Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)

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Morning

Sarah - Nothing I said was in mean spirit...more awe than anything else. I don't know how you do it but I think its great that you have a system that works for you.

Rhonda - I hope you find a house soon. I can imagine the stress but let your trip to JA be stress free!

As for the school fees...I can see how it would add up to that much. That price was all school things combined...uniforms, food, books, transportation etc.

I don't know if JA has 180 day school year like here but it seems like they did.

$1,250US = approx $84,000JA

84,000JA divided by 180 days = $465JA per day

Doesn't seem that far off when you are adding uniform costs, shoes, lunches, snacks, books, bus fare, tuition and all the other little things that add up when sending a kid to school.

It all depends really...can they walk to school or do they have to take 2 buses each way? Are they in their growing years and will go through a few uniforms that year?

One of the teenagers I lived with in JA when to a prestigious high school and paid $150JA each way just to get to school...$300JA a day for transportation alone. So I think the actual cost will change drastically depending on a ton of different variables. Just my $0.02.

Did everyone have a great weekend?

Hey Jamie I had a busy weekend cleaning and stuff...how about urself ?

[JA Tam 7]

Girl..u know it..and guess who wanna be at the airport....HIS MOTHER !!!

I WILL have updates on this he should be getting in at 7:50

noooo he's gonna be making dinner..I"M TIRED !!!

Congrats Kimmy and God bless you and the hubby as you embark on the new journey . I'm sure your little girl is beside herself with the excitement of having Daddy here with her. I don't think you'll get near him today

[JA Tam 7]

Happy Independence Day to all the Yardies....

[Yaads 0]

Hey Jamie I had a busy weekend cleaning and stuff...how about urself ?

Andre was away on a guys camping trip so I spent some of the weekend cleaning the place and the other part doing this thing called Letterboxing (kind of like geocashing) with my family. It is so much fun. You discover places you never would have imagined right in your own backyard plus it involves some hiking so we are all getting into shape! Oh yeah and I saw the Bourne movie. It was great! I love those kind of movies.

Congrats on your husband arriving!

[Jengles 0]

Help - I think mr jengles is scared to leave JA. any advice on how to get him on a plane. We are going back down in September thanks to my miles, but I'm getting fustrated since I have to go back to work in October and wanted to be able to show him around before then. I'm in brooklyn so he has to learn the subway system and my son starts kindergarden this sept . he says he is trying to get himself financially situated before he comes up so he can contribute to the household and to help us save money, but I'm here by myself with the baby and I don't think he realizes that. I appreciate what he's doing but feel that is should have been done before he got the visa/went for the interview. I'm trying not to let my fustration show but I hung up the phone on him this morning. Now we are looking at him coming up next week if he changes the date again I don't know what I will do.

trying to stay patient

wow kim I can't believe he;s coming today! wow get the candles lingerie etc. ready girl!

are you gonna prepare dinner for him?

I'm just so happy for you he just had the interview last week.

Girl..u know it..and guess who wanna be at the airport....HIS MOTHER !!!

I WILL have updates on this he should be getting in at 7:50

noooo he's gonna be making dinner..I"M TIRED !!!

I would forget to go and pick her up!!!!

[Dwarf_Ogress 0]

Again thanks everyone for being here for me!

Congrats on hubby coming home Kimmy!

I can't believe that Marlon's interview is in 8 days!

Minfay: LOL! Marlon is not much of a talker on the phone but in person he too won't stop! lol

I can't wait to hear from Mydestinyawaits, hers is tomorrow! She said she would send me a text message so if I hear anything I will let you know!

Have a great day!

Help - I think mr jengles is scared to leave JA. any advice on how to get him on a plane. We are going back down in September thanks to my miles, but I'm getting fustrated since I have to go back to work in October and wanted to be able to show him around before then. I'm in brooklyn so he has to learn the subway system and my son starts kindergarden this sept . he says he is trying to get himself financially situated before he comes up so he can contribute to the household and to help us save money, but I'm here by myself with the baby and I don't think he realizes that. I appreciate what he's doing but feel that is should have been done before he got the visa/went for the interview. I'm trying not to let my fustration show but I hung up the phone on him this morning. Now we are looking at him coming up next week if he changes the date again I don't know what I will do.

trying to stay patient

wow kim I can't believe he;s coming today! wow get the candles lingerie etc. ready girl!

are you gonna prepare dinner for him?

I'm just so happy for you he just had the interview last week.

Girl..u know it..and guess who wanna be at the airport....HIS MOTHER !!!

I WILL have updates on this he should be getting in at 7:50

noooo he's gonna be making dinner..I"M TIRED !!!

I would forget to go and pick her up!!!!

Sorry to hear of your frustration! Have you told him how you feel and how much you need him here by your side? Things will work out, I am rooting for you!

[SupportOAFJF 0]

Help - I think mr jengles is scared to leave JA. any advice on how to get him on a plane. We are going back down in September thanks to my miles, but I'm getting fustrated since I have to go back to work in October and wanted to be able to show him around before then. I'm in brooklyn so he has to learn the subway system and my son starts kindergarden this sept . he says he is trying to get himself financially situated before he comes up so he can contribute to the household and to help us save money, but I'm here by myself with the baby and I don't think he realizes that. I appreciate what he's doing but feel that is should have been done before he got the visa/went for the interview. I'm trying not to let my fustration show but I hung up the phone on him this morning. Now we are looking at him coming up next week if he changes the date again I don't know what I will do.

trying to stay patient

wow kim I can't believe he;s coming today! wow get the candles lingerie etc. ready girl!

are you gonna prepare dinner for him?

I'm just so happy for you he just had the interview last week.

Girl..u know it..and guess who wanna be at the airport....HIS MOTHER !!!

I WILL have updates on this he should be getting in at 7:50

noooo he's gonna be making dinner..I"M TIRED !!!

I would forget to go and pick her up!!!!

Girl..u better tell him like it is..no matter how much he tries to save it ain't gonna do much..u need him here..it's nice to have a 2nd pair of hands....I did it w/o my husband and girl let me tell it aint no joke..the amount of help it would be if he was here.. sometimes it's that emotional support u need as well and not so much the money, if ur struggling together I think would be a little better than with no husband and only phone convos u need a hug every now and then..

trick him into getting on the plane

U know i want to...mi no know why she caan give us the 1st night alone...sho like she put in on this

[*JG* 2]

Help - I think mr jengles is scared to leave JA. any advice on how to get him on a plane. We are going back down in September thanks to my miles, but I'm getting fustrated since I have to go back to work in October and wanted to be able to show him around before then. I'm in brooklyn so he has to learn the subway system and my son starts kindergarden this sept . he says he is trying to get himself financially situated before he comes up so he can contribute to the household and to help us save money, but I'm here by myself with the baby and I don't think he realizes that. I appreciate what he's doing but feel that is should have been done before he got the visa/went for the interview. I'm trying not to let my fustration show but I hung up the phone on him this morning. Now we are looking at him coming up next week if he changes the date again I don't know what I will do.

trying to stay patient

wow kim I can't believe he;s coming today! wow get the candles lingerie etc. ready girl!

are you gonna prepare dinner for him?

I'm just so happy for you he just had the interview last week.

Girl..u know it..and guess who wanna be at the airport....HIS MOTHER !!!

I WILL have updates on this he should be getting in at 7:50

noooo he's gonna be making dinner..I"M TIRED !!!

I would forget to go and pick her up!!!!

I have to agree with the person who said tell him like it is. If Andre had done this to me, I would explain that just communicating with him is costing us money we would be saving if he were with me. Also, I would want to make another trip and all that. Andre was not able to contribute financially for quite a while; but he did take care of lots of things that would've fallen on me. And, we got to be together.

No matter how much he tries, his contributions will not matter much in a short period of time.

If nothing else, fly down there and haul his butt up!!!!!!

I solved all my husband's jitters by not goint to the interview; but then flying down a week later to bring him home.

[12/11/2006 0]

Help - I think mr jengles is scared to leave JA. any advice on how to get him on a plane. We are going back down in September thanks to my miles, but I'm getting fustrated since I have to go back to work in October and wanted to be able to show him around before then. I'm in brooklyn so he has to learn the subway system and my son starts kindergarden this sept . he says he is trying to get himself financially situated before he comes up so he can contribute to the household and to help us save money, but I'm here by myself with the baby and I don't think he realizes that. I appreciate what he's doing but feel that is should have been done before he got the visa/went for the interview. I'm trying not to let my fustration show but I hung up the phone on him this morning. Now we are looking at him coming up next week if he changes the date again I don't know what I will do.

trying to stay patient

wow kim I can't believe he;s coming today! wow get the candles lingerie etc. ready girl!

are you gonna prepare dinner for him?

I'm just so happy for you he just had the interview last week.

Girl..u know it..and guess who wanna be at the airport....HIS MOTHER !!!

I WILL have updates on this he should be getting in at 7:50

noooo he's gonna be making dinner..I"M TIRED !!!

I would forget to go and pick her up!!!!

Aww.. He is showing a sense responsibility. We also have to keep in mind that they are men and it is so difficult for them not being able to provide the way they want to and need to. It is especially hard for them. Our situation is similar because we are not planning for my fiance to come right away. We are planning for a November, December arrival because I have to buy a house and he wants to save as much money as possible. He understands that he will not be able to work right away (legally) and he wants to make some kind of contribution.

Just explain to Mr. Jengles that you understand what his intentions are and that he means well but its more important for him to be here with you. I'm sure you have already done this but I would stress it as much as possible. Good luck with everything. He will soon realize

[Empress 0]

Help - I think mr jengles is scared to leave JA. any advice on how to get him on a plane. We are going back down in September thanks to my miles, but I'm getting fustrated since I have to go back to work in October and wanted to be able to show him around before then. I'm in brooklyn so he has to learn the subway system and my son starts kindergarden this sept . he says he is trying to get himself financially situated before he comes up so he can contribute to the household and to help us save money, but I'm here by myself with the baby and I don't think he realizes that. I appreciate what he's doing but feel that is should have been done before he got the visa/went for the interview. I'm trying not to let my fustration show but I hung up the phone on him this morning. Now we are looking at him coming up next week if he changes the date again I don't know what I will do.

I understand completely how you feel. I told my husband to get a second job last august and he had to nerve to tell me he doesn't want to start working and then quit when he gets the visa . Now it's been a year and he could have saved so much money if he had only listened to me.

Tell this man it is too late to start thinking about saving to come up. The ship has sailed for that long ago and he missed the boat. Tell him to stop being selfish! You have a new born that you have been taking care of ALL ON YOUR OWN. And he needs to be their to share the responsibility. That is the man thing to do and he needs to get over his fear of flying and get is ####### on that plane PRONTO!

I would just about stop talking to him until he's here. You basically have nothing to talk about unless its what time to pick him up. Cuz I would not want to hear anything else.

hang in there hun

[Minfay 0]

Help - I think mr jengles is scared to leave JA. any advice on how to get him on a plane. are you gonna prepare dinner for him?

I have to agree with the person who said tell him like it is. If Andre had done this to me, I would explain that just communicating with him is costing us money we would be saving if he were with me. Also, I would want to make another trip and all that. Andre was not able to contribute financially for quite a while; but he did take care of lots of things that would've fallen on me. And, we got to be together.

Tell this man it is too late to start thinking about saving to come up. The ship has sailed for that long ago and he missed the boat. Tell him to stop being selfish! You have a new born that you have been taking care of ALL ON YOUR OWN. And he needs to be their to share the responsibility. That is the man thing to do and he needs to get over his fear of flying and get is ####### on that plane PRONTO!

Ditto....Ditto!!!

[SupportOAFJF 0]

Help - I think mr jengles is scared to leave JA. any advice on how to get him on a plane. We are going back down in September thanks to my miles, but I'm getting fustrated since I have to go back to work in October and wanted to be able to show him around before then. I'm in brooklyn so he has to learn the subway system and my son starts kindergarden this sept . he says he is trying to get himself financially situated before he comes up so he can contribute to the household and to help us save money, but I'm here by myself with the baby and I don't think he realizes that. I appreciate what he's doing but feel that is should have been done before he got the visa/went for the interview. I'm trying not to let my fustration show but I hung up the phone on him this morning. Now we are looking at him coming up next week if he changes the date again I don't know what I will do.

I understand completely how you feel. I told my husband to get a second job last august and he had to nerve to tell me he doesn't want to start working and then quit when he gets the visa . Now it's been a year and he could have saved so much money if he had only listened to me.

Tell this man it is too late to start thinking about saving to come up. The ship has sailed for that long ago and he missed the boat. Tell him to stop being selfish! You have a new born that you have been taking care of ALL ON YOUR OWN. And he needs to be their to share the responsibility. That is the man thing to do and he needs to get over his fear of flying and get is ####### on that plane PRONTO!

I would just about stop talking to him until he's here. You basically have nothing to talk about unless its what time to pick him up. Cuz I would not want to hear anything else.

hang in there hun

I agree

[Jengles 0]

thanks for all the advice, I hung up the phone on him this morning after he said "we agreed for him to settle everything before he came up" stuff just keeps changing everytime I talk to him thursday we agreed for him to come up this weekend and then he could finalize everything when we went back in Sept. friday it changed to next week Wed. This morning a different thing again. he busted out the we agreed statement after I said to him it seems like he's scared to come up. he thinks because I'm home everything is ok. I have to walk up 2 flights of stairs to get to my apartment, he doesn't get that when I need anything I'm pulling up in the car in front of the house, running putting stuff inside in the lobby and then parking the car, coming back with the baby, bringing the baby upstairs, putting her in her crib then going back downstairs to get whatever it is that I bought and my man is on the phone with me last night talking about there is a seafood festival in Ochi and he wants to go.

HENCE WHY I FEEL THE NEED TO PUT MY FOOT UP HIS ###!

I won't be picking up the phone for the next few days because he really woudn't like what I have to say maybe that would bring him to his senses.

Kimmy - pretend you are running late, don't have enough gas something. I want when mr jengles come it is me and him, my grandmother all ready offered to come and babysit when I pick him up from the airport. but that would mean she would be coming from boston...it didn't even make sense to me, plus anyway it seems by the time mr jengles gets here the baby will be talking and walking lol

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Damnnnn Jengles, nuh know how yuh a deal wid dis!!

Only thing I can say, he may just be scared at the prospect that after so long, this is it. Two kids and a wife from basically being single, not that he doesn't want it, but it's probably just hitting him for six now.

Thing is, he's being selfish in that he's expecting you to just manage like the Superwoman you are already and isn't really acknowledging how hard it is for you.....

But this is just a small hiccup, he'll be here before you know it!!

[kingstonjamaica 3]

I am sure the school fees vary by thousands in regards to what school you attend and where it is located. I found this little bit of info from a website.

Education is expensive in Jamaica. For instance, to have their child attend a Jamaican high school, the family must pay tuition (“school fees”); plus, the family must bear the full cost of transportation, books, uniforms, and school supplies. Depending upon which high school a student attends (determined by the results of the GSAT—Sixth Grade Achievement Test), the cost for one year of high school (including school lunches) ranges from about $1,250 to $2,750 (U.S.).

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Wow...that's kinda expensive. Thanks for all your responses.

My "adopted" daughter in JA wants to finish high school. She's 17 with an one year-old daughter. I was wondering if we could help her financially. I spoke with her briefly last night and she said it will cost around $900 (US) and one math book cost $5800 We got disconnected so I'll more info this weekend. Thanks again.

The cost for one year of high school is no where near $1250(US) THe average school fee cost about $10000(JA) Parents don't give kids more than $500 per day and that is if you travel from, lets say ST Thomas to Kingston for schol. They should be home by 4pm anyways. some schools have a book rental system because books change with the grade. However CXC syudents will have to buy their books, but each book cost less than $2500(JA) $5800 for a math book is ridiculous. That can buy 3 CXC books 1 Math, 1 physics and 1 social Studies. If one Year of High School really cost $80something (JA) ( school fee, books lunch and bus fare) what would happen to the parent who works minimum wage and has two kids in high school???? That's totally unbelievable.

Sharon, $500JA/day for lunch and travel...hmmm don't know if thats quite accurate...bus fare is about $60/each bus..what if u have to take more than one bus to ad from thats 4 buses. My cousin lives in portmore and goes to Alpha and she gets 500 plus transportation. Sometimes u can't cause u just don't have it..but u can't really buy lunch. I sgree with the school fee and the books, don't think it would so much either...

Did you know that the JUTC buses charge only $25(JA) for schoolers? and the EXECUTIVE (the blue coasters) charges $30(JA). Alpha is on south camp road so thats 4 buses to and from= $100 or $120(JA) per day. School is out at 2:30-3:00 what kind of lunch at school cost $500. Lunch at school can be a bun & cheese, patty or cook lunch+ any juice. None of which cost $500. Even if you were to have lunch at KFC or Burger King $500 could still cover lunch and bues fare. The most expensive item on a KFC or BK menu is not more than $350. Parents can give kids $1000 if they want, that dosen't mean it cost that much. BTW $60 from Portmore is an adult's fare on the EXEC and $50 on a JUTC.