

I look at the whole process like this............as everyone has said this IS a totally and complete, without a doubt adjustment on everyone (in the house). Craig is still adjusting and he's been here 14 months as well. I know some that aren't associated with the VJ site whose SO's have been here 5 yrs and they are still adjusting. Another friend of mine, knowing her man for 9 yrs, than marrying and him being here for 4 yrs and now they are separated because of "adjustment" issues.

Doesn't matter if you live in a rural area, if there are no folks "of color", if there are tons and tons of Jamaican things to see and do, if there are "clubs" (which is not a good suggestion as you are working on a marriage). Craig, himself, has made BAD choices upon bad choices, upon bad choices and mostly............MATURITY is the issue. "I" can't make him grow up, but he has to learn and grow from his F**ups !!! Then you think everything is going great and they get that call from a cousin or "friend" (who is single and/or not in a TRUE marriage) and we start all over!!!!!

I've said it a million times on here in the past, it's how they are raised !! Other cultures "allow" men treat women a certain way, do things & make choices that are "acceptable" in THEIR culture, but no way ....no how would they be accepted here. Craig complained for months that America has TOO MANY rules and restrictions.

I've been traveling to Jamaica for 10 yrs, I've seen just about everything and the "vacation" romances and what happens in Jamaica stays in Jamaica. The married women that go there just to *have* their way with the jamaican men and alot of times it's been a couple of different men on their trip. The stories Craig tells me about the women that would proposition him at the hotel.....and then him coming here and still thinking that is okay on how to "make money" .................NOT !!!!! I don't know why that on my 20th trip to Jamaica I met Craig and why we ended up together. I've never had a relationship with a caribbean man and it has been THE toughest relationship in my life !!!!! That link that someone just put up in here..... couldn't have been more true !!! Please take time to read it, it's very interesting ! I personally wish I would have heard "bad things" when I was going through this process, but all I ever read was those rosey kind of stories !!

So ladies (and men) ....just the simple things with not being able to drink a beer and walk up and down the street. Craig used to sit up on along the roadside and he couldn't "understand" why everyone would watch him and give him weird looks. Wearing a seatbelt ALL the time in the car. Keeping ALL the lights and radio on while he wasn't here. I mean the list goes on and on and on and on.

Like the other Kelly said.................PATIENCE is key in these relationships. If you yourself are NOT a patient person....you will need to learn real quick !!! If you have issues with "your space" and having things done a certain way, be PATIENT !! Those that have kids already in your home.....be PATIENT !! In alot of ways, you are bring an adult "child" into your home to show him/her alllllll the ways to live the life we all live here in the US.....and patience is totally a virtue !!!

Anyone can PM me anytime if you ever needed to chat in private.

Kelly

On the lighter side of things. Craig is going to be playing indoor soccer ....starting tonight at flippin 11pm ! Just found out 2 days ago they had an opening. He's excited....and nervous (because he doesn't know any of the guys) and has never played indoor. He's been to several indoor games that my son and with the professional team. It's only $60.00 for 10 games. We had to run out and try to find indoor shoes last night !

[DonnaJay 0]

jay...

here it is

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...om&page=ssn

i forgot she also needs to fill out a form as well...the link to the form is on this page

Thank you, this is very helpful information. I downloaded the SS-5 application from the SS web site. Page 2, number 3 states, "If you check "Legal Alien Not Allowed to Work," you must provide a document from the U.S. Federal, State or local government agency that explains why you need a Social Security number adn that you meet all of the requirements for the U.S. government benefit. NOTE: Not all U.S. State or local are acceptable for non-work SSN purposes." Donna is here on a K-1 visa. After reading this I wonder why does she need a SS number at this time. She will not be able to work for a while and after we marry, her name will have changed. So, is it really necessary or important that she have a SS number at this time?

[*JG* 2]

Here's a question for the Yardie vets:

Have any of your fiance's been out of status before filing for AOS? If yes, for how long and were there ANY problems?

Are you thinking money issues, Sarah?

You have a year to file for AOS. The only problem I can think of would be EAD as I'm guessing you will think Marlon needs to work. I don't have the answer on the EAD cause we filed with our AOS. I'm sure someone on here will.

BTW.....got your call over the weekend and yes, I was working. I'm going to call you one night this week to wish you luck on Friday. I'm sure you are just splitting with happiness. I'm excited for you.

Sarah, I'm thinking you should talk to kelly (luvT). I think they just filed for Craig after almost a year (?) I could be wrong, though.

Yes, it is mainly financial worries but if we have time then I certainly feel better!

Been there girl. You know I wish you luck.

So, Marlon comes tomorrow??????? Are you jittery today?

[*JG* 2]

I love my husband and would not trade him or any of the experiences leading up to where we are today for anything. But, it was not always easy, in fact some of it was overly difficult. The K-1 process is just the tip of the iceberg. I really believe the hard part is the adjustment period....and that goes for both of you. That being said, if you had asked me the same questions during the process, I would've said it could not be more difficult then it is now.

This whole thing tests your patience to the limits sometimes. But, it can be a wonderful thing and work out incredibly well. Like I said, it's a work in progress. And, nothing so far has done any detrimental harm.

He has been here 14 months and I just now feel like we are getting a handle on some of the things that have been so difficult for us. It's not all rose colored all the time; but I do believe it is very worth it in the end.

I know some people on here don't like to talk about the unpleasant things and that's fine and dandy. Whatever works for you works. But, I do believe others can relate and learn from what we have to say on ALL subjects. I am always willing to share whatever I have experienced with anyone who asks. Please feel free to PM me anytime you like. I promise to give honest answers.

Very well said Jomo I agree

My husband has been here for a little more than 4 months and believe me there has been some good, bad, and ugly. But things are coming along. He was bored to death without anything to do (work wise). He explored the neigborhood for a few weeks and found that there were a group of people who play soccer every Tues and Thurs, which he was totally happy about and began playing with them. He now works two jobs so... He is pretty busy now.

I think we should talk more about these issues as it will be helpful and a stress reliever as well as support for one another.

Jomo I'm gonna PM you in a few days.

Anytime.......I await with anticipation.

And BTW....we do talk about these issues via PM cause we don't get bashed that way. No one is ever alone on any of these issues. I would like to see more public discussion too.

This is Donna's one week anniversary being here in the US. She is doing well now. She is just getting over flu like symptoms since arriving. We have been having a drought here in Atlanta this summer, so I asked Donna to bring some rain with here from Jamaica. She did and her flight was not allowed to land because of a storm cell. She went to Alabama to re-fuel (get liquid) and wait until clearance from the Atlanta airport was given. After waiting five hours she arrived. Donna told me that her flight was rough because of the weather. She mentioned that people on board were actually screaming from the turbalance their flight was going through. Donna had a guy next to her who held her hand. I am grateful for him.

Until we are married Donna is staying with a couple who raised her in Jamaica. She is only a 30 minute drive away now.

My question today is can we expect Donna's SS card to come in the mail? We checked the box to receive it on one of the forms that was turned into the embassy during the interview process. Should I call to check to see or just wait another week or two?

Not quite sure here.

If you aren't married, means you filed a K1 right?

If you have filed a K1, you have to go to the SS office to apply for a card there, it won't come automatically unless you are married and filed a K3 or CR-1

Yes. I agree with this. Same thing happened to us.

[JA Tam 7]

Thank you, this is very helpful information. I downloaded the SS-5 application from the SS web site. Page 2, number 3 states, "If you check "Legal Alien Not Allowed to Work," you must provide a document from the U.S. Federal, State or local government agency that explains why you need a Social Security number adn that you meet all of the requirements for the U.S. government benefit. NOTE: Not all U.S. State or local are acceptable for non-work SSN purposes." Donna is here on a K-1 visa. After reading this I wonder why does she need a SS number at this time. She will not be able to work for a while and after we marry, her name will have changed. So, is it really necessary or important that she have a SS number at this time?

You may want to research this Jay, but I think she needs the SSN so that you can apply for the marriage license. I know that it is needed in Florida.