Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)

[BelwinMills 0]

My temper in this sistution would be crazy mad. I would talk to him and try to reason with him.

Add to that my raging hormones and out of control emotions and it's no wonder we had a HUGE fight yesterday over the phone He mentioned this whole thing about a month ago and I told him THEN that it was a very bad idea and I was not going to be ok with it. Then he tells me yesterday that he already signed the paperwork for it Without even talking it over with me!! I'm hurt, upset, mad, scared, worried ..... I'm losing my mind. Then he has the nerve to tell me today that we'll talk about it but he's already made up his mind! What the f***????? I don't get any say in this??? I am sooooooo MAD.

Could he try to get another job near you guys. Dwain has considered driving a truck from Lowes. Which is 12 hours a day and makes more money than me with a masters degree in teaching. There also companies where you drive the whole week and then get the weekends off and he would still be close to home. My cousin is a truck driver and makes some real good cash and never can spend it cause he is on the road all the time.

[jlvr 1]

I have cable now but I'm considering satellite because it seems to offer more channels for the same that I'm paying now. I'm not going to change anything until my fiance gets here, so I'll have to see what's available at that time. I'll definitely have to have something, he watches plenty of TV. I hardly watch TV, so it doesn't matter to me.

kimmy, my fiance did his medical at Tangerine Place. I'm really nervous about the interview, keep trying to think of anything that I may have missed as far as documentation. I'm not going to be happy again until I get the phone call from him afterward.

I know...u wanna post what u have..for a run thru ?

Okay

DS-230 part II

DS-156

DS-156K

DS-157

I-134

-Copy of 2003-2006 Tax Returns

-Bank letter

-Two months of bank statements

-Two paystubs

-Employment letter

Birth certificate (mine and his)

No Impediment Certificate

Police Certificate

Letter of intent (mine and his)

His passport

Passport photos

Copy of my boarding pass and itinerary

Two months of phone records

NOA2

Copy of I-129 Packet

I know that I've all that I can on my end but I'll be anxious anyway. I can't even think of what I'd do if he were denied.

[jlvr 1]

well some good news to report...mike got a job today!!! nailed it on his first interview!!! so proud of him :dance:

Congratulations, that's great.

Congratulations, Sonshyne, on the upcoming wedding. I'm busy planning my own, but I refuse to really plan until I get a call on June 19.

Rhonda, I'm sorry to hear about this situation with your husband, even though I haven't posted about it. I hope that it works out okay.

Edited June 14, 2007 by jlvr

[BelwinMills 0]

Hey sonshyne how was ur wedding ?

We haven't jumped the broom yet our wedding date is June 22nd

Pam all the best with your wedding plans.

[Elizabethnhenry 0]

Hey There Old Timers!!! Hi there Newbies!!!

Ah wah gwaan!!??? Hey Rhonda, Kelly, Jonesie, Jamie, BellwinMills, Mindy!!! Where's MsSquito?? It has been so long, I forgot my password! Just popping in to say hi; I can't keep up anymore with daily or even weekly forum activity, but I do think of you all often. Very often.

I was in JA last week - only a 6 day trip. It rained A LOT, and I nearly lost all internal organs on those Portland to Ochee roads, but it was still a nice trip. I was very cranky to see all the trees laden with GREEN mangoes! HMMPFF! I did manage to pay some highway robbers $150JA each for some Julie mangoes. Got some naseberry and of course my coconut jelly. Some apples (cashews to the Guyanese) and soursop too. Saw some guavas but they looked huge and wierd so I did not eat them.

For those of you who remember us, Henry and I are doing well. He is still working at the hospital and working a lot of overtime; only taking one class this semester. We are trying to save as much as we can.

We looked into buying a little house in JA, but the thought of two mortgages was darn scary and the max loan to a US citizen is 70% and to a JA citizen who is resident overseas is 80% so you need a healthy downpayment. We decided to buy an acre of land and build a house the way Anna's parents did-- one section at a time. (Hey Anna!!! How's life in Chitown!??)

The question now is where - so we spent a week driving all around. Henry is from St. Thomas, but I am not feeling it (sorry St. Thomas folks). I really want to be over in Hanover. I just love all the history and feel of that parish and I hope we can get something in or just outside Lucea or Green Island before the prices go TOTALLY nuts...as they have begun climbing with all the recent resort and subdivision developments.

Anywho, that's about all I have for an update. If anyone else is buying or building at this time or did in the past, I would love to hear from you.

So be well all of you.

HUGS to all old timers. Hope things are going well for you.

Hope everyone is doing well.

[rhondapayter 0]

Does your company have any branches where he's going to be working??

If they do, maybe you could transfer without losing your benefits?

No - no GM plants down there. It's very difficult to transfer too even if there was. Also, I need to be near my doctor - the appointments are just going to get more frequent as I get further along. I've been with the same doc for over 10 years. Since I'm slightly high risk, I need someone who knows my history to keep an eye on me.

I talked to Andre about this last night and he said your husband is crazy. He said he doesn't even want to work the night shift cause he wants to be able to sleep next to me.

I'm really starting to think he just doesn't love me or care about me anymore

Edited June 14, 2007 by rhondapayter

[rhondapayter 0]

rhonda, i'd also be shocked and insanely pissed off if my husband signed papers to do something as major as that without first consulting me. i can't believe that he has his mind set on it. he's actually okay with potentially (or probably) missing the baby's birth?

He says he's going to take a month off when the baby is born, but how's he going to know exactly when I'm going to go into labor??? He's such as a**hole The "D" word came up today more than once. We had another HUGE fight over the phone.

[rhondapayter 0]

I had to fake a headache to get out of going...he had a wonderful time...I had a few hours to myself

I've had to do this a few times myself

I have the opposite problem - I NEVER see my man

[rhondapayter 0]

Has anyone stayed at Rooms on the Beach in Ocho Rios/Runaway Bay? The are having a great deal $94 a night...but it seems a little suspect.

YES I love that place!! We stayed there last time I was in JA (Aug. 06) and we're staying there again this August. I got our room for $75 a night this time!! You can PM me or e-mail me if you need more info.

[rhondapayter 0]

Rhonda - stay in prayer. Hubby is thinking of the $ that will provide a better life for you and the baby, and he figures that if you two made it thru immigration being in diff. countries, then him being a few states away should be a breeze. I know you don't agree with it (and if I were in your shoes I wouldn't either) but if he is set on it then sit down with him and work out a plan that includes some compromising

Thanks Jonesie

[rhondapayter 0]

Could he try to get another job near you guys.

That's the first thing I said too. He claims he's tried, but I know otherwise. This just seems like a huge money making opportunity to him and he can not be talked out of it. He had the nerve to tell me that I'M being selfish He said that finally something good was happening for him and I have to try and shoot it down.

[rhondapayter 0]

Hey There Old Timers!!! Hi there Newbies!!!

Ah wah gwaan!!??? Hey Rhonda, Kelly, Jonesie, Jamie, BellwinMills, Mindy!!! Where's MsSquito?? It has been so long, I forgot my password! Just popping in to say hi; I can't keep up anymore with daily or even weekly forum activity, but I do think of you all often. Very often.

It's so nice to see you I'm glad everything is going well for you guys. Don't be such a stranger!!

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Could he try to get another job near you guys.

That's the first thing I said too. He claims he's tried, but I know otherwise. This just seems like a huge money making opportunity to him and he can not be talked out of it. He had the nerve to tell me that I'M being selfish He said that finally something good was happening for him and I have to try and shoot it down.

Really sorry to hear this

There's just no advice I have to give about this, apart from talk it through and do your utmost best to show him how much this means to you

I can definitely understand him wanting to make a lot of money for the baby, and if this is his first real chance to make a lot, I can see him perhaps seeing this as his chance to equal your salary and maybe thinking you want to be the major money earner in the house.

All I can say is try and make him see that having him close to you means far more than money and to your family unit. And the best start he could possibly give to his child is supporting you emotionally.

My heart goes out to you, with my first pregnancy I had a lot of problems to deal with regarding his father and it was a living nightmare, wouldn't wish the stress on anyone.

Praying you two reach a resolution.

[SupportOAFJF 0]

I have cable now but I'm considering satellite because it seems to offer more channels for the same that I'm paying now. I'm not going to change anything until my fiance gets here, so I'll have to see what's available at that time. I'll definitely have to have something, he watches plenty of TV. I hardly watch TV, so it doesn't matter to me.

kimmy, my fiance did his medical at Tangerine Place. I'm really nervous about the interview, keep trying to think of anything that I may have missed as far as documentation. I'm not going to be happy again until I get the phone call from him afterward.

I know...u wanna post what u have..for a run thru ?

Okay

DS-230 part II

DS-156

DS-156K

DS-157

I-134

-Copy of 2003-2006 Tax Returns

-Bank letter

-Two months of bank statements

-Two paystubs

-Employment letter

Birth certificate (mine and his)

No Impediment Certificate

Police Certificate

Letter of intent (mine and his)

His passport

Passport photos

Copy of my boarding pass and itinerary

Two months of phone records

NOA2

Copy of I-129 Packet

I know that I've all that I can on my end but I'll be anxious anyway. I can't even think of what I'd do if he were denied.

U are FINE !...everything will go well..u won't get denied...

[SupportOAFJF 0]

Does your company have any branches where he's going to be working??

If they do, maybe you could transfer without losing your benefits?

No - no GM plants down there. It's very difficult to transfer too even if there was. Also, I need to be near my doctor - the appointments are just going to get more frequent as I get further along. I've been with the same doc for over 10 years. Since I'm slightly high risk, I need someone who knows my history to keep an eye on me.

I talked to Andre about this last night and he said your husband is crazy. He said he doesn't even want to work the night shift cause he wants to be able to sleep next to me.

I'm really starting to think he just doesn't love me or care about me anymore

OHH Rhonda...I don't think so, it could be he's scared and trying to find an outlet.. I'm sure he loves u..he cannot see past $$$ cause he wants to take of the baby and u WELL..I know it's easier said than done...but keep the faith ...it will work out