Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)

[luvtravlin 0]

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I've added Craig to the list. He was an everyday smoker, several times a day. Since he's been here, he's only done it 3x that "I" know of. Because of work....can't. Being a "responsible" step-parent...can't. Also....almost a problem when it came to the medical !! Keep in mind ladies that it can remain in your system (blood tests are done) for UP TO 3 MONTHS!!!

I've been to Jamaica 26x ....never touched the stuff. I've never gotten high on any drug....well, except drink --socially. People NEVER believe me when I tell them I don't smoke!!!

[luvtravlin 0]

good morning ladies....i haven't posted in a couple days dealing with some personal issues w/ mike...i feel i have been pretty honest about our issues...i am going to lay it all out there...

i recieved an online alert that our cell phone bill was ready...when i looked at how much more it was i decided i better look to make sure hey didn't charge us wrong again like they did a couple months ago....when i got to mike's number i came across 3 local wilmington numbers...that were called every day for the past month...i asked him about it and he said they were friends....when i said ok lets call...he admitted they were girls he met..after toying with the idea of calling them...mt friend said i'll calll and get the scoop....i knew what the girl was going to say but just needed to hear it i guess..

she said he approched her...w/out his ring...told her he was living her w/ his aunt...and he needed a "friend"...when she asked him if he was involved he said no....so he asked he for her number and called her the next day....then after that she never heard from him...she said she got the feeling he was trying to hook up....the other 2...one was at a JA resturant the other on the bus....he said they were just someone to talk to....but the other girl....he admitted could have been something more...

i am devistated....very confused....and feel very betryed...my worst fear....came to life....

i don't want you all to feel sorry for me....today is a new day....if anything...maybe this experince will open up some of your eyes...and let you know it can happen....just be prepared...

BEEN THERE DONE THAT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It just AMAZES me that there are sooooooooooooooooo many men (doesn't matter what race, nationality, old, young, etc etc)....that do this !!! For example, I just found that one of my GOOD clients (that I've known for 10 yrs) and that was married for 30 yrs and he's 52 and cheated on his wife with a chic that's 28 and was not even married to HER husband for a year !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I KNOW that I'm starting something again....but ....we BUST our butts to get them here, *THINK* that we (women) are going to be "respected" and treated as they treated us in the 2 yrs or however long that they did while we were "courting" and then WHAM !!!!!!!!!! step foot into this country and where does the respect go ????????????

Girl you know my heart goes out to you!!! You KNOW that I'm here for you, always !!!

[jlvr 1]

Also....almost a problem when it came to the medical !! Keep in mind ladies that it can remain in your system (blood tests are done) for UP TO 3 MONTHS!!!

3 Months???? Just out of curiosity, how was it almost a problem? Was he able to do something to clear it up?

I even delivered him two sets of those pills that help clear out your system - he took one before each test.

Hmm. Might need some of these. Where would I get them?

Edited April 12, 2007 by jlvr

[Minfay 0]

I KNOW that I'm starting something again....but ....we BUST our butts to get them here, *THINK* that we (women) are going to be "respected" and treated as they treated us in the 2 yrs or however long that they did while we were "courting" and then WHAM ! step foot into this country and where does the respect go ?

.....they are like "kids in the candy store" and that's the truth.....

[nyseness 0]

I personally think all men cheat....maybe not during the entire relationship but at some point. I don't know one man that never cheated in his life!! I'm just so sorry it happen to you Shauna. I too know how you feel it happened to me more then once. ((((hugs))))

[BelwinMills 0]

I have a question for you guys...I just found out about a great job at a credit union that I want to apply for. How do you put your current job on the resume so they know that you are working but you don't want them to be contacted. I don't really want this job right now to know that I am still looking elsewhere. Do I just leave them off the resume completely? Put the job title down but leave the company name blank? What would you do? I already know what I will say when asked in an interview why I would be leaving after such a short time. I don't want my current job to be contacted because if I don't get a new job I still need this one...know what I mean? Hope that made some sort of sense...any tips and ideas are appreciated.

Jamie

A really good question, I'm quite worried since I've worked for my present company for the past 9 years. I will be on maternity/holiday leave until December 2008, but want to start working Jan 2008. I am not allowed to work while on maternity leave, obviously there's no way my company in the UK would know unless the company I wanted to work for called them...But how on earth do I make that clear to companies I'm applying to?

And if I leave them off, I would have 'no' employment history for 10 years!

Do not worry put your employer on the list. I did that last year not wanting my job to find out that I was searching. I got called for an interview and they never called my employer to ask me for the interview. They will call your employer after the interview if they are interested in you.

[BelwinMills 0]

I personally think all men cheat....maybe not during the entire relationship but at some point. I don't know one man that never cheated in his life!! I'm just so sorry it happen to you Shauna. I too know how you feel it happened to me more then once. ((((hugs))))

Wow I know a few men who have never on their girlfriends spouse. My mom and dad are great proof been married happily for 36 years. Most of my best friends in High School all their parents have been together for over 30 years.

There is a happily ever after out there if both people are dedicated to the goods and the bads.

Shauna wishing you all the best through this difficult time.

[BelwinMills 0]

New list with Sarah's name on it

Jax

Jonesie

Elizabeth

Lurissa

Rhonda

Sarah

Mindy

Shemanya

Squitto

Shauna

Anna

Dee

[Yaads 0]

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I added an option because I wasn't sure where to it would go. Andre did smoke a lot in high school and boarding school but hasn't smoked since he became a Christian about 8-9 years ago.

I have never done it...never interested

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I KNOW that I'm starting something again....but ....we BUST our butts to get them here, *THINK* that we (women) are going to be "respected" and treated as they treated us in the 2 yrs or however long that they did while we were "courting" and then WHAM ! step foot into this country and where does the respect go ?

.....they are like "kids in the candy store" and that's the truth.....

So true

Disclaimer: Of course by "they" I mean only the men that I know personally and have heard about personally via friends, relatives or media outlets. In no way do I imply ALL men of a certain ethnic origin, religious background or any other "group".

Couldn't resist

Edited April 12, 2007 by Jme3584

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New list with Sarah's name on it

Jax

Jonesie

Elizabeth

Lurissa

Rhonda

Sarah

Mindy

Shemanya

Squitto

Shauna

Anna

Dee

Awww shux! And thanks!

[BelwinMills 0]

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I added an option because I wasn't sure where to it would go. Andre did smoke a lot in high school and boarding school but hasn't smoked since he became a Christian about 8-9 years ago.

I have never done it...never interested

Looking good one vote for each category. My friends don't believe me when I say all the people I hang out with in JA have never smoked. My good friend and her husband go down to JA just for this recreation and then complain that it is not that great. She calls me a goodie to shoe. Whatever just because I use to be a church girl. Dwain was like we aint going to her house then he is so against it. I couldn't believe it.

[BelwinMills 0]

I can't really state it on a post what happened. Lets say I cried all the way to MoBay in the bus hiding it until the next day because another guy on the trip got stung by a jelly fish and had a near death experience. So I thought I toughen up until the next day I couldn't bear the pain no longer.

Woman! Now you have piqued my curiosity big time!!! You better PM me and tell me the story!!!

Ok Rhonda I will PM you.

[luvtravlin 0]

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3 Months???? Just out of curiosity, how was it almost a problem? Was he able to do something to clear it up?

Well, to be honest and only a few knew the real truth about this, but heck....why not tell everyone now....to try to help others....Craig WAS going to denied. I'll really never ever know the *exact* truth because of the many maaaaany lies I've been told by him. When I went down for my interview "I" personally just KNEW that he was going to be denied because I just knew he could never stop. He "stopped" about 2 weeks prior. When we went for the interview his medical wasn't at the Embassy yet.....so before we left Kingston we went over to the medical place to find out what was going on. Craig "said" he spoke to the Lab supervisor...she said his file had already gone to the Embassy....Embassy said they didn't have it....so she asked for his number and said she'll research and call him as soon as possible. We were hanging out at Sandals Whitehouse getting TOTALLY drunk and he received a phone call from her telling her that his test came back positive and for a "price" she could "make it go away"!!!! I was SOOOO PISSED OFF it was not even funny. "I" was NOT going to pay....so Craig had to come up with $330 US dollars. I ended up giving him $100 but after I got back to the states and had to reeeeally think 'bout it. STUPID ME !!!!!!!!!

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New list with Sarah's name on it

Jax

Jonesie

Elizabeth

Lurissa

Rhonda

Sarah

Mindy

Shemanya

Squitto

Shauna

Anna

Dee

OK OK! I wanna be added to the list! Seeing that I won't see my man for another 4 months, I'm not gonna be starting soon. But come Aug 18th, I may have to give you ladies a run for your money!